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Is He My Soulmate? (38 Signs That He’s The Right One For You)

by Sonya Schwartz

Are you asking yourself, “Is he my soulmate?” Many people don’t believe in soul mates because they think it would be impossible to find a soulmate connection in a world with billions of people in it. It’s true that if there was only one person out there made just for you, the odds of finding that person are astronomical. 

Bustle did the math for the people who don’t believe in soulmates, and they found that with the billions of people in the world, the odds of finding “the one” is 1 in 10,000 or .01%; those are very low odds.

However, the definition of a soulmate is not a mysterious person lost in the world somewhere. It’s a person who is ideally suited to be your best friend or romantic partner. 

Personally, I like the way the Urban Dictionary defines a soul mate. It says that a soulmate is a person with whom you have such a deep connection with your soul that it’s almost unexplainable. 

So, what are the signs that you have found your soulmate? In this article, we will take a look at 38 soulmate signs so that you will know if he is “the one.”

Contents

Are Soulmates Real?

Psychology Today explains that there’s not a perfectly matched soulmate, but rather, people can become your soulmates because of a deep, lasting relationship. Specifically, the author discusses marriage and how you can become irreplaceable and perfectly suited for your spouse. Basically, over the course of your life, you can turn into soulmates.

The author continues to explain that in the later stages of marriage, you become skilled at negotiation, your love and respect has grown to a new level, and the thought of divorce has completely gone away. During this stage, you have become each other’s soulmates because you’re irreplaceable to one another.

How Can You Find Your Soulmate?

If you are searching for that one person with whom you can spend all of eternity, I highly recommend reading the book, Date or Soulmate by Neil Clark Warren, the creator of eHarmony. It’s not just some cheesy book on where to find your soulmate. Rather, it’s a book about becoming the person that is ready to receive your soulmate and how to know you’ve found him.

It begins by taking you through a comprehensive study of who you are. This is something you should do, whether you read a book or not. Understand everything that makes you who you are and discover what kind of person you need to be with to feel complete. Once you’ve done thorough self-discovery, you can create a list.

The list should contain 10 must-haves and 10 can’t-stands. Less than this and you aren’t being picky enough; more than this, and you’re being too picky. Now, when you are out in the world meeting potential candidates, you will know exactly what to look for. The goal of the book is to teach you how to tell if someone is your soulmate on two dates or less. Check it out.

Where Can I Find My Soulmate?

Of course, you can meet someone at church, the library, the gym, or even at work. Maybe this person is already your best friend or boyfriend. If you don’t meet people that way, just get out of the house and try something; go somewhere. As you meet people everywhere you go, think about what you are looking for, what you need in a relationship, and see if they match up. 

One very popular way to meet someone is through online dating or dating apps. In my opinion, dating websites like eHarmony and OKCupid are better than some because they have little quizzes you can take to better find the right match. These websites and apps use algorithms to find you the closest match. The success rate is very high.

On a personal note, I met my husband off of OKCupid; we became best friends because we matched so well together. After a while, we started a romantic relationship. We’ve been married for over 7 years now, blissfully happy. I’m not getting paid to advertise anything; I just think dating websites like that have higher probabilities of success because of the quizzes. 

38 Signs You’ve Found Your Soulmate

1. You can be totally honest with him.

You can be totally honest with him

We all hold something back during our relationships; it’s natural to want to be guarded with your heart. Have you found that one person that you can tell everything to? Things you haven’t even shared with your family? That level of trust is something rare. If you tell your partner things you have never shared with anyone, it may just be the real deal.

2. You have great chemistry.

Do you get the feeling that electricity is going through your body when you make love? Amazing sex isn’t the only thing you need to have great chemistry, though. You should have incredible chemistry in more than one part of your life. 

More than just the physical part, you may have intellectual, emotional, and/or spiritual chemistry that bonds the two of you together. Do you both mesh well in those areas? Does your family treat him as if he were already part of the family? Do you share the same core values? 

If everything flows smoothly like this, you have lasting chemistry that leaves you with long-term intense feelings for each other. This sort of excitement is exactly what you need for a lifetime of happiness!

