You're probably here because you're thinking it's currently October 2020, and you thought you would have your love life figured out by now...
The truth is that you are STILL still very much struggling with your love life.
Whether you think that he's straight-out not being faithful to you, or whether he's simply not putting as much effort into the relationship as you are, it doesn't matter.
Or perhaps you're reading this because you like someone but you're not sure if he feels the same way? Or whether he likes you as much as you like him?
All these things make us women feel absolutely helpless.
Heck... perhaps nothing is wrong but you're just here because you want more control in your love life?
The good news is that I may have a solution for you.
I went through exactly the same issues before, and I'm going to tell you exactly how I was finally able to resolve it.
It essentially came down to a little thing called the 'Hero Instinct'.
Before we get into it, however, I want you to promise me that you'll read my entire story from beginning to end.
It's important that you understand every step of the process so that you can enjoy a great relationship too.
Now that we are on the same page, I want to tell you about my relationship with Jason.
I was on Cloud 9 with Jason. Our relationship seemed so perfect. He seemed so perfect. I hadn’t felt like this for so long. Until he slowly started becoming more distant.
I’d seen the signs enough times to know what was happening.
Another man drifting away from me right before my eyes, and once again I had no idea why.
It feels like a cruel joke that life is playing on you.
As soon as it appears as if you’ve finally found your happily ever after with a fantastic man, he floats away for seemingly no reason.
It’s the gradual process of losing him that makes it even more painful.
There are no clear signs he’s losing interest. There are no obvious reasons for him to be upset. So, you can’t ask him what’s going on. Not unless you want to be labeled as an insecure and paranoid drama queen.
Instead, you cross your fingers and do your best to be a brilliant partner.
But that never worked for me.
The texts slow down. They shorten. He becomes ‘busier’. We spend less time together and he eventually calls it off.
Every. Single. Time.
This process was always so painful.
Whatever I did, the same thing would happen - and it left me questioning myself for weeks afterward.
Was I not pretty enough? Was I too ‘needy’ or was I not affectionate enough? Had he found a younger skinnier version of me?
Then, inevitably...was I destined to be alone forever?
It’s a horrible vision that was looking increasingly likely.
Perhaps I would only ever be good enough to be a ‘short-term girlfriend’. A ‘bit of fun’ until someone better came along. These thoughts would gnaw away at me. After each breakup, it took longer to build myself back up.
Now, the same situation was unfolding again.
I couldn’t just sit and watch this happen to me this time. Not again. Not with Jason.
I had to dig deeper to find out what was going on…
So, that’s what I did.
My heart was racing as I scurried through the web looking for expert assistance.
It felt as if I was taking ‘extreme measures’.
No-one I knew had tracked down a dating expert to solve their relationship problems.
But I knew there was a problem.
This had happened too many times to be a coincidence. And I was desperate for it to not come between Jason and I.
This was one happy ending I wasn’t prepared to throw in the trash. Who knows how many more opportunities I’d get?
I just needed to find a real dating aficionado.
Someone who truly understood the dynamics between men and women. Someone who could see what I was doing to push all these great men away. Someone who could explain what men really wanted.
It turns out there’s more than a few ‘love doctors’ out there. Most of them offer the same generic rubbish that my friends had been telling me for years.
But, after an hour or so of searching, I found an author who really impressed me.
His name was James Bauer. He’d been studying love, attraction, and relationships for more than 10 years. The advice on his website was like nothing I’d ever heard before, but it made so much sense.
This guy could clearly walk the walk, as well as talk the talk. It felt like everything was about to change for me.
I dived deeper into James' free online content. It felt like I was seeing into The Matrix. All the mistakes that had ruined previous relationships were being unraveled before my eyes.
The more I read, the more I learned. It soon became clear why some of my friends had scuppered their chance at true love. If only they had discovered James' blog too.
Then, as my education continued, I stumbled across the most important advice I’d ever laid eyes on.
“When a man feels as if you have an agenda, as if you’re trying to trap him in a relationship, his defenses naturally activate. Often, it’s unconscious, but it’s ridiculously common.
“His instincts begin to suggest you’re not “The One”. They point out your flaws. You become this selfish woman trying to steal his freedom. It’s here that he shuts down his emotions. He puts up a brick wall and will do anything to avoid a deeper emotional connection.”
James was right! This made so much sense! This was why Jason was pulling away - and every guy before him too. The more effort I put in to lock down my lovers, the more they’d close off their emotions.
I read on.
“Whenever a man feels as if a woman is trying to get something, he’ll put up the blockers. It’s as if he’s under attack! At this point, it’s almost impossible to get through to him. It’s Kryptonite for your relationship.
“Ïronically, it’s when you want him most that you unknowingly sabotage yourself. The more he closes himself off, the more you chase his affection. The problem gets worse as you stress about his lack of investment until he eventually pulls the trigger and leaves.”
It was as if he was reading my autobiography.
But the question remained: what can a woman do to seal a relationship with an amazing man?
Thankfully, James had the answers.
He explained: “Once a man sees you as “The One”, everything changes. Suddenly, you’re not this evil woman trying to steal his freedom. You’re the perfect partner he’s been desperately searching for.
“At this point, he won’t worry about losing his freedom. In his eyes, a relationship with you is far better than anything romantic ‘freedom’ can provide him.”
This made perfect sense. The next step was to discover how I could make Jason see me as the high-quality woman I knew I was. How could he see me as “The One”?
I'd noticed James had created an online course.
This course was all about how to make a man obsess over you.
It was centered around unleashing his 'Hero Instinct' - a biological drive that influences men with far more power than any romantic feelings.
I consider myself well-read, but had never heard of the 'Hero Instinct'. There was nothing substantial written about this online either.
This was supposedly discovered during James' 10+ years of studying male-female relations. I’d normally dismiss this as marketing guff, but this guy had already revealed so many of my blind spots. I just had to learn more....
Although I was worried that the course would be a let-down, everything else had made so much sense up to this point. So I whipped out my credit card and bought it.
This was one of the best decisions I have ever made.
The course was packed with incredible information, broken down into simple chunks. It opened my eyes to the secrets of male psychology.
Among other important lessons, I learned:
The course explains how to activate the Hero Instinct, regardless of the situation between you and your man. It was simple to learn, but boy was it powerful...
Once I truly understood how Jason was feeling, it was easier than I thought to get him back.
The instructions within James' course switched his interest back on like a light switch.
At the same time, I never would have worked him out without this step-by-step guide.
My love life has been a fairytale ever since…
I’m completely grateful to James for turning my fortunes around. It feels selfish to keep this story to myself, which is why I wrote this article.
James has actually created a very unusual video which I believe every woman should see. It's a takeaway from the course which contains a lot of the same information. If you're a woman that is struggling with relationships you have to watch it.
Before you watch it I just ask that you follow 3 simple guidelines:
I know how frustrating it can be to keep losing good men, especially when you have no idea why. It was the bane of my life.
I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone and I'm so much happier now that I've been able to fix that.
That’s why I’m urging you to click here and watch James' video.
Instead of letting great guys slip through your fingers, this could be the beginning of your happy ending.
All the best,