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30 Signs He Has Feelings for Another Woman and What to Do About It

Are you worried that your boyfriend has feelings for another woman? 

Do you believe his affection for you is dwindling because someone else has caught his eye? 

Perhaps you’re having horrible premonitions of being replaced by another woman he knows.

If you are feeling this way, you need to discover the truth about what’s going on. 

This uncertainty will drive you two apart, even if you remain the only apple of his eye. 

Most likely, this paranoia won’t dissipate until you see proof that you’re the only woman he’s interested in. 

The article below presents 30 telltale signs that his eye is beginning to look elsewhere. Use these to decide whether you need to dig further into his behavior.

30 Signs He Has Feelings for Another Woman

1. He is suddenly less interested in you

he is suddenly less interested in you

This is probably the most obvious sign that he is interested in someone else, and not you. When someone has feelings for us, they will make a lot of effort to be as close to us as possible, both physically and emotionally.

If your man has suddenly stopped listening to you when you speak or the physical relationship between you both abruptly comes to a halt, this might be one of the signs he has feelings for another woman.

2. There is less physical affection between you

The loss or lack of physical connection between you both can be one of the most distinct signs he is interested in someone else. When I talk about 'physical affection' here, this could mean anything from a cuddle through to sex. If he shows little interest in sex or has stopped kissing you goodbye, then it's probably because his heart is not in the relationship anymore.

3. They begin to start talking about a new person, a lot

If he has, or is developing feelings for another woman, this might be difficult for him to hide. Whenever we are interested in someone, we want to gush to everyone about them. 

Even though he might be trying to control himself, he might mention her name a lot or try to bring her into the conversations you are having. This can be especially alarming if she wasn't his friend previously and seems to have popped up out of nowhere.

4. He stops being open with you

You might be used to talking about everything and anything, sharing all your feelings and thoughts. Your relationship should be an open and safe space, where you can share everything. 

However, if he has feelings for someone else, this might have changed. If you notice a difference, and he is closing off emotionally to you, this is not good news. He might just be confiding in someone else.

5. He is always on his phone

Does it always feel like his phone is blowing up? Maybe you're out for a date night, and he won't stop texting. This could be one of the simplest signs he is talking to someone else, especially if he is acting shady and not answering incoming calls in front of you. 

If you ask who he is calling, and he acts standoffish or can't give an answer quickly, this is a powerful indicator that it's not just his work or friends that are needing to speak to him – it's probably someone a little more significant to him that he is hiding from you.

6. His schedule seems to have gotten a lot busier

If he is seeing someone else, you might start noticing that he seems unusually busy. It might mean that you are spending less time together or that plans you have together are only happening when it's convenient for him

It might start to feel like whenever you both hang out, it's always on his terms if he is especially unavailable on evenings and weekends (usually a time that people have off from work and can go on dates) that is especially suspicious.

7. Does he act a different way around someone that is suspicious?

If you notice that whenever a specific girl is around, he acts nervous or changes his behavior, then that could be a secure sign he has feelings for that person. When you are with this girl and him, try to think about his changes in behavior - does he try to act more manly, or is he messing up his words? 

Think back to when you first started dating, did he move this way around you? If so, then you might be looking at the girl that he has feelings for.

8. Is he always paying attention to someone specific on social media?

In this day and age, relationships are made more complicated by the use of social media. It's important not to read too much into social media if you don't have any other suspicions. However, if you do think that your man has feelings for another woman and have an idea about who the woman might be, take a look at her social media. 

Has he commented on her photos a lot? Or can you see that he's liked every single picture? Maybe it is nothing, and they are, as he keeps insisting, just friends. However, if a lot of the other signs in this article are ringing true for you, this could be the icing on the cake.

9. He is acting defensively

he is acting defensively

Have you noticed that he starts taking everything the wrong way? Maybe he's acting short-tempered at every innocent question you ask him? This is because inside him, his guilt is piling up, and he starts to feel emotionally frustrated. 

His natural defenses will come up because he is hiding something from you. So, if suddenly your man is coming across moody or abrupt for no reason, this is a cause for concern.

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All hell will probably break loose if you try to question his feelings for another woman. It's just important to remind yourself that you do not deserve any of this, and his negative emotions are only his guilty conscience. You shouldn't have a relationship where you are walking on eggshells.

10. You get a gut feeling

Instinct and gut feelings are usually telling you the right thing. Your body will pick up on anything that doesn't feel quite right. So, if you think he has feelings for another woman, you're probably right. If you have an inkling on who the woman is and you are in a room with both him and her, you will most likely be able to feel if there is romantic or sexual tension between them.

11. He’s suddenly more conscious of his appearance 

If your man all of a sudden starts taking more care of his physical appearance than usual, it’s one of the many signs worth paying attention to… something’s possibly off about this scenario. 

