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5 Undeniable Signs of an Aquarius Man In Love

by Sonya Schwartz

Are you wondering how an Aquarius man shows affection?

Perhaps you’re dating one and wondering how he really feels about you? 

Maybe you’re frustrated at his inability to open up? 

If you are, read on. This guide reveals the five undeniable tells that an Aquarius man is in love with you. 

But, before you dive into this guide, it’s important to read the following story carefully. 

For most of my twenties, I was in relationships with guys who would never display any affection towards me. 

It was as if I was nothing more than their ‘bit of fun’.

More often than not, they’d leave me once they got bored or someone better came along. 

This was so painful. It felt like I’d never be good enough for a serious relationship. 

However, everything changed when I learned about a little-known aspect of male psychology called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.

This deeply primal instinct seems to be held by most men - and it has a huge effect on how they feel about the women in their life. 

Once I learned how to activate this, I noticed men became a lot more affectionate towards me. 

Men wanted to keep me around because I made them feel like no other woman could. (To learn how I discovered this, read my personal story).  

The ‘Hero’s Instinct’ is incredibly easy to trigger once you know how. The crazy thing is: so few people seem to be aware of it. 

If you’re struggling to have deep fulfilling relationships with men, I urge you to read the story of how I turned my love life around.

Of course, it’s possible that your Aquarius partner is already thinking about declaring his undenying love for you! 

Below, I reveal the five biggest signs that this is the case. 

What are the undeniable signs that an Aquarius man is in love?

If you want to know that you are heading down the right path with the Aquarius man in your life then we will provide the ultimate signs for you to look out for so you can be 100% sure that he is going towards saying the words, I love you!

He is friendly, sporty and usually has a warm buzz around him. Typically, unconventional, this mischievous sign is someone women love, and with good reason. After all, even if he has just met you this engaging sign will make you feel at the top of the World.

The trouble comes with getting the Aquarius man to show that he is in love. Whilst excellent friends and well-known flirts, they want to do anything they can to make you happy and they hate to see you sad or upset. They want to love and help you and are always keen to be seen as lover and a best friend. They also want the prime position in your life – but getting them to a point of sharing can be a hard slog!

Whilst friendships are very important to them and he might have been the one to strike up a conversation with you and you will probably have seen that he is very interested in you at first and he is surrounded by people but you might seem to be stuck in a friend zone. But now that you are in a relationship or spending tine together, how can you know if he is falling in love?

We know it’s tough to find the reasons behind how an Aquarius man acts, so let’s get into the signs that an Aquarius man is in love.

1. He’s testing you

An Aquarius in love can be hard. They try to almost self-sabotage a relationship and they like to test that your intentions are pure.

He wants to see if you can handle all the facets of his personality. Whilst they have emotions and are caring people, they like to stay on the logical side of things. An Aquarius find love a scary prospect and sometimes you will see that he has started to test you. He will either want to devote everything to you one minute and neglect himself, and then will also be blowing a little cold, wanting to take a step back and see if he really can trust you.

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They aren’t trying to be malicious, but the reel of the zodiac is an opposite of someone like a Capricorn, and they like to be open minded with real equality and they need to see that someone is just right for them. They want someone head strong and independent, someone they can be really proud of.

They want to love so much and want to leave themselves ta the door. They look for appreciation and can easily have hurt feelings so beware for this, he might be suffering mood swings and showing high expectations for what you should be doing.

As mentioned, Aquarius men are looking or someone that can be a fried to them. They are looking to see people behind the façade and are keen to understand the real you. To a smart Aquarius, they want to get you into a situation to see what you are really like as a person and how you react so they can see if you are acting in a way that’s true.

An Aquarius can seem distant and then close to you, and whilst this can be confusing, this is a sign that the Aquarius man is very close to being in love with you. If he starts to pick up the phone a lot more, you can be sure that you have passed the test – whatever it was!

2. He wants you around him

Known as the sociable butterfly with lots of friends, the Aquarius is someone who is able to have only a few close connections. For him, his inner circle is something very special to him and if he is sharing his thoughts and also sharing secrets with him, ideally in his house, you will be set. He also loves art and movies and he is likely to be very keen to involve you in this area of their life if he is really enjoying time with you.

