Since you started the relationship with your partner, have you ever had a serious conversation about having kids or, does that sound weird at this stage of the relationship? What then would you feel like if you realize you’re pregnant even though you’re not yet ready to become a mom?
It is one thing for a woman to decide to have a baby or mistakenly find herself pregnant because she skipped her birth control pills a few times. However, it’s crazy for you to discover that your man deliberately planned to get you pregnant.
It sounds extraordinary but it happens. What could make your guy want to get you pregnant when most men run away from the word ‘babies' because they are scared of responsibilities? What could make your boyfriend whom you’re sure loves you try to deceive you into becoming ready for a baby just because he wants to be a dad?
Most importantly, what are the signs he wants to get you pregnant? If you know, you can watch out for them and have a say in the decision to enter parenthood?
Fret not. This article will reveal some of the signs men exhibit when they want to get you pregnant. What’s more, I’ll offer a few tips to help you stay alert to avoid these pregnancy tricks (or accept them if that’s what you want too).
One of the signs that should tip you off that your man wants to get you pregnant is when he becomes softer around children than he used to be. Normally, your boyfriend should be kind to babies and find them cute. However, when he begins to have this extra soft look in his eyes like his figurative ovaries are quivering to make babies, you should know that he is ready to become a dad.
If you’re on the same page with him, that’s well and good but if you’re not, you may want to nip that idea in the bud before it leaves his mind.
What would you feel like if you see your normally stoic boyfriend carrying this little bundle of joy in his arms and crooning to the baby as a doting father would? You’d probably be impressed just as much as you’d be surprised. If pregnancy is the farthest thing on your mind, you would also be wary about his new interest in babies.
However, this single action doesn’t mean he would actively try to get you pregnant, it’s just one of the many signs he wants to get you pregnant. The possibility of you falling for his tricks is if you’re not vigilant enough to make sure that doesn’t happen.
Guys don’t usually sit around having a conversation about raising children or becoming parents. Men do this as part of the realization that they are ready to become committed. Most times, once men decide to do things, they don’t back down until they get what they want.
As such, if your guy is starting to talk a lot about how much his brother’s kids look like him more than their mother, he will eventually move on to talking about what your babies will look like. If you love each other and the relationship is serious, you’ll probably think along the same line. It’s just left to you to get pregnant when you want to, not because he wants you to.
Generally speaking, women take contraceptives for different reasons (including the ones in committed relationships). However, one of the major reasons is to prevent pregnancy. If you and your partner agreed that you need to be on contraceptives but he later changes his mind and says you don’t need to take them anymore, make sure to ask him why.
If he gives you a flimsy excuse like a condom is enough, you should start observing other signs he exhibits that show he wants to get you pregnant. He should be able to have the conversation with you without tricking you into making such an important decision.
One of the things guys do that will alert you to their baby frenzy moods is that they’ll do something silly as buying baby names books or browsing for cute baby names. Depending on how much you love each other, you’ll be in tune with the different changes in him and you’ll notice the sign that he is naming your future children already.
If he is certain that your relationship has progressed to the stage to have that conversation, he will open up to you and broach the subject. It is still up to you to decide if you are ready to be called somebody’s mom.
Many men start taking their finances seriously only when they are ready to settle down and start their family. So if your man wasn’t too focused on keeping his finances straight until now, there’s a good chance he is trying to get you pregnant.
Study the way he spends and saves, what he invests in, and the things he keeps. If his actions point to someone trying to create a secure space for not only his woman but also his children, it’s a sign of him wanting to have kids.
If you had noticed that your man has the family man orientation from the beginning, you shouldn’t be surprised if he starts showing the tendencies to want his own family anytime soon. The best thing to do in such a situation is to discuss with him right from the start about when you want to have a baby.
For this kind of man, having a traditional family isn’t a matter of ‘if’ but ‘when'. And so, you should get ready to leave the relationship if you have no intention of having his baby anytime soon or in the future.
Another one of the signs that will indicate that your man wants to have a baby with you is when the direction of his discussions with you changes towards starting a family. A guy will hardly discuss starting a family with you if he doesn’t mean it.
Although some guys will use that trickery to serve an ulterior motive, if you understand your man to a large extent, you’ll figure out some of the things he’s trying to do—even before he tells you in words. Because you know him, you’ll know if he means what he said or just trying to fool you.
If his professions of love and desire to have a baby with you isn’t sincere, you’ll know because his other actions won’t match his declaration. Some people are selfish and greedy and won’t want to let you go even though they don’t want you.
If you’re sure that your union isn’t real yet the man doesn’t want to release you for someone else who will love you the way you want, you can also be sure he is trying to get you pregnant. Try not to be deceived that his intention means he is now more in love with you than before, he just wants to tie you down to him.
When a couple is still at the honeymoon stage, they tend to feel overwhelming amounts of emotions. They also see things through rose-tinted glasses. Relationships still at this sensitive stage can make a man feel he is ready to take on anything for his woman—even the serious part of a relationship which is having kids.
