Psychology Today wrote a pretty funny article on how to get men and where to find a husband. They did a knock-off of an article written in 1958. The author said that there were 16 million single women back then.
Now, there are over 61 million single women. According to the article, this is because many women choose to be single today. This may be true, but there are still women out there, trying to find a husband, women who are looking forward to getting married.
If you want to get married, you can! It may take some time and effort, but if you want to find a husband, it’s worth it, right? A little sacrifice is necessary to end your love story the right way.
If you are looking forward to getting married but don’t know where to meet your future husband, you are in luck because my focus is solely on helping you find your future husband.
In this article, I will walk you through how to find a husband with places that you can meet them, plus we’ll cover some tips on how to best find a husband. Are you ready?
One thing you should think about when preparing to meet your future husband is where you would expect him to hang out. What sort of establishments would he be at? Make sure you are focusing your efforts on the kinds of places that you would actually like to see a man at. People tend to flock to locations where like-minded people will be.
If you are a mature woman, looking to get married to a sophisticated man, a comic bookstore is probably not the place where you want to find someone. Instead, a book signing or coffee shop may be where you should focus your efforts. In other words, these ideas aren’t going to work for everyone, but each one offers a way to meet other people.
As you meet people, you make friends, and friends can set you up on dates. Alternatively, your friends have friends, some of whom are men. Remember, if you are going to start a relationship with someone who is husband material, you will have to be somewhat outgoing, friendly, nice, and approachable. No one wants to talk to someone who shuts people out.
So, you have found a man that you want to go on a first date with? That’s great news! Now it’s time to see if he really is marriage material. To do this, you must know how to talk to and read people. Ask him questions related to what you are looking for in a serious relationship.
For example, if being the funny one in the relationship is important to you, see if he makes you laugh. Ask him questions to gauge if he truly is a person you could see yourself marrying. Does he match well with you? Do you think the two of you could make a great team? Be ready to make these assessments as early as the first few dates. These tips should help you out.
Let him take the lead and do all the hard work. If he’s new to the area, you can make suggestions, though.
Before the date, ask him where you will be going, so you know how to dress.
Make sure your hair, makeup, jewelry, and purse all look amazing!
Being hot and sexy is more than just looks. Knock him dead with your self-confidence.
Don’t talk about other dates or your last relationship. Don’t bring up the fact that you want to get married. Don’t talk about controversial topics like religion or politics.
Say, “Please” and “Thank you!” to everyone.
Allow him to open doors for you if he wants to.
Memorize what you plan to ask ahead of time.
You are now in a relationship with someone you consider to be marriage material. Perfect! Now, you just need to build that relationship up the point of marriage. Even though you’ve landed the right guy, that doesn’t mean you should stop trying. Instead, spend time making sure the two of you are suited for marriage.
Men love it when women play hard to get. Yes, he’s landed you at this point, but you should still be a busy person with your own life. Men want to know that you are not dependent on them for your happiness. You should be happy on your own without having men in the picture. Instead of relying on men to make you happy, be independent, and make yourself happy.
This will make him realize what a catch you are and how much he wants to spend forever with you. Being your own person will help you in many ways. First, you are showing him you don’t need him to be happy. Second, you are a busy person, not a needy one. Finally, you can stay a happy individual throughout your marriage, not a burden - someone he has to take care of.
Don’t sit around waiting on the man to call you; be busy. If he doesn’t call, he wasn’t that interested. Back to the drawing board!
This will help you to tell how interested he is in you. Plus, letting him take the lead gives you more time to see if YOU are truly interested in him or not. Don’t answer every call and text right away. After all, you are a busy, single woman.
Don’t spend hours talking on the phone; you have a life!
If you have this rule in your head, you won’t have to have that awkward ending where you don’t know when to call it a night. Give yourself a few hours, enough time for dinner and a movie, then give him a sweet excuse as to why you have to get back home.
Many men hate talking about relationships; it’s a real turn-off, so don’t nag or harp about things all the time.
Remember, you don’t have to say it back until you truly feel that way.
Avoid controversial topics like religion or politics until he brings them up.
Remember, you are trying to assess if he could be your husband one day, so ask questions that will help you in determining if he is the right one for you or not.
People don’t enjoy being around someone who is negative. Try to find the good in life!
Don’t make it seem like you wouldn’t be alive without him. Retain your individuality and independence.
Let things grow in their own time. Pace yourself, or you won’t have anything to talk about later on.
Don’t always wear sweats with an old sweatshirt. Just because you’ve landed a guy, doesn’t mean you should give up on looking hot!
If you are searching for your soulmate online, you may just find him! There are so many dating websites to choose from, too. Plus, the number of dating websites just keeps growing each day. Check out Match, eHarmony, OKCupid, POF (Plenty of Fish), Bumble, and Coffee Meets Bagel. I met my husband on OKCupid and couldn’t be happier.
I like the format of eHarmony and OKCupid the best because they have polls/question-and-answer sections where you take little quizzes. The more quizzes you take, the closer the dating site can match you with someone who is compatible with you. With the results from the quizzes, they can match you, and you can read other people’s answers.
Playing hard to get can be challenging with a dating website, but it’s not impossible. Just don’t respond to messages right away. Take your time formulating the best casual response possible. You want to be friendly and approachable without seeming like you don’t have a life. Stay busy in life, and you will find “playing hard to get” to come naturally.
Don’t complain a lot. If you don’t like your meal or something, don’t make a big deal about it; just say you didn’t realize how full you already were or something.
Don’t talk about heavy, serious subjects in all your messages. Also, don’t make your texts, emails, and messages too long.
Is he even marriage material? You should be able to assess this after a couple of dates. I refer you to the book, Date or Soulmate? How to Know if Someone is Worth Pursuing in Two Dates or Less by Neil Warren, founder of eHarmony.
Look great in pictures, but also put realistic photos of you up.
Meet for the first time in a public place where lots of people will be. Leave the details of the date with someone you trust; call them when you get home; let them know when to expect your call.
This will make you shine in his eyes!
Have at least 5 topics prepped and ready to talk about.
Avoid sticky subjects like your medical condition or mental health.
Prepare an “emergency call” to happen in case you are miserable on the date. If he asks, be honest after the date and tell him you didn’t feel a connection the way you had hoped.
Don’t go overboard, though; just show you are a happy person. Be approachable and friendly. Maintain eye contact
If you’re looking to find a perfect husband, your expectations are too high. No one is perfect. If you are looking to find a good man, I’d suggest trying new things, like a new sport or class. Introduce something in your life that will bring you closer to men.
If you have someone in your love life, a man who loves you the way a man should, you may have just found a relationship that will lead to marriage. He should trust, respect, honor, and always make sure you are cared for. That’s what marriage is all about.
Does your husband value your life? Does he take your marriage seriously and love you, wholeheartedly? If you have a man like that in your life, you know that your marriage is a healthy relationship. Treat him the way you wish to be treated - with respect, honor, and love.
There is no such thing as a perfect husband, but good men love, care, and value their wives. A lot of what makes up a good husband is what you are looking for in life. If you need a funny husband, then, “the one” would make you laugh in life.
What way have you tried to find your husband? Did you find “the one” online or at a public location? Where have you tried to find someone? Which one of my suggestions best helped you?
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