You might have been in your current relationship for a little while and you’re thinking about your future plans together. Where is this going for you? Is this it? Is this who you want to be with forever? Before you think too far ahead, you might want to make sure that your boyfriend is definitely the right one for you. There may signs you can take a look at to see if your boyfriend really is husband material.
So, that’s why I have put together this article. We are going to run through twelve of the signs that your boyfriend will be showing if he is the perfect husband material. Then you will be able to find out if you should marry him, or if he’s not quite ready yet.
One of the main signs that you should marry your boyfriend will be if you both have the same aspirations for the future. Not only is it essential that you are on the same page if you are going to be together forever, but it’s a big sign that he’s the man for you if he wants the same things. If you are in a relationship where future goals and dreams aren’t shared, or at least similar, you could run it to many problems in the future if you decide to get married. There will have to be a lot of compromises and someone might end up unsatisfied with their life.
On the other hand, you will be able to easily marry and settle down with him if his dreams are the same – perhaps you have discussed that you both want children within the next five years, you want to buy a house, or you want to get married and travel the world together. Whatever your dreams are, if they align, you are in the perfect relationship to turn into a marriage.
This sounds like a really strange point because of course, you should be in love with someone if you are in a relationship with them, especially if you are thinking about marrying them. However, you must be still in love with your partner, even after you have been together for a while. Every single relationship has a honeymoon phase at the beginning of it. This is the stage when you are just getting to know each other, you are having sex whenever you can and you just can’t get enough of this person. This stage normally lasts about a year. After that, real-life kicks in and the relationship can be taken for granted by both people.
This is the point where a lot of people give up because they only enjoyed the exciting stage. If you have got through the honeymoon stage, and you are still in love with this person then you are with the perfect person – the one you should marry. Of course, you might not be as outwardly crazy about them as you were when you were first dating, but the love should still very much be there for them.
The bottom line is that you should only ever even consider marriage with someone that you feel like you can be yourself around. You should never act differently around the person you want to marry because they should accept and love you for who you truly are. You should be completely comfortable just being yourself. You should be able to share pretty much everything that you want to without feeling judged by your partner. Your man should also feel like the can be totally himself. There will be an amazing feeling of acceptance in your relationship. If these things are all true, then this man is one step closer to looking like husband material.
If you go into a marriage with someone that you can’t act yourself around, then you are setting yourself up for failure. Marriage is a life long commitment, so why would you put yourself through acting like someone you’re not for the rest of your life?
In relationships, people argue. This is, unfortunately, a fact of life, and it won’t change miraculously when you are married. However, confrontation in relationships can actually be a really healthy thing, as long as it is managed properly. You need to think about how you both act when conflict arises between you both. A healthy argument is one that arises, happens and then is discussed and moved forward from. You should always discuss after an argument and figure out why it all got so heated in the first place. You can actually have really productive arguments in a relationship, as long as they are dealt with maturely and well. If you can already handle arguments well together while you’re just dating, you are going to be just as great doing it if you were going to be married.
You shouldn’t get married to this person if you have really turbulent or unhealthy patterns when you argue. Examples of this would be keeping an argument going for days or weeks, being particularly aggressive towards each other or closing yourselves off to each other and then pretending that it’s all fine when you come back together. You should also never get into a marriage with someone if they are either physically or emotionally abusive to you. You might think that it’s difficult to get out of an abusive relationship, but it’s even harder to get out of an abusive marriage. Even if you are only slightly worried about your partner’s aggressive behavior, it’s not a good idea to push it to the back of your mind and go forward-thinking he will be the one you should marry.
The two of you must have complete and absolute trust in one another if a marriage is going to work between you. So, how much do you trust your boyfriend? If you trust him fully and you know that he trusts you, you are on the way to having a perfect husband by your side. If your man has never given you a reason not to trust him, you should be really happy about that. Your relationship is clearly strong is the two of you have this much trust between each other, even before you have said your vows. Trust is such a big foundation that your marriage with each other would rely on, so it’s amazing news if you already trust each other so much.
If you don’t trust each other, then this is a problem. Although it’s normal for you to take some time before you trust your partner if they have ever given a reason for you to not trust them this is a red flag. Of course, you can work on trusting someone again after they have lost your trust, but it’s hard. Like I mentioned above, trust is crucial in a marriage, so if you don’t have any in your partner, you’re probably not with the right person to marry.
This should be a mutual thing – there should be huge amounts of care going between you both in this relationship, especially if you are wanting to marry this man. Does he take care of you when you’re sick? Does he try to help you with any task you can’t do yourself? Does he do small acts that he knows will make your day that little bit easier? If you answered yes to all of these questions, then you could be looking at your future husband. If he is already taking this kind of care of you before you are even properly bound together then that’s great news. You need to have someone by your side that is going to take care of you, especially when you go through rough patches or you can’t take care of yourself.
On the flip side, you shouldn’t marry anyone that cares less about you than they do about themselves. In a strong and healthy relationship, you should really always take more care of your partner than you do towards yourself. I’m not saying that a healthy relationship needs to be completely selfless, of course, you should take care of yourself too and there’s nothing wrong with your man if he does this. However, you don’t want to enter into a marriage with someone that is completely selfish and taking care of you doesn’t even cross his mind.
