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How To Make a Capricorn Man Obsessed With You (Here Are 5 Ways)

by Sonya Schwartz

Are you trying to impress a Capricorn man? 

Perhaps you haven’t dated yet and you’re trying to catch his eye? 

Or maybe you’re in a casual relationship and you’re hoping to make him commit to you?

Either way, you’re in the right place because this guide details five bulletproof strategies to make a Capricorn OBSESS over you. 

But before we dive into them, it’s important that you read the following sentences carefully. 

I always used to be the woman fighting to make my crushes more interested in me. 

Usually, it didn’t work. 

In my twenties, I experienced countless dates or even relationships where the man just wasn’t that into me. 

But I want to tell you about the moment that everything changed…

It was when I discovered a little-known aspect of male psychology, which affects the way they feel about the women in their life. 

This psychological trigger is called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’. It helps men to feel more powerful and purposeful. Naturally, they feel more drawn to women who can help them feel this way. 

When I learned how to activate a man’s ‘Hero’s Instinct’, it became so much easier to attract men who wanted deep meaningful relationships (you can learn more by reading my personal story). 

It’s easy to activate a man’s ‘Hero’s Instinct’ once you know. Yet, so few women seem to know about this powerful concept. 

If you’re tired of always fighting for a man’s affection, I’d urge you to read how I discovered the power of the ‘Hero’s Instinct’

Still, if you’re looking for specific advice on seducing a Capricorn, you can find them in the article below. 

How to attract a Capricorn

If you want to get into the heart of a Capricorn, there are a few set tactics to follow.

You have chosen a man who is very complex and may want one thing one day, only to mot want it the next day! Capricious, these men are challenging because they can blow hot and cold but protective, hardworking and deeply loving when they find the person they believe to be worthy, there are some steps you can take to ensure he is obsessed with you.

1. Be transparent when you talk to him

The first step when you want to get into the heart of a Capricorn man is to try and get to his inner heart and soul and to do this you need to put yourself in his line of vision and get beyond this aloof character’s defense mechanisms and direct yourself to his brain!

Although they are often known for their skills in the bedroom department, this is one sign where you need something up top to keep him engaged.

If you work with this Capricorn man or study with him you may find that he is very in depth and not easily distracted away from his work.  That’s a disadvantage for you if you want to make a Capricorn man obsessed with you. Unlike another sign where you could be someone quite passive and perhaps physically well turned out, when you need to get a Capricorn’s attention you need to be someone who is very clear and direct – a bit like a typical male trait.

So, how do you do that? As you may know, a Capricorn man is someone who wouldn’t like an attention seeking woman who comes across as needy or weak as that simply isn’t a turn on for them. They don’t like desperation in anyone and any whiff of it will send him running. He wants to get you close to you at first purely because this sign really wants to see who you are and what you represent.

First impressions really count here so what you need to do to attract him and try and build that obsession is to keep a positive but also real energy around you and ensure that you are strategically around him as much as possible. This doesn’t mean bumping into him in the coffee ship and just giving a girly wave – but instead, getting into his brain.

Try and get on his intellectual level and engage him in conversations that will really appeal to him. They aren’t into small talk and they love transparency,  so it could be something relevant with a point of value to him or just an out and out suggestion that you go for a drink together. If that seems too much Perhaps you can discuss a project, something coming up or his thoughts on something that’s just happened. Don’t start with chats about your weekend plans as it’s not going to work here!

A relationship with a Capricorn is a little like breaking down walls with him slowly whilst he does the same to you so start by being really clear on what you are all about and let him reveal more about himself in turn.

Want him to chase, love and worship you?
Well, you’ll need to have a much deeper understanding of his astrological love profile. My friend and relationship astrologer Anna Kovach prepared this Free Compatibility Quiz to help you discover the secrets of his zodiac sign.

2. Don’t flatter him too much

A Capricorn is usually averse to anything frilly or fake when it comes to relationships and love,  so if you want him to be obsessed with you, you have to be clear about your feelings but you have to state them clearly and be direct. Just like the above point of being transparent,  a Capricorn is smart and will want to have someone quite blunt and open in their lives and flattery, especially if it feels a bit weak will be seen as something he can just dismiss. Unlike a Leo who would want to be adored and for you to admire his prowess, the Capricorn will just shrug off complements. Similarly, just like a Scorpio man, the Capricorn will want to see and know the real you as much as possible. They think logically and want to know that you are right for them.

