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How Does a Scorpio Man Show Love? (5 Signs)

by Sonya Schwartz

Are you wondering how Scorpios typically show love and affection?

Perhaps you’re currently dating a stereotypically hard-to-read Scorpio and it’s frustrating you? 

Maybe you’re wondering if you’re wasting your time with a man who doesn’t even care about you?

If so, read on because this article reveals the five classic ways that Scorpios tend to show affection.

However, before we dive into these, it’s important you read the next few sentences very carefully. 

I wasted most of my twenties in relationships with men who would barely ever show affection to me. 

Usually, the reason was because they just weren’t that into me. 

I was never anything more than the ‘bit of fun’ to fill a guy’s time until someone better came along. 

This became more apparent with each break-up - and it hurt like hell. 

Then, a few years ago, I learned about a powerful piece of male psychology which triggers strong feelings of importance in a man. 

Soon, I realised that men tend to naturally develop more affection for a woman who makes him feel this way. 

It’s called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’. Once I learned how to trigger it, my relationships became a lot more fulfilling (you can learn more by reading my personal story). 

This psychological trigger is so easy to learn, yet so few people seem to know about it. 

If you’re hoping for more loving and affectionate relationships, I invite you to learn how I discovered the power of the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.

Of course, there’s every chance the Scorpio in your life is already on the cusp of declaring his love for you. The behavioral signs listed below will help you see if this is the case. 

How does a Scorpio man show love?

1. He’s introducing you to his family

There are a few signs like to take their new partners back to meet their family and really value it, and just like the Virgo man, the Scorpio water sign also really values his family. Not only is family important for him as a sociable being, but the Scorpio is a power signs and this means that they simply  don't let people get close to them, or be a part of their inner circle, unless they feel like they can trust them and that they are a permanent member of the group.

His family will know him well, flaws and all, and one typical way of him showing love is introducing you to both his family and/ or his friends. It could feel very casual to you – perhaps a pool party or a BBQ, but if you have that invite, this is really a sign if love. A family wedding is another great example, and shows that he really wants you to be accepted into his inner circle as his partner. Be sure to accept an invite with grace and really take this as a positive sign that he wants to show you his love for you – even if that means you have to spend a Sunday running around the back yard with his nieces and nephews in order for this to happen!

2. He’s sharing on an emotional level with you

Scorpios don’t like to overshare and although emotional  in their nature, that power  element of their sign means they like to be in control at all times! Of course, sharing goes against this, so if you notice that he is going out of his way to be a lot more revealing, sharing

his innermost thoughts and feelings, especially more than he is with other people, even his close friends this is a real sign that you have captured his heart and that he wants to show you that.

He might start conversations with “Baby, you know, I've been meaning to tell you this…”  or “This is how really feel about that situation.”

By their nature, Scorpio mean are a sign that like to hold secrets, even from their partner. Being betrayed by anyone will be one of his major life fears. He is unlikely to be the kind of man to reveal everything on social media about himself or your relationship and he will be keen to ensure that only the people closest to him know your business. At the same time, you can look to see that he is also keeping your secrets – in fact, you could even test this We can almost guarantee that anything you tell your Scorpio will be kept well under wraps. Sharing secrets together is a way that he shows you that he loves you. Plus, whilst other signs love a positive woman, the Scorpio is known to be. Big thinker and often revelling in the darker side of life. In short, there is not much to hide from him that would put him off you at this point.

3. He's going to be considerate of you.

You may know from the man in your own life that unfortunately, the Scorpio can come off as rude and self-centred and this is all about the power play and the control aspect of their sign. They simply  don't mean to be this way, it's just things naturally come out that way as part of their nature. A Scorpio’s natural state is to think about the self, what they like, what they feel, how it affects them. That's part of the territory, when you deal with any of the fixed signs! So, this means that if you are seeing plenty more examples of where he has been considerate to you it’s a very big red flag that he is in love with you or showing you love and you are considered one of people that they truly care about. One of the ways you will see this is in acts of service and doing things to be selfless. If you need some food he will pick it up without being asked. He might take the dog for a walk, will set about giving the apartment a good clean, or will pick out your favourite film on the recorder for you- whatever he thinks would make you smile. Because Scorpios like to know you deeply,  by now, he’ll have picked up on what it is that you need to feel loved and he will be trying to do that for you. If he is doing all of these things, it’s not only nice because it’s nice, it’s also amazing because this Scorpio man is showing love in a way that is at odds with his physical nature.

