Are you wondering whether your husband is still attracted to you?
Perhaps he says he’s more attracted to you than ever, but you can’t shake the feeling this isn’t true.
The fact is: actions speak louder than words.
That’s why I’ve put together this guide packed with the most obvious behavioral clues that your husband is no longer attracted to you.
If he’s displaying some of the signs in this guide, that tells you all you need to know.
But, before we get started, it’s important you read the following sentences carefully.
If your husband is showing these signs that he’s not attracted to you, there is a significant chance that he’s getting his sexual kicks elsewhere.
Now, this isn’t guaranteed. But it is something you might want to investigate.
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Below, I have listed 20 worrying signs that your husband is no longer attracted to you.
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The sex lives of men are everything! So, when it ceases to exist, this will be a huge red flag for me, and it should be for you too. It is especially alarming if your sex life, which used to be great, suddenly goes out the window. No doubt, men are highly physical creatures, and more often than not, their love language involves physical intimacy; therefore, the lack of it is worrying and could be a sign of incoming relationship problems, as well as the fact that he is no longer physically attracted to you.
Furthermore, even if the sex life might still be there, if it feels perfunctory and leaves you unsatisfied, these are all signs that something is wrong. This is because when there is physical attraction, men are like horn dogs, unable to keep their hands off you. So, if your significant other refrains from touching you, it’s a sign there is a problem that needs to be addressed. The truth is - being honest with your feelings is the best way forward.
Roses at your workplace, impromptu date nights, little love notes stuck on the fridge door-- these are the staple of a romantic relationship; no doubt, we all get a high when the person we love does this for us. But if you’ve been married for a while, and suddenly your partner no longer enjoys any of these things, I can understand how worrying it will be.
Consequently, many of us tend to think that because we’re married, it’s normal to lose a bit of romance, but this isn’t true; marriage isn’t a death knell for romance. Conversely, married men are incredibly romantic (hence why they’re a catch for many single women). So, if your partner isn’t going out of his way to the things that triggered your love for him in the first place, this is a clear sign that something needs to be fixed.
Communication is important in any relationship and is the cornerstone of any marriage. Think about it; you’re stuck with this person, hopefully forever, so you’re going to need to talk to them, right? Additionally, the communication goes beyond just ‘what do you want for dinner,’ and it should cover a myriad of topics.
Hence, if your partner doesn’t seek to engage you in deep conversation or isn’t willing to talk about anything beyond mundane everyday stuff, it could indicate that you no longer stimulate him. For instance, if for a long time, you’ve always known him for his funny banter and jokes about why he thinks his boss’ head looks like a pineapple, but he no longer feels the need to amuse you, then something is up. Certainly, it’s a sign there is a problem that needs to be addressed.
This is a much bigger problem than you might realize. You might be thinking, ‘But he listens to me and agrees with everything I say,’ and while it is great that he listens, it doesn’t mean he is there. This is because, in most healthy relationships, your husband doesn’t just listen, but he gives his opinions and sometimes doesn’t even agree with you.
Therefore, if your husband just listens to you listlessly and doesn’t go out of his way to offer his take or opinion on a matter, it’s one of the clear signs that he’s no longer attracted to you. Furthermore, it could be that he has completely lost interest in trying to engage you and have stimulating conversations.
So, the next time you have a conversation with your partner, check to see if he is not only listening but also if he is processing the information and giving you some sort of feedback.
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This is especially bad as it not only shows that he isn’t attracted to you, but that he is searching for something, or someone, else. Your husband should regularly flirt with you because he finds you attractive and wants you to know it; hence, if he is giving that attention elsewhere, then it’s a problem.
It’s also worth noting that this problem could arise due to a decline in your sex life or some other factors that cause him to cast his attention somewhere else. So, examine the situation and determine a course of action. That said, this sort of behavior is especially worrying because it also means that your husband isn’t going out of his way to show you the respect you deserve, especially if he is flirting openly.
Now, it is necessary to note that spending time apart isn’t bad for a relationship as it makes your reunion even sweeter. However, if you don’t spend any time together at all, it eats away at the relationship until there is nothing left of the connection that initially brought you two together.
Moreover, time spent together should be a priority for your husband, and when it reduces, your alarm bells should start ringing. This is because periods you and your partner spend with each other are opportunities to understand each other even better, which is something your husband should be interested in. But, if he appears reluctant to spend the time necessary and always comes up with excuses to be away, then it is one of the clear signs that he simply isn’t interested.
On the other hand, if your husband is spending time with you, but appears not to be having fun, that’s another problem. However, this lack of interest or attraction doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you; it just means he doesn’t want to tear your clothes off. While this situation might suit some women just fine, many want to be the object of lust for their significant other.
