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Things Guys Like In Bed But Won’t Ask For (21 Sexy Things)

Are you looking for extra ways to please your man in bed?

Do you wonder whether there's something you can do for him that he's too shy to ask for?

Perhaps you're looking for ideas of sexy bedroom antics that neither of you have even thought of yet?

Either way, this guide should help you. It features a list of sexual acts that guys tend to enjoy, but are often reluctant to ask for.

But, before we get into this list, it's important for you to read the following sentences carefully.

Recently, I have been studying an element of male psychology, which has proven to be pivotal to sparking lasting attraction.

It's widely-known as the 'Hero's Instinct'.

When this part of the male mind is triggered, it can create intense feelings of love, warmth, longing and desire.

This is more powerful than any sexual act you can perform in the bedroom.

How do I know? Because I spent the time learning and mastering how to activate a man's Hero's Instinct. You can learn more about this journey by having a read of my personal log.

This journey is what I'd recommend to all women looking to ignite or reignite the spark with the man of their dreams.

However, that's not to say that some spicy bedroom action won't help as well. So, by all means, scroll down to check out my list of things guys like in bed but tend not to ask for.

21 Things Men Want In Bed But Won’t Ask For

1. They want to know how you like it

A man may want you to feel that he knows his way around a girl's body, however, they also know every girl is different. So one of the things they like in bed is a lady who isn’t afraid to tell her man what she likes. They are open to discussing positions, role-playing, and other things that make you tick. 

So, don’t be afraid to tell them what sex positions you prefer, if you prefer role play, and the pleasure spots you’ll love him to explore. Of course, you don’t have to divulge everything. But guys would rather know what you like before sex than struggle to turn you on the usual way when you derive pleasure differently. 

2. They want to explore outside the bedroom

There are things guys like in bed but won’t ask for, and they are also things they want outside the bedroom. If you and this man have been dating for a while, he may get bored of always getting things on in the bedroom. Some men want to experiment; in the shower, on the kitchen counter, on the couch, or even on the porch. 

One night you could surprise him by taking him to a different part of the house before initiating sex. If he’s open to it, you’ll see the excitement on his face, cause that’s just one of the things guys like about a woman; spontaneity. It’s a major turn-on for them when their woman takes the lead or dares to initiate sex in the most spontaneous places. 

3. They love eye-contact

They love eye-contact

Another treat guys like in bed is sensual eye contact. Men love it when their woman stares at them romantically, it’s a major turn-on. It makes them feel wanted, appreciated, and sexy, especially if the man in question is your husband. 

However, you don’t just have to make eye-contact during intercourse, you can also stare at their lips, mouth, or even chest when you are horny, they’ll get the message. Guys like it when women make their desire known in bed but won’t ask, or even tell you about it. So, when next you’re together, try holding his gaze for a while before kissing, or teasing him in any way. 

4. They love it when you laugh at their quippy jokes

Some women don’t know that laughter is one of the things guys like in bed but won’t ask for or mention. Here’s the thing, it would be weird or even spooky if you start laughing mid-sex, that man will probably think you’re crazy. However, if your guy tickles you, tells a joke during foreplay, or tries to make you laugh, you better let out a sexy laugh!

It gives them pleasure when they tease you and make you laugh. To be honest, it may kill their vibe or ego when they are trying to make you laugh before sex, and all you do is reply with sarcasm. 

5. He wants you to take the first step at times

One of the things guys like in bed but won’t ask for is simply the lady making the first move. Sure, a guy would like to ask for a blow job or take your hands to his dick as a hint to give him a hand job, but he’d prefer it if you take charge sometimes. 

Sure, it’s important to get consent first, but if you already have an active sex life with this person, and both of you are already in the mood, then it’s time to take charge. Many men like it when their women give them hand jobs, blow jobs, or other things they dream about, without having to ask for it. They’ll feel more wanted and desired that way. 

6. He’d like you to touch yourself

Here’s the truth. If you don’t know what turns you on, this tease may not really work with your husband or boyfriend. He needs to believe you’re enjoying yourself to actually get turned on by what you’re doing. However, when done right, it’s actually one of the things guys like in bed but won’t ask for. 

Seeing their woman touch herself is one of the things guys fantasize about, because that way, they can lean back and enjoy the show. Of course, doing this during foreplay would be more sensible than just touching yourself randomly. 