As everyone does, they would like someone loving, loyal and attentive – but their most important factors when they are looking for a woman in their lives is to find someone who is independent and, in some ways, subservient. The Capricorn man looks for give and take and a mutually beneficial agreement, as it were. He looks for someone who won’t say words that have little meaning. If you say you love him, or like him, he will be looking for someone who backs this up with action. If you don’t , to him this is a weakness in you.

3. Don’t play games with him

Whilst Capricorns can play mind games in relationships, it can be a risky move. They are very comfortable having the power in a relationship and are keen to power play with if they have been given the tools and reason to. They can pull the rug from beneath you, so try not to ‘have something over him’. You can be beautiful and charming, but if you try and make him jealous it can backfire! These men work very hard and have a big schedule, so whilst they literally do not have time for games and tricks, when it comes to his love life he really does want to meet a woman who is very alike  to him and how he thinks and this will be a huge turn on. This is not only great for you (after all, that headspace is wasted on silly games) but it also makes for a better long-term relationship because you are both able to see each other for what you are. Sometimes you might fall for the idea of the Capricorn man but find that the realities with him (work coming first, for example!) might be something you aren’t too sure about

4. Be independent and show you have something to offer.

A sense of self is a huge turn on for a Capricorn man and he is looking for someone who stands out from the crowd. He might have already noticed you because you are someone who dresses differently, maybe you speak out against things you feel strongly about or you always have something smart to say.

On this point, thinking intelligently is something that really appeals, and being seen as strong both emotionally and mentally is something else he is looking for. If you can demonstrate that you are fine on your own and that he is just able to add extra to your life, that’s what he really wants.

If you can show that you are stable and able to offer security in a relationship – ideally by having your life together, this will be very appealing.  Capricorns love stability because they often feel that they need to protect themselves. You might see him start to test you in areas of trust, again, he is just looking to see how you react and what you might be like in a relationship. Capricorns as a whole hate to make the wrong choices in any area and are keen to find if you are worth his precious time.

5. How’s it going with your Capricorn man?

Are you having issues with the Capricorn man in your own life? What challenges have you met with so far? We know that this can be a hard sign to break down. Not only is he misunderstood and often seen as someone who puts himself first, this man wont leap into a relationship or even allow himself to be obsessed with you if he doesn’t feel that you will be stable or reliable with enough brain power and strength to make the relationship go the course!

However, if you are able to keep your head and to act in the right way around the Capricorn man we can be sure that you will start to see the signs of his obsessions with you. Perhaps he will start acting a little jealous, leaving work early to see you – there are plenty of other signs!

Please share this with a friend or on your social networks so anyone else who is wanting to attract a Capricorn man can learn the rules!


How Do You Keep A Capricorn Man Interested?

Once you have him, you need to become the epitome of rationality. Capricorn men value grounded people above all else. Also, learn to be supportive without smothering him. It’s even better when you show him that you're ambitious, smart and successful all by yourself.

What A Capricorn Man Wants In A Relationship?

As much as a Capricorn guy really wants a strong independent woman, he also wants to take care of you. Loyalty is another big must, seeing as that's the cornerstone of a stable relationship.
Then, when it comes to the bedroom, he wants a woman who's as open-minded as he is.

How Do You Know If A Capricorn Man Is Serious?

You'll notice that he begins to let his guard down to reveal his more sensitive side. He'll also begin to have deeper conversations as he learns to depend on you a bit more. Topping that off, he'll be willing to free up a lot more time for you.  All in all, you'll see sides of him you never thought existed.

Will A Capricorn Man Tell You He Loves You?

In most cases, you will not get verbal cues from a Capricorn man. You see, he’s more on the guarded side and simply acts rather than speaking. In his head, you should know that he loves you once you see the signs. He’ll lower his guard and really share part of his life with you and in his book, that means something.

How Can I Impress A Capricorn Man?

If you really want him in your life, then you will pace yourself. The last thing you want to do is chase him off since he’s quite a wary one. Easing him in does not only cover emotions but also keep it under wraps in the bedroom. Stay away from one night stands and only get physical when you know things are serious. Top that off by showing him how driven you are in your business/career and you’ve earned a whole lot of respect.

Want him to chase, love and worship you?
Well, you’ll need to have a much deeper understanding of his astrological love profile. My friend and relationship astrologer Anna Kovach prepared this Free Compatibility Quiz to help you discover the secrets of his zodiac sign.

Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

10 comments on “How To Make a Capricorn Man Obsessed With You (Here Are 5 Ways)”

  1. Capricorn men are known to be irresistible because of their sense of humor and good looks. Even though they look cold from the outside but they are warm from the inside. To date a Capricorn man you have to match their personality and make them trust you. Even though it make take a lot of time to make them trust you all the wait will be worth it since they will do everything possible to make your relationship the best.

  2. Hey !
    So I just started talking to a Capricorn man three weeks ago, I’ve seen him twice and we had sex the second time
    We were both really vibing and on the same page until after we had sex
    He started barely replying and all
    I waited a few days and then called him and let him know I’m happy to give him space but all I need is a bit of communication
    He agreed to that but hasn’t really made a move for two days
    After reading everything above, I’m happy to be patient but I don’t know when the right time is to make a move or ditch this
    Thanks !!

    1. I hope someone replies to you because im in the exact scenario.

      And i'm a scorpio, so im final with my words (so i can get a straight answer), but he's so blaisé with his it annoys me.
      I said "let's call it a day," and he said "ok." 🤣
      We've carried on talking but its nothing special.

      1. Hi! Gemini, here. This article and the comments are helpful! I started seeing my Capricorn a short while ago, but prior to that we were speaking on social media. I definitely feel he likes me, and we've had sex, but he told me that he would be very busy with work over the next week or so. Can someone PLEASE help me put my mind at ease?

        1. Hi there Im gemini too dating a capricorn man and from my experience he gets so caught up in work that he comes off as cold but I've learnt that if I give him some space he will make time for me. If it gets to too much distraction I will let him know how I feel. He tells me it makes it easier to know so he can try to stop. But patience with a cappy is really the best thing to try, it may be hard but if he is into you it'll be worth it. He's always gonna love doing work it's in his nature to do what he loves and sometimes he needs reminding that he's with you so you are just as important as his work. Hope this helps

