HerNorm is a community-supported website. We may earn a small commission on purchases made through our links. Learn more.

9 Essential Things An Aries Man Looks For In A Woman

by Sonya Schwartz

Are you hoping to catch the eye of an Aries man?

Maybe you have already bagged yourself an Aries boyfriend and want to make an amazing impression on him? 

Perhaps you’re wondering if there are certain behaviors which this sign finds particularly attractive?

If so, you’re in the right place. This guide reveals the 9 traits that an Aries man desires in a woman.  

However, before these are revealed, I want to explain something really important. 

Recently, I discovered a powerful aspect of male psychology, which is important for all women to know.

It’s called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ - and it has a huge impact on the way men feel about the women in their life. 

When a woman activates this primal instinct, it cultivates intense feelings of power, purpose and meaning inside him. Naturally, he becomes more affectionate and devoted to a woman who can make him feel this way. 

Before learning about this psychological trigger, I was only ever seen as a ‘bit of fun’ to men. Now, it’s common they OBSESS over me (you can learn how to do this by reading my personal story)

This line of thinking seems to be held by most men, yet so few people seem to know about it. 

If you’re hoping to make a lasting impression on a special guy, I’d recommend you learn more about how I discovered the ‘Hero’s Instinct’

In the meantime, read on for our Aries-specific advice. 

How To Attract An Aries Man

There are a few ways to make sure that you can attract an Aries man, especially when you start thinking about exactly what does an Aries man look for in a woman. Here, we look at what Aries men like and how to use that as a way to catch your man!

He likes to laugh

While most people, of either sex, like to laugh - an Aries man wants their women to be humorous but only in a certain way. They enjoy seeing a woman who loves to create fission with them by partaking in humor often based around innuendo. So by all means, be the girl that takes the mickey out of him with an old fashioned play on words - the more sexual the better.

He likes to chase

Aries men like to be the ones that feels like they are doing the chasing. This means that they want a woman to play a little hard to get. This is because an Aries man loves a conquest and if he finds the subject of his affections too easy to start a partnership with, he won't stay interested for long. They are attracted to women who seem a little out of their reach - so help them along by not giving into them too quickly.

He wants to be in charge

As an alpha male, an Aries man will want to feel like he is leading the proceedings. If he ever feels like he is being emasculated by a woman he will be turned off immediately. Instead, he enjoys women who are happy to be protected and who are not too independent. He needs to feel needed and one of the ways he shows that is by his need to be the one who makes the decisions in his relationships.

He likes a flirt

An Aries dating a woman will always enjoy a date who wants to flirt with him. One of the main reasons for this is that dating an Aries is very much a match where you will need to get good at massaging his ego. Flirting with him is one of the ways that Aries men find that they keep interested in women and therefore find outright flirting exceedingly attractive from the object of their affection.

How To Make An Aries Man Obsessed With You

How To Make An Aries Man Obsessed With You

It's all very well attracting your chosen Aries man, but how do you get him to become obsessed with you so that you know above everything that he will always want to come home to you. Again this is down to understanding exactly what does an Aries man look for in a woman and leveraging that to your best advantage. If you really want this sign of the Zodiac, here are a few ways to keep him interested.

Show him your intelligence

While an Aries man wants to be in charge of a relationship, that does not mean he wants a total pushover either. He needs to be  challenged on an intellectual level as this helps keep him on his toes and more than piques his interest.  Find a means be smart without bruising that ego - which is hard when they are so insecure but it is not impossible.

Go toe to toe with him in his physical activities

For this sign of the Zodiac to be kept interested in a woman, he needs to have a decent playmate. This means, for him, that he needs a girlfriend who can happily join him on his typically high energy hobbies - and be good at that too. His competitive nature will mean you will find that he wants to come back for more if you are a fierce competitor to him.

Be ambitious

An Aries man likes to do well in all aspects of his life. He sees success as an attractive trait in a woman so it is a good idea to show him how ambitious you are when it comes to your career. If the woman he is dating is simply happy staying put in her current role or job, he will find it a hugely putting off. Instead, go for that promotion and be the woman he knows you can be in the boardroom.

Signs An Aries Man Is In Love With You

One of the oddest signs an Aries man shoes his love is actually by steering clear of the L word completely. He will never ever be the first to say that he loves his girlfriend and you will be waiting a long time for him to say it. To make life easier for him, make sure that you are ok with other comments that show that he is love with you or other displays of affection. This is another sign of what an Aries man does when he is love with a woman - he is quick to touch you or kiss you at any given opportunity.

At the top end of the affection spectrum, an Aries male is an incredibly sexual person, so a massive sign that he is in love with you is that he will want to spend a great deal of time in the bedroom and keep you there for as long as possible. He is an extremely high energy and active mate that is far more physical in his love than verbal.