That’s’ not to say that he won’t be considerate in the bedroom as well! Scorpios very passionate people with their lovers and they really value closeness and will be keen to be just as giving in the bedroom as they are in the relationship! We’ll discuss this in the next point…

4. Your sex is more intimate than ever

Scorpio men are known for often needing sex as a way to help them show their emotions. If you are seeing an increased emotional and a physical connection you can be sure that the Scorpio man feels that connection with you. Everything about Scorpio, tends to be about sex sex sex – the men tend to have so much sex appeal that in beginning, you might be surprised if he not all over you day and night! Scorpios love to show affection and love in this way so be prepared for an increase in this area.

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From sexual favours to emotions, what you will notice is that you start to feel a much closer bod beyond the intimate act. Those famous Scorpio eyes with that gaze will come into play, he will likely move a lot slower and he will savour the time with you, with lots of kissing and talking long after. For this man, this is a sign he really does want to move to a whole new level with you and wants to show how much he loves you.

You won’t be bored with a Scorpio and he will even be interested in playing less dominant in the bedroom in order to show his love for you, so look out for this as well.

5. He is displaying ownership towards you

Once a Scorpio has their pins on you, they will be keen to really keep you close. A Scorpio values loyalty and are known to be very committed and if he is showing love, and he may well have started calling you by pet names, calling you regularly and also taking on a negative Scorpio trait – investigating! this problem-solving sign likes to look on the gloomy side of life at times and can’t believe that everything is going so well. This means that he may be acting a little jealous or suspicious of you, even if he has little to no reason to do so!

 He might start asking where you are going, what you have been up to and who you have been with. This is a negative trait, but just shows that he really wants to protect what you currently have. Ruled by his emotions, he can’t help himself and he is likely to feel bad about it afterwards, especially if the Scorpio temper takes off during a fight over what amounts to nothing.

He might start to be jealous over the smallest things, and this might make you want to back away from him and reconsider the relationship. You might also think that this is a funny game and something that could make him like you even more if you play along and make him want you more because you are ‘hot property’.  Unfortunately, beware of this method, as bizarre as it seems, this jealous way of looking at life is his own strange way of showing you his love, even if it is  unwanted!

A Scorpio would not like you to play games in this area, and unlike other signs like a Leo, who would be thrilled by the ‘fight’ he would simply feel heartbroken if he truly suspected you of cheating or falling for another man. To ensure that the Scorpio keeps his confidence in you, he simply needs reassurance – and probably some extra time in between the sheets, showing that you love him for him and that no one is going to get in between the bond that you have together.

Is the Scorpio man in love with you?

You are probably in no doubt that the Scorpio man in your life is showing some of these signs already. Loyal and strong willed, this sparky sign will be keen to show you he loves you, even if he does struggle against the more powerful elements of his sign that rule his temper, jealous and his ‘me me me’ attitude sometimes! However, as you can see, a Scorpio who feels happy and secure in his love life will be more than pleased to give unconditional love, acts of service and to share not only his deepest darkest secrets but to also bring you into his family circle and make you feel completely connected to him. ]

We hope you are on the track to this with your Scorpio man!

Please do comment below and tell us about the Scorpio you are dating and what stage you are up to – have you seen some changes in the bedroom or how he is treating you in general? Whilst every sign is different and every man is different, we’re sure it won’t be long until you hear ‘’I love you’ and know that he is definitely 100% set on being your man for life!

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How Do You Know A Scorpio Man Is In Love?

A Scorpio man in love is ready to pull out all the stops. He's not just romantic, he's also quite intense. Just because he's ready to razzle-dazzle you, it doesn't mean he's down to do this without paying attention to detail. Best believe that he's watching you closely too. He wants to be sure he's made the right choice. 

What Is Love For A Scorpio Man?

