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How to Attract a Scorpio Man (49 Seductive Ways)

Last updated on August 31, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Has a sumptuous Scorpio caught your eye?

Perhaps you’ve fallen for his natural charms and now you’re wondering how you can make him fall for you in return? 

This sign is well-known for making a woman feel like she’s the only one in the world, once he’s chosen her.

And that’s why I want to help you win a Scorpio man over!

This guide features 49 behavioral traits that turn Scorpio men to putty. If you can show off these behaviors in front of him, he will find it difficult to resist you. 

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With that said, here are your 49 behaviors that drive Scorpio men wild with desire.

Contents

Getting to Know a Scorpio Man

Do you want to know how to attract a Scorpio man? Did some mysterious guy catch your attention and you’ve found out that he is a Scorpio? Well, I hate to break the news but Scorpios are hard nuts to crack. They are mysterious, intense, and unswervingly loyal. Scorpios have integrity and a burning desire to learn. Their magnetism and charisma are hypnotic. 

But the most important thing is Scorpio’s hard, outer shell, made especially to protect them. Just like the scorpion, Scorpios hide in the darkness, waiting for the right moment and the right person. Only then will they emerge. 

Scorpio watches and waits, keeping their barrier up. What you need to know about a Scorpio man is that he will miss out on an opportunity of love, if he feels it will end badly. Because, despite Scorpio’s tough outer shell, underneath he is just as sensitive as Pisces, even more in fact. This is why he guards his emotions so fiercely. Remember, Scorpio is a water sign, just like Pisces. 

However, Scorpions are much more intense and as such, they are ultra-sensitive. Scorpio man has managed to hide this sensitivity because Scorpios have incredible willpower and self-control. Unless the Scorpio man is 100% sure, he won’t commit. 

So, what is the way to a Scorpio man’s heart? 

If you want to know how to attract a Scorpio man, you need to understand him.

Scorpio Man Traits

  • Symbol – Scorpion
  • Water sign
  • Fixed
  • Ruled by Pluto and Mars
  • Feminine night forces

Scorpio is a fixed water sign, ruled by Pluto, but what does this mean? 

The zodiac is broken down into four elements:

  • Fire
  • Earth
  • Air
  • Water

Fire is action-orientated, the doers of the zodiac, Earth are the pragmatic organizers, Air signs are the dreamers forever searching for knowledge, and Water is emotional and sensitive. 

Water Signs

Water signs are intuitive, creative people who tend to go with their gut instincts. They are emotional and are acutely aware of their environment, the people around them, and other people’s moods. As for Scorpio, it rules with its heart, not its head. 

Intensely private and cautiously aware of their deep emotions when it comes to finding a partner, Scorpio desperately wants to fall in love and experience a deep relationship. However, their secretive nature is off-putting and detrimental to their quest for true love. How can you fall in love with someone if they won’t open up to you? 

Fixed Sign

As well as the four elements, each sign falls under either cardinal, fixed, or mutable. 

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Cardinal signs are the instigators, the visionaries, the ones with the spark of an idea that gets a project off the ground. However, although they are good at starting projects they have trouble finishing them. Cardinals represent the start of each season.

Fixed signs are the doers of the zodiac, they take ideas from the cardinals and put them into action. Fixed represents the middle of each season. 

Mutables are the finishers. Whereas cardinal sparks the original idea and fixed gets the job off the ground, mutables appear at the end and wrap the whole thing up. Mutables signify the end of a season.

Scorpio is the only Zodiac sign that is a fixed water sign. Scorpios are strong-willed and intense. They get passionate about a project and like to see it through to completion. 

Ruled by Pluto and Mars

Pluto represents death and regeneration. It is associated with destruction and creation. In other words, Pluto stands for endings and new beginnings. 

Mars is the planet of war, energy, aggression, passion, and assertion. Mars is associated with leadership, action, drive, and ambition. 

Feminine Night Forces

Water and Earth signs are governed by feminine night forces. They soak up the energy around them. They are receptive to the mood of those around them, but Scorpios tend to hold onto this energy, allowing it to influence their behavior.

Now that we know a little more about Scorpio in general, I want to examine his character in more detail. Remember, Scorpios are tricky characters, and you can only attract a Scorpio man if you know him inside and out. 

Scorpio Man Personality Traits

Ambitious, competitive, secretive, magnetic, and alluring. And that’s just what you see on the surface because believe me, Scorpio men hide a lot of their emotions under a shield of armor. 

