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Will My Ex Boyfriend Come Back? 10 Reasons He May Or May Not

Last updated on June 6, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Are you currently experiencing a tough breakup?

Are you wondering if your boyfriend will come back to be with you again?

Are you constantly asking your friends, “Will my ex boyfriend come back?"

You're in the right place, and I'm going to try and answer this question for you.

It's the worst feeling breaking up with your boyfriend.

Trust me, I've been through it.

It's even worse if you wish that you were still together with him and are hoping he will come back.

You start asking yourself things like...

"Does he even still care about me like I care about him?"

"Has he just forgotten about me?"

Or perhaps worst of all...

"Is he dating someone new or has he found a new girlfriend?"

Now that would be really heart-breaking...

If there's any chance of your ex coming back to you, you have to rule out that he's not seeing some other girl now.

The last thing you want to do is stalk him, so I recommend doing some research online to see what he's been up to.

There's a couple of tools that will help you with this research, but I recommend this website.

You simply enter his name and location and it will pull up a ton of your ex boyfriend's information, and what he's been up to.

It will show you if he's been active on any dating sites since you broke up, or who he's frequently been talking with, and it will give you a good idea if he's seeing someone else.

Some girlfriend even discovered that their long-term boyfriends had been cheating on them since the beginning.

How crazy is that?

Of course, hopefully that isn't the case with you but it's important that you click here to rule it out.

Once you've ruled that out, let's look at some reasons why he may come back or may not come back to you.

Reason He May Come Back: Your Love is Meant to Be

After a relationship comes to a close, you usually have plenty of time to sit around and just think. Many people find themselves here as they figure out what happened in their relationship.

Your ex boyfriend may be doing some thinking. You probably are too. You two—separately—are probably thinking about the highlights of your relationship, the worst fight you ever had, the way you felt with each other, and more.

He may be realizing that you two were meant to be together. This isn’t always the case, but now is the best time for him to realize it.

Now, you might know that this love was meant to last forever, but he may not know it. If he doesn’t reflect on the relationship and truly think about it, he won’t be able to come back as a result.

If he does give your relationship and its value some serious thought, there’s a chance he will find his way back to you to rekindle what was lost. If you’re meant to be, it won’t take long!


​Reason He May Not Come Back: He Loves the Single Life

When you first get out of a relationship, you may feel weird. In the past, I’ve always had a hard time figuring out what to do and who I was. I had so much free time and got to do whatever I wanted to. This is especially common in long-term or serious relationships.

Your ex boyfriend may feel the same way. He may love being single and want to continue to be. He might have realized how much freedom he has when he’s single, so he may be avoiding relationships for a while.

His friends could influence this one too. If he has a bunch of single friends, it’s possible that they all go out together and enjoy being a fully single group. Nobody has to worry about their girlfriends.

Your ex boyfriend may not come back because he’s not ready to. If you were dating for a long time, he might have felt like he didn’t have this freedom. Of course, this depends on the relationship and its specifics.

If you know your ex boyfriend is single, you probably shouldn’t push it and try to get into a relationship with him. He may be enjoying being on his own.

Reason He May Come Back: He Realized How Lucky He Was to Have You

As your ex boyfriend is thinking over the relationship and how it ended, he may be noticing how lucky he was to have you in his life. A common practice after a relationship ends is reflection. We reflect on what went right and what went wrong in the relationship.

Your ex boyfriend could be having these realizations because he tried to get a new girlfriend, but she just wasn’t like you. He might have noticed how perfect the two of you were for each other.

Sometimes, when we’re in relationships, we don’t see how good we have it. Even the seemingly meaningless moments of grocery shopping or watching TV can be positive pieces of a relationship. You don’t always have to be at a fancy dinner.

He may end up coming back if he realizes how important those little, everyday moments with you were. He might regret leaving those things behind when the two of you broke up.

Reason He May Not Come Back: He Already Found Someone New

Some people jump into new relationships right after they get out of their old one. Your ex boyfriend may have done just that. If he’s not coming back, there are plenty of potential reasons. You shouldn’t assume he has a new girlfriend, but it’s a possibility.

Commonly, girls think that their boyfriends have cheated on them and that’s why they get into new relationships so quickly. This isn’t usually the case so you probably don’t have much to worry about.

Here’s a video that can help you with the feelings you might have about your ex boyfriend’s new relationship.

