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How Not To Be Boring In A Relationship (15 Easy Ways)

by Sonya Schwartz

Admit it; if you are dating or in a relationship ( especially a long term one), you must have probably thought of what you would do if your relationship begins to lose its spark. Well, you are not alone. The adrenaline of being in a new relationship fills couples with fun, excitement, and sparks as both of you get to know each other more intimately. 

As time goes by, the “honeymoon phase” would start to wear out and seem to recede further and further into the rearview mirror. When this happens, you soon realize that the crazy chemistry you and your partner had isn't as prominent anymore. You might even begin to settle into a comfortable routine with your partner, much like being on autopilot. 

That’s when boredom starts to creep in. If you find yourself in this unfortunate instance in your dating life, I've got some good news for you. In this article, I’ll give you some ideas of how to avoid being boring in a relationship. Ready to take some notes? Great. Then let’s begin. 

1. Understand that a relationship slump is normal

Keep in mind that you are not the only one feeling bored, so do not panic. Freaking out is just going to make things worse, and you can even project these ill feelings on your partner, which is only going to make things worse. 

One thing you can do is to self-evaluate the issue. Is the boredom being caused by a more serious underlying problem, or is it just a temporary dark cloud in an otherwise bright relationship? Once you figure this out, then you can take action and work on reawakening those loving feelings you and your partner used to have.

2. Make time for mutual interests and hobbies

It is a given that doing new and exciting things with your partner is likely to help bring the spark back to your boring relationship. However, you should keep in mind that only making time for the things you used to enjoy together is the right solution. 

If you both enjoyed taking hikes at the beginning of your relationship, plan to take one during the weekend. If you both bonded at comic-con or a concert, then make plans to attend the next one. These simple actions can light up the embers of your dating life.

3. Plan a vacation

Plan a vacation

This may seem like the most popular way to do away with boredom, but you would be surprised at the number of couples who can't take the time for a vacation. This is might be due to work constraints, financial issues, or just being too busy. 

People fail to understand that a break doesn't need to be in Paris, Milan, or Miami. A vacation can easily be a weekend at a secluded bed and breakfast in the next town or state. It's not about where you go; it's about the quality of time both of you spent alone together away from the hustle and bustle of city life.

4. Recreate your first date

Every couple remembers their first date. It is arguably one of the most significant memories we have because the first date is when you know whether that person is compatible with you and worth another date. 

This is an excellent reason why recreating this particular moment is crucial in breathing new life into your relationship. Whether your first date was at a restaurant, bowling rink, beach, or even an ice cream shop, make time to go with your partner to relive those date nights of beautiful memories. 

5. Introduce new and fun ideas in the bedroom

Many couples won’t admit this, but their intimate bedroom sessions have become dull and monotonous. This may be due to being tired and being too comfortable with each other. One way you can do away with a boring bedroom is to switch up sexual positions and explore different ways of pleasuring each other. 

Karma Sutra lessons may be a useful guide if you prefer or you can communicate and let each other know your sexual preferences in bed. You may be surprised to find out that trying new activities in the bedroom may be the perfect solution to make both of your “relationship goals'' once again.

6. Make an effort to prepare breakfast for your partner

Imagine the look on your partner's face when you bring him his favorite breakfast in bed. Both of you can enjoy each other’s company under the covers, especially if it is during the weekend, and have a conversation. Every weekend, this intimate moment between you and your partner can help expel the boredom and bring back lost romance and excitement in your lives.

7. Surprise your partner with lunch at the office

Nothing screams romance more than surprising your partner with lunch from his favorite restaurant. If you have more time on your hands, you could take it further by making it yourself and bringing it to the office. 

This surprise would be really appreciated by your partner. Just ensure he is not too busy before you drop by. Give it a try!

8. Make hand-made gifts for your partner on select days

Hand-made gifts are sometimes more special than store-bought gifts. This is because they show your partner's time and effort in making you something from the heart. You and your partner can agree to make only hand-made gifts for special days like birthdays, Valentine's Day, or Christmas Day. 

This would ensure each person puts in their best to make something meaningful. It doesn't have to be a fantastic present. Even something as simple as a photo collage of some of your happiest memories would suffice. Remember, it's the thought that counts not the price.