Scorpio man is exceptionally charming and a highly sexual creature. But sex for a Scorpio man isn't just about physical contact. For them, sex is a way into the deepest part of your soul. Scorpios believe that we are at our most vulnerable during sex. Allowing a partner to experience that opens up a spiritual connection, and that’s what’s important for Scorpio. 

That being said, Scorpios don't go around pursuing just anyone for sex. They have a hard and impenetrable shell for a reason. Underneath that protective armor, Scorpios are soft, sentimental, and squishy. Scorpios don't like feeling vulnerable; hence the sting in their tail. 

Scorpio man is a paradox. He’ll be brutally honest with you and expect the same behavior back. But Scorpios are secretive by nature. Scorpios value truth and honesty but lack a filter. Whereas others might use tact and empathy, Scorpios believe that the hard truth is what counts. They won’t sugarcoat or rose-tint it. 

It takes a lot for a Scorpio man to fall in love. 

Scorpio Man Strengths

scorpio man strengths

Loyalty, self-control, willpower, insight, magnetic, honesty, passion, and sex appeal. 

All Scorpios have amazing willpower. They are fearless and courageous. They are not afraid of taking the first step. Whether this is into the unknown or something dangerous. You can rely on Scorpio man to be at the front of the queue.

Once they set their minds to something they do it. They also have incredible self-control. What this means is that if they like you, but feel you will let them down, they’ll walk away. Scorpio won’t take chances with relationships. 

Despite being a fixed sign, they are amazingly adaptable. They are resolute and resourceful. I put this down to their ruling planet Pluto. Pluto, the farthest and smallest planet in our solar system, survives and still exerts its influence. If that isn't power I don't know what it is. Scorpio has unlimited power and can achieve anything. 

The Scorpio male is inquisitive and keen to learn. They are spiritual beings. They are the ones, from all of the zodiacs that question their existence. They want to know where they came from, why are they here, and what is their purpose? These are all burning questions the Scorpio man is on a quest to answer. 

Thanks to their intellect, they tend to be great conversationalists and are interested in anything, everything, and anyone. 

As for loyalty, once you have a Scorpio man’s love, you will find him fiercely loyal to you. Loyalty is one of Scorpio man’s main strengths. 

Scorpio Man Weaknesses

Ruthless, possessive, vengeful, suspicious, sadistic, jealous, and secretive. 

Think of the scorpion, hiding in the dark, unnoticed, waiting for someone to get too close, raising their stinger tail and lashing out. There’s a reason why this Zodiac sign is the scorpion. You rarely see them until it’s too late and you’ve done something to upset them. 

Scorpios have very long memories. If you hurt them they’ll never forgive or forget. For Scorpio, revenge isn't about living well and getting on with life. It’s about the win and getting even. Scorpios can let this bitterness consume them and can hold a grudge for the rest of their life. They’ll use your weakness against you and can be quite sadistic when they strike. 

Scorpio man is also very guarded and suspicious. He won’t open up to you but he’ll expect you to be forthcoming and open. 

Scorpios are stubborn in general. Imagine trying to coax a scorpion out from a dark corner. It’s not going to happen. Scorpio man is a natural leader and likes to take charge. However, they are not good at accepting criticism and don't try and order them about, they’ll simply lash out with Scorpio’s sting. 

So, do you still want to know how to attract a Scorpio man? 

49 Ways to Make a Scorpio Man Fall in Love With You

1. Be yourself

Scorpions hate fake people and will smell a rat instantly. Don't try and put on a different persona to try and impress them. It won’t work. Scorpios like genuine, truthful people they can trust. Honesty is a huge deal for them, because if they can’t trust you they’ll never fall in love with you.

2. Be mysterious

This sign is secretive and takes their time getting to know someone. If there is one thing that will attract a Scorpio man it is an element of mystery. Don't lay all your life on the table in one go. Leave a little to his imagination. Make him interested in knowing more about you. If you challenge him he’ll find you irresistible.

3. Never lie

Scorpions have a hard shell protecting them for a reason. It’s because inside they are soft and vulnerable and don't get over heartbreak easily. Once they begin to let their guard down they’ll show you their vulnerable side. However, lie to them and this man will never fall in love with you.

4. Make eye contact

These are the observers, the people-watchers, soaking up information so that they can understand what makes relationships work. When they make eye contact with you it is as if they are peering into your very soul. Eye contact is important to Scorpios because it works like a lie detector for them. So don't be afraid to make and keep prolonged eye contact.