        2. Hi, I’m a Libra sun but Gemini moon. I have been with my Capricorn for 12 yrs now. He’s been cheating ever since I had to divide my attention with my 2 youngest kids (at the time were young pre-teens) when their father was dying of cancer. Over the years it has been rocky but I have always observed us and our situation. Capricorn LOVES to have undivided attention but not be smothered. Don’t be clingy like wanting to hold hands. Let him cuddle up to you when he wants to. When he’s ready. LOYALTY to a Capricorn is BIG. DON’T try to make him jealous just be yourself but shy away from socializing with other guys when your Capricorn is around. Me being a Libra I love to dress up-for many years he banned me from dressing up, makes them insecure cuz they will think that you are trying to replace them with another guy. Let Capricorn be in the spotlight. They like your independence and intelligence but don’t “outshine” them. Usually around other people, I stay quiet and let him do all the talking and I keep my answers short with other guys then go about finding something else to be interested in all of a sudden so my Capricorn doesn’t get jealous. Don’t look at other guys around your Capricorn. Feed the ego a little but don’t over do it either. Yes, you do have to play damsel in distress every so often but you can attempt to make it look like you tried to do it yourself to show a little independence. Some things you just aren’t strong enough to do on your own. Yes do your own thing but still let him be the knight in shining armor. Give a compliment every so often...not too often though. I used to buy my Capricorn little gifts...nothing expensive unless his birthday or Christmas or valentines. I don’t work anymore so I am solely dependent upon him now. We are still on the rocks due to his cheating but he WANTS me to stay with him, he sabotages my vehicles so I can’t leave him! It’s kind of funny but I have to play stupid to it. I DO WANT my Capricorn but he has to stop cheating. If I see red flags, I go COLD on him and he hates it. Then we are at war again. My Capricorn likes to buy gifts as a “I’m sorry” apology. He will never verbally apologize...his EGO is TOO BIG. But that is his way of saying sorry. Like since he has been trying to reconcile with me since last September but I caught on to more of his cheating so we have been at war and I started acting like I was single just like he has been all these years. He doesn’t like that. He took me yesterday to go look at a new jet ski that he wants me to have. I have 2 older ones but he wants me to have a NEW one like his but in whatever color I want. He plans on putting a deposit on it this Friday. He knows I love to jump the waves! I’m 52 he is 35. Big age difference yes so I have to be the mature one (emotionally). He’s been so caught up with trying to cheat he almost let his business run into the ground because he was spending all the money on the hoes but none would choose him over whomever they were already with. Or he didn’t like something about their ways. He would always try to get them to dress like me, act like me but none could get it right. I’ve given him every reason to get rid of me but he won’t do it. I helped him BUILD his logging company for last 12 yrs. we have A LOT of outside interferences that influence him against me. And I have been making it known that I have no problem moving on WITHOUT HIM. He can’t stand “the silent treatment” and that’s what he’s been getting ever since I caught him cheating. The only proof I needed was the std he gave me. Thankfully it was a curable one. I am Gemini moon so the “zodiac twins” tend to back up “the Queen of swords” the zodiac “ICE QUEEN”. We have been mirroring each other for many years now. And yes sadly things became too toxic with all the outside intereferences that he finally turned abusive towards me. He has literally ruined my health. That’s how dangerous he became. The law was involved and he was arrested and he is trying to make amends but also wanted to eat his cake and ice cream. He knows I won’t tolerate it. He won’t fully commit to me because he KNOWS I can be VERY INDEPENDENT. Do you know of any other female loggers running huge heavy duty machines? I know of a couple but none in our area and not as dedicated as I have been. I have been trying to keep a low profile in the industry but word has gotten around over the years and he doesn’t like the attention I get from it. And sadly his abuse also got around thru the industry as well so his reputation took a double hit not just personally but also professionally so now his business hasn’t been so successful as it used to be. He has lost A LOT of business associates due to how things went down between us. We are still together both still trying to find a way to fix us. He just didn’t see that his cheating ways and wandering eyes is the cause of our problems. Loyalty is very big to a Capricorn. I have also noticed they do not take rejection very well either. They like to do the rejecting but not the one to be REJECTED. THEIR “appearance” to others is very important to them. That’s why I say, let them be in the spotlight and you take a backseat. They take offense to you outshining them. That’s why I have to play the damsel in distress. I can only be “so much independent”. You have to observe A LOT and learn what works with a Capricorn and what doesn’t. Very time consuming and also draining but if you are in for the long haul with them, pay attention to doting on them, don’t be too independent, let them shine, look good yourself, yes...but don’t be the center of attention. My Capricorn can be very funny, very silly and very passionate as well. He needs his space as much as I need my own and for MANY YEARS, we spent ALL DAY and ALL NIGHT together going everywhere together until he decided that I was not going to devote all my time to just him. I couldn’t. My children needed their mother as they had just lost their father. It was a bit immature on his part to also take it out on my girls. My girls hate him and he hates them. Funny how it wasn’t like that at first. His mama’s words of “ you don’t owe those girls anything, they aren’t your kids” and he turned ugly on them from that moment on. I cut his mother out of my life years ago. There was some other things that she did that I found out about and I did eventually go have a little conversation with her that she didn’t like but she knew I was right. I blocked her number and wouldn’t talk to her out in public either. When a Libra cuts you out, they are DONE with you. Air signs can be indecisive especially Gemini’s but that’s because half says yes the half says