Love, for a Scorpio man, is a do or die affair. At his core, he believes that he must find the perfect one, otherwise, no one measures up. You see, once he falls, he falls quite hard and becomes deeply attached to his partner. So there's that period of careful scrutiny followed by one of reckless falling.

Do Scorpios Fall In Love Easily?

The answer is no, a Scorpio man takes his time when it comes to matters of the heart. In fact, Scorpios are rarely intrigued unless the person in question has an air of mystery about them. But best believe that when they do fall in love, it's a fall of epic proportions.

How Do You Make A Scorpio Man Fall In Love With You?

With a Scorpio man, it's all about timing when it comes to matters of the heart. So, pace yourself, don't force him to reveal everything about himself all at once. Also, refrain from telling him what to do a whole lot. Rather, go with the flow, let your hair down, be humorous and genuinely show interest in him.

How Do I Keep My Scorpio Man Happy?

When it comes to a Scorpio man, you can't get it wrong with Loyalty. To put it straight, they have trust issues and so, stay true to yourself. Also, be big on showing him how much you care; all in all, Scorpios need to be pampered. With them, talk is cheap, really show them that you care.

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

27 comments on “How Does a Scorpio Man Show Love? (5 Signs)”

  1. Hallow guys

    actually i like to thank you for understanding where my relationship is right now the fact is all you mention about the Scorpio man is actually true. And I am happy because all these stages you have talk about i pass them all, He is treating me like a Queen and am happy guys i won't lie. I have been dating Scorpio man for 4 years now yes wouldn't lie there some up and down like other relationship and I am Leo woman.

    Thank you guys

  2. My famous singer Scorpio is accepting letters and gifts from his manager who says just keep writing .4 weeks no reply but he’s manager says I light up his darkness .Why not a small reply

  3. I don't understand Scorpio's some time, my man doesn't act like he want me but when it comes to the bedroom, he is very passionate, fulfils all my needs, he doesn't show he cares, doesn't buy me gifts. But always showing me off to his friends and family... Now, I've ended the relationship but I still think about him all the time... I just want him to act right...

    1. I really don't understand my scorpio man .. he regularly asks to come over. But when with me apart from sex seems devoid of emotion. I look at our relationship often and wonder. .. So he vies to be with me and when I am being cool about our relationship he seems to be more interested.... yet 5 months down the line after bumps in the road he still won't tell people he's seeing me. It drives me nuts ... he tells me that I am lovely and wouldn't be at my place or spending time with me if he didn't feel something. ... I am totally doubting him I am wondering is it too much effort. Should I just end it and move on. .. HELP! !

      1. I was in a relationship for 4 yes and just last month she packed up and left town. I loved showing her off she is beautiful and I was the way your Scorpio was but she smothered me badly. I would do everything for her and help her out in anyway I could. She is my everything. I miss her so much, it's just our way of showing our love in a wierd way .

    2. You have it all wrong. He is acting right for a Scorpio. It is in their nature to be a guarded person. You are expecting him to be something he is not and that is like other men. With Scorpios, trust and love is earned and not given. Basically, you have to prove yourself worthy for them to reciprocate. Dealing with them takes patience...lots of patience. If you think you are going to rush this man then you are sadly mistaken.

      How do I know? I am a Gemini woman who has been currently dating a Scorpio man for 6 months, who is also in active duty which makes it doubly difficult to spend quality time but when we do, it is so fantastic.

      One of the things I had to come to terms when he and I first started, was letting go of control. As women in modern society, we were forced to act like men in order to get ahead and provide for our family. But what ended up happening was women forgot how to be soft and men forgot how to a strong, dependent partner. Now it's just both men and women trying to control the relationship. Clearly this method is not working.

      Being with my Scorpio has made me pump the brakes by not rushing my relationship. In fact, I relinquished control and let my partner drive the proverbial train. He wanted the responsibility in caring for my mind, body, and soul. I allowed him to do so. In relinquishing my control I gained freedom.

      But there is also power in it. I have learned that Scorpios like to be spoiled. I like to spoil my man as it's one of my love languages. He eats it right up! You have to be genuine about it, of course, they can tell when you're not being sincere. In doing this has made my relationship with my Scorpio the best I ever had in my adult life.