5. Talk about your passions

Scorpio is the most passionate sign of the zodiac, but not just when it comes to love and romance. They hate small talk and prefer one-on-one conversations where they can go into depth with a person. You shouldn't be afraid to share your passion with a Scorpio. It will attract him, not push him away.

6. Ask a Scorpio man about his passions

Scorpios of both genders love to get into deep and meaningful conversations, especially on subjects like science, spirituality, and politics. Scorpios crave answers to the meaning of life and its existence. They love to talk about global and current issues, so bring up a newsworthy topic and strap yourself in. 

7. Play hard to get

play hard to get

Scorpio loves a challenge. They don't want someone who comes across as too available. Your typical Scorpio man in particular likes the chase. Mars is their ruling planet. so they are attracted to combat and the win. Make yourself that prize and Scorpio man will fall in love with you.

8. Be patient with him

Scorpios take their sweet time opening up and need a lot of convincing that they can trust you. They have their armored shell for a reason, and that is to protect their vulnerable heart. 

9. Don't mess around with his feelings

Once a Scorpion’s heart is broken it never really heals. And if a Scorpio man feels wronged he’ll hold a grudge for the rest of his life. So be patient, allow him to go at a pace he feels comfortable with, and never make fun of how he feels. 

10. Actively listen

When we converse, much of what is said is not answering the other person, we are preparing what we are going to say. Instead of listening, we are already thinking about our own stories. Active listening is exactly what it says on the tin. You actively listen to the other person; you give them your full attention.

11. Show that you have loyal friends

Scorpio man likes to observe, watching from the outside. Like the scorpion, they hide away, waiting for their prey. Trust is everything to the Scorpion King so he’ll be watching how you treat your friends. Do you disrespect them in public or take them for granted? 

12. Don't be afraid to state your opinions

Scorpions don't want weak partners that don't challenge them once in a while. Scorpios love a good debate with someone that matches their intelligence. So if you disagree with what they are saying, state your reasons and your opinions. You’ll know if a Scorpio man is attracted to you if you manage to change his mind. 

13. Be subtle

Although Scorpio men like strong women, they also need to feel in control. As Mars is one of their ruling planets, they like to lead the relationship, not be forced into one. So never chase him, let him come to you, but give off subtle signals that you are interested by flirting and using body language to attract him. Remember, Scorpio is an observer of behavior so he’ll likely pick up on these signals.

14. Be confident

Scorpio men are attracted to confident women. They love an independent person who has their own opinions and isn't afraid of stating them. You’ll find that they naturally gravitate to women with high self-esteem. So show your confident side. Walk tall, act as if you own the room and Scorpio will notice you straight away. 

15. Act naturally

Don't try and put on a false persona with Scorpio man, he’ll sniff you out like last week’s trash. Scorpios value honest and sincere people, not fakes. You don't have to try and impress a Scorpio. Remember, they are looking for someone to share their deepest, darkest secrets with. So show them your true nature.

16. Open up to him

Scorpio has secrets they have never told a soul. They might be dark desires or vengeful thoughts. The problem is, A Scorpio looks for a partner who is exactly like them. They want to share these secrets, but they need to know that you are the right person. Make Scorpio man fall in love with you by exposing things you might not normally do. 

17. Get him to open up

get him to open up

A Scorpio has an intense desire to expose their true nature to someone, but their hard exterior prevents it. Scorpio man is looking for his soulmate, someone that truly understands them, but they need help opening up about themselves. This water sign takes rejection especially harshly, and some never recover from a broken heart. 

18. Cut the small talk

How do you get Scorpio man to open up and reveal himself? By cutting out the small talk. Scorpio men can’t do it and they can’t stand it. They’d rather have a deep and meaningful one-on-one with someone. Scorpions love being drawn into another person’s passions or interests. They are always learning and keen to soak up knowledge. So start big and cut out the boring small talk if you want to attract a Scorpio man. 

19. Don't pressure him

Secretive Scorpio has a lot on his plate. Ideally, he’d love to find his soulmate and share his deepest and darkest desires (and believe me, they are pretty deep and dark). However, he’ll only do so when he is ready. 

20. Don't sleep with him on the first night

This guy might jump into bed with you on the first night, but he takes his time getting to know someone emotionally and psychologically.

21. Be open-minded with him

The best thing to do to attract a Scorpio male is to show how open-minded you are. Then he will feel in a safe space to show his real self. 

