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How Do Scorpios Act When No Longer Interested (29 Signs You Need To Know)

Last updated on October 4, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Are you worried that your Scorpio man is losing interest in you?

Perhaps he has been acting differently, but you can’t tell whether it’s genuine disinterest or paranoia on your part? 

If so, read on. This guide reveals the 29 most common clues that a Scorpio man has lost interest in a woman. 

However, before I reveal these clues, it’s important that you read the next few sentences carefully. 

In my younger years, I was always fighting to keep a guy’s interest. 

I could attract men with ease, but they were never interested in diving into a deeper relationship.

I had no idea why. It felt like I was destined to never be seen as more than a ‘bit of fun’. 

Thankfully, I was able to turn this around when I began my research into male psychology.

I discovered some articles about a powerful psychological trigger called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’. Supposedly, it had a huge impact on the way men feel about the women in their lives. 

Once activated, it releases tremendous feelings of power, purpose, and self-esteem inside a man. Naturally, he begins to feel closer and more affectionate with women who make him feel this way.   

The thing is: so few people appear to know about this primal line of thinking. 

I decided to learn how the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ worked - and was blown away by the results. Suddenly, the men in my life would be far keener to develop deep and meaningful relationships (read my personal story to learn more). 

This is an incredibly consistent psychological shortcut - and it’s easy to learn too. 

If you’re struggling to maintain a man’s interest, I recommend you learn more about how the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ works.

Below, our Scorpio-focused guide will reveal how desperately you need to regain his affection.

Scorpio Man Traits

  • Symbol – Scorpion
  • Fixed Water sign
  • Ruled by Pluto and Mars

Scorpio’s symbol is the Scorpion. Scorpions are rarely seen but you know they are there when they lash out with the stinger on their tail. They tend to spend time watching and observing other people. 

As a Water sign, they are ruled by their emotions. But this is also a Fixed sign, which means these emotions are intense and run deep. Water signs are intuitive and sensitive to the world around them. But this doesn't mean that Scorpio is fragile and delicate. Quite the opposite. 

If I compare another Zodiac sign - Pisces, which is also a water sign, to a calm, azure blue, Mediterranean sea, then Scorpio is the deep, blackest part of a pond; the pond you were warned to stay away from as children. 

This Zodiac sign is unusual in that it is ruled by two planets, Pluto and Mars. Pluto is the farthest planet in our Solar System. It is associated with the destruction of old ideas and the creation of new beginnings. Mars is the God of War and stands for passion, ambition, drive, and action. 

So you can see that Scorpio man is capable of destroying what he thinks is not working anymore and pursuing something or someone new with renewed passion. 

Scorpio Man’s Character

Scorpio is a Zodiac sign with passion, ambition, and deep feelings who give their partners their full attention. However, they are also dark and brooding characters. Scorpio man wants to find his soulmate, but he is incredibly secretive. He won’t approach you head-on if he wants a relationship with you. 

Instead, he will observe you from afar. You won’t even know he is there until he makes himself visible to you. Even then, he won’t come anywhere near you until he knows for sure you want the same things he does. 

The Scorpio male is fascinated with all things spiritual. Scorpio man wonders about the bigger picture. They want answers to the questions: ‘Why am I here?’ ‘What is my purpose?’ ‘What comes after death?’ 

This is pretty serious stuff. Scorpio man wants a relationship where he has a partner that feels the same way about these important questions. 

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This is the one hope Scorpio man has; to find his perfect match. Scorpio man acts like your knight in shining armor when he loves you. 

If you are a Scorpio partner you will already know how intense he is. He expects total loyalty and nothing less. Scorpios are fiercely protective over their relationships with their loved ones. 

But once a Scorpio man starts losing interest things can change really quickly. You will see his dark side appear. It will start with quite minor things that you may miss.

For example, he will not give you his full attention, he will interrupt you mid-sentence, and you may notice that physical intimacy has tailed off. 

However, if you don’t get the hint that your man is not interested anymore, your relationship will quickly become unbearable. There are subtle signs a Scorpio man has lost interest. 

There are also major ways you can tell your man is not interested. For instance, if he frequently shows rude behavior take this as a warning. 

