Sagittarius men are wonderfully enthusiastic and inquisitive and make the perfect travelling partners. They are entertaining, philosophical, and always searching for answers to the big questions in life. It’s no wonder people naturally gravitate to them.
They are also painfully blunt and brutally honest. So you would think that if they’re not interested you’d know about it. Well, yes and no. When a Sagittarius man is not interested there are signs you can look out for. Some are obvious but there are a few that might surprise you.
Before I explore the signs of when a Sagittarius man is not interested, let’s examine the typical Sagittarius man in love to get some context.
Sagittarius is no hurry to settle down. In fact, he will prefer to have casual affairs rather than a serious relationship. You have to remember that this sign is the traveller of the Zodiac.
This star sign is nothing like Cancer who wants to start a family. A Sagittarius man feels none of the weight of family commitments that Capricorn bears with such stoic loyalty.
Where the Archer fires his arrow the feet of the centaur carries him wherever it lands. This guy is a truth-seeker. He needs answers to the big questions. Not only answers to life, the universe and everything, but answers about himself.
He doesn’t need a partner or a relationship to solve those questions. But once in a while, someone comes along and the man’s head on the centaur does a double-take. The hooves skid to a halt and he puts aside the burning enquiries of life to pursue a different quest – one of love.
In a way, he will use this pursuit of love as another truth-seeking mission. What does true love mean? How can it be nurtured and kept safe? What happens if it dies? How does he get to keep hold of this relationship?
What does he get out of it? What time and attention should he give towards it?
If this all sounds very romantic then it is supposed to. Once a Sagittarius man meets the woman of his dreams then he swaps the bow and arrow for a sword. He becomes the knight in shining armour.
Up until that moment, his partners have been little but playthings to experiment with. He hasn’t been concerned with their feelings. He has been a passive observer as they’ve reacted to his blunt and brutal commentary.
He has watched as they’ve packed up their stuff, weeping as they’ve gone on their way, wiping the tears from their eyes. He’s remained unaffected. Until now.
Suddenly all bets are off. Now the tables have turned. It’s his turn to feel vulnerable. Now he doesn’t feel in control. He senses a rising panic in his stomach. And he doesn’t like this new feeling. He is committed to this relationship.
He may do things he has never done before. He may also find that he has never felt this way before. And he might not like it.
So he does everything in his power to stop it. He buys flowers, expensive presents, pays compliments, pays her attention. He’s loving in a way he never has been before. He feels close enough to reveal his deepest and darkest secrets.
He tells his new love about these awful feelings of panic and despair and she laughs knowingly. ‘That’s true love’ she says. He finally knows the truth. His quest is over. And for once he has found an answer to the biggest question of all.
When a Sagittarius guy finds the perfect partner it lasts a lifetime. But of course, not all relationships are destined to last. Sometimes two people meet and think they are right for each other and it doesn’t work out.
So how can you tell when a Sagittarius man is not interested? You need to look out for the following signs.
The most important thing a Sagittarius man does if he loves you is notice how you are. He will ask you about your day and he will certainly know if you are happy or sad. This guy will give you attention.
So if he no longer seems to care about your wellbeing it is a good sign that he is not interested. He may still ask you general questions about work or family, but he won’t really be taking in your answers.
Although a Sagittarius man is renowned for his brutal honesty, if a relationship is over he will have already moved on. As such, it is easier for him to avoid having that awkward conversation with you.
He will do anything in his power to avoid it. You might find that you have been ghosted by him. He no longer returns your texts or calls or emails. He might stand you up for dates and then not text to explain why. If this happens it is a major sign he is not interested.
Now some people are just naturally busy all the time but there’s a big clue that this behaviour relates to him losing interest in you. If a Sagittarius man is constantly slow to return your calls or texts and then doesn’t apologise this is a sign he’s not interested.
Particularly if his responses are monosyllabic. However, if he apologises profusely and explains why in detail then your relationship is ok.
Again, this is another case of having to use your own judgement. Sometimes we embark on relationships and it’s just not a great time to do so. We might be in the middle of a busy time in our career.
But we may have met someone that we don’t want to slip through our fingers. So what do we do? Well, you explain what’s going on, that's what you do. If you are constantly getting a busy message with no explanation that cut this guy loose.
If someone is genuine about wanting to see you then they will make time to see you.
When a Sagittarius man is not interested he will start to show his nasty side. The blunt and honest nature will come out and he won’t care. It is so embedded in his nature so you will find that he probably won’t even know he is doing it.
Remember, a Sagittarius guy can be brutal when he goes on the attack. So if he lashes out one day out of nowhere and you are shocked and stunned by what he’s said, see it as a sign. Particularly if he has never acted like this before. He’ll say things that are cruel and hurtful.
When a Sagittarius guy finds the woman he wants to settle down with he can’t keep his hands off them. He becomes ultra-romantic, eager to please, to show his feelings, full of affection and love. He’s just happy and delirious to be close to his partner.
And don’t forget, this is the guy that treasures his freedom. This is the man that has itchy feet and always wants to be away travelling, discovering some new country. So the moment he stops being affectionate and wants his space you should be worried.
Now I’ve said before that a Sagittarius man is not necessarily family-orientated but that’s before he meets ‘the one’. Because when these guys fall in love they fall hard. So, the first things they want to do is show off their love to their nearest and dearest.
Therefore, you can bet your next month’s salary that if you never get to meet the parents you are not the one. In fact, your man is not interested in you that way. Because he will only ever take a special woman to meet mum and dad.
When a Sagittarius man is not interested and you want to get his attention there are things you can do.
Sagittarius guys hate to feel trapped or restricted. When they do they’ll back off or lash out. They’ll feel cornered and so their only strategy is to get out and escape. So never make him feel like he is constricted in any way.
All you can do is allow him his space to realise that you are not restricting his freedom. Once he begins to understand this he will slowly come back to you,
The opposite of making a Sagittarius man feel trapped is to make him feel excited about an up and coming adventure. Sagittarians love nothing more than planning a trip away.
Why not pique his natural wandering spirit and leave some travel brochures lying around. Or suggest a few city breaks to someone exotic?
Sagittarians like to solve mysteries so why not be their latest puzzle? You don’t have to leave clues lying around all over the place. It can be as simple as not responding to texts or phone calls immediately.
You don’t have to be available all the time. Make your own plans for the weekend. Say that you’re going out with the girls one Saturday night instead of your regular date night with him. Just shake things up a little.
Sagittarius do not play mind games. They are upfront and honest with their thoughts and feelings. In fact, some would say that they can be too honest. This sign has a tendency to be brutal in their opinions so if they don’t like you then you’ll definitely know about it.
You have to ignite his sense of adventure and excitement. Sagittarians love exploring and learning but they also have a fear of missing out on all the fun. So you can appeal to this side of him by showing him all the amazing things you are doing.
By catching his attention. Sagittarians are attracted to those that dream and wonder at the miracles and curiosities of life. They are forever searching and adding to their extensive knowledge. Show them your passionate side and they’ll realise that you are a kindred soul.
Sagittarius guys are either into you or they are not. It’s as if they have an on and off switch when it comes to a relationship. You are either a casual fling or something serious. Serious means attention, affection, time spent with you and warmth.
Typically Sagittarius will want to know why you are ignoring him. But only if he is truly in love with you. If you are a casual acquaintance he might not even realise that you are ignoring him. And worse of all, by the time he has he may have moved on.
That’s my take on when a Sagittarius man is not interested. So how about you? Have you had experience dating a Sagittarius man? If so I’d love to hear your comments. And if you enjoyed this article please feel free to share it with your friends.