22. Share your dark side

Scorpio men are not frivolous, nor do they act in a silly way. They are dark, brooding, and intense. Think 50 Shades of Grey and you are on the right track. However, they have a dark sense of humor. They are dry and sarcastic, much like Capricorn in that sense. Sharing your dark side won’t put off a Scorpio, you’ll win him over. 

23. Act casual with him

The Scorpion King is intense, passionate, and deeply serious. You would think they would be attracted to someone similar. Well, the answer is yes and no. At the beginning of a relationship, a Scorpio man will sit back and watch how you react. If you are too intense at the start they will not trust you. 

24. Don't come on too strong at the beginning

Scorpios know it takes time to open up so if you are declaring love at first sight he’ll simply move on. You can be serious about letting him know you want to get to know him. But be casual and don't come on too strong. 

25. Show off your ambitions

Some people find ambition a real turn-off, but not Scorpio. This is a fixed sign remember, so they like getting stuck in and getting the work done. These are the doers and are passionate about people’s career ambitions. 

26. Tell him about your goals

If you want to know how to attract a Scorpio man then share your life goals with him. It shows him that you are prepared to open up and make yourself vulnerable to him. 

27. Respect his privacy

In astrology, Scorpio is the most private. That’s why he has an impenetrable shell protecting him. If you want to attract a Scorpio man don't pry into his personal affairs. Keep things casual at first, otherwise, you’ll set off Scorpio’s paranoia button and he’ll ditch you. 

28. Don’t be a drama queen

For a Scorpio man, the time for games is in the bedroom, or at least, in the privacy of their own home. They have such dark desires they spend their lives controlling their intense nature. And they have incredible self-control. So they won't appreciate you causing a scene and revealing personal details that they would rather be kept hidden. If you want drama and passionate outbursts, date Taurus

29. Show your adventurous side

Scorpios get bored very easily; with life, work, play, and especially with their relationships. Despite their dark and brooding reputation, Scorpio men and women view life as full of opportunities. Make A Scorpio man fall in love with you by creating amazing experiences that they can look back on. 

30. Make memories together

make memories together

If you want life to be all settled down and comfy slippers, pick a home-bird like Cancer or Capricorn. Scorpios take risks and are adventurous. They will be attracted to your daring side. But they also spend a lot of their time thinking about the past and they love to recall good memories with the ones they cherish. 

31. Think about your choice of date

One way to make a Scorpio man attracted to you is to make him think about you when you are not with him. That is why making memories is so important. So think carefully about when to go on your first few dates with him. Pick something out of the ordinary like an art installation or pop-up restaurant. 

32. Be blunt

Water signs are ultra-sensitive when it comes to feelings and relationships. However, Scorpio values honesty and truth above all else. It’s because Scorpio man has secrets, he needs others to be completely open and frank with him. So while I’m not advising you to be blunt to the point of rude, I do recommend using straight-talking. 

33. Wear sensual clothes that leave something to the imagination

Scorpio men are highly sexual beings in relationships. Their passion is unrivaled within the zodiac, but there’s a twist with this star sign. They like a bit of mystery and mystique. Although sex is important to a Scorpio man, he doesn't want it laid out on a plate. So a skimpy dress that shows off everything is not going to attract him. But a classy, sensual dress that shows off your curves without revealing too much flesh is going to win him over. 

34. Be kind to others in his presence

Although Scorpio men are known to be a bit dark and even a little kinky in bed, they are suckers for a kind and compassionate woman. Scorpio doesn't just have stinger tails for his own protection. They use them to stab the enemies of the people they love. And don't make the mistake of thinking that Scorpio won’t notice your kind and gentle nature. They are the zodiac’s observers remember? They watch how you act in other relationships. 

35. Be a little vulnerable

As we know, Scorpios use the sting in their tail to protect the people they care about. Showing your vulnerable side will cause him to act instinctively. Scorpio men love to show off their protective nature.

36. Ask him for help with a problem

If there is one thing that Scorpio loves, it is the feeling of being needed in a relationship. So ask him for help or assistance with a problem and watch him fall in love and over himself to help you. 

37. Drop hints that you have a kinky side

Of all the astrology signs in the Zodiac, Scorpio has the most sexual energy. They also have an adventurous side to them which allows them to explore all kinds of sexual acts. When it comes to the bedroom, there isn't anything a Scorpio won't try, at least once. So ramp up the sexual tension by suggesting that you have a kinky side and he’ll find you irresistible. 