no. It’s best to know ALL your signs with birth chart so you understand WHO YOU REALLY ARE...as in where your traits come from. I am also cancer rising and Scorpio Venus and my north node is Aries. Also if you can find out your Capricorn’s signs so you can understand his traits as well. After a while you will be able to identify which traits he uses for different situations. My Capricorn is also cancer moon, libra rising and Sagittarius Venus. We have 2 of the same signs which is WHY we mirror each other A LOT. He takes more action and I do a lot of observing and mental notes on things. I am double air sign so it drains me A LOT and I enjoy my “ALONE” time. I can emotionally fall apart over something small now and lean on him when I become indecisive on something. My Capricorn is actually starting to LEARN things about ME for a change so I am now letting him take the lead.sorry this is long but it helps if you know our story. Yes, there’s ups and downs...in ANY relationship but if you REALLY learn about your partner, it does help A LOT. OBSERVATION and even keeping a journal is BIG but make sure your journal is kept safe or Capricorn could and will use it against you. Buy a safe and only YOU know the combo. If you can, keep it at somebody else’s house (your parents or somebody you REALLY TRUST/ sibling etc.) or rent a storage unit and keep journals there. Temperature controlled storage unit is best. Or keep digital journal in computer or tablet. Flash drives. Capricorn’s are complicated, very independent, very secretive...they DO NOT like to show ANY vulnerability not even to their partner. Oh I am sure that things WILL eventually work out between us. He is too set in his ways, doesn’t like a lot of changes. All his infidelities never last long and he always comes back to where he feels safe- to me. I already showed him my loyalty. I’ve had many opportunities, and still have other options I could entertain but I choose NOT TO. LIBRA is ALL about “justice” the TRUTH. ALL the outside interferences bash me behind my back, and NEVER to my face. Even when Capricorn KNOWS that I have caught onto his his shenanigans he can’t face me either. We have A LOT of silent moments in the house as well as when we ride together. Libras have no problem cutting people out of their life. The only way to win the mind games with Capricorn is to disengage and give space. Shut down emotionally and don’t feed into the situation. Focus on yourself for a while. I’m not an expert up I’ve had many years of observing my Capricorn and I wish I had the knowledge I have now. He holds on to the thought that we CAN find a miracle to fix us and I’ve been looking to escape rather than try to fix it. He is probably doing that out of guilt for what he’s done but I have recently just threw in the towel and decided to just go with the flow...follow his lead and see where it takes us...to stop looking to escape and put the work into trying to salvage our relationship. Too many years of trying to fix us and I just had enough of the psychological warfare between us. I got tired of trying to reconcile only to be backstabbed again so I gave up. If he wants things to work out between us, he’s gonna have to put the work into it this time Lund, otherwise I’m DONE. I WILL TRY as long as he does too, so if red flags start popping up again I will be looking for the exit sign. Know your Capricorn well. Most compatible signs for Capricorn are Taurus, Virgo and Scorpio. But that’s not to say the others aren’t...if you learn your Capricorn well and commit yourself to him, ANY sign can be compatible...IF the work is put into it! I hope this helps you. My Capricorn hates it when I don’t ask him for help when I need it. That’s my stubborn independent side when my guard is up. Be vulnerable and open to REALLY KNOWING your partner, no matter what sign they are. If you both LEARN about each other you grow. It takes 2 to make a relationship work. 1 can’t do it all for the relationship to work. Everybody is different so always take that into consideration. Research the zodiac signs, KNOW the traits of the partner you choose to deal with! I hope NOBODY has to go thru what I have gone thru...back then I didn’t KNOW my Capricorn and vice versa. We BOTH are LEARNING about each other. He never knew that I could roller skate cuz he never bothered to get to know ME. I KNOW more about him than he knows of ME as a person! I had many hobbies growing up. Learned how to play different instruments, artistic, love arts n crafts, multi taster, logger for 12 yrs, took care of the elderly for 8 yrs. as well as other jobs and raising 5 kids mostly on my own. He just never KNEW much of me cuz he CHOSE NOT TO. Good luck and many blessings to you on your journey! Remember this...free will can change everything! Stay positive and open minded and everything you desire will come into your life! DAILY AFFIRMATIONS HELP and nightly gratitude and meditation! I did A LOT of “spiritual healing” to finally get back to LOVING MYSELF FIRST and setting boundaries. NEVER LOSE WHO YOU ARE by trying to please others all the time. Air signs tend to do that especially Libras. Research law of attraction too! Lots of love and light! The Queen of Swords.

          1. You are NOT independent and you do NOT love yourself considering that you stay with this abusive covert narcissist man of yours. He cheated on you and yet you stay with him? How is LOYALTY big to him? He wouldn't know loyalty if it hit him in the face considering that he's a massive cheater. He abuses you, your children hates him and he hates them, yet you stay... HOW are you independent? In what delusional world do you have "self-love" when you stay with someone like this? Wake up.

  3. If he really likes you he will reach out to you. Don't reach out to him keep on with your day and do what you always did if you like you can hit up in the end of the night and just let him know that you were busy today and you just wanted to say hi he would eventually reach out.. I've been dating a Capricorn for 3 years and I will always wait for him to reach out and when he asks me why I haven't called, I was busy had a lot to do today.

  4. I'm chatting with a capicorn I'm a Scorpio sex is important to him I'm not so open minded as him and I wonder if he will just walk away how do I keep him interested.
    It seems everything need sto happend I. His time were for me I want to know now ...

  5. I’m a Taurus and I’m dating a Capricorn and things are going amazing so far I’m falling for him and definitely not sex yet I’m a fraid that if that happens things can go wrong, any advice?

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