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How To Find A Boyfriend (17 Tips That Actually Work)

by Sonya Schwartz

Are you longing for the right guy to magically appear in your life? Or perhaps hoping your soul mate will knock on your door one day and declare their love for you? The truth is that sometimes this is the case, but most of the time, it’s not. To meet the perfect person for you, you need to open your eyes to new people and start living a life that invites love in - you’re never going to meet anyone if you sit at home every day! Although finding a boyfriend might take time and patience, there are certain things you can do to increase the likelihood of finding the right person for you.

It’s hard figuring out how to get a boyfriend, but after reading this article, you’ll be all clued up!

This article shares the 17 top tips that will help you turn your imagined love life into a real one, so get reading and get ready to meet your future love!

1. Figure out what you’re looking for.

One of the first things you need to do before trying to figure out how to get a boyfriend is really thinking about exactly what you’re looking for in a person. The first thing that might pop to your head is ‘tall, dark and handsome’ and while you might want those things and if you’re lucky you might get those things, you need to dig a little deeper. What qualities are you looking for in your next partner? 

Think about your previous partners and what the strengths and weaknesses were in them. Make a list, literally or mentally, of what you’re looking for in a partner, then you can go forward looking for exactly that and avoiding those that don’t have the qualities you’re looking for.

2. Make sure you’re happy alone first.

To be able to fully commit to a relationship and be happy with a guy by your side, you first need to be happy by yourself. You shouldn’t be trying to meet a partner if you’re not yet content with being alone. A lot of people spend their lives jumping from relationship to relationship, but never truly finding happiness because they don’t feel happy within themselves. 

So, before you go on the search for a new partner, be sure that you fully love yourself and are content with being alone. Then, when you get into a new relationship you’re not trying to fill a happiness gap within yourself, you’re just creating extra amounts of happiness with another person.

3. Don’t prioritize looks.

Although it’s obviously important that you’re attracted to the person that you’re hoping to be in a relationship with, it’s equally important that the person you choose cares for you, has a similar sense of humor, has the same morals and is a kind, loving person. One of the biggest mistakes that people make when looking for a partner is going for someone that’s scorching hot but doesn’t have the personality to match. 

Of course, you’ll want to date a guy that you feel physically attracted to, but don’t prioritize looks over personality. In the long run, personality is much more important and a lot more attractive than looks.

4. Don’t expect it to happen straight away.

If you really want to get a boyfriend, you might feel impatient and frustrated if you don’t meet the perfect person straight away, but you need to understand that it takes time. Don’t expect to meet your future husband straight away, be patient, and give it time, you never know when the perfect guy will present himself. Although some people meet their true love very quickly, it’s not normally the case and typically most people need to kiss a lot of frogs before meeting a prince! 

5. Strike up conversations with strangers.

Strike up conversations with strangers

In the technology-driven world that we all live in, there’s something incredible about connecting with strangers in real life. Although it seems like the likelihood of meeting your future love in real life is a lot smaller than it used to be due to the growing popularity of dating apps, it’s still a possibility. You can meet your future love in real life very easily, by starting a conversation with them! It might seem daunting in a world where we’re all glued to our phones, but if you see a cutie on the train you’re on, or you’re sitting at a bar waiting for your friends, strike up a conversation! 

6. Join a group or club.

A great way to meet new people is by joining a group or club that does something you enjoy. For example, if you’re really into walking, you might want to join a hiking group in your local area. Not only will you meet new friends, but your future partner could be there. The amazing thing about meeting someone whilst doing something you enjoy means that the two of you already have something in common. 

Even if you don’t meet your future partner at one of these groups, you will make new friends that will open you up to a new circle of their friends, or they might even set you up with a man they know.

7. Go out and party with your friends

Surely you don’t need an excuse to go and party with your friends and feel good? Well, if you do, this is it! Although you might have a pessimistic view about the type of people you’ll meet when you’re out having drinks with your girlfriends, a lot of people meet their future spouses at bars or clubs. It’s important to say though, that if you’re looking for a guy to start a serious relationship with, you might be better off choosing to go for drinks at that beautiful rooftop bar in the city than the rowdy club downtown.

8. Ask your friends to set you up.

Your friends can be incredibly helpful if you’re trying to meet a partner because they know all about you and they might know the perfect match for you. If you’re the single one in your group of friends, you’re probably not a stranger to being set up or getting asked to attend double dates with a potential suitor. It might seem daunting going on a date with a guy that you don’t know, but your friends will actually have a pretty good idea of who your perfect match is, so let them set you up on a date, or even ask them to!

9. Try traveling alone.

Traveling alone is not only one of the most eye-opening things you’ll ever do, but it also makes it much easier to make friends in comparison to traveling with other people. If you’re on your own, people will be more inclined to come and chat with you, and you might just meet your dream man whilst you’re traveling solo. You could also try to join a group of solo travelers, where relationships bloom all the time! So, the next time you’re thinking of taking a trip, maybe try to do it alone.

