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61 Things To Text A Guy To Get His Attention

Is there a special man in your life who isn’t paying enough attention to you?

Are you wondering what to text to get him back onside?

If so, this is the guide for you. 

It features 61 examples of text messages to send to a guy to get his attention. 

However, before you read them, I urge you to focus carefully on these next few sentences.  

There is an effective way to make a man OBSESS over you, which is far more powerful than any words on a screen.

I used to be the young woman sitting at home alone, trying to craft the perfect message to win my crush over.

However, it was often in vain - because I didn’t know how to treat men properly. 

Thankfully, this all changed for me. 

And it all started when I learned about a hardly-known aspect of male psychology called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.

This knowledge changed my life. 

It taught me how to treat men in a manner they find IRRESISTIBLE. When you follow this pattern, it triggers feelings of longing within them. Read my personal story to learn how it works.

Learning how to activate the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ isn’t as simple as sending a text message, but it’s far more consistent and effective. 

If you’re sick and tired of great guys ignoring you, I urge you to learn more about how I discovered this psychological trigger

Then, by all means, have a look at these engaging text messages.

Are you excited to get started now? You may want to take notes if you are ready to text your flame!

Table of Contents

Show Him You Exist

If you’re not that close to him, you should find an excuse to text him or a way to communicate with him that’s not too forward. After all, you don’t want to come across as too strong, especially if he’s just a crush (so far)! Instead, find at least one thing that you have in common or that you know he likes and bring that thing up in conversation (via texting).

Notice that each of these texts ends with a question. That’s because you want to get him to respond back with more than just a yes or no answer. You want to engage in a conversation with him, and the best way to do that is to ask open-ended questions. This will also help you get to know him better. Before you chase after a guy, you want to make sure you do like him.

You can sort of act like the damsel in distress with these texts. Don’t come across as too needy, though. You just want him to know that you are out there and are maybe interested in him. Since the questions are open-ended, you are leaving him plenty of room to make a move and get to know you better. Here are some innocent things you can write that won’t put you on the spot. 

  1. “Since you understand [quantum physics], do you think maybe you could help me out?”

  2. “I remember [the new marketing parameters from today’s meeting] but forgot [when they are starting]. Can you remind me?”

  3. “What time did you want to go?” Followed by…

  4. “Oops! I meant to send that to [my friend, Cindy]! But hey! What’s up?”

  5. “I have a problem with [something only he can fix]. Can you help?”

  6. “What was your day like?” or 

  7. “What does your day look like so far?”

  8. “Hey! I was just curious. What’s your favorite color?”

  9. “I forgot [my good umbrella at the office]. Can you remind me to [grab it tomorrow]?”

  10. “I need some advice on [add a subject that he’s interested in]. Can you help?”

Play Hard To Get

If you suffer from shyness but want to get his attention, you can text just about anything to break your fear, but let’s keep the mystery alive by playing a little hard to get. You don’t want to come across too forward or desperate; you want him to know you have a life. To do this, you’ll need to play a little hardball. 

Play Hard To Get

If you can’t control the texting, consider deleting his number from your phone. Let’s look at some general guidelines that you can follow when playing hard to get. Probably the best way to be elusive is to not text him at all. Instead, wait for him to miss talking to you or let him come to the realization of what a catch you are on his own.

Here are a few general guidelines that can help you in playing hard to get. Send him one text; multiple texts give the ‘needy’ vibe. If he writes to you, take your time replying to him. In fact, try not to respond after 8 pm or before 9 am. You want it to at least look like you have a life outside of your phone. You want to remain mysterious in his eyes. But, if you must, say things like this:

  1. “I’m walking out the door but wanted to say, Hey!”

  2. “Thanks for the pic! :)”

  3. “Hey! Just got your message. Been crazy busy!”

  4. “Gonna go hit the gym! Later!”

  5. “Have an awesome day!”

  6. “Saw the game last night. Sorry that your team lost. Maybe next year!”

  7. [When asked about an ex], “It just didn’t work out.”

  8. “Work is crazy. Off to another meeting. Gotta run!”

  9. “I’m busy right now, but will text you back later.”

Catch Him Off Guard

This way to get a guy’s attention may seem weird or surprising, but it can work for you! The point is to shock or surprise him by your words. After all, you want to get his attention, don’t you? Well, these have the shock-and-awe, cannot-resist-texting-back factor to them. It just takes one little message to peak his interest in a conversation with you. 

These are great ways to capture a guy’s full attention. Really, you can say just about anything to get his attention, but these things will surely make the guy want to send you that one text that gets the two of you talking. The point here is to stand out as the one who truly knows how to shock a man! However, before you send one of these messages, be ready for a follow-up text.

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  1. “Can you keep a secret?”

  2. “I have a confession to make. Are you ready?”

  3. “I’m scared [of this tornado]. How ‘bout you?”

  4. “You will never believe what just happened to me. Guess?”

  5. “Hey! Did you have an awesome birthday today?”

  6. “OMG! OMG! OMG! Guess what?”

  7. “I think I made a big mistake! Uh…?”

  8. “I had the wildest dream last night! Wanna hear more?”

