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Aries Man In Bed: What To Expect And How To Turn Him On

by Sonya Schwartz

Are you wondering how to please an Aries man in bed? 

Perhaps you’ve just met an amazing Aries and want to make an incredible first impression on him? 

Or maybe you want to spice things up with an existing Aries lover?  

Either way, you’re in the right place. The guide below reveals what a stereotypical Aries man loves in the bedroom. 

However, before we dive into this guide, it’s really important that you read the following sentences carefully. 

I want to tell you about a little-known aspect of male psychology that has a huge impact on how men perceive the women in their life - and this has nothing to do with pleasing him in the bedroom. 

This psychological trigger is called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ - and it can be the difference being perceived as a ‘bit of fun’ or as an OBSESSION. 

When I learned how this trigger works, my relationships with men would consistently become more loving and passionate (read my personal story to learn how it works). 

It’s a simple skill to learn, but it’s the secret to making a man feel like no other woman can. 

If you’re hoping to make a lasting impact on a guy, I’d urge you to learn more about how I discovered the power of the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.

Of course, I’m not saying you shouldn’t want to blow his mind in bed as well! So, read on for our tips on having amazing sex with an Aries.

What turns on an Aries man in bed and what turns him off? How can you tell if your Aries man is in love and what can you do to keep him? And how quickly does an Aries man in love with a woman

Here are seven things Aries man is attracted to:

What is an Aries man attracted to?

  1. Spontaneous and unexpected sex is a huge turn-on for our Aries guys. Grabbing your man when he walks through the door and pulling them into the shower for steamy sex attracts them. Cooking a candlelit dinner and then expecting a night of passion doesn’t.
  2. Aries are not attracted to artificial set-ups. That candlelit dinner I mentioned? It’s too contrived and unnatural for Aries. What would attract Aries most? They’re much happier making love on a beach, in the car, au natural. Constructing a scenario, unless it’s especially for roleplaying or sexual play, feels too planned to Aries.
  3. They love the unexpected. Aries, apart from sexually adventurous Scorpio perhaps, are the most likely to suggest a threesome, attend an orgy, take part in group sex or phone/webcam sex. Whatever it is, they’re attracted to it.
  4. Aries man likes foreplay. In fact, he prefers spending longer on foreplay than sex. Foreplay to this man means exploration, using his imagination, sex toys, restraints even. He likes to build and build on the sexual tension then release it hard and quickly.
  5. Aries guys are attracted to physical things, not words or feelings. Therefore, anything to do with the senses turns them on. A silk teddy against soft skin, long hair falling over a woman’s cleavage, luscious red lips parting slowly. They are putty in your hands.
  6. Aries do have high standards. We’ll hear later on that the Aries man can be known as players. But they are attracted to women with class, who look after themselves and are a match for them. Aries like the chase, therefore they want to conquer the top prize.
  7. Aries’s sign is the Ram, which we associate with butting heads. Therefore, it’s not unusual for an Aries man to love having his head massaged.

Now, here’s what Aries man is like in bed:

What is Aries Man like in bed?

For the Aries man, every sexual encounter is a conquest, and sex is the prize. It starts with the chase, him pursuing the woman until she ‘relents’ to his charms. This might involve a few drinks or meals out, But Aries man will want to cut to the good stuff quickly, which is sex, his ultimate goal.

Once in bed, Aries man takes the dominant role. They are ardent lovers and will initiate sex. They’ll be the ones carrying you to the bedroom and throwing you on the bed.

Aries man wants hot, passionate, regular sex, and on his terms. You’ll need lots of stamina to keep up with their fiery libido.

Aries guys are the male chauvinist pigs of the Zodiac. It’s all about their pleasure. You’ll rarely find an Aries man asking about his woman when he’s reached his climax. After all, that’s the point of sex for him.

The woman is only there for him to experiment with. A partner heightens his enjoyment.

The Aries man is typically adventurous and willing to try new things. Therefore he’ll want a partner that can match his enthusiasm. This man won’t be happy sticking to one position all night, let alone all week. He wants to explore the heights of his own pleasure. Shrinking violets need not apply.

Aries have a large sexual appetite which means they’ll seek out as many partners as they can. Luckily for them, they are highly charismatic and can charm the pants off most women. They’ll like to play the field for as long as they can before settling down.

There are two extremes of Aries lovers; ones that prefer to have sex with many women and the loyal partner who never cheats. These extremes tend to either put women on a pedestal or regard them as objects to be used.

This man doesn't like cuddling or indeed, any kind of affection after sex. And the act itself is pretty much ‘wham bam thank you, ma’am’. So if you're the kind of woman that needs validation after sex, you won't feel it with Aries.

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Of course, he wants to feel something, it's just he wants the physical pleasure during the act. Not lovely-dovey stuff afterwards.

Aries will prolong foreplay, so long as the sex that follows is quick, passionate and aggressive. Flash, bang, wallop, that’s Aries.

How do you get an Aries man in bed?

Let’s face it, with a sex drive as big as Aries, just how hard would it be getting him into bed? Well, actually it’s not as simple as you think.

As I’ve mentioned, Aries likes a chase. He wants control, to conquer, to dominate. As such, he won’t like someone chasing after him.

This man likes independent women that remind him of himself. Remember, the harder the chase the better the rewards (and the sex!)

Aries goes after strong women who maintain an air of mystery. He is intrigued by them. Don’t forget, Aries don’t expend time and energy on wasteful projects. So the object of his attention has to be worth it.

Clinging wallflowers who appear desperate are no one’s type, but they certainly would not be Aries.