Now we know a little more about Scorpios in a relationship, how do Scorpios act when no longer interested in you? 

Below are 29 signs your Scorpio man is no longer interested. 

29 Ways to Tell How Do Scorpios Act When No Longer Interested In You

Do you want to know how Scorpios act when no longer interested? If you are dating or in a relationship with a Scorpio man, you’ll know how super intense and passionate your Scorpio guy can be. 

So has this intensity and passion started to lessen? Are you worried that your Scorpio man has lost interest in you? 

Of all The Zodiac signs, Scorpios tend to act in a certain way once they start losing interest. When a Scorpio man is not interested he shows rude behavior. So whilst it might be upsetting for you to realize this, there are definite clues to how Scorpio acts when not interested anymore. 

Before I delve into how a Scorpio man acts when he is no longer interested, I just want to recap some basic points and facts about Scorpio.

1. He snaps at you all the time

All the while you have dated your Scorpio man he has never used his stinger against you. You might have seen him lash out at people he believes have wronged him. However, now he is snapping at you all the time, and it comes from nowhere

2. He is saying nasty things to you

Scorpio knows what triggers to press and how to damage people. They feel hatred intensely; it burns inside them. If he has turned this negative intensity towards you with his rude behavior, it strongly suggests he’s not interested anymore. 

3. He is sarcastic about you

Scorpio has a brutal sense of humor which is usually dark and extremely dry. They use sarcasm against their enemies to disarm them and make them vulnerable. When Scorpio acts like this towards their partner it is one of the most obvious ways he is losing interest. 

If any Scorpio men show rude behavior it is because it is one of the most obvious ways he can show you the relationship is over. 

4. He starts to hold grudges

The Scorpio male can hold a grudge until he is on his death bed. However, if he loves someone he will confront them, come to a resolution, and move on. When a Scorpio guy has lost interest he will bring up past arguments or grudges that you thought were over and dealt with. 

5. He does not talk as much

he does not talk as much

It is true to say that Scorpio prefers to sit back and watch as an outsider. But once they are attracted to someone they want to know all about them. These are eternal knowledge seekers and that applies to all Scorpio partners. 

Has he stopped asking you about your day, your plans, your ambitions, or your passions? Take it as a sign he has lost interest in having a relationship with you. 

6. He does not listen to you

As well as not talking he has stopped listening to what you have to say? Do you sometimes feel as if you are talking to the wall? When a Scorpio man is not interested anymore he doesn't want to know anything about you. This is one of the ways a Scorpio man will act when no longer interested. 

Remember, Scorpio people are like sponges; they soak up information around them and are always keen to learn. 

7. He talks to other girls to make you jealous

Scorpio man is the most jealous guy in all of the zodiac signs. He knows more than anyone else, the pain caused by infidelity. He is sending a clear message to you by blatantly talking to other women in your presence. 

This is not just a lack of respect, but a huge red flag that means he is losing interest in you. 

8. He does not want to spend time with you

When Scorpio men are in an intimate relationship, all they want to do is be with that person. And they don't just want the humdrum of everyday life. Scorpio is passionate about everything so quality time with a loved one is a priority. 

The fact that he is not interested in spending time together suggests the passion has waned and he is having second thoughts about the relationship. 

9. He is no longer excited to see you

Remember the good old days at the start of your relationship? When your Scorpio man was super intense and treated you like a princess? Does it feel as if it is a chore for him now whenever you meet? 

This is how you know a Scorpio man is not interested. The initial excitement and passion has gone and is replaced with duty and obligation. 

10. He does not have your back

Scorpio men are the black knights in shining armor of the Zodiac. They back up their protective nature with a ferocious sting. Scorpio men either lash out immediately or they’ll spend the rest of their lives plotting your downfall. 

If your Scorpio partner leaves you to fight your own battles it is a true sign he is no longer interested. 

11. He stops calling you

Have the phone calls stopped suddenly, or have you noticed they have gradually petered out? Was he the one that always called and now the phone never rings? 

A Scorpio loves a one-on-one deep and meaningful conversation with the ones they love. The fact he has stopped calling you indicates he is not interested anymore. 

12. He interrupts you all the time

There is a difference between a Scorpio man getting excited about the topic of your conversation and interrupting with his own thoughts. So has he started to constantly cut you off mid-sentence while you were talking? 