7. Pay attention to his erogenous zones

This is one of the things guys like in bed but won’t ask for, and the truth is, some of them don’t know the pleasure they could derive from being touched in such places. So, when you use your tongue to sensually swirl around his ears, or tug on his nipples gently, roll them around his scrotum or lick his neck, he’ll certainly be pleased. 

However, if you just stick to kissing and rubbing the usual spots, he may not say anything, even when he knows there are other regions to explore. To men, a woman who is daring enough to explore such areas to give them maximum pleasure isn’t just smart and sexy but exudes confidence. 

8. They love when you dress up for them

Many guys love it when their girl dresses up for them simply because they are visual animals. They get turned on majorly by what they see, so the wise thing would be to switch things up regularly. They may be used to seeing you in regular pj’s or nightdresses, and they won’t say anything because they don’t want to offend you. 

However, take this tip from this list and get yourself some good lingerie, or other sassy sexy outfits. You could surprise him with something totally irresistible on important nights like anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, or date nights. However, don’t be afraid to dress up for your man, men love it, even though they don’t say so. 

9. They love when you smell good

They love when you smell good

First off, a lot of men won’t complain about your hygiene, even though they aren’t comfortable with it. So, it’s up to you to put in the extra effort to look and smell good at all times. Don’t drop the ball just because you’ve been warming his bed for some time, keep being clean and irresistible. 

So, before you crawl into bed with him, maybe have a bath, spray on something lightly fragrant (you’re not trying to choke him), and let that man feel you’re doing everything right to keep him glued on you. 

10. They like to take control

Men love it when you let them take control in bed, they want to dominate and feel masculine and sexy. The mere thought of their woman is under them, letting them take charge, and play the hero who will ride her to ecstasy is something they’d want to do from time to time. 

If your sex life involves always being on top and calling the shots, he may not be happy, but won’t say anything. Your man may not always want to take charge, but it’s certainly a fantasy of theirs to play the dominant role and determine the flow most times. 

11. They love it when you’re vocal

You have probably heard some guys talk about a girl’s’ ‘soundtrack’ in bed, and trust me, it has nothing to do with the music you play during sex. A guy wants to know that he can make you moan, scream or mumble sweet nothings when he’s riding and grinding. If you don’t make a sound, or even try to stifle a scream, he may feel like the ‘performance’ was not good enough. 

So, if he’s doing his job and working all those areas as he should, don’t stay silent, whisper in his ear and tell how he makes you feel, moan when he hits those notes well, and appreciate him for a good run when he’s done. 

12. They love when you stroke their ego

Men love it when you stroke their egos in bed. They want to hear how good they look, how hot they look, how masculine they are, or how irresistible they are. The truth is, when you stroke a guy’s ego, that’s not the only thing you’ll be stroking. Hearing about how wonderful they are in bed, or how ripped they look is one of the fastest ways to turn men on. 

So right before you get to work each other's bodies on the bed, take some time out to talk about how amazing they are in bed, and how you can’t wait to have them inside you. Let your passion guide you, and maybe gaze, or do a sexy run-down with your eyes to get them super excited while you talk about how amazing they are. 

13. Guys like it when you guide them

I mentioned that guys like to be in charge during sex, but that doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate some guidance during intercourse. I mean, wouldn’t it be awkward if a guy is trying to pull a certain sexual stunt, and you just lay, sit or stand there and watch him? Yes, that would be awkward. 

Rather than letting them take the reins completely, guide their hands to certain areas you want them to touch, kiss, caress or rub. Your partner would love that you know what you want, and will willingly turn his attention to those spots that you point out. 

14. They want you to communicate

Most men don’t like to have sex in silence, they appreciate those random moments, some feedback, and even some verbal pointers. They would prefer if you communicate when you feel any type of satisfaction, discomfort, displeasure, or pain. 

Imagine if you feel pain for some reason, and they look up at your face and can’t tell if you’re wincing cause they are doing something right or hurting you. So, rather than keeping your husband or boyfriend in the dark, communicate with him when necessary and let him know how you feel before, during, and after intercourse. 

15. They want you to be confident

They want you to be confident

Confidence is everything when it comes to getting a man in the mood. Your man probably wants this, but won’t say anything. There’s really no perfect way to tell a lady that she lacks poise in bed, or needs more of it. So, instead of waiting for your man to admit this, look for ways to boost your confidence in bed, and surprise him with a whole new you, he didn’t know existed. 