3. He challenges you.

Having someone in your life that’s a pushover doesn’t do either of you any good. If he isn’t afraid to stand up for himself and shows you that he can push you to be the best version of yourself, you may have just found the right guy. It’s important for him to have the feeling that he is part of a union, not a dictatorship.

Provided he doesn’t let you boss him around, him challenging you is a good thing. Of course, being purposefully argumentative all the time isn’t healthy in a relationship either. There needs to be a good balance between those extremes, and that’s not always easy to find. If you found that perfect balance, take the gold star; he’s a keeper!

4. You truly love him.

If you just instinctively and logically know that the feeling you have is love, he may be your soulmate. Think over your life with this person compared to the other people you’ve dated. Do you have a different feeling this time, a feeling of true, unconditional love? Do you care about him deeply and finally understand what this feeling is all about?

Even more, are you loving this guy as a whole being, not just certain parts of him? It’s crucial that you don’t fall for specific things rather than his complete self. You don’t want to be head over heels for a car or his looks, only to later in life realize that those things are gone. Adore all of him, including any baggage that comes with him.

If you answered yes to those questions, that’s great because those are good things to be feeling! That’s a real sign that you have finally met the one you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. Don’t hesitate to tell him how you feel. He should know how much you value him and your relationship with him.

5. He knows you better than you know yourself.

One of the most rewarding relationships you can have in your life is one where someone knows you better than you know yourself. It gives you a sense of relaxation as you know that not all the worry in the world rests on your shoulders anymore. You don’t have to think, remember, worry, and be anxious so much. Take a breath.

Instead, you have found someone who can help you out along the way in life. If you forget to take your blood sugar before meals, you have a person in your life that will help you remind you to do the little things like this. It’s similar to that feeling that someone completes you.

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6. You miss him when he’s not around.

Of course, you miss him when he’s far away, but do you really miss him as not being there in the everyday dealings of your life? If you find it painful to be apart because you want to tell him the details of what’s going on in your life, you may have found love. 

7. You are truly happy.

To me, happiness is like Christmas. If I could (and I have), I would keep my Christmas tree up all year round; listening to Christmas music just puts a smile on my face. I love it! When I think about my man, I get this same feeling; just a feeling of happiness washes over me completely. It’s like total bliss. I wouldn’t have it any other way. 

Are you all smiles and glowing with happiness? That’s a great way to live. If this person is the reason that you can’t turn your frown upside down, then you may have found yourself a life partner worth keeping! Be sure to go make them as happy as they’re making you because it’s a two-way street. You need to give a little back

8. You can be yourself.

You want to be in a relationship where you can be your truest self. Life gets hard, and someday, you may go through a rougher patch than what you currently have been through. 

You want someone in your life, and by your side, that can make everything okay. Be yourself with your man; make sure you are your true self. He should love you for who you are.

9. He knows how to calm you down.

If he knows you so well that he can say or do just the right thing to calm you down, cheer you up, make you laugh, and keep you on your toes, that’s something worth bragging about. Soulmates can read each other well because they know each other so well. 

10. You are happy doing nothing together.

When we are around our friends and family, we don’t just do “nothing,” usually. Instead, we entertain them, show them around, take them sight-seeing, or find a great movie to throw in. That’s just the way people are. It’s a normal way of life. But if you’ve found a guy that you don’t have to do all that fuss for, you two may just be soulmates.

11. You feel his feelings.

Do you genuinely feel sad when they are sad, feel pain when they’re in pain, feel happy and excited when they feel that way? If you are able to truly empathize with them, you are probably with the right person. Just think about it for a second: The last time he walked in with a grin, did your face light up in a big bright smile?

Relationships are give and take struggles sometimes, but if the two of you feel each other’s feelings, you are truly in love. By empathizing with one another, you are better equipped to help each other out during the tough times. You may know how to best comfort him if you can imagine yourself in his shoes.

12. You understand your exes now.

You are really in love if you can now see your past relationships for what they truly were - not true cases of soulmates. I wouldn’t classify them as “mistakes” so much as really just steps that you needed to take to get where you are today. If you hadn’t had the experiences you did in the past, you probably wouldn’t be where you are today.