9. Share fun sexual fantasies

Many people don’t know this but having a healthy and exciting sex life is a critical factor in keeping your relationship healthy. As aforementioned, many couples, unfortunately, fall into the rut of a routine sexual session in the bedroom where the aim is to get in, do your thing, and get out. 

After some time, you’ll soon realize there are no turn-ons or interest in the bedroom. Spice things up by communicating with your partner on their sexual fantasies. Maybe your partner may prefer role-playing or might even want to be intimate somewhere else apart from the bedroom. Remember to stay safe when going all out, we don't want any accidents. Haha.

10. Get something new like a pet together

Get something new like a pet together

Are you still having problems igniting that spark in your boring relationship? Then a pet might just be the best thing for you. A dog, cat, hamster, or even a rabbit could help bring some fun and spontaneity to an otherwise life of boredom. 

You can both take your pet for walks, to the groomers, or just play around at home. Bonding with an adorable animal you both love can help bring back the lack of excitement and happiness.

11. Make an effort to have a movie night cuddling on the couch

This next tip is one of the easiest things you can do with your partner to do away with some boredom. On a Friday night after work, both of you can make some popcorn, bring out some candy and wine and snuggle on the couch under the covers. 

You can watch new movies with your favorite actors, or you can select one of the beloved romantic movies and enjoy the night in. This in-house date night could be done once a week or at least once a month. This way, you’ll both look forward to spending some quality time together. 

12. Volunteer on a fun project you both have passion for

Before you begin to frown your face in confusion, give me a chance to be convinced of how good of an idea this is. Volunteering for charitable organizations, causes, or any relevant opportunities mutually close to your heart, is bound to help bring you closer together. How? 

It brings about interesting conversations that help introduce something new and exciting into the relationship. In general, volunteering is a mood booster as you naturally feel better for helping out people in a disadvantaged position.

13. Tell your partner what is going on

Communication is arguably one of the most essential factors in making a relationship work. How can your partner know you are feeling bored with the relationship's nature without telling him? The goal is, to be honest, and voice out exactly how you feel, but remember to do this without using accusatory or defensive language. 

This would rather create more problems instead of bringing about a solution. When your partner can understand how you are feeling, then both of you can begin to put measures in place to help resolve your relationship boredom.

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14. Leave loving post-it notes around the house

Post-it notes don't always have to be related to the office; it can also be a romantic way of leaving mini love letters around the house for your partner. Imagine your partner waking up to a "Have a great day at work babe" note on the nightstand. Or a "Thanks for being in my life" note on the bathroom mirror. This would be much appreciated by your significant other.

15. Stir your creative juices and decorate a room together

Ever tried decorating a room in your apartment together with your partner? You’ll be surprised at how good of a bonding experience it can be. This is a great way to start a conversation. Working together to try something creative in your own home can help minimize boredom and be a good bonding experience. 

FAQs

How do you stop a relationship from getting boring?

Ensure sparks continue to fly in your relationship, including surprising him with a gift, taking weekend getaways, having date nights, spicing things up in the bedroom, and engaging in activities you mutually enjoy. These are just a few. But there are many more if you take the time to research.

What makes a relationship boring?

Having separate hobbies or goals, spending every day together, never having arguments, lack of flirting, focusing on just one aspect of sex, and becoming too comfortable around each other. These are the main things that contribute to making a long term relationship dull.

How long before a relationship gets boring?

Many couples have different answers on this subject. Some say they start to feel bored as early as three months while others say as late as two years. In general, most relationships begin to hit the monotonous stage when the 6-month mark arrives. 

What is the hardest time in a relationship?

According to research, the first year is the most challenging time in many relationships. This is because everyone is trying to impress the other by doing things or acting in a certain way the other may like. Thus, some people may think that they are the perfect match for each other, but they are mostly not being their authentic selves. 

How do I break up with someone I love?

Breaking up with someone you love is one of the hardest decisions you may ever have to make. To help you out here are a few tips: Take time to self-reflect to ensure that the breakup is what you want. Also, understand that it would be uncomfortable. Ensure you break up in person, and you are honest but not harsh. Finally, answer all the questions from your partner. 

In Conclusion 

I hope you all enjoyed these tips on saving your relationships from boredom. Keep in mind the most important goal is to anticipate the boredom and be aware of it. Also, communicate with your partner to find ways of solving it and bring in some variety and spontaneity into your relationships. 

Let me know your thoughts in the comments section and don’t forget to share the article with those who may need it. 

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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