38. Don't boss him around

Scorpio men like to take control early on in a relationship. Now, this might not suit some women. There’s also the negative side of Scorpio of jealousy and their possessive nature. So this is a fine balancing line. However, it’s perfectly fine to let Scorpio lead the relationship. 

39. Don't put up with controlling behavior

However, if their behavior turns into coercive controlling this is not something you have to put up with. So let him take the lead at times, but be sure to stand your ground and show your independent side as well. 

40. Show him that you are not shallow

We know that Scorpio guys don't like fake people, but they also don't like people who are shallow or superficial. This sign wants the real deal. Make Scorpio man fall for you by showing him you are someone with substance, a person with depth to them.

41. Don't show off your body

If you want to know how to attract a Scorpio man don't act like an airhead, giggling and showing off your body. Scorpios are all about a meeting of minds. Scorpio man is attracted to the quiet bookworm in the corner, or the lone woman staring intently in an art gallery at a painting. 

42. Show him that you can be trusted

You might think that this suggestion is impossible. I mean, how can you show a person that you are trustworthy? Well, you’ll have to remember that if you want a relationship with a Scorpio man you are in it for the long game. Prove you are trustworthy with the little things and you’ll win your special Scorpio over on a deeper level. 

43. Don't spread gossip in his presence

Scorpio are all about trust and loyalty. If they see or hear you peddling gossip about other people, especially if these people you are gossiping about are your friends, he will immediately turn off. He will know that you cannot be trusted. 

44. Don't force him to go to social events

Scorpios are naturally introverted and shy. They are not the life and soul of the party. They don't really like parties as they prefer deep conversations with one or two people. They also hate small talk as we know. 

45. Allow him some ‘alone’ time

If you want a full and active social life then date a Gemini. They are easy to spot, just look for who is commanding everyone’s attention. Scorpio is also easy to spot; he is the one in the shadows, watching. 

46. Don't flirt with other guys

don't flirt with other guys

Scorpio men are naturally insecure but they are also highly possessive and can get intensely jealous. If you want a Scorpio man’s attention you don't fool around with other guys. This just makes him wonder if he can trust you.

47. Reassure him when he is insecure

Instead of flirting to get Scorpio’s attention, reassure him when he gets jealous. Don't laugh off his insecurities, instead assure him of your feelings and let him know that he has nothing to worry about. 

48. But don't be too clingy

Scorpios are insecure as it is, so the last thing they want is an equally insecure partner. They also need time by themselves, so a clingy girlfriend will put them off. 

49. Keep his secrets

Scorpio wants an intense bond in all of their relationships. That is all you need to know. If he tells you secrets he is testing you to see whether you are trustworthy or not. So if you want to make a Scorpio man fall for you, keep his secrets, even if the relationship ends badly.

FAQs

How do you get a Scorpio man's attention?

If you want to attract a Scorpio be sensual, not overtly sexual. Dress classily and use subtle body language to attract him. Play hard to get and add an element of mystery about yourself. Scorpio man loves a challenge so he will be watching you, but like the elusive scorpion, it takes patience to catch a Scorpio man. 

How do you make a Scorpio man fall in love with you?

You can’t make a Scorpio man fall in love with you, but you can make yourself attractive and interesting to him. Scorpio man loves to connect on a deeper level, so don’t play games, if he asks you personal questions be honest with him. The Scorpion man exudes sexual energy so ramp up your sexual appeal.

How do you know if a Scorpio man likes you?

He will watch and observe you before he makes his move. You will see a Scorpio man act interested in you if he asks a lot of personal questions. This is because he wants to connect with you. Be honest and genuine with him if you want to attract a Scorpio man. Scorpio men love to take their own time because a Scorpio man’s heart is easily broken. 

What kind of girl does a Scorpio man like?

To attract a Scorpio man you have to be a bit of a mystery for him to solve. Your Scorpio guy needs people he can trust, that don’t play games with his feelings and view the world the same way he does. The Scorpio male likes girls with passion and ambition who are down-to-earth with a kinky sexual side.

How do Scorpios flirt?

You won’t notice your average Scorpio guy until he’s watched you for a while. Then he will bombard you with personal questions, testing you out to see if you think the same way he does. The Scorpion man is looking for a deep and spiritual connection in a relationship. So they will probe and test you for your loyalty and trust.

In Conclusion

If you want to know how to attract a Scorpio man remember, it takes patience to earn his trust. Scorpio man is a highly sexual being, who wants to find his soulmate, but he is also interested in a bit of mystery. So challenge him and ramp up your sex appeal. 

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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