10. Volunteer.

If one of your requirements for your future partner is for them to be kind and caring, you might want to consider becoming a volunteer somewhere. Obviously, you should choose to volunteer because you want to help the cause, but it’s also a great way to meet a kind, philanthropic people on the same wavelength as you. You might meet your future spouse while increasing the quality of lives of others - there’s nothing more heartwarming than that!

11. Go to events in your city.

You’re never going to meet your future boyfriend if you’re sat at home all the time, so get yourself out there more! Your city will most likely have an array of events going on, so take a look at the events that interest you and go! Whether an art gallery has a special evening event, or there’s a fundraising day somewhere, it’s time to go. By going to events in your city, you’ll meet people within the same community as you, and you could strike up a conversation with a future love!

12. Go to a singles meetup.

In cities all over the world, there are singles meetup groups that connect singles with each other. These meetup groups aren’t only for those that are hoping to meet a future partner, but they exist for single people that simply want to meet new people and spend time with others that are single, rather than friends that are married and have kids! 

Singles meetups are a great way of meeting new people, and if you do feel attracted to a guy in the group, you can feel rest assured that they are single and you’re not going to embarrass yourself by realizing the person you’re crushing on is married! You can search for these groups on Facebook or by simply searching on the internet. 

13. Slide into those DMs.

Do you follow a man on Instagram that you’re attracted to? Or do you think your friends’ friend is attractive but don’t know the next time you’ll see them? One of the easiest ways to get to know someone is by starting to talk to them on social media. You don’t really have anything to lose if you hop into someone’s direct messages, so if you’re attracted to a guy that you’re connected to on social media, do it! Just be make sure they don’t have a partner already, or that could get messy!

14. Sign up for dating apps that resonate with you.

If you want to find someone, sometimes you just have to grab the bull by its horns and prioritize it. A really easy way to meet a potential future partner is by using dating apps. Some people love dating apps and others can’t stand them, but there’s no doubt that using a dating app is an easy way to meet other singles that are looking for love. With so many different types of dating apps out there, it’s important for you to choose a dating app that really resonates with what kind of future relationship you’re looking for. 

We have an array of dating app reviews across the site, so if you are interested in using a dating app, you might want to check these out.

15. Go speed dating.

Speed dating is such a fun way to meet new people and potential future partners. It’s like swiping through people on a dating app but in real life! Speed dating is really popular and it’s likely there will be events in your area, so get searching! Get some friends together and combine having a fun night out with potentially meeting the love of your life. 

16. Flirt more.

Flirt more

Flirting can be quite daunting, especially for those that are more introverted than extroverted, but it’s one of the best ways you can have a deeper connection with someone. You can flirt in so many ways, both in real life with someone new, with someone you already know or over text messages and social media! In-person, you can try to come out of your shell more, make cheeky comments, and maintain sultry eye contact with the person you’re trying to flirt with. 

If you’re too nervous to flirt with anyone in person, you can always try to flirt with them over text or on social media. Regardless of whether you flirt with someone in person or over messages, flirting makes them realize you’re interested in them.

17. Keep believing in love.

The most important thing that you need to do when trying to find a partner is to keep faith that you will find the perfect person for you. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to find a partner as soon as possible, as normally the most beautiful relationships appear when we don’t expect it. As long as you keep the faith in knowing that you will find the person for you at the right time, you’ll fall in love at the perfect time. Don’t give up on love.

FAQs

How can I find a boyfriend fast?

If you’re really wanting to find a boyfriend as fast as possible, you can use dating apps and ask people to set you up with guys they think are good for you. Although, you need to ask yourself why you feel the need to find a boyfriend so quickly - is it because you’re trying to jump from relationship to relationship? The right person will come to you at the right time, so don’t try to rush it and try to concentrate on loving yourself first.

How do I get a boyfriend in 10 days?

This is an incredibly fast time to find a boyfriend and to be honest, you need to question why you are looking for a partner quite so urgently. This sounds like you could be so keen to have a partner by your side because you can face having no one there. So more importantly, you need to find out how to love yourself and accept yourself as a single person. Once you can accept yourself, use the 17 tips above to help with finding a partner.

How do I meet a partner?

Hopefully, the 17 tips in this article will help you meet someone. Overall, you need to put yourself out there more so you have the opportunity to meet someone new. You can try to use dating apps, join clubs, and attend more events in your area. Live a life you love, be confident, and open yourself to the opportunity of love.

How do you know if a boy likes you?

If a guy likes you, he will make an effort to speak to you, he will get jealous over you, he’ll want to protect you, and he might act shy around you. Every person acts differently, but overall, a guy will make sure you know that he’s interested, and he won’t want any other guys near you.

What do guys find cute?

Obviously, different men have different physical attractions, so there isn’t any standard look that men think is attractive. The same applies to personality, each man is attracted to a different kind of woman. However, overall, men are attracted to women that feel confident within themselves and know what they want. They’re attracted to kindness, mutual interest, femininity, and flirtiness. 

To Conclude

This article should provide an array of valuable information to you if you are wondering how to get a boyfriend. Just remember, you need to love yourself and be happy alone before you get into a relationship because a relationship can never complete you as you’re already complete, it will only empower your life further and bring you more happiness. Never give up on love, and good luck!

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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