For instance, if you and your hubby sit quietly in a room, or take long walks together, but he doesn’t try to initiate intimacy (not necessarily sex) then it might indicate that he wants to spend time with you, but isn’t really interested in you sexually.
On the flip side, it’s possible he still spends time with you and takes those walks as you would like, or still helps out in the kitchen; however, if your normally jovial husband isn’t making jokes or being goofy, and you are the one acting clownish instead, it’s very likely he doesn’t really enjoy your company which is one of the warning signs might not be attracted to you anymore - no doubt, this is pretty hurtful.
First off, friendship in a relationship is vital; hence why many women choose to marry their best male friends; however, there’s also a reason why many of us choose not to do so. Answer this; what does your partner have that your next best friend doesn’t? Attraction - no doubt, that’s what sets a lover apart from a friend.
Therefore, if that attraction goes away and all that you’re left with is a good friend, there’s nothing else to set your husband apart from a really good male friend. Likewise, men also see it this way, and if he is only talking to you like a roommate, then it’s likely he no longer lusts after you.
More so, if all your chats are friendly without a slight bit of perviness thrown into the mix, then it’s certainly something to think about. In such instance, ask yourself - is your sex life great? Has he lost interest? Does he want something else? These are all questions that might bug you when this happens.
This is tricky. After all, it might not be easy to notice at first because it seems like your husband is acting normal, but then his mind might be elsewhere. Besides, it’s even harder if your husband is busy because you might easily mistake it for fatigue.
So, your partner comes home from work and hugs you and goes off to bed. Or, maybe he even asked about your day and listened to you while cuddled up. Yet, you feel that bit of distance; his hand running through your hair feels mechanical, he’s holding you and doesn’t even once try to sneak a cheeky hand under your shirt. All these actions point at a husband who probably loves you, but isn’t attracted to you.
Naturally, when someone loves you, they don’t need a special occasion or reason to want to get intimate. Also, there’s a feeling of warmth that radiates and envelopes you indicating that you are valued and loved. So, if this is missing, then there might be a problem.
Love is selfless, and more often than not, if someone loves you, they will put your needs over theirs. On the flip side, selflessness is also pretty sexy, as this research shows. But, what if he places his needs over yours and doesn’t display the sexiness you used to associate with him? Again, this is one of the signs your husband doesn’t find you as attractive.
As mentioned above, selflessness is sexy, but not only to the receiver, but the giver also uses this skill to show love and attraction. In such cases, more often than not, the man finds the girl physically attractive enough to perform a selfless act.
With all that said, finding out that your husband now prefers to do things without considering how you might feel about it is painful, but even worse, it is a sign that he might not be attracted to you anymore.
Remember when your partner first came into your life? How easy the two of you could communicate, how easy it was to say ‘I love you,’ or how effortlessly the conversation flowed? Well, it was all easy back then as you were both in love at the time. But now, you find that conversations are hard to go through, or you don’t feel as comfortable when spending time with him. All these things show that your man might not be attracted to you anymore.
That said, it isn’t uncommon for couples to have some awkward conversations one way or another. For example, when talking about your sex life, or when discussing your finances. However, if every conversation takes an awkward turn, again, it’s one of the signs there is a huge problem.
In fact, the lack of quality communication could be the reason for the awkwardness, or maybe the both of you have forgotten how easy it is to converse, or he just doesn’t find you attractive enough to want to try harder at the conversation.
It is generally accepted that women are the planners of the relationship. We’re the ones that talk about the future; ours, our hubby’s, everyone's! That said, men are just as invested in the future, and most couples usually plan their life together.
Now, one way or another, if you find out your husband is hoping for a big promotion to subsequently buy a vacation home, the two of you haven’t yet discussed it, such behavior is a big old red flag and is one of the possible signs that your significant other is not attracted to you anymore.
Furthermore, it could also be that he, perhaps, doesn’t see you in his life anymore and is no longer interested in you physically. If that’s the case, it’s best to be open and discuss your feelings; you can try and bring that topic up and if he tries to avoid talking, then that is another one of the signs that all is not well.
As noted earlier, when your husband hugs you, the warmth that radiates is evident, and you know that you are loved. But when it’s absent, you also notice it, and it shows if he puts some emotional distance between both of you.
Also, it might not only be the hugs; he might be more distant, less attentive, or more curt than usual. And while all this might be a symptom of stress, it might also be a sign that he is not attracted to you anymore or has something else in mind.
Your husband watching some porn to get his rocks off is not much of a problem. However, it becomes one if he prefers to engage with the screen rather than with you. Such behavior means that your sex life is lacking something, and he just isn’t into you physically anymore.