      I hope you learn more about your Scorpio and reconsider your relationship, if it's not too late. Good luck!

  4. My Scorpio man buys me gifts and waits on me hand and foot. We ate out together for six yrs before we started dating. we've been dating for a month and a half. I'm also a Scorpio.

  5. Am currently in love with a scorpio man.Am pisces and i dont know if am being too pushy so he shows his emotions.He doesn’t gift me things and he acts insensitive to me.Its messing with my mental health??

    1. Same I’m Pisces and I feel like I’m to lovey and committed to him and I feel like I’ll end up pushing him away he does tell me he loves me and he gives me deep eye contact when he says it!

      1. Scorpios have trust issues, when someone loves us a little bit too much it raises suspicion. We don't trust too easily, so you pisces ladies 'expecting him' to do all these things for you is exactly what's making him so distant, trust me, I'm a scorpio man who was once in love with a pisces woman.

        Scorpios are stubborn,they need to remain in control of the pack. Soften up a little, be a little bit more vulnerable with him, share more of yourself. You need to show us, don't tell us; we're stubborn like that.
        Patience is everything with a scorpio, keep showing, prove you want us like we do you.

        Other than that goodluck ladies!

        1. Hello there, I just felt u probably can explain me something regarding my relationship with a Scorpio man. I am a pieces girl, and fall in love with this man. We get to know about us through social media last month. This month, he proposed me. We never met in person, but have dated online(video) just twice. Right after we got committed, he is acting very weird. He is not reading my text keenly, sometimes not even texting me back on time. He is not even sharing his feelings as before. Initially he tried hard to get my attention. But right after I accepted his proposal, he seems not anymore interested to keep in touch. His moon sign is also in Scorpio, where i learned sometimes they act cold as if they don't care but actually they do. Do you have any idea, how long it will take for him to open up? I'm actually showing him that I have enough patience and not really rushing him much to meet me in person. If you know any tricks to keep him interested into me or make him believe that I'm the right person please share! These days I'm the only person initiating the text with good morning. I don't even know if that irritating him as he is not really asking me much if im doing well. Am I pushing him away with my moves or there's something else that he is trying to hide from me? One more thing I must mention, he knows about my past. I told him about my ex before we get committed. Sometimes I feel like he can't accept me because of my past. Is it the point whats exactly troubling him? Thanks in advanced.

  6. I'm a Taurus female dating a Scorpio male. It's only been a month and yet we have this beautiful energy between us, yet we're both emotionally unavailable. He's shared some secrets with me & I opened up to him. Once we get over our emotional bondage and let ourselves be truly free, I see our bond growing stronger & healthier over time.

  7. I am a Capricorn woman dating a Scorpio man. There are times where I know he loves the hell out of me. Than there are times where I wonder if he really does. We’ve been dating for 10months, and the only negative side of him I get is selfishness. He hasn’t shown me a jealous side yet. I make sure I reassure him that he is my everything. I feel a very strong connection with him but feel like it was stronger in the beginning when we weren’t arguing. But yet I’m hopeful that we will continue to move forward and build an even stronger relationship.

  8. This was a great article. It's nice to hear I'm not the only one confused by my scorpio man. The one thing I've noticed more recently is him asking where I've gone during the day, something he never used to do. Some people might find it weird but it makes me feel so special and like he does care. 🙂

  9. I am a Scorpio woman, and the only two extra long relationships I've been in have been with fellow Scorpios. I am currently still in the 2nd relationship,6 years in. Its an almost constant state of some type of heightened emotion and passion; whether it be love and sex, or disagreements and arguments. We do NOTHING halfway. We both can go hard. We both will shut down. We both have trust issues. We both are very territorial. We both are jealous. We both are dominants. Minus just a couple of major traits, he is the male version of me--which is why we come together with so much emotional on both ends of the scale. We are both very difficult, complex, loving, and sexual. There is often a power struggle. No one wins a debate between us, because it is like debating ourselves. Its never a dull moment with us,for sure. We are spiritually and universally bound to one another. We both have the ability to attract, yet love very hard and very few. We are mated. Only a fellow Scorpio can Truly understand the many layers, self contradictions, and complexities of a Scorpio.