Every relationship comes with its own problems, but these bad parts of the relationship should never outweigh the benefit of the relationship. If you don’t have any big worries about your relationship, this is a good start. If you feel secure with your man and in your relationship, then you should still feel secure if you are going to enter into a marriage together. When you think about your relationship, do you think of positive things? When you think about your man, do you think of all of his good qualities? If your answer is yes to both of these questions then that’s wonderful. You sound like you have a great relationship where all the positives of being together are the only things that properly stand out.
If you are anxious or worried about some of the things in your relationship, then you aren’t ready for marriage. Your relationship should be a safe place that will pick you up when you feel down. Your man should be the one that you tell all of your worries to, not the one that is causing you to worry about freak out. If you try to push the negative parts of your relationship to the back of your mind and then get married, these negative things will still surface at some point. So, if your relationship has some big problems, you are either going to work hard at fixing them, or this man isn’t the one for you.
One of the most important things to us all when we are in a relationship with someone is that our family likes the person we are with. If your family loves the man that you’re with like he is already their son, then you have your answer. The same goes for your friends. You will obviously want your friends to like your boyfriend. So, if your friends love to hang out with your boyfriend, then you have the approval from them too. It’s an amazing feeling when you are with someone that your loved ones like just as much as you do. It is also really important that your man’s family and friends feel the same about you. You should just all click together, and there shouldn’t be any problems. This is the best situation to be in if you are wanting to marry this man because everyone around you has already accepted him.
If your family doesn’t like your partner, then this could cause a lot of problems. Perhaps your family is just incredibly protective over you and they need to release you, or they could see a few negative qualities in your man that you are blind to. If your family and friends don’t approve then this is probably not the man you should marry, or you are going to have to put a lot of effort into getting them to like him. Acceptance from friends and family should be pretty easy, so you shouldn’t have to try this hard.
Do you miss this man being around you when he’s gone? Are things just not as fun without him? If these things resonate with you, then you are probably with the man that you should marry. It shouldn’t feel like your world crumbles when he is gone, because let’s face it, that is a little bit dramatic and intense. But you will probably feel a little lost without him around. He is the missing piece to your puzzle. Even though you can survive without him around, you are only really living when he is with you. When you aren’t together, you will probably be messaging each other saying that you miss each other about ten times a day. This is the man you should marry, because he is the person that completes you, and you don’t want to be without him.
If you don’t really miss your man when you are apart, then it’s probably not the right relationship for you to be in. Although I mentioned above that, of course, you should be able to stand on your own two feet without your man by your side, you should still miss him when he isn’t there. If you would rather spend time with your friends or another man, then this definitely isn’t the person you should marry, and he doesn’t complete you.
In a good relationship, you should always be proud of the person you are with. You should not only be proud to be with them for the attention and love they show you, but you should be proud of their characteristics that they show the world. If your man is kind to everyone, works hard and wants to make you proud of him, then you could just be staring at the man that is going to make you his wife.
There is nothing worse than feeling embarrassed about the person you are with. For example, is your man particularly rude to the waiters when you go out for dinner, or does he brag too much about how much money he earns? Anything like this will turn you off fast, and it’s wrong. You should be in a relationship with someone that you want to shout about from the rooftops. If you don’t feel like this about your man, it is not a good idea to think of him as a potential husband.
You will know that you are in a successful and happy relationship with your man if even the smallest and most menial things in life are still made fun when you are doing them with him. Things, like doing the laundry or cooking dinner, can be made into memories, because the two of you are having a great time even when you are doing something boring. It’s really important that you can still have fun with your man even when you are doing the simple and not so fun tasks of life. You can definitely see this man as your future husband if this is the case because you know that whatever you do together will always be a good time.
Do you get angry or frustrated when you and your man are doing something basic and boring? Would you prefer to go out and have nice dinners with him all the time? Getting wined and dined by someone is a completely different experience to doing the housework with them of course. However, you should still be happy when you’re doing less fun things with your partner, and if you aren’t, then this isn’t the man you are going to be able to cohabit with and marry.
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The saying goes, if it doesn’t kill you it will make you stronger, and this is exactly the same in relationships. If you come across something in your relationship that is difficult to deal with, but you don’t let it break you, the relationship will only great stronger. This can be anything, but for example, it could be that one of you was emotionally leaning on the other because of a bad breakdown. It could even be that there was a lack of trust in the relationship early on, but you have worked through it. If you can work through some bad situations, then nothing else should phase you. You know that your relationship can now survive and flourish, even when things sometimes don’t go to plan. If you have had this happen within your relationship, then you’re pretty set to just grow stronger as a couple in marriage.
If you have let something that happened between you slowly ruin the relationship between you then that is a problem. The two of you are just clearly not the right type of people to work through issues and life’s bad situations with each other. You might not be the best at communicating with each other, or you might just not care enough to work through a hard time. Whatever the reasons are, you shouldn’t think about marrying each other, because life is only ever going to throw more situations your way, and not all of them will be positive ones. You need to be in a marriage with someone that you know you can depend on and work at things with.
I hope that this article has helped you see if your boyfriend might be husband material. The only other thing I could say is that you will know in your heart if he really is the one that you should be with forever. Also, a happy and healthy relationship should be easy. It should just go with the flow in good times, and when bad times come around, you will pull together and work through it. If this is the kind of relationship you share with your man, he might be the future for you.
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