Are his interruptions usually based on disagreeing with your point of view? This shows rude behavior and should not be tolerated. 

13. Physical intimacy has stopped

physical intimacy has stopped

One of the signs a Scorpio man is no longer interested in you is when the sex stops. Scorpio people of all genders are highly sexual beings. Scorpios will use sex to show their true feelings in a physical way. Physical intimacy is how Scorpio men reveal things to their partners. 

Having an intimate relationship allows Scorpio the chance to connect spiritually and form a deep bond. If the sex has stopped you can be sure something is wrong. 

14. He withholds affection

Withholding sex is one way you can tell your Scorpio male is not interested anymore. But Scorpio is also very affectionate. Despite their hard outer shell, once you are in a relationship with them there are no barriers. 

Scorpios' aim in life is a connection with another human being. Part of forming this connection is cuddling and kissing and being affectionate. If he has lost interest he has no reason to show affection.

15. He becomes cold and distant

Did you hurt your Scorpio male or make him jealous without knowing? Scorpio man may have a tough shell that protects him, but underneath he is vulnerable. If they are wounded they immediately put their armor back on. 

Now, instead of this passionate man who wanted to reveal things to you, you’re faced with a cold and dispassionate being you don't recognize. 

16. He starts playing mind games with you

When a Scorpio is no longer interested in you, he will have fun with you at your expense. He’ll stop calling you, he will talk to other girls, and physical intimacy will stop with no explanation. 

You might start to feel as if you are being gaslighted by this man. Don't forget, Scorpio man can be devious and as he has spent a long time watching you, he will know exactly which buttons to press. 

17. He does not pay attention to his physical appearance

Of all the Zodiac signs, apart from Virgo perhaps, Scorpio is most concerned with his appearance. When he is not interested anymore he will start to let his physical appearance go. 

He won’t bother dressing up for special occasions, he may grow a beard or long hair if he thinks you won’t like him looking like that. So watch out for signs he is letting himself go. 

18. He does not immediately answer your calls or texts

How do Scorpios act when no longer interested? Instead of responding immediately to a text or call, they will read the message and then not answer. 

I would say that if your Scorpio guy is always late in responding then this is not a sign. 

However, typically, a Scorpio man acts quickly and with intent when he loves someone. They don't want to lose them so they are swift to respond. By not acting immediately they are showing their true feelings, which is, you are not important anymore. 

19. He instigates arguments all the time

Your Scorpio guy may have lost interest in you, but he might not want to be the one who does the actual breaking up. Scorpios act argumentative when they want someone out of their life. Don't confuse intelligent debate with petty or rude behavior. 

It is true that Scorpios want to talk with their partner, however, there is a hard and fast rule with Scorpios. Once they start arguing over the slightest little thing they are not interested anymore. 

20. He tells you things are wrong

he tells you things are wrong

Scorpio values honesty and truth above all other things. So this is one of those Zodiac signs that finds it hard to conceal how they are feeling. They won’t want to cheat on you because it’s something they would never do. 

So although his words may upset you at first, listen to what he is saying. If he tells you he has lost interest it is the truth. 

21. He stops talking about your plans for the future

Scorpios love to plan ahead and talk to their partners about future plans. You have to remember that Scorpio is looking for his forever partner in love and life. 

He may sleep around with lots of girls before he settles down with the one. 

However, once you are his he will want to talk to you about your future plans. It is one of the main signs a Scorpio man is no longer interested if he has stopped. 

22. He has lost his spark

Scorpio has a dark and brooding side, but generally speaking, they are optimistic and look forward to the future. Scorpio man is excitable and hyped up in relationships. 

Do you feel as if you have to deal with a moody teenager every time you meet up? Has he lost interest in doing things that he usually got excited about?

23. He becomes defensive about his actions

Scorpio men in particular find it difficult to deal with their emotions, especially when they are no longer interested in their partner. Scorpio men are secretive and take time to open up. 

They are equally secretive when they have lost interest. So instead of addressing the problem they will become defensive and challenge you. 