    1. Totally agreed.wevfightbhard and love hard,but he's the most loving caring giving man ever.i will always choose a Scorpio man over others.

  10. I am a Taurus woman dating a Scorpio man. It’s been 6 months so far and this perfectly describes him so far. We started out in more of a physical relationship, but the more and more time we spent together.. the closer we got. He VERY slowly has been opening up to me and showing his heart but I think that’s what makes me fall for him. I don’t think he is BSing me at all. He feels very honest and real (unlike my ex: a Sagittarius who cheated on me)
    I do sense a dark and mysterious side and he definitely enjoys his personal space but I respect that. The “little acts of service” is how I know he cares. He always does little things which shows me he cares (picking up my favorite wine or buying little things he knows I like) and he pays attention to what I say and bring it up in convo weeks later (even when I thought he wasn’t paying attention). And he is becoming more and more affectionate when we are together. This is a great article! I’ve been reading more and more about Scorpios and he fits it to a T

  11. It has been four month since I first met my scorpio. Our relationship progressed quickly, which I didn't quite understand, but he has been very consistent. We have seen a lot of each other. He has been very affectionate as well as honest. Sex has been intimate and very intense, and he always makes sure I am satisfied. yet I still don't know how he feels about me. I know he cares about me, but I want to know if there is more than just the nicety.

  12. It's been 2 years we dated each other. We committed each other, he even considered my feeling even if we are having ldr because the lockdown. Indeed he is a loving and mysterious person 😍

  13. I am a cancer woman that is “seeing” a male Scorpio. I was intrigued with his green thumb hobby. He introduced me to some of his plants which got me. In quarantine sexual is all we have. I must admit I don’t like to share but after he told me he wasn’t a one woman man I had to accept that because I liked the connection we had in bed. Although he makes it clear he isn’t interested in commitment he has been very sweet with cooking breakfast lunch and dinner. He aims to please in the bed room. Now since sex is all we have when I wasn’t able to he still wanted to spend time with me. I’m confused. He introduced me to his friends and from why I gather they love me. His friends are constantly giving me props and they want me around more. Idk maybe they are being nice but they have known them since they were kids. I don’t know what to think I want to pull away because he doesn’t want to commit but he makes the effort to spend time even if we are not having sex. Although if I’m off limits I still hook him up. I get pleasure in giving and he eats it’s up. He kisses me like Pepe le pew and I eat it up. Is this going anywhere or should I keep my options open?

    1. I hate to break it to you, but it's not going anywhere if he's like the Scorps I know. A close friend is a scorp. I've seen him in love. It was all about her. While he did have a thing with another chick during that time, it was because the girl he was in love with wasn't committing to him. Outside of that one girl, he's a total player. I joke with him about it, he's so bad. I know it sounds bad that I joke, but it's who he is and it's not changing no matter what someone says. Basically, it's amusement. The thrill of the chase, someone to be with while he keeps looking for the right one. He treats them good, but it's not going anywhere unfortunately. Scorps...well...they enjoy sex. It's a release, like sports might be for someone. While he may catch feelings, I say enjoy it but don't get too attached. Sorry.

    2. Oh and one other thing I neglected to mention, that might be a sign. The stare. If you don't know what I mean, there's a good chance it's going nowhere. My scorp friend is a damn expert at it. I've seen it directed towards the girl he was (is) in love with...and I've felt it directed towards me. Out of countless others, including one he lived with and one that had designs on living with him, never did they find themselves worthy of it, at least in my presence. It's intense. Like something I've never seen or felt before and I'm not a kid lol. You WILL know when he's looking at you THAT way. Even if you didn't know he was in a room, one good stare and you will know it. Search Scorpio stare. It's soul penetrating and intense on an almost indescribable level. In his case it looks absolutely adorable like you are the only other person in the world and he finds you worthy of his soul. I've seen it described as love and hate in one, but his doesn't look like or feel like hate at all (maybe because I've also seen true hate in his eyes). If you get the stare...lucky you. And if that's the case, don't give up on him yet.

  14. I am a libra and i fall in love with a scorpio man and he said he fall in love with me and told me he loves me after a month and got me pregnant

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