 If you are worried about being just another friend for him, then you need to just hold on and wait to see. He is a slow sign in this area, despite being incredibly smart!

Air signs are very mentally driven so he is hopefully having deep mental conversations with you and is trusting you with his ideas, dreams and visions. You may have heard that these men are sometimes called dreamers, and he will be definitely feeling in love if he feels comfortable in sharing these with you. This leads n to the next point…

3. He’s physically intimate

Aquarius men have a hard time with intimate relations that need them to express their emotions. He will want to show you a lot of affection but you might see that he is usually more reserved in public but instead, in private he is likely to show you a lot of his passion. If he is in love he will almost definitely be showing you this in a place where he feels safe and protected, even if he seems detached when you are out in public.

It’s key that if you want to get him to open up physically that you invite the situation to happen. He is not necessarily the kind of guy who puts romance front and center and he is likely to be treating you a lot like a friend or a movie buddy, and this could leave you feeling a bit unsure of if this is going the right way – this is the ultimate sign! An Aquarius is someone who really values friendship and is very keen to have that stability first before any romance blossoms. You may notice that you are starting to spend more and more time together, and he might be interesting in helping you learn things – perhaps a sport or music. This is a definite way of showing love.

4. He’s very interested in what you have to say

An Aquarius man is someone who really wants to connect with you but they can be detached in their own emotions. A natural analyst, they love knowing people but at the same time, he will not be a fan of you prying into his business!

As mentioned, he likes to build that friendship first and is very keen on making a lifelong connection. Ideally if he is falling in love you will have seen that he has started to deep dive into your likes, dislikes and your past, present and future! He will seem to know all your favorite books and movies and will be happy to discuss almost anything with you. An Aquarius man is someone who is very excited by knowing you inside out. Because they are very intelligent, an Aquarius usually has a lot to think but he might not say a lot. There is a reason behind this!

There are Aquarius who are very interested in going with the flow who want open relationships and flings and then there are the more typical Aquarius men who believe that there is another half to their whole. This s a very romantic notion that may be conscious or unconscious and this means that this sign of man could be seen as very romantic – but in fact, he might not express this and he has something in his mind, in his soul even that he knows makes you a good fit or a bad fit for him.

He wants to see that you are on his level and he will likely play a ‘game’ where they don’t say anything. You might think that he is not as smart as Aquarius men have led you to believe – but beware! He doesn’t want to let you know what he is really looking for. In short, he doesn’t want to give too much away. Ask him what he is looking for and he will be very coy indeed. This is a really serous way of them assessing if you are their other part. If you have found that he is opening up and sharing his intelligence, showing you that he loves parts of you,  this is also a great sign that he is in love. He won’t be scared of asking bold and intense questions to know you better and he would be very interested in learning new things and going on adventures with you as well. Look out for the next invite to a trip away with him!

5. He will show you he can care

As well as sharing his secrets, he might also show other emotions, anger, fear, sadness. The saying ‘boys don’t cry’ was almost made for Aquarius men, and he is someone who is a closed book. If he is showing you these real sides of his personality, or if he even says that he loves you, this is a sign that you can take as totally genuine. On top of this, you will see that he wants to fit into your life, and will be keen to integrate with your family and friends, anyone that you are close with.

Because he likes to make life better for his partner, he will be keen to try and show you that he appreciates you. If you show you are vulnerable, he will be keen to jump to your defense and help you out. Again, it’s all part of the contradiction in this sign!

Because he isn’t traditional, getting a label such as ‘girlfriend; is also pretty big deal. They really want to keep romantic things at an arm’s length, so if you have not only been accepted into their inner circle, but you have also had a title this is a very good sign.

Ideally, you will have seen the Aquarius man will push and pull, disappear even, but if he is starting to connect with you and your life, this is a sign he is in love.

Don’t forget that this distancing will be something that comes with a relationship with an Aquarius and this is something that will naturally happen if he feels you are too clingy or not as independent as he had hoped. This is just something to beware of.

How’s it going with your Aquarius  man?