Though it can be hard to deal with, it’s normal for people to get into new relationships immediately after a breakup. It’s a part of the process for some people.

If your ex boyfriend doesn’t come back into your life, there’s a chance that it’s because of a new relationship. He may already be over you or may be trying to distract himself from the difficulty of the breakup.

​Reason He May Come Back: His Friends Told Him He Messed Up

After a breakup, it’s common for people to talk to their friends about how it all went down. Your ex boyfriend may have spilled it all to his friends. This is a good way to cope and to work out your true feelings about the situation.

Your ex boyfriend might be talking to his friends just like you talk to yours. Friends can offer great relationship advice, especially if they’ve known you a while or are familiar with relationships.

If your ex boyfriend did something wrong, his friends might help him to figure it out. They may offer advice or suggest that he apologizes to you.

In this case, you may find your ex boyfriend trying to get in touch with you again to work things out. If this happens, just use your best judgment. What you do just depends on the relationship and the breakup too.

His friends also might have told him that he never should have broken up with you to begin with. They might have reminded him of everything that he lost when he got out of the relationship.

Reason He May Not Come Back: He Can’t Make Up His Mind


Some guys are so back and forth on the girls that they date and break up with. This might be the truth for your ex boyfriend as well. He might be stuck in between a couple of different girls. He’s likely feeling a bunch of different emotions too.

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Even if you’re the only girl on your ex boyfriend’s radar, he could be having a hard time deciding whether or not to stay with you. He may miss the relationship but not want to be in a relationship again.

After you and your ex boyfriend break up, he may be in and out of your life for a little while. He might want to try to make the relationship work or he may just give up completely.

Sometimes, ex boyfriends don’t come back because they can’t be 100% committed to the idea of being in your life again. He could avoid coming back so that he doesn’t confuse himself further.

​Reason He May Come Back: He Wants to Make Sure You’re Okay

You may have gotten lucky and had a very caring and empathetic boyfriend. Sometimes these feelings can carry over after a breakup, which is why your ex boyfriend may come back.

Everybody knows that relationships are hard. Breakups are usually even harder. It’s a fact of life. Your ex boyfriend is going through many of the same emotions that you are. He may realize this and come back to support you.

Now, he may come back to actually be your boyfriend again. It’s more likely that he’s coming back to take care of you and help you out. He probably expects you to do the same for him.

Reason He May Not Come Back: It Ended in a Nasty Argument

If things ended on a bad note, you can’t really count on your ex boyfriend coming back. Usually, people will say things that they don’t really mean when they get into a fight. Insults that are said in the heat of an argument aren’t always forgiven.

If you said something pretty nasty as you were having one of your final fights, your ex boyfriend may not be coming back. The thing is that he remembers that exact situation and that’s how he thinks of the relationship ending. Does he want to come back and receive more insults?

Plus, he might think that you meant what you said and that you want nothing to do with him. If a relationship ends in a major fight or with yelling, it can be hard for someone to come back to that.

If he said something really mean in your last argument, he might feel bad coming back. He might think that coming back would remind you of the awful things he said to you.

At the same time, there is a slight chance he would talk to you in an attempt to receive an apology or to apologize to you. In most cases though, a bad fight is enough to keep an ex boyfriend at bay.

Reason He May Come Back: He Wants to Be Friends


Some relationships end on good enough terms that a friendship is possible. If this is the case for your recent breakup, your ex boyfriend might come back to try to be friends with you.

The main reason that people do this is that they don’t want to lose everything that they once had in their relationship. Having a friendship can simplify things and remove any issues that might have existed in the romantic relationship.

Of course, this friendship might be awkward. Given the nature of the friendship, it can be a little tricky to maintain the friendship. It will have different dynamics than your relationship did.

You might have some unresolved conflicts that existed in the relationship before.

If your ex boyfriend comes back into your life, you shouldn’t necessarily avoid a friendship. Just make sure you’re both comfortable with the friendship. If you still have some things to work out, you might need more time to get over the relationship before becoming friends.

Try to figure out your ex boyfriend’s intentions so that you know exactly what to expect from this new friendship.

Reason He May Not Come Back: He Never Loved You

This one is a little harsh, but it’s the truth. If your ex boyfriend doesn’t come back to you, it could be because he didn’t ever care about you or love you enough. He might not have had a strong emotional connection to you.

He might have been dating you for another reason. Maybe he just wanted to be in a relationship with someone. There are many personal reasons that could have caused a relationship without real love.

