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Why Are Younger Guys Attracted To Me? (25 Possible Reasons Why They’re Into You)

by Sonya Schwartz

What is the appeal of a relationship between a younger man and an older woman? Why would a young man leave women of his own age or years younger than him, to date older women? 

Before now, the concept of a relationship between these two age gaps was a rare thing. However, it is becoming a common thing, and most people no longer consider younger men wanting older women weird. 

Celebrity and political figures such as Jason Momoa and President Macron respectively have set a precedent that makes the old stereotype of the age gap irrelevant. 

Public figure or not, while the normal used to be that men date women years younger than them, it is fast becoming the norm for the opposite to happen. 

Have you noticed that you mostly attract men years younger than you, but don’t know why your age doesn’t matter to them? This article will give you 25 reasons why younger guys find you so attractive that they don’t pay attention to young women. 

25 Possible Reasons Why You Are Attracting Younger Guys

1. Younger guys think older women don’t have unnecessary drama

Guys generally dislike girl drama and so, they think any other option that allows them to avoid it is better. As such, some younger men find themselves attracted to that important factor they look for in a woman. If a younger man happens to find that trait in an older woman, that’s the age group he’ll go for every time.

While there’s no guarantee that relationships with older women will work out perfectly, some younger men fall for other older women consistently. This is because they see that common trait among that certain age group. If you don’t engage in the silly drama that average younger women do, you might find younger men flocking around you. 

2. Some younger men prefer dating ‘mature women’

Beauty and good stature aside, some younger men are only interested in having a relationship with older women. Their reasons for leaving girls in favor of older women might not make much sense. In most cases, such guys go for a mature woman because they are tired of being the ‘mature' one in the ‘age-appropriate’ relationships they’ve had in the past. 

For some guys, they just want to try something new, and you look like the kind of challenge worth trying. You need to be careful with this class of young guys because they usually don’t know what they want. Except you’re in it for exploratory purposes too, don’t date an unsure man.

3. They share common interests with you

It is easier for guys to defy the norm that society has established than it is for women to do so. A guy will show he is attracted to a woman who is his mother’s age, and no one will bat an eyelash. 

He will approach you to let you know he finds you attractive, but no one will condemn him for it. Society might make you seem like the party to blame because you’re the older one, and you should know better.

As long as he recognizes traits he can relate to in you, a young man has no problem dating you. If you share mutual interests, and he is mature to meet your various needs, it’s absolutely fine to date him.

4. Some younger guys believe older women give peace

Most younger women think all men want is sex, more sex, and maybe good manners from their women. However, men have shown that they appreciate the peace of mind above other qualities you may possess. If an older woman has and portrays traits that will ensure peace of mind at different points, he will go for her.

If you’re an older woman who guarantees not only happiness but also peace of mind, you shouldn’t be surprised that you usually attract a large number of younger men. As long as the guys are giving back the measure of peace and happiness they’re receiving, you shouldn’t worry about the age bracket. 

5. Younger men believe sex with older women is amazing

Sex is a big deal for guys, but younger guys are especially more likely to want maximum sexual satisfaction from their partners. Some younger men think older partners possess the sexual maturity and prowess that will ensure optimal sexual satisfaction.

If the age gap between you and the young men you attract is significantly wide, it’s no wonder they assume you’re the perfect sex partner. If their expectation is lost on you, some of them might either be disappointed or eager. The disappointed guys will leave, while the eager ones will be willing to impress you with their bedroom skills.

6. Older women appeal to their hero instincts

Men, young or old, have the knight in shining armor syndrome. Their hero instincts come out to play anytime they are intensely attracted to a woman. It is difficult for some younger men to use their hero instincts in relationships with younger women. As such, they look for older women who appreciate a man trying to be a man.

A younger man might gravitate towards an older woman because she has seen it all, and garnered experience on what men want. It usually seems easier to satisfy an older woman because she knows how to stroke her man’s ego in a way an age-appropriate woman cannot. 

7. Family-oriented younger men think you’re ready to raise a family

family oriented younger men think youre ready to raise a family

It might be rare to find younger guys in this day and age willing to start building a family early, but they exist. While there are also younger women ready for marriage, some younger guys would rather marry a woman who appears mature enough to raise a family.

These men believe a woman of a higher age understands life to a large extent and can handle most of life’s challenges. This ideology might not apply to every older woman, but it’s probably true. As such, stop wondering the reasons why you mostly attract committed younger men.

8. They think they can bring more fun into your life

Even if you aren’t in any way boring, younger guys assume older women don’t have fun. If as an older woman, you catch the attention of a younger guy, he'll assume you lead a serious life. Younger men like to think they can inject life into an attractive older woman, while she imparts much-needed influence in their lives. 