  9. “BYOB. You coming?”

  10. “I bet I can make you laugh. Are you ready?”

  11. “[gibberish…]?”

  12. “LMAO. Did you just come up with that?”

  13. “I had such a crazy night! Can you believe it?”

Show Him You Like Him

If you really want your crush to respond to your message, be sure you ask him a question at the end of your text. These sample messages definitely show a guy you care and want to be more than friends. You are asking about his day, showing you aren’t selfish; you are asking him out, showing you are interested in learning more about him. 

Too forward? Maybe. But, if he hasn’t pursued you and you feel like he needs to know the real you, it may be time to take matters into your own hands. This means putting yourself out there, showing him you aren’t afraid to speak up and show that you like him. 

Be sure to tailor the message to your crush’s status with you. In other words, if you and your man are merely flirting right now, saying, “Hey sexy!” might be appropriate. But, if you haven’t stepped outside of the friend zone yet, you may want to tone it down, at least until he shows he’s interested in you, too. You just don’t want to come across as being too needy.

  1. “I’ve got to get out of the house. Care to join?”

  2. “I can’t stop thinking about you. You?”

  3. “Hey, Sexy! Wassup?”

  4. “You looked smokin’ hot today. Wanna go out?”

  5. “I can’t get you off my mind. Going insane. You gonna cure me?”

  6. “Sooo… I was thinking about you…”

  7. “I want to binge-watch Netflix. Care to join?”

  8. “I have an extra ticket to [the game/concert]. Wanna go with me?”

  9. “I cannot stop smiling. Wanna know why?”

  10. “What’s up with you right now?”

Show Him You’re Horny

These text messages are tailored to guys you have already slept with or plan to. You want to already be in a romantic relationship or at least be in the process of cooking one up. These may seem to be a little forward, but sometimes, you have to put yourself out there and flirt to get the other person to notice you!

Consider sending him a sexy selfie of you (when you look your hottest). Don’t go too racy unless you completely trust him. The last thing you want is to find out he’s passing a half-naked picture of you around to his friends or exposing you on the Internet. You could also try sending a sexy meme. One that says, “You’re smoking hot!” or something like that.

  1. “What are you wearing?”

  2. “I think someone stole my clothes. Care to help me look?”

  3. “Had a bad day. Care to make it better?”

  4. “I can’t figure out what to wear tonight. Can you help?”

  5. “I’m opening a bottle of wine and can’t drink alone. Help, please?”

  6. “What do you think I’m wearing?”

  7. “So… You wanna make out?”

Make Him All Hot And Bothered

These texts are made for men that you have already slept with; hopefully, this is your boyfriend or husband because they are pretty hot! However, if you want to tap into his brain and make him think about making love to you all day, tease him a little with these texts! Make him want you, oh so bad!

Make Him All Hot And Bothered

If you are ready to take the relationship from its current status to “sexy mama” status, try sending one of these messages or one that’s similar. You will surely get under his skin, and he won’t be able to get you off his mind! You will enter his every thought as he imagines you all pretty and waiting for him to come and make sweet love to you!

  1. “What’s your favorite part of my body?”

  2. “I can’t stop thinking about you naked. When will you be home?”

  3. “I lost my panties. Can you start a search party?”

  4. “If you could touch me right now, where would you begin?”

  5. “I’m aching for you. Can you come here right now?”

  6. “Would you like a striptease dance?”

  7. “Are you up for sexting?”

  8. “I’m so horny right now. I really want you.”

  9. “Do you wanna play sexy truth or dare?”

  10. “I can’t stop thinking about you naked.”

  11. “What’s your biggest fantasy?”

  12. “I want you so bad. Can you come over?”


How do you get a guy’s attention over text?

If you want to know how to text guys to get their attention, you may want to try talking about something they’re interested in, something that will definitely make them want to respond back, like, “I saw [his team] lost last night. What happened? I missed the game!”

What to text a guy to make him think about you?

If you want to be in his thoughts, consider going the sexy route. Nothing will rock his world quite like a message about sex. If this is your boyfriend, go ahead and share what you’re wearing, what you want to do to him, and how much you miss his body.

What do I text a guy to start a conversation?

If you want to know how to text a guy to start a conversation, you should send him interesting texts with questions. Find out what he’s interested in or doing, and talk about that. Figuring out what to text to a guy you like is all about the entertainment factor.

How do you get a guy to text you first without texting him?

Send an “Oops” text, a text where you act like you are talking to someone else, and then say, “Sorry! That was meant for someone else!” You could talk about what a fun time you had last night at the concert or something equally entertaining. Don’t make something up, though. 

How do I keep him wanting more?

Guys love a challenge, so I wouldn’t recommend sending repeat texts if he doesn’t respond. If you know a great joke he’d love or are just a genuinely funny person, make him laugh! He’ll want to talk more because you made him light up with happy thoughts and some laughter!

To Conclude...

Have you tried using texting to capture a man’s heart? What did you say that worked? Are you a texting genie? 

If you are still looking for the right thing to say, hopefully, this article gave you some ideas!

Please comment and share! We’d love to hear from you!

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