This is a hard realization to make. Now that he broke up with you, you are able to get into a relationship that is really meaningful. You won’t be stuck thinking that somebody loves you when they really don’t.

If you need some time to process this, it’s okay. There’s no reason to rush into a new relationship. When you’re ready, the right guy will be out there.

Maybe he stopped loving you part of the way through the relationship too. He probably just realized that he was losing the spark at this point.

If your ex boyfriend doesn’t love you, he may not come back into your life. This love could have been non-existent or tapered off at some point.


Do Ex Boyfriends Come Back?

It is quite common for ex boyfriends to come back. However, this doesn’t happen in every situation. If your relationship with your ex boyfriend was not very healthy or happy then there is little chance that he will come back. If you had a great relationship, then give your ex boyfriend time to realise what he is missing and he will probably come back to you eventually. 

How Do You Know If Your Ex Will Come Back?

There is no way of knowing for definite if your ex will come back. However there are some signs that may foretell that he will come back to you eventually. If he texts you often just to ask you how you are or he still talks to your friends to ask them if you are doing okay then he likely still cares and maybe is still in love with you and is likely to come back into your life. 

How Long Does It Take For An Ex To Come Back?

It completely depends on every situation as to how long it will take for an ex to come back. After every break up it is probably a good idea to do no contact with each other for a while so that you can both realise what you really want. If you give him time to realise that he really misses having you in his life he may come back to you eventually. 

Do Ex Come Back After Months?

There is no way to know for sure whether your ex will ever come back to you or to know how long it will take for him to come back. However, if he has been texting you and showing a lot of signs that he misses you such as asking your friends how you are then it is highly likely that he will come back to you eventually. 

How Long Does It Take For A Guy To Regret Breaking Up?

This totally depends on each individual guy. If you had a terrible breakup that was caused by huge flaws in your relationship then he likely won’t ever regret breaking up with you. However, if you did enjoy a good relationship and those issues that caused the relationship are resolved he may begin to regret ever breaking up with you. 


It’s hard to say whether your ex boyfriend will come back into your life or not. There are many reasons that it may or may not happen. Whatever does end up happening is for the best though! You will find love again.

If you have any questions that you would like us to answer, leave them in the comments section below.

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

11 comments on “Will My Ex Boyfriend Come Back? 10 Reasons He May Or May Not”

  1. I have 3 ex boyfriends that after 2yrs apart are trying to get back into my life. I had called the day they contacted me text your ex day. Why? They broke up with me not vice versa

    1. I have spoked bad about my exboyfriend behind his back only once but never cheated on him or hit him and he won't talk to me and I don't know what to do anymore.

      I need advice please

  2. my best friends has betrayed my trust, she told my husband lies and blackmailed me to my husband, I got devastated and couldn't imagine my very own friend wanted to break my family apart out of jealousy.

  3. I couldn't let my husband go just like that, I went looking for help and I found a psychic who did everything and brought my husband back with a single spell. He told me and showed me everything my friend sent to him, she event went photo shopping to take my husband from me.

  4. I want all my kids to come from one man I love and care about, I would anything to protect my family, My kids are happy to see their father back to the house.

  5. yes I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 1/2years because he was cheating... and I had no contact since then....that was 6 months ago i found out he got right into another relationship so fast and has been with her for 3 months...but i am getting the silent treatment from him...Im just so confused

  6. My boyfriend broke up with because I got to know that he was cheating on me.our relationship had spent for over 5years.We started dating since we were in s3 till my s6 vacation and he broke up with me this early January,but I still love him.Will I get back with him?

  7. My ex and I were together for 4 months then broke up because he found someone new and that didn’t work out at all and he told me you don’t realize what you have until you lost it and we got back together and dated and said how much he loved me and was so happy to be with me and then we moved in together because he was going to school and I was going to work then a month later he left me because he felt like I didn’t love him and he didn’t think things were working out and that time we dated for 4 months and now he’s gone and he found someone new that I know I was better then and she isnt his type at all she is into drugs and isn’t the type he would be interested in. I’m just wondering if he will ever come back to me and actually realize for real what he lost?

  8. I was in arelationship with my boy friend for 5months then after he went back to his ex girlfriend whom he told me that hurt him a lot before so when she came in his life he forgave her ,l gave him a space of 2 months with out talking to him but now he wants to come back in my life ,what should l do

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