Are you having issues with the Aquarius man in your own life? What challenges have you met with so far? We know that pursuing this sign can be something that really puts off this sign, so you need to spend a lot of time sitting tight and waiting for them to see things their way! He needs independence and pressures has to be off the table from you to really make the relationship last.

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If he is still around, the chances are that he is still very interested in you. I

Sadly this is not much to go on, but it is just the way they are, but you can be comforted that if you pass all the tests and are seen as someone that can really match up to this strong water bearing air sign, you will be in for a relationship of real equality with a man who sees you as a real friend and together you can enjoy experiences and adventure.

If one of your friends or family who are  also trying to work out this king of contradiction, please share this article with them or direct on your social media so they ca n take a look at the signs and see if there is hope! signs!


How Do You Tell If An Aquarius Man Is In Love With You?

An Aquarius man is a deep thinker and being. If he is in love with you, he's bound to share the deepest parts of his life and thoughts with you, much like he's never done with anyone before. They love being vulnerable to those they love though this can be shocking coming from a six-foot muscular man.

How Do Aquarius Act When They Like Someone?

The Aquarius man hides his feelings until he's confident that the person can handle it. They're very private people, and as such, they are only vulnerable and available to people they have taken a liking to. On their own, they're closed up and hate being exposed to strangers.

How Do You Make An Aquarius Man Miss You?

Leave behind some of the items that can linger on his mind, or make yourself very scarce in his life. An Aquarius man is bound to notice the distance and work toward correcting it. Another way to make such a man miss you is to delay in replying calls and messages and showing him how independent you are of him. This drives them crazy!

What Are Aquarius Men Like?

Aquarius men are thoughtful, intellectual, expert communicators, and extremely charismatic. These traits make them get along very well with Geminis. This air sign is often associated with eccentricity and platonic relationships, such that dating them is very fun and free!

What An Aquarius Man Needs In A Relationship

To keep an Aquarius man's interest, you have to stimulate his mind at all times. He can be unpredictable, mutable, and emotionally unbalanced at times and, as such, might not be willing to be tied to someone permanently. They need to know that you can be trusted fully and that they can be vulnerable to you, for them to stay committed.

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

18 comments on “5 Undeniable Signs of an Aquarius Man In Love”

  1. I have a burgeoning relationship with an Aquarius. A deep friendship has formed to the point where he confides in me with things he doesn't share with anyone else and vice versa. A week ago he called me and, three different times, told me he loved me. He ended the call by saying "I love you." He was rambling the whole time. We're still not dating but the call was out of character because we rarely call each other but will text or see each other in person often. Since then, he's been standoffish but promised nothing has changed. I'm wondering if his show of emotions scared him away so he's pulling back, as he's been known to do during our friendship only to come back stronger each time. Sigh.

  2. Hi K,

    I am in the exact situation as you are in. I am “dating” an aquarius and before we were dating we were having an intense friendship (as it obvs continues in the relationship). We had a call one night where he explained to me how much he felt for me and how he never felt that way. Since then he was.. different.. stand off-ish. He kept promising nothing changed. A few weeks later he started pulling away, distancing himself for 3 days “family issues”. We got back to speaking and only a week later (amazing week) he told me he couldn’t do it anymore, he doubted his feelings. 1 week later he came over to chill “as friends” we laughed and we talked and we ended up in the bedroom and spent the night together. It was romantic and there was so much love. I feel like he regrets walking away from me and he is crawling back. I feel like aquarius does this often cause they dont know how to cope with intense feelings. I make sure to give him plenty of space and me-time to clear his mind, that always helps. Stay patient (says me, an aries) because in my case: that brought miracles.

    1. It was meant for me to read your comment.I'm an Aries and I've been dating an Aquarius man.The article above is on point. It's only been three months since we've met. Calls me everyday,we plan hikes together, and gone on dates too. I'm loving our connection and compatibility. I appreciate your advice on being patient...now that I started teaching again,
      I'm not as available and I'm worried of him distancing since he has so many female friends. So I will be patient and confident, if its meant to be..it'll be okay.