Finally, a massive indicator that an Aries is in love with a woman is that he will make time for you in his busy social calendar. Plus, as mentioned in other recent posts, he will actively encourage you to meet his friends for their final approval to make sure that this a partnership that will stand the test of time.

How Aries Man Shows His Love

An Aries man shows his love in a number of ways when he is in a relationship with a woman that he totally adores. In time, his chosen woman will start to realize that the Aries man is a sign that shows his love as opposed to saying it.

For example, they will show their love by opening a door for the woman of their affection and make certain that they are a true gentleman.  While not every woman will like the fact that their Aries has such difficult saying the L word, they will at least know what to expect in terms of physical affection. Aries like to use their physicality in all areas of their lives.

You’ll find that your Aries will like to put his arm around you when you are out and about whilst he will also make it clear in other ways that you are “his” woman to the outside world. This may not be for every woman as it can sometimes feel a bit old fashioned, but his intentions are pure.  He will want to look after the woman he is with at all times.

What Does An Aries Man Look For In A Woman - The Bottom Line

Knowing what does an Aries man look for in a woman can be so helpful to cementing a partnership  with Aries men or getting an Aries man to return your affections. Knowing their personality traits, what turns them off and what turns them on is key to ensuring that you get what you want out of your intended Aries man.

At the same time, it’s good to know what this sign of the zodiac does when he has finally found what he wants in a woman and how he therefore displays his love. It can be massively comforting to know that he is into you by his displays of affection, especially as this man’s man finds it so hard to say I love you.

What To Do Next

If you have your heart set on an Aries man and getting him interested in you isn't going so well, why not comment below to let us know why. We also have many recent posts about this sign of the zodiac and so you can learn all about their traits in an in-depth manner that will help better any partnership you have with your current Aries of choice.

Want him to chase, love and worship you?
Well, you’ll need to have a much deeper understanding of his astrological love profile. My friend and relationship astrologer Anna Kovach prepared this Free Compatibility Quiz to help you discover the secrets of his zodiac sign.

Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

26 comments on “9 Essential Things An Aries Man Looks For In A Woman”

  1. Hi there
    I’ve been madly in love with my Aires man for 6 years now. He was head over heals for me too in the beginning. Then I had to go to London to see my son with my ex husband. Ever since then he’s been completely distanced from me. He’s told me he doesn’t love me any more, even though we still live together in his house. He still is sweet to me, still kisses me hello and good bye, holds my hand and opens car doors for me.
    He won’t have sex with me any more, says he can’t as he doesn’t love me. I’m so confused by the ambiguity of his moves.
    He says he still loves me but in his own way and he still cares a lot about me, which is why he hasn’t thrown me out.
    I have my own business but it’s not been doing well so I’m home a lot. I have a feeling I’m not that ambitious confident woman he wants.
    He keeps saying we are very different and it can’t work and probably never will I. The future.
    What can I do to change the situation day reignite the flame? We are both 60.

    1. Im an aries...whatever the issue was with your child you shouldn't have went with your ex. He doesn't trust you anymore..once that is gone .theres 0 chance in the future ...im sure he probably vocalize this ..you should have figured a way to do things separately..and not with your ex...big mistake

  2. I met an aries, we had a great time together, then he invested almost a month on me and after his birthday all of a sudden all stopped idk if I still need to play hard to get or need to do some effort.

      1. This is the stupidest thought but I just met my Aries a month ago and his birthday was also around a month ago and I thought "what if she's talking about mine" so naturally I was curious lmaooooo but that's obviously a LONG shot hahaha

  3. Aries men can be very cute but also very naughty. I actually find them to be more romantic than water sign men. I've dated a Cancer man for a few months and then asked him to be my boyfriend. He would put a lot of effort at making me fall in love with him. After all that, he got very distant and still talked about his ex-girlfriend of four years ago, while that woman is happily married an pregnant with her first child. I then got really sad and upset because, I was talking to an Aries man and chose the Cancer man because we were already dating. And since I broke it off with my Cancer man, I started communicating again with the Aries man. He is very funny, adorable, smart, sexy, naughty, he has a very boy-like side which I like a lot. Were still dating, I hope it stays that way for a very long time. I would never give up my freedom just like that, for anyone. I also learned my lesson: even after a few months, don't jump into relationships quickly. And always put yourself first, love yourself and don't seek it elsewhere. Cause noone can love you, like you do.

    Btw.. our rising, moon, mercury, venus and midheaven, match perfectly. I have a lot of air and earth in my chart.