16. Some of them would like to have a threesome

Let’s be truthful, you probably knew this would come up right? Yes, some guys would love a threesome. It’s one of the things guys like, but they certainly won’t mention it out of fear of getting shut down. So, if you’re open to dealing with more than one guy or girl in bed, let him know, he’ll certainly thank you for it. 

17. They want to know if you’re satisfied

Your partner may want to know how satisfied you are after intercourse. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not a compulsory rule, but many of them want to know if they rocked your world. You don’t even have to verbally admit it, but your actions right after may tell him if you really enjoyed the experience, or if you were just waiting for him to finish. 

18. Don’t just lie there

Yes, don’t just lie there and watch them while they work their hands, legs, and entire torso trying to please you. The keyword here is; participate. Regardless of the position; missionary, the doggy style, and the likes try moving with him and going with the flow instead of just lying there and waiting for him to finish. 

19. They want to try something new

You would be surprised how many couples are stuck in the limbo of the missionary position. It’s convenient, stress-free and it gets the job done right? Well, on some nights, the answer will be no. You see, men love the adventure. They love it when you surprise them with a new position or even try something kinky like anal sex or BDSM (it depends on what you’re open to.)

Even though you shouldn’t feel pressured to do anything you’re not comfortable with, sex should be fun, and you can always find safe, and comfortable ways to kink things up a little bit. 

20. They like to mix things up

Have you ever had sex on an airplane? Or even in a restaurant? At the beach? What about at the back of your car? Or in an open field? All these places sound risky right? Well, the riskier the better, at least that’s what many men think. 

It may be convenient to stick to exploring positions or places around the house, but it gets even more intriguing when you step out of your comfort zone and take risks. 

21. They love it when you say their name

If you’ve ever heard a guy moan your name during intercourse, then you already know how sensual name-calling can be. The truth is, if you like it, men like it too. They love it when they hear you call out their name in ecstasy, or moan their name sensually while they are working hard to ensure both of you reach orgasm. 

It wouldn’t hurt to say his name a few times while both of you are rolling through ‘seventy positions in seven minutes’. However, make sure you add a sexy tone to it; if you just shout at his name he may be alarmed. So if he’s doing something good in particular, moan or raspily say his name, he’ll love how it sounds coming from you. 


What do men really want in bed?

Guys like intimacy when it comes to serious relationships, and they love women who are ready to share their all in bed. Many men prefer women who are open to try new things and share their fantasies in the bedroom. 

How do you know if a guy enjoys you in bed?

When a man enjoys having sex with you, he’ll certainly be open about it. He’ll tell you right after how amazing the sex was, and will probably want to do it again, and again. However, if he doesn’t say much, you can check out his actions after sex. Does he seem satisfied? Does he gaze at you when he thinks you’re not looking? When a guy does all these things, and act even more connected to you, then he certainly enjoys having sex with you. 

Where do men like to be touched?

Guys like to be touched in certain erogenous areas, but you won’t know them if they don’t tell you, or if you don’t find out yourself. So before or during sex, you can play with his ears, neck, or nipples with your tongue. Swirl it around sensually and use your lips to trail his skin from one erogenous spot to the other. You can also play with his scrotum (his balls) during or after oral sex. 

What makes a man fall deeply in love with a woman?

Men love women for different reasons, but the major attribute that makes them fall in love is the lady’s personality. When a man feels like there's a connection between him and his woman, coupled with the fact that she’s sweet, understanding, sexy, and smart, there’s a good chance he’ll fall in love with her. 

How do you know if someone is thinking about you sexually?

Men love to show their sexual appeal, it’s one of the things that make them feel ‘manly’. So, if a man wants you in a sexual way, his actions will surely show it. First of all, you’ll catch him checking you out randomly, he’ll ask questions about your love life, and he’ll probably want to spend more time with you. So, if he’s flirting with you, staring at certain areas, or even blushing when you say certain things, then that guy wants you. 

To Conclude

Did you enjoy reading through this list? I am certain the tips above appealed to you, but even more, I would love to get some feedback and even more suggestions on the topic. So feel free to leave a comment below, and share it with friends that need this too.


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