      1. Wow! I'm an ARIES as well, dating a gentleman whom I adore tremendously! Being who I am and have never dated an Aquarius EVER in life, HE is quite different, but in a good way, from any of my ex's. I truly relieved that I ran across this article and the comments (especially from my Aries sisters) because I have been wanting to GIVE UP many times. I didn't understand him, but now I do. I'm sure you'll agree that patience is NOT our strong suit, but as I told him...as long as you keep the lines of communication open and I know what I'm dealing with, IM GOOD! I like to thank the author of this article and the ladies who commented! I'm definitely going to bookmark the article for reference because this is HARD, but I think he's SO worth it. Good luck ladies with your Aquarian gentleman🤗

    2. I'm an Aries too and I'm in love with my Aquarius man. He says relationship is not his cup of tea but he calls me his best friend and also we talk a lot. We met online just a few days back. He is very understanding person. Should see what future holds for us.

      1. the way im an aries too and i met him online too i just wanna be close with him make him answer quicker msg first or just tell me how hes feeling ive never showed signs of these things though. hes close friends with my friend and tells her everything i wish i can know how to talk to him.

  3. I have an Aquarius ex and he’s my ex, because I cheated on him. I hurt him badly and it has been a few weeks and we haven’t talked since I did it. I’m a Gemini and I had many problems in myself. Would his horoscope forgive me? And be with me again?

    1. Dear Gemini I’m a Gemini also and I have been with a few Aquarius men, you cheated on your Aquarius, I’m sad to say unless he wants to be with you, he is done with you because you cheated he will never trust you again. If you ever get an Aquarius again keep him don’t cheat whatever you do and don’t try to play tit for tat

  4. I met a Aquarius man on line, we have not met but talked on the phone and text, he is 1800 miles away and has told me, we are not getting younger and time we can't get back. We have a lot in common and love doing a lot of the same things. He told me the other day in a text that he had lost a contract and he was really upset about it. I consoled him and told him things would work out, that there would be something better that would come along. I have not heard from him since, he gave me the impression he was in a dark place and depressed. I don't want to bug him I want to support him, now I don't know whether to text, call or just leave him be until he finds his way. I have grown use to him with his wit and laugh, I miss it, but don't know what to do but wait. I am a Leo/Virgo and waiting is hard for me.

    1. I am a Leo/ virgo too in this exact position , what I do is meditate alot and fill myself up. I do another job when they are on this moody behaviour so I make money whilst they do them

  5. Maybe Leo/virgos should stay away from Aquarians? Some of them are good as friends. I've yet to meet an Aquarian male whose really trustworthy or loyal as a boyfriend/ husband.
    Best we move onto a more loyal sign. And remember, a cusp is usually better for us.

  6. This conversation is so interesting and made me chime in as well.

    I met an Aquarius a couple of years ago. We both live in a university town and used to take the same bus. He seemed interested and tried to reach and I accidentally ignored him. We never spoke to each other but he still shows all the signs like notices me and mirrors my actions that make me believe he is interested but he hasn't approached me. Despite the fact that he is a med student and stays very busy, still makes an effort to show his interest. I just wanna know if it's worth waiting? Is he really interested or just playing games?

  7. I currently in love with Aquarius man, we’ve known each other for more than 2 months. We’ve met on Bumble, 1 week he didn’t reply my text on Bumble but he left me his number around 1 week before that. I texted him thru WhatsApp and he’s still be so humble as he does on Bumble. We’re texting until few days later he called me, it was our first phone call and it went more than 6 hours talking thru phone call. He said he never called anyone that long except me and it went very well. Once in two days he always called me in one week, the shortest phone call went 2 hours other than that 5-6 hours/phone call. We shared and we talked about literally everything. Talking for hours we never let an awkward silence fill the room, we’re always talking to each other. Until he asked me out, he called it ‘date’ and we were really having fun, he said “there’ll be a second date”. But he’s really busy at work. That’s the thing makes me somehow questioning his feelings for me. He’s still give me an update, he texts me, he asks me how’s my day, he still cares. But knowing that he hasn’t talking to rearrange our second date, makes me afraid that I’m gonna losing him. He’s the most perfect guy I’ve ever met in my entire life. I never met a guy like him. I really hope he feels the same way about me 🙁

  8. I fell in love with an Aquarius it’s complicated we’ve know each other since we were teenagers it’s been well over 40 years and I know the feelings are back he want say the only problem is we’re both married with the same spouse for over 30 years and he lives on the west coast and I live on the East coast. My heart and mind is all over the place. So we meet last month with friends and I can tell he still loves me but now we don’t communicate like we was. is it because he still loves me? I hope I made sense it’s just so much.