  4. I’m dating an Aries man , being a taurian myself .
    It’s difficult to know at times what they want and what they expect . He is a secret ball .
    What to do to attract him

    1. Do outdoor activities with him and be real spontaneous, also the way to get a Aries man secrets out is to get his heart pounding and thats going to how to be thru some kind of extreme activity that get his adrenalining pumping and he will open up i promise. Aries man

      1. This is very interesting. I just met an Aries man 2 days ago and I last night I just mentioned that I’m going jogging/Walking and he jumped right in! He did not stop talking for 2 hours straight and I had to stop him and tell him I need to go home but he kept changing the subject trying to make me stay. Even though he was very clear from the beginning that he is not looking for anything serious, I still had the best time in a very long time.

  5. Dated an Aries man for 3 months - absolutely adored him. He was attentive , loving,loveable, generous, sexy, handsome. Also texted several times a day, called often. Sent me “good morning” texts almost ever morning..... told me I was the girl of his dreams, was a wonderful sex partner- would look into my eyes as we made love and say “I love you”. “You are beautiful “. I fell hard ..... we met one morning, made sweet love- it was his birthday- . Waited for him to text later- he never called or texted ever again... I have been through absolute HELL on earth. In counseling and taking antidepressants- have cried every day for the past 3 months. What is with these characters? Funny thing is- I pray every day for him to come back to me and love me... I am emotionally devastated- Numb with grief.

    1. It has nothing to do with his sign. He is an asshole. Why do you even stil love him even he is a total douchebag? You should be thankful, that scum is out of life. Don’t be hard on yourself either, you did nothing wrong. Forget about him and if he came back, tell him to go fuck yourself. You dont need that kind of unreliable liar jerks in your life.

    2. Really feel for you. If it helps, I’m an Aries woman and I do that all the time to men, and it’s more like a trigger that goes off in my head, rather than anything he has said or done. I think Aries men are the same— it’s their fear of not being able to live up to the fantasy they’ve created which now feels like a gilded cage; they set an unrealistically high bar for themselves, if that makes sense. Aries have this Achilles heel, and believe me he regrets it, but he will not be able to go back; Aries men particularly, only go forward. So take heart that it’s not you, it’s the dumb Aries flaw that all of us Aries know about. We do a lot of self sabotaging after we’ve set the object of our affection on fire.

    3. Women to women sista to sista I jus
      Was reading your post
      You did nothing wrong you did everything right he’s a big dummy
      I’m hurt that you want though this
      I had to comment all you did was love
      That man naw your heath is more
      Important stress isn’t good boo
      Keep your head up and remember it’s
      His loss not yours

  6. I need some advice. I met an Aries man at a party last week. We barely talked but the next day I followed him on Instagram and he gave me his number. He asked me out the same day and I had to reschedule. The day we was suppose to go out he basically kept pushing the time back then never showed. What did I do ? Does he not like me

  7. I'm a Pisces and this Aries man drives me nuts! I don't know what it is? His manly-ness mostly. He's confident and loves taking charge. I do too but I'm willing to sit back and let him take over and that is RARE for me! I just want to smell his musk and hear his voice. He's so captivating. I just wanted to say it out loud...don't need advice but words of wisdom are always welcome!

  8. Here
    I saw a aries man on marriage site and was unable to contact him there, I already fell for him at first sight because of his warm smile and intellectual intro.
    Then I searched him on Instagram followed him.
    I took a initiative and talked to him, he replied too late saying he slept early that day then next day we had a talk lil bit I was being flirty and try to make him comfortable but he had been giving twisted reply.
    Then I was left on read on, again I took initiative asked him about his dinner plan, does he cook or not then he replied he is having pizza and sometimes he cook. I said oh sounds good and again left on read!

    Once I thought that he might not be interested in me that's why lefting me on read, but then I thought if he's really not interested then why would he reply on previous questions?

    I'm so confused, is he really interested or not , it's unpredictable
    How should I approach him or attract his attention?

    1. I’m talking to an Aries now he is so amazing when we are together honestly he makes me smile and we always have great convos only thing is he’s the worst texter. Like he will reply 30mins to a couple hours later it aggravates me sometimes but I have to keep it together I love speaking my mind but I don’t want to turn him off hopefully we can talk this tonight or tomorrow in person about this. Maybe there will be improvement. I understand Aries tend to be like this from time to time.

  9. I hooked up with an Aries man and I told him that I want friends with benefit vibe because I am not emotionally available for relationship and he told me that I speak to him like his my friend and further on told him can we hooked up and said when and date has not been confirmed but his quite and send me text when I am asleep and never call or chat to me normally ,I like him to have fun because if his personality and I am Leo

  10. Started talking to this Aries man but he had an issue with his girlfriend at the time, we started hooking up, now they are back together, he didn’t let me know, tried to hide it from me, he is kind of possessive, he doesn’t want me to leave him, he says he wants me everytime. I want him too, he feels like home to me. We play like children, have heart to hearts once in a while, talk about our plans, he doesn’t like seeing me with other guys or like me talking about other guys, he does a bad job hiding his distaste. We stopped talking for a week and I deleted his contact cuz I was done because I didn’t want to share him. He found a way back into my life and I’ve never seen anyone so excited to be around me. I really love him, I don’t really know what to do in this situation because I’m also being selfish. I’m an Aquarius woman

    1. Aries and Aquarius are soul mates..i'm an aries so i know. they are the only sign that can keep us interested, cool us down when needed and keep us interested in the sack! you will find it very hard to stay away from each other...