A younger partner sees a relationship with a mature lady as symbiotic because she’ll be giving back so much in place of the fun he’s giving. While it is flattering for a younger man to find you attractive, ensure he is in a relationship with you for the right reasons. You don’t want to be the fool being completely used in the relationship.

9. The sexual chemistry is intense

You might find that even though you’ve never been in a relationship with a younger man before, you feel a sexual pull towards them. They find you attractive, and you can’t deny that their fit bodies turn you on. Some younger guys have sexual fantasies about older women which they role-play with their age-appropriate girlfriends. 

While you might have other traits they are interested in, the sexual chemistry is what draws them to you like flies. Whether you should act on sexual magnetism or not depends on if you like the whole package you see. You need to be sure you’re not just a sexual fantasy that will be discarded once the younger guys have sex with you.

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10. They think older women are more open-minded

One of the many reasons a younger man might find an older woman attractive is because she’s most likely open-minded compared to the younger women in his immediate circle. An older woman has been around the block, and she has seen so much. 

If the guy has unpopular opinions that his age mates won’t understand or accept, he’ll assume you’re open to at least talking about them.

He doesn’t expect that you will accept his point of view, but he knows you won’t shut him down either. As awkward as it may seem, the whole mother-like loving vibe you have makes younger guys confident they can confide in you.

11. Your positivity attracts younger guys

Some men are attracted to an older woman who has had ups and downs but came out on the other side victorious. Men who are tired of younger women always complaining about their state in life will appreciate an older woman who responds more positively to life’s troubles.

If you are full of life and find it easy to encourage others through their toughest times, you might find yourself attracting a younger crowd. Of course, you should differentiate between mere infatuation and meaningful interest. You should be interested in a younger partner not just because he likes your positive approach to life.

12. They are attracted to the wisdom you’ve acquired as you age

Just like your positive perspective on most things, younger men may find you attractive if you are wise. Such a man is confident that he will get solutions to some of his problems whenever he talks with an older woman. He cannot boast of that same confidence when he’s with his age-appropriate girlfriend. 

Even though it is wrong to assume that all older women are wise, it’s one of the notions many young men believe. If you fall under the group of wise older women, you shouldn’t be surprised by the attention. The attraction they feel for hours doesn’t even have to be sexual, they just want to learn all they can from you.

13. They are attracted to your independence

If you’re an unmarried older woman, you’ll be one of the successful women younger men seek. Some of these younger guys have ulterior motives, while some are sincerely interested in a relationship with you. If you can sift through their intentions, you’ll realize which ones are drawn to your independent nature

You’ll know the guys who want to take advantage of the fact that you can provide yourself with everything you need. Guys are hunters who like to believe they can never be caged. As such, your independence makes them think you won’t tie them down because you understand what it feels like to be free.

14. Some young men think older women are successful

some young men think older women are successful

Most times, younger men who go for older women think such women are more successful than younger women. That assumption is probably due to the age difference and the expectation that you should have had your life figured out by then.

People expect that your life experience should have rewarded you with wealth and influence. However, people’s definition of success differs. As such, whether or not he is impressed with your level of success depends on what he considers valuable. A man, young or not, who is merely hungry for material success will lack the other factors that will make you happy.

15. They love your directness

An older woman who has experienced life in different ways has no time to play games, especially in her relationship. Younger guys are attracted to older women because they don’t mince words. 

If you’re the type who says what she wants without expecting her man to guess what’s on your mind, younger men will fall for you. Men don’t care for mind games that involve them guessing what you need. They just want you to tell them so they can fix the problem. They know an older woman will not hold grudges when she can say exactly what she’s feeling.

16. Your culinary skills are top-notch

The cliché “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach" still proves true in this day and time. You shouldn’t date or marry a man because he loves your cooking. However, it doesn’t hurt if you can cook well, and your man can eat healthily. 

Younger men, like all men, love good meals. If you love to cook and possess other exceptional qualities, they find it easy to fall for you. They might compare your cooking to their mamas' sometimes, you just need to know it’s their bellies talking. The fact remains, if you can feed a man well, you’ll hold a piece of his heart in your hands.

17. They respect the achievements you’ve gathered as you age

Not all young people want to forever roll with a cool crowd. They also want to be friends with intelligent and wise people. As you age, you’ll have a long list of things to be grateful for, and the ones you probably regret. If your list of gratitude is longer than the one of regrets, many people will be interested in knowing you. 

When you throw younger men in the mix, you’ll discover that they are interested in you so they can avoid having so many regrets too. That doesn’t mean they don’t admire your other traits. However, the biggest attraction is your life experience which they can learn from. 