24. He stops paying you compliments

Once Scorpio man has decided you are the one for him, and make no mistake, they do all the deciding, he will want to keep you. Although it may take time for him to reveal things and show you how deep his love runs for you

However, he will notice little things about you and compliment you. Scorpios have long memories so once they pick up on something they don't forget. 

25. He forgets your birthday/anniversary

If you want a clear sign of how Scorpios act when no longer interested then this is surely it. As I said previously, Scorpio has long memories. So they don't forget important dates like your birthday or your anniversary. 

You can tell immediately that he is no longer interested when a Scorpio man misses your birthday or an important engagement. 

26. He buys you inappropriate gifts

This Zodiac sign spends their lives watching and picking up on the smaller details other people miss. They will notice your favorite color, the type of books you like to read, and the music you listen to. 

They will start to catalog and store ideas away for special times or just to treat you. 

As a result, they pick the best presents because of this. So if your Scorpio man gifts you something you don't like or will never use, take this as a sign. 

27. He makes excuses all the time

he makes excuses all the time

Scorpios are renowned for their honesty. They would rather the brutal truth than a pack of sugar-coated lies. So the fact that he is suddenly making excuses is a big sign. 

Scorpios never make excuses, they tell you exactly what happened. They would rather hurt you with the truth than protect you with lies. 

28. He points out your weaknesses

Remember I said that this is one of the astrological signs that remember everything and forget nothing? If he is no longer interested in you he will use his extensive knowledge to pick out your flaws and weaknesses. He is doing this to point out to you that he knows every tiny detail about your character. 

More to the point, he is happy and willing to use your weaknesses against you. So if you have hurt your Scorpio guy, be wary of his next move. 

29. He takes revenge on you

Of all the Zodiac signs in astrology, this is the most vengeful. They never forget a wrong and hold a grudge for decades. They will plan with precision the other person’s downfall. 

Their revenge will reveal your deepest shame or flaw. If you have wronged your Scorpio man then prepare yourself for his wrath. You won’t know when he will strike, but strike he will. 

FAQs

How do you know if a Scorpio is no longer interested?

Scorpio will become cold and distant towards you. They might lash out and say cruel things to intentionally hurt your feelings. They may bring up old grudges or stop physical intimacy. They will not pay attention to their looks, the phone calls will stop and they might even start playing mind games with you. 

How do Scorpios lose interest?

This Zodiac sign craves a deep and meaningful connection with their partner. They are passionate and highly sexual creatures who want someone as adventurous as them, in and out of bed. Scorpio is a Water sign which means emotions run high with them. They also like variety in life so they won't suit someone who is too down-to-earth like Capricorn. They are ambitious and love a challenge. 

Why do Scorpios push you away?

When Scorpios fall out of love that’s it. There are no second chances, no trying again after a separation. They have made their minds up and the decision is final. However, despite their tough exterior, they are soft and emotional inside. So they might not want to hurt you and break up with you themselves. Instead, they will intentionally push you away and hope you make the decision to leave. 

Do Scorpios fall out of love easily?

The hard and fast rule is no, they don't fall out of love easily. Once Scorpio has found their partner they are committed for life. Scorpios want to find their soulmate because they need to connect on a deep level. They invest a lot of emotion and quality time into their new love. This sign tends to love deeply and stay with one person for the rest of their life. So unless you have cheated on them, it is unusual for them to end a serious relationship. 

Why do Scorpios ghost you?

Once a Scorpio has decided that they do not want to be in a relationship with you, they completely shut you out. It might be to protect themselves if you have hurt them in some way for instance. Or it might be because they have lost interest in you and have already moved on. These are dark characters with deep emotional reserves. If they love you then you’ll find a soulmate who will do anything for you. If they don't love you, they simply don't care anymore. 

In Conclusion

I hope this article has answered how Scorpios act when no longer interested in you. Scorpios are loyal, deeply emotional, passionate people who are searching for their soulmate in the universe. They will do anything for the people they love. So if your Scorpio man is showing signs that he is not interested, take them seriously. It might still be possible for you to spark his passion before it is too late. 

Do you feel like all you think about is him, but he only thinks about himself?
This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. You have to understand how he is wired. Once you do, you'll find there is a subtle thing you can say that to him that will drastically change how he shows his emotions towards you.

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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