  11. He's committed, we had something, then lockdown happened, he consistently efforted now he friendzoned me I seriously don't know what the f*ck I should do

  12. I'm a cancer woman and fairly recently started talking to an Aries man we hit it off due to our common interest. Then we went on two dates and I caved to the tension. Have I doomed any hope with this man ?

  13. My story Is very long and patience to read through and your honest contribution is needed.

    My first love was an Aries guy, we meet in secondary school when I was 17. While in d relationship he has other girls which are well known to me. Though he create time for me, he's caring and protective of me.
    Rush down to 2007 we went out separate ways to further our education.i was offered admmission b4 him so his actions became inconsistent and jealousy and nagging set in. Most times he won't call for weeks but when I eventually reach out to him he nag about me been unfaithful, "now u are in school I'm not in school" etc.
    To maintain my sanity in school I have to call off the relationship June 2012. Though, whenever i visit my grandma I do let him Know that I'm around because they lived in the same state and he will make out time to see me, I know he's trying to make up for his mistakes but other girls are still there, there was a girl he was sponsoring in terms of skill acquisition whenever I asked for financial needs he gives excuse, I dated another guy as at 2013-2016 we broke up because he was not consistent with any job, always lazy around and can't keep one single job for too long.
    On getting to may 2019 I went to his father's burial from uyo to Delta he was busy with several activities as tradition demands and I had to join them in the kitchen to help out with the cooking, I thought he had changed from his womanizing attitude because we do communicate ones in a while via chat.
    During the burial a girl was also cooking along side with me that always gives utmost attention to him while another was calling whom he refuse her calls. I was just focus on my cooking because I came as a secondary school friend no longer his lover to be bother with his relationship life.

    After the burial, he got talking and he asked for a reconciliation he wants us back that's exactly what I was waiting for because from his body language he really needs me . I accept, but I told him to define his relationship with women of which he agreed. He told me the girl cooking with me that was all over him is a church member that loves him but he told her he has a girlfriend that's serving (Corp member) which happened to be the one that has been calling persistently he refused her call because she didn't turn up after sending her money for transportation and many other reasons.

    So we concluded our discussion and I went back to uyo, I was waiting to see if he really ready to commit to just me and concentrate on making things work as promised. But rather oga was still acting like before. One week after I left he asked me to revisit Delta but I told him to come to uyo because I've a school where I work to cater for my little needs. But he didn't turn up as promised.

    We continue chatting ones in a while but he keep pushing blames like " you no dey try" you can visit me bla bla bla.
    Rush down to 2020 March oga text me on Facebook and asked " do you still love me?" I was like i dnt have answer, he called immediately I asked him " have u ever called me this year, or communicated with me throughout this year?"
    He said I'm arrogant abd ended the call.

    July 2020, I saw his wedding pix on FB with the girl that came to cook for him during the burial, I congratulated him then place a call over and ask him " so marriage to you is also a game" he said "he marry the one that's ready".

    I dnt know if I acted out of proportion because I this someone that has never shown faithfulness to me for even three months talkless of one year.

    Answering that "do you still love me?" Of a question is very easy but I really want to see if he can make a move to Bayelsa ( Because I was there throw out the lockdown with my mum) and show how serious he was.

  14. Hi its zuleha, am a taurus girl and dating an Aries man he sometimes switches off the relationship and switch on he is so controlling and love to take charge of everything i am always the first to text but he calls all tge time he is so wild in sex he is genuine we are still together though i dont understand what he wants because he has never told me i love you so iam just moving tge way he wants sometimes i just ignore him because ive found another man who keeps me busy all time though my heart is on the Aries man.

  15. Hi I'm Kenneth im an 36yr old Aries Male. A lot of times Aries Men would be given the title of disloyal. Or players persay. In all reality i feel this is simply not true. Speaking for myself. And other Aries Male friends. This is simply a misunderstanding. The issue is Aries are Independent and Very strong. But we are also a very needy sign. We crave attention,Affection. And Appreciation. And when we aren't receiving these 3 key things from our partners. We tend to flirt seeking for accommodation. With in return loses our Partners Trust. We are then looked upon as disloyal or attention whores. When all we ever desires was these 3 natural things from our relationships. And I know what most would say why not just leave the relationship. That's hard when our faith level is sooooooo high. We almost never give up on anyone. And my Aries friends seem to be the most loyal friends I've ever encountered.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.