If your relationship is still at this delicate point, you should be careful not to take risky actions you might regret later. You may want to be extra careful that your partner is using condoms and if you’re on contraceptives, use them when due.
Your ovulation period is the most unsafe period to be having unprotected sex and so, you’re usually cautious not to make love at all (or at least use protection). However, if you go slack in your observations and have sex without condoms or contraceptives, you risk getting pregnant.
If your man understands these dynamics in your body and he insists on making love with you during this time with or without protection, you should think twice about his intention. If other suspicions align with this one, he is probably trying to get you pregnant.
It is one thing to have sex with your partner during ovulation with protection but to have sex without protection at any time is a bit reckless— even with a serious partner. If he knows you don’t want to have a baby already but he still takes the risk, it is one of the signs he wants to get you pregnant.
If his reason for trying to get you pregnant is because you’ve spoken about wanting it too, that’s perfect. However, if you’ve never had the discussion before, it’s time you revisit using protection.
This is one of the oldest tricks in the books and one of the surest signs your man is trying to get you pregnant. If you catch him making holes in the condoms, it’s either because he is trying to get you pregnant or infect you with a disease. The first reason sounds less bad but the second one is downright horrible.
Either way, you should no longer trust this man. Punching holes into condoms is a sneaky despicable thing to do. If he loves you, he will talk to you about having a baby.
If you made it clear that you don’t want to have kids yet but he keeps bringing up the idea altogether, he probably is not going to stop until you give in. In this case, you need to weigh the pros and cons, and measure your influence on him to see if you can stall him. If all the options aren’t looking good, you might need to bow out of the relationship before things turn bad.
When a relationship runs its course the best is usually part ways with the other person. However, some partners try to hold on to something that is no more, and in the process, they come up with devious means of keeping their partner in the relationship.
One of the signs that your man is trying to get you pregnant is when he doesn’t want to break up with you even when you inform him you no longer think the relationship is working.
Another sign is that he won’t even get annoyed with you when you do things that should normally make him mad. He will find ways to seduce you more often, especially if you have a weakness for his body. It’s best if you just stay away from him completely if you don’t want to become his baby mama.
Women tend to be babysitters than men. Some men even go out of their way to avoid falling into the trap of babysitting. However, if your partner is rushing towards babysitting duties, it could be one of the signs he wants a baby. If he also does other things like increase the number of times you make love together, he is trying to get you pregnant.
When a man wants to take a step further in a relationship, he will become closer to his girlfriend’s family members. This is obviously because they will also become his family and he’ll need their support. If you observe that your partner is spending more time with your family than usual, he might be thinking of trying to get you pregnant sometime soon.
Some men love watching cartoons but they tend to move towards adult anime like Naruto than PJ Masks. However, if you see your man watching cartoons or movies for children, he’s probably getting ready to have a baby with you (or someone else if your relationship isn’t that serious). You should be extra cautious and sensitive going forward.
When a man pulls out his childhood pictures and begins to have not only a nostalgic look but also that of longing on his face, be sure he is picturing what his son or daughter will look like at the same age. Even if you ask him if he wants to have a baby already, he might fumble with his answer. However, the look in his eyes will tell you all you need to know.
If your man has a strong libido and you usually have lots of sex, you might not be easily alerted to his intention of trying to get you pregnant. However, if you observe that both of you are having more sexual contact than is normal, you need to question why that is so. If he has been the initiator most of the time, he may be doing all he can to get you pregnant.
A man who doesn’t want to have too much sex with you will probably keep track of your menstrual cycle to know when you’ll be ovulating. Some men do this out of love for their partners and not put you at risk of getting pregnant.
However, if your partner is tracking your menstrual cycle on the calendar and timing sex to your ovulation period, you can be certain he is trying to trick you into pregnancy.
The way a guy feels when he gets a girl pregnant differs. If he wanted the pregnancy he will be elated but if he isn’t ready to have a baby, he’ll be devastated or worried. Some guys will even leave the girl because they don’t want to be responsible for the baby.
A man who is sincere with himself can tell if he got a woman pregnant based on the timing of the pregnancy or delivery of the baby. If he isn’t sure he is the father of the baby, he can always do a DNA test to find out.
You should tell your baby's father that you’re pregnant immediately you’re sure of it so he can get involved in preparing for the baby’s arrival.
Self-checking your stomach for pregnancy might not be the best option. You should use a self-test pregnancy kit and then visit your doctor for confirmation.
Pregnancy symptoms differ from women to women. Some begin to notice these symptoms within the first few weeks while others notice after the first trimester.
Having kids is a beautiful thing but only when you’re ready to do so. Your body is yours and no man should dictate to you when to carry a life within it. Hopefully, these tips will help you dodge the trick bullet your partner might try on you with regards to having children.
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