13. It seems like you’ve known him all your life.

Does it just seem like he’s always been a part of your life, almost like somehow you were connected? Soul mates say that about one another. They say it’s hard to imagine what life was like before they knew each other. Instead, it just seems like you’ve crossed paths before. (You never know. You may have crossed paths at some point!).

You may have even just forgotten about the past, about what life was like before he came along. It just seems like you’ve known him forever, even if it’s just been a short while. Actually, now that you think about it, you realize that every conversation you have with anyone has your significant other in it! It just really feels like fate, right

14. You complement each other.

I hate to quote Jerry McGuire, but does he “complete” you? If it seems like he’s your other half, the yin to your yang, the piece you feel has been missing your whole life, you have indeed met your soulmate. It’s hard not to picture this person as anyone other than that since he is just perfect for you.

15. You feel safe with him.

You know he will protect you with his life. That’s just the way he is. You don’t have to worry about anything bad happening because he will be there for you through the best and worst of times. He will keep you safe and secure. You don’t even have to question his intentions because you know.

16. It’s just easy.

It just feels like a breeze. This is one of the surefire ways that you can tell if this is meant to be or not. If it’s always an argument, battle, fight, drama, etc. you should reevaluate things. A healthy relationship isn’t full of yelling, slamming, and other toxic behaviors. Instead, you have respect for each other and complement each other nicely.

17. You have mutual respect for one another.

This is critical. If he’s disrespectful, you may not only have NOT found your soulmate, you may need to end things. A healthy marriage or partnership has respect as a core component. 

18. You tell him everything.

He’s your best friend, after all. Of course, you tell him everything, but it’s more than that. He’s just “your person,” the one who knows everything about you, so you tell him the ins and outs of your day because he already understands you perfectly.

19. You make a great team.

Many people say that you guys make a great team, right? That doesn’t mean that behind closed doors, it’s that way, but really it is that way, isn’t it? In other words, the way you behave together isn’t just a show; it truly is the way you are.

You just work well together. You can tackle problems together with ease, and you know you can count on him to do his half of the chores, carry his half of the burden, and so on. 

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20. You are confident about the relationship.

For once, you don’t have to worry about him ending the relationship over something stupid. You don’t have those usual doubts as you’ve had with past relationships.  Instead, you are absolutely secure, no longer worrying about things like divorce or breaking up. You just know that you were meant to be together forever.

21. You just instinctively know.

Call it a gut feeling, but often when soulmates meet, they just “know” that they have finally met the partner they will be spending the rest of their lives with. This may come as a “sense” that you have finally met your other half. The world makes sense at last; it’s like an intense intuition to some people.

22. You’re best friends.

This relationship works in ways that your other friendships have. You feel like you’ve finally met the best friend you’ve ever had because they seem to understand you in ways that none of your other friends ever have before. There’s just a deeper, special connection in this relationship, a bond that’s hard to describe to others.

23. You are secure enough to be apart.

You don’t feel the need to, well, be “needy” with this partner. Instead, you respect boundaries and give them the space they need when they need it. You are okay being alone and don’t do the pacing back and forth that you did in previous relationships. Sure, you miss them, but you know they’ll be back.

24. You’ve already planned your future together.

If you already picture and have made plans for the future, you know you have found the one. Do you have a shared vision of the future? If it’s just easy to picture a life with him, you already know that you’ve met the person you are meant to spend eternity with.

25. He makes you a better person.

He’s the kind of person that just not only makes you a better person because you want to but encourages you to reach your full potential. He just knows what to say and how to act and brings out the very best in you.

26. You don’t remember what life was like before him.

Maybe you haven’t even been together that long, but everything makes sense now! Your life with him isn’t a lot of work; in fact, it’s easy! Everything seems to flow together nicely. If this is how your life appears to be, you have probably found your soulmate with this catch of a lifetime!

27. You support each other.

That’s right; not only does he support you in your hopes, wants, dreams, and aspirations, but you support him in his. You build each other’s lives up and make each other better people. This is the way a relationship with a soulmate should be. 

28. You’ve stopped searching for someone new.

You just know that he is the end of the line. You’ve taken down your dating profiles from all the dating websites that you were a part of. You have found peace and comfort in this relationship and don’t need to be on the lookout for someone better. 