  9. Holy cow what a bumpy road for me (Virgo) and him (Aquarius). We keep finding each other again and again. Not sure it's a good match but I sure have fun with him.

  10. Hopefully I get a response. I’m a 27yr old scorpio and I feel like my stories slightly different to everyone else’s. Known him since 2014.. been on and off seeing each other pretty much since. He’s had other women and I’ve had other men over the years. Now entering 2021, we rekindled whatever this thing is. He calls me his woman, but only reaches out to say he misses me and wants to see me. I go over like a fool. ... we don’t call each other, we rarely text.. it takes him days to get back to me sometimes. In the beginning, we were very close, calling everyday, snap chatting, whatsapping etc. A lot has happened between us since 2014 but I can’t seem to get over him. I had a whole bf for a year and yet Ive only loved him.. if you was to ask me why I love him, I wouldn’t be able to tell you, because we haven’t done anything together, we don’t know anything about each other, it’s quite odd. I’ve blocked him many times, and yet I always seem to find myself back in his arms. The sex is good, but I don’t know if it’s good because it’s actually good or just because I’m in love with him and is so attracted to him. He’s a PT, and he works a lot. I believe him when he says this, but no doubt in my mind that there’s other women. We’ve spoken about the women that have left him because he can’t give them what they want... I mean I’ve done the same - left him that is. But now at the end of 2020, I’ve met up with him after 4 months of no contact, we’ve had sex and now back to square 1 in my feelings.. I don’t know what to think. I believe that he does love me, but the fact that we don’t even speak should speak volumes to me. I’ve asked him to be honest and to let me know if it’s me he wants, and he tells me “you know how I feel about u - but I don’t even have time for my family and friends - I’m always working etc etc” ... I believe that he’s working and hasn’t got time, but I don’t believe that he has similar feelings about me. He’s adamant that he doesn’t want me with other men, not even friends, he’ll tell me I left him and that I wasn’t patient enough (really babe? after 6 years?) I want him to outright tell me “I don’t want you” ... I know it will be easy for everyone to read this and say “he doesn’t want you” but it’s like, there’s a reason why we have all been up late, and found this page, why we are holding onto these men that are often cold towards us, why we believe that somehow these love stories will work out?? Please someone take into consideration all that I’ve said and tell me, does he really not want me ?

    1. Hey Fran,
      I can feel the sadness in your post and I understand you want some clarity so you can move forward. So here it comes:
      Based on what I’ve gathered from your story, you already know that it is not going right. By leaving, you made him want to look for someone who’s willing to wait. I’m not blaming you, just pointing out that you two have a different perception of what is enough and when is a cutoff time. Aqua dudes like to have women as friends and maintain strictly platonic relationships but they want their partners to give them full attention and don’t want to share it with other men. Aquariuses like to take their time to learn as much as possible about a potential companion so they can make the right decision and build something solid. They HATE being dropped! There goes sense of trust and stability. They hate being blocked cuz to them it means ether lack of intellect (communication is extremely important to them ) or they expect some hot drama. Sex can’t fix things and in some cases Aquarius might turn it down. Looks like your guy is enjoying your friendship. You’ve known each other for some time but he might be looking for something else. If he has convinced himself that he needs to look for someone else, who can be his sole matey, he’ll be looking.
      I’m just breaking things down and pointing out some stuff. Nothing is set in stone. Perhaps you will stop responding immediately to him and he may assume that you have changed and got wiser. Very possible he is still waiting to see some changes so he can actually step up and take your friendship to the next level.
      I’m a Scorpio but without the (I’ll slash your tires, burn your house down and block you kinda thing). My Aquarius man is my best friend and my rock! He feels the same way and tells me that every day. I never cared for the comment nor marriage. We just love being together. I wish you all the best! Scorpios are awesome and if it’s not this guy then there will be another lucky man who will appreciate you! 🙂

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