If you want to get an Aries man into bed then don’t tell him everything on a first date. Be a little secretive and hold some cards close to your chest. Appear as if you’re not bothered whether he calls you or not.

Aries is the most hot-blooded sign in the Zodiac. As a result, they are attracted to obvious signs of sexuality. Red lips, cleavage, a sexy walk or smile; they’ll all grab an Aries’ attention. Think a human version of Jessica Rabbit and you’re seeing the world as an Aries man would.

Aries hate routine in all aspects of their lives, but particularly when it comes to sex. Be suggestive, give him ideas and hints about what you’d like to do in bed. Make sure you get his imagination working.

Even if you don't feel like it, come across as an adventurous partner or wild woman and you’ll get his interest.

Does Aries fall in love quickly?

The short answer is yes and no. Aries will spend a lot of time experimenting, looking for that one perfect person to fit into his grand scheme of things. He is a very hard man to please, so it takes a certain woman to satisfy his likes and needs.

He would rather keep searching than settle. Even if it means he never finds the right partner. However, he is a man of extremes. He'll either sleep around, having sex with many different women, or he'll find the right partner and stay with them for a long time.

So really, the question is, how long it takes him to find this woman. Because if he finds her straightaway then he will tell her quickly.

This is down to his blunt nature, but also due to the fact he is a leader and doesn't want to hang about. Why bother messing around once you make a decision?

One thing to remember about this sign is that he won't want to curb his freedom. So even when he does feel like he is in love and ready to settle, he'll still insist on some kind of lad's night out or nod to freedom.

Remember, he sees his single status as a badge of honour. As a passport to sexual experimentation. He likes having it. he won't give it up easily. But if he likes you enough and thinks you'll come along for the ride, he'll make it work.

How do you know an Aries man loves you?

Aries are men of action, not talk. Similar to Taurus in this regard, if an Aries man loves you they’ll show it with what they do, not what they say.

That's not to say they are incapable of emotions. They do feel a little. Just not enough to overcome their physical desires. But if you satisfy his needs he'll make you the focus of his attention. He'll pop you on that pedestal with him.

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When Aries man is in love he pays attention to his women. He'll listen and then act. Don’t forget, these guys may be seen as male chauvinist pigs but, as I said, they also put their women on a pedestal. They want to please them.

They’ll do things like cook dinner, buy flowers or tickets to a show she’s been talking about seeing. Aries men can be incredibly sensitive in this regard but they’ll have a very difficult time vocalising it.

Aries man is a solitary type. It all goes back to being the first of the Zodiac. They are the first out of the traps, the leaders, the ones showing the way. As a result, they’re used to being on their own. They can cope with solitude. So it’s a good sign when your Aries man starts spending more time with you.

He stops being a bad boy and starts listening to you. All Aries think they are the macho bad guys of the Zodiac. And to some extent they are. In fact, they’re known as the playboys of the twelve signs. However, he’ll stop once he’s found a partner he likes, worthy of his attention.

Sex is one of the most important aspects of a relationship to an Aries man. But it’s always been about his pleasure, not his partner’s. You know if an Aries man loves you because he’ll start wanting to please you sexually.

How to please an Aries man in bed

Want to know how to please your Aries man in bed? Here are the things Aries man likes in bed:

Don’t bore him

Boredom kills Aries in all aspects of his life, but he won’t stand for it in his sex life. He needs excitement, fantasies, play-acting, and roleplaying. Anything to add a new thrill or edge to his lovemaking.

New lingerie, different positions, sex talk, watching porn, adding food, using sex toys, bright lighting; Aries loves trying it all. Don’t be the woman that shuts him down.

Make sex fun

Sure you can get a wonderfully deep and meaningful connection when you have sex. If that’s what you need then Cancer or Virgo are a better match.

But if you want rip-roaring belly laughs, fun, laughter and hot sweaty sex added in for good measure, you can’t go wrong with Aries.

Try bondage

As we already know, Aries man loves to dominate, so why not give him the ultimate thrill of dominating you in bed? You can try light bondage with scarves or hosiery, or go full-on with straps and leather masks.

But whatever you use, make sure your Aries lover is the one in charge. If bondage isn’t your scene, how about some submissive role play like teacher/student or doctor/nurse?

It’s business, not personal

Ok, so it’s not an actual business. What I mean is that these guys don’t equate sex with emotion. For them, it’s a transaction between two consenting adults. Sure, it’s a pleasurable transaction but that’s all it is. Two people sharing their bodies for combined pleasure.

Once you get your head around that you’ll understand Aries man better.

The headstrong ram is certainly an acquired taste, in and out of bed. but if you're looking for adventure, fun, and a whirlwind ride, this guy will always deliver.

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

3 comments on “Aries Man In Bed: What To Expect And How To Turn Him On”

  1. Thank you Sonia for this wonderful article about Aries Men. I am kind of in love with one, but we haven’t met yet because we are far away from each other and COVID is not helping us meet sooner. Hopefully I will get to meet him before the end of 2020, as I can see a lot of similarities between the two of us.

  2. Very interesting Sonia, thank you.....i am a leo lady and met an aries man during last winter, we quickly became friends, and i picked up straightaway that he had a soft spot for me...we haven't seen each other for 7 months, but our friendship has developed over the phone, he's coming to spend the weekend with me.....he is a outwardly tough guy, who has had more than his share of fights in his life, but he's got a sensitive side, which i am keen on getting to know better....as a lioness, i feel capable of being able to channel his fire in a positive, loving way....wish me luck....

  3. Hi Sonya!!!
    Let me just say " WoW " you have blown my mind!!
    I am a Aries guy, April 6 1970. And you are spot on, amazing !!! Like you are literally right inside my head. You are truly gifted......

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