18. They think mature women are emotionally ready for serious relationships

Emotional stability is one of the important factors that make young men interested in you. If you are emotionally mature and know what to say at the right time, younger guys will like you. Men want a woman who doesn’t give herself to unnecessary drama, or outbursts of emotions. They want a woman who can express her opinions without talking down on them.

If you can also provide adequate emotional support on their good and bad days, they wouldn’t care about your age. Men want a woman who can cater to not just their physical needs, but also their emotional ones.

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19. You have financial stability

Society used to make us believe that the man is the breadwinner. That a man should be able to provide for his family even if the woman doesn’t work. However, the narrative has been changing over the years. Now, reasonable men expect their women to bring in something so that there will be financial stability in the relationship. 

A younger man who finds you attractive will like you even more if he discovers that you’re also financially stable. Does that mean you’ll take over his financial responsibilities? Of course not. That would be you telling society that they were right in a reverse manner. 

20. They aren’t interested in having kids

You might discover that the younger guys who find you attractive do not want kids. As such, they assume you’re too old to want kids either. Whether this assumption is right or not, it is awful for any man to want to date you for that single reason. He doesn’t deserve you if he can’t prove he finds other things about you attractive.

As such, when that conversation comes up, ensure the guy isn’t in the relationship just because he wants a partner who doesn’t want kids.

21. Your conversations are meaningful

your conversations are meaningful

A relationship isn’t just about having sex or hanging out in cool places. A relationship should include having intelligent and solution-driven conversations. When a man is looking for a commitment-based relationship, he expects that he’ll have interesting conversations with his partner. 

His age doesn’t matter, if he doesn’t find that factor in a younger woman, he will go for an older one.

22. Younger men think older women are classy.

The older the wine, the finer the taste; that’s exactly how some men think of older women. Some men think women of their own age are tacky, unrefined, or uncouth. As such, they can barely tolerate such women.

On the other hand, older women appear more refined and classier than their younger counterparts. Younger guys who like older women think such women exude the kind of elegance that comes with age and experience. Such guys don’t care about what anyone has to say. They will follow older women over and again until they get the right person.

23. You influence their good decisions

If you have a younger man you influence positively in your career, he will definitely like you. The older-younger platonic-turned-romantic relationship dynamic is more common with male to female characters.

However, if your male mentee likes you professionally, his feelings can evolve. He might struggle with whether he likes you for influencing his good decision-making ability, or something more.

If you aren’t attracted to him sexually, it’s better to not blur the lines of your relationship, especially if you spend a lot of time together. The setting of mentor-mentee boundaries is probably the best thing to do in this case.

24. Your confidence seems to increase with your age

Most men love confident women, but not always the type that borders on rudeness. They might find the rude kind of confidence funny until it begins to irritate them. Younger guys are drawn to mature ladies because they’ve mastered their self-esteem over time.

They are confident without being demeaning. Their whole being exudes the type of confidence no situation or anyone can destroy. Classy older women know how to dress without appearing trashy or over the top. They know which effect to give in each situation, and younger men find such confidence sexy.

25. You are like fresh air from past horrible relationships

Younger men believe an older woman understands what men in general want. When a younger guy is tired of hunting among his age group, he looks for an older woman who knows what he wants. If you’re both looking for companionship, he knows you can provide that without asking for more.

If he has been loving the wrong women, he knows you’re the rock he can rely on. When he needs a haven, you understand he doesn’t need extra pressure. Once he discovers you have the things he's been longing for, he doesn’t mind stepping into the role of a hunter once more. 

FAQs

Why are younger guys attracted to older women?

There are different reasons why younger guys are attracted to older women. One of them is that older women don’t play the dating game the same way younger girls do. They know what they want and speak their thoughts.

How do you tell if a younger man likes you?

When a younger man likes you, he will act awkward for a while until you notice he is attracted to you. You will also notice the attraction signs any other man of either your age or older will display. 

Why are some girls attracted to younger guys?

Some girls like younger guys because they think younger guys are easy to please in and out of bed. They think such guys will be eager to please them too because of their experience

Can a woman fall in love with a younger man?

Yes, a woman can fall in love with a younger man. As long as the man proves himself to be mature enough to stay faithful in a commitment-based relationship, she will love him.

Do men like short girls?

Yes, some men like short girls, especially since shortness isn’t a disease. Men don’t just like short girls for their height, but also because of the qualities they possess. 

In Conclusion 

If you aren’t used to being pursued by younger guys it can be a bit weird at first to have their attention. With time, you’ll get comfortable with the idea that healthy and attractive younger guys are attracted to you.

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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