29. You feel at home in the relationship.

Being with him is “home” to you; it’s the place where you feel most at ease, where life is best. Your partner makes you the most comfortable to be around. When you’ve found this kind of security in a relationship, you’ve found someone special.

30. You don’t get jealous.

If you finally have that “sigh of relief” in trusting this person and what he does with his free time, you know you’ve reached a whole new level. You no longer have to worry about him with another woman because you know it’s platonic, and you can easily share him with others without feeling resentful or jealous. That’s a very good thing.

31. You listen and understand each other.

You listen and understand each other.

Make sure he takes the time to truly listen to you, the way a partner should. If you have a great listening relationship, you have found a new kind of love. Listening and paying attention to what someone is saying isn’t an innate trait. If he does this for you, you know he really cares about your well-being and about you as a person.

32. You finish each other’s sentences.

Do you just instinctively have one of those relationships where everything clicks together perfectly, where you finish each other’s thoughts? That’s a real sign that you’ve found your life partner. You are basically reading each other’s minds. That’s a dynamic connection.

33. You work through rough patches together.

Soulmates are family; these relationships aren’t just thrown together, though. Rather, they do the work needed in the relationship. They are happy to work through any rough patches that come along together as a team. 

34. You want him to be happy.

I think this was when I knew I was truly in love the first time. I valued his well-being and happiness more than my own. In fact, when I was out and about, I would think of little things that I’d see that would make him happy, and I’d make stupid little purchases or take pictures of stuff that’d make him laugh, anything that’d make him happy.

35. You can completely let your guard down in the relationship.

Has he seen you at your worst, but is sticking around just the same? If you feel comfortable showing your complete self in the relationship, it must be the real thing. Make sure you can be yourself in front of your partner.

36. You have the same core values.

It’s pretty important in a healthy relationship that you have the same core values and beliefs in life. You don’t want something major to come up later on when you thought things were perfect between you two. 

I once knew a married couple who had never broached the subject of kids, so when it did come up years later, they divorced. Of course, you aren’t doomed for divorce if you don’t mesh completely, but it sure does help to be on the same page about the big stuff.

37. He gets the same weird, silly things that you do.

If he is weird like you and understands the silly things you do, you may just have matching souls. After all, no one’s ever understood those things before, have they? Even if you have met people like that before, it’s still special to have him be similar to you and to “get” you and your weird neuroses.

38. You now finally understand love.

You’ve heard the songs, you’ve seen the movies, but you’ve never really felt this way. If everything is clicking, you are probably head over heels for this guy. And with love comes marriage, and then a baby in a baby carriage, right? Well, let’s not get carried away, but you’re headed in the right direction!

FAQs

How do you tell if he's your soulmate?

If you know exactly what kind of person you are looking for and he meets that criteria, there’s a good chance you have found your soulmate. Usually, there’s a deep connection when you’ve found the one; you will see the signs and sense the connection when you’ve found the one.

How does it feel when you meet your soulmate?

It feels like they are an irreplaceable part of who you are. You will finally understand the feeling of love, and you’ll have the feeling of being complete with this person. You may have a sense or feeling that the two of you were meant to share your lives together.

What age do you meet your soulmate?

People have romantic relationships at any age, so you could be in your 20’s or 70’s. Our lives can’t escape the feelings and signs of love. If you get the feeling that the person you are with is going to be in your life forever, you may have found him.

Is he my soulmate or twin flame?

A twin flame is your soul’s mirror image; your soulmate can be someone you fall in love with or have intense feelings about. There are ways to tell the difference. You may not see the signs of a twin flame, but the love of a soulmate is clear; it’s love.

Which Zodiacs are soulmates?

The exact zodiacs that are soulmates are in this article by Bustle. Examples would be Virgos and Taurus, Pisces or Capricorns are possible soulmates. There are several soulmates for all Zodiac signs, so the answer would depend on which sign you are. Soulmates can find each other in many signs.

In Summary

Do you believe in soulmates or just in finding the right person? Are you looking, or have you already found your soulmate? What did you think of my list?

If you have anything to add to it, please leave us a comment and do share this post with someone today!

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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