Importantly, it should be noted that porn addiction is real and could be the reason he is spending more time on smutty websites; even then, he should want to have sex with you. Therefore, if he prefers some lotion and the fantasy of another woman, it’s one of the clear signs that he doesn’t view you as worthy of his lust.
Jealousy is a rather sexy emotion in the right doses. Just like salt, when added with care, spices up a meal, jealousy can spice up a relationship and even ramps up the physical attraction between couples. On the flip side, when added liberally, it is no longer sexy, but creepy and toxic. But, there’s a third scenario; what if it’s not there at all?
While you might assume you have a mature man right there, it could also be that he doesn’t believe you are worth getting jealous over. Jealousy is a huge component in attraction because, to a man, it means that he sees this woman in his life forever and doesn’t want her with anyone else. But, if other men flirt with you and he doesn’t even raise an eyebrow, it could also point to the fact that he is not attracted to you anymore.
That said, you need to be careful that your man isn’t just hiding his jealousy. Also, not flipping out because your colleague paid you a compliment doesn’t mean he isn’t jealous. But, if he pays no attention when things like this happen or doesn’t even indicate that he noticed, or maybe also encourages it, that might mean he is not attracted to you anymore.
Have you ever finished a video game 100%? If you have, then you know what comes next-- you drop it and move on to the next game. That’s the same thing many couples face when they feel like there’s nothing left to know about their partner’s life.
Part of your allure is the mystery. This is the reason men try to understand us or know us better. However, it is a double-edged sword as it also means that when everything is revealed, we lose the mystery.
However, there are still those of us who can play the same video game over and over again, without getting bored. Likewise, a loving husband never gets bored with his wife and sees her in his life forever. On the flip side, a husband who has lost interest behaves like he knows everything about you and there is nothing exciting left; in fact, the thought of you in his life might appear burdensome.
For example, let’s say you both get into an argument, and he already assumes he knows what you’re going to say, accompanied with an eye-roll, it’s likely he doesn’t think you have anything new to offer and is tired of having you around.
Does your hubby play games or engage in other activities when you are pouring your heart out to him? Or perhaps you catch him staring out of the window in boredom during your usual morning conversations over coffee? These behaviors indicate lost interest and could be signs that he doesn’t find you stimulating and is bored in your presence.
While it isn’t impossible for you and your husband to be bored even when in each other’s company, it is a problem if you are having fun, but he isn’t. If this is the case in your relationship, you might need to take action. Hence, you can talk to him to find out why he is bored, and if his answer is non-committal or random and it happens repeatedly, then there’s obviously something wrong.
Couples fight, and it is a natural part of a relationship. However, what isn’t normal is if your hubby looks for any excuse to get into a fight with you, and this has been going on for a long time.
While it could be his subtle way of letting you know something else going on, or that he isn’t attracted to you. Furthermore, if your partner seems reluctant to make up after an argument (especially if it wasn’t huge to begin with), then it might mean the two of you are on the verge of a divorce. Moreover, he might be orchestrating the fights to get away from you or as an excuse not to talk or even have sex. All of these are indicators that the appeal is gone.
A woman's intuition is a special thing. When a woman feels like something is missing from the relationship, there’s a valid reason. It might not be anything overt; just the tiny things such as hugging a second shorter, speaking with a little less expression-- it could be anything. So, examine your relationship and ask if you still feel like everything is okay.
Relationships evolve as do feelings, but love should usually remain no matter what, so if your husband starts to feel off, you might be right.
This could happen, and in such a case, the first thing to do is find out if it can be recaptured. Consequently, if the attraction can be regained, then work towards it. But, if it can’t, then ask if it’s due to lack of love, and ponder what it means to walk away from the relationship over this.
There are a lot of reasons why this could happen, ranging from a lack of love to mental issues. Whatever the reason, ask if the other aspects of your relationship still works because if they don’t, then the lack of sex might be indicative of a much larger problem.
Yes. While physical attraction is important and is a huge part of why you are together in the first place, it isn’t the be-all and end-all. This is because several factors can lead to losing your lust for your partner, from weight to health. However, if you still love the person, the relationship can persist.
We have taken a look at a few signs that stand out when your partner is no longer attracted to you. Furthermore, if it’s been a long time your partner has lost interest, something changes; in fact, something always changes. So, it’s up to you to find what that is and determine if your husband is still attracted to you.
This is somewhat complicated, but it usually involves some sort of disconnect between you and your partner. That said, it could come from either of you, but if the connection is gone from the marriage and there is no interest to work on it or make it right, then your marriage is probably over.
I hope you enjoyed the list. It is important to determine if your husband is no longer attracted to you because you can do something about it if you realize it early enough. Also, if you have thoughts you’d like to share, leave a comment below. And if you enjoyed reading this, don’t forget to share it.
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