While he may just be taking care of his health and well-being by going to the gym, dressing nicely, and paying more attention to detail when it comes to his appearance, it may also signal that there's another woman who’s piqued his interest.

12. What would an outsider say? 

Sometimes it’s important to remove yourself from a situation and get an outsider’s opinion. Oftentimes we get so caught up in our thoughts and emotions that we cannot see things clearly or rationally. 

Confide in your friends and family about the way you’re feeling and your concerns and see what they have to say, perhaps they’ve also noticed some red flags. Or, perhaps, they can offer a lending ear and some sage advice. You have nothing to lose.

13. He accidentally brings up things you didn’t do together

If he accidentally brings up things like the new coffee shop you tried out together or the latest movie you watched together, only to realize it wasn’t you that he went with, this is one of the biggest signs that he’s been spending time with someone else! 

Once he’s been caught red-handed he might try to backtrack or make up excuses by saying things like “oh, it was my brother I was with” or “ah, I must’ve gone there before we started dating.” I would suggest trusting your gut feeling in this scenario and calling him out on the spot if you’re sure he’s lying

14. Your relationship feels stuck 

If your relationship all of a sudden comes to a standing halt or if it feels like things have been stuck, moving nowhere fast, it might be because he’s losing interest or because he’s developed feelings for someone else. 

It is, however, important to remember that even in healthy relationships, where partners are loyal and committed, you may feel stuck from time to time. Working through this will strengthen your bond. Speaking to a professional, like someone from Relationship Hero, will give you the clarity and guidance needed to navigate your way through hard times.

15. He no longer focuses on the little things in your relationship

If your partner is usually very attentive and makes you feel special in small, but important, ways like buying you flowers, opening the door for you, and pulling out your chair, and these things suddenly stop, you might want to ask some questions. Chances are he has something else on his mind. Could it be another woman?

The only way to get clarity about the change in his behavior is by asking him. Perhaps he’s just stressed and didn’t realize what’s been happening. Or, perhaps he’ll open up about deeper issues at hand.

16. He never shows affection in public

If your partner is affectionate behind closed doors but when it comes to any sort of PDA he’s uninterested, it’s a clear sign he wants to hide his relationship status from the outside world or any eyes that might be watching on. 

Sure, not everyone wants to be smooching in public 24/7 but small things like holding hands and gentle caresses shouldn’t be shied away from if you’ve been with your partner for a while.

Worse yet, if your man used to be open to public displays of affection but has had a sudden change of heart, it’s a red flag. In this case, he could very likely be talking to, or seeing, another woman.

17. He’s no longer enthusiastic 

Is he all of a sudden less enthusiastic about date nights and seeing you? Does it feel like he no longer contributes to the conversation? Is he constantly glancing down at his watch when you’re on a date, wanting to get out? These are all telltale signs that his mind is elsewhere and that hisheart is perhaps invested elsewhere, too. 

If this is the case, bring it to his attention and see what comes up or if he changes his behavior for the better. If not, it might be time to walk away. 

18. He avoids talking about the future

he avoids talking about the future

If you’re in a serious relationship but your man avoids talking about the future, it’s a sign there’s some level of uncertainty on his side. Perhaps there’s someone else in his life who’s causing him to feel uncertain about the future of the two of you? 

This is worth looking further into, in my opinion. You don’t want to invest your time, energy, and heart into a relationship that has no future. 

19. He avoids using relationship titles when introducing you to people

If he avoids using relationship titles, especially around a particular person, there’s a reason for it. People usually avoid using relationship titles in front of other people when they want to keep their options open. He’s likely doing this to create some distance between the two of you while his mind and eye is on someone else. 

Confront him by asking him why he avoids introducing you as his girlfriend. If he doesn’t change this habit it might be one of the signs he has feelings for another woman and that your relationship might already be over. 

20. He avoids eye contact 

If someone is in love with you or has a crush on you, there’ll be obvious signs, including intense/prolonged eye contact. You’ll also probably catch them staring at you from time to time in adoration. Eye contact is said to increase passion and indicate intimacy. 

If there’s no eye contact, it’s a strong sign that something’s not right in your relationship. 

If he’s avoiding eye contact it might be a sign that he’sfeeling guilty about something, perhaps another woman. 

21. He calls you by another name

If he accidentally calls you a different name (that’s not his sister/mother/co-worker/ex’s name), you can be sure there’s another woman in the picture and on his mind! See what his face reveals in the moment and nip it in the bud there and then. 

22. He becomes charming around another woman 

If a married man lights up around a woman other than his wife, it’s a good indicator that he’s interested in her. Especially if this happens on more than one occasion. It might be an innocent crush (which can still feel unsettling for his partner), or it might indicate he has lost interest in his current relationship and has developed strong feelings for the other woman. 

Watch who he becomes extra charming around, it’s a red flag.

23. He starts becoming critical of you

If he’s suddenly overly critical of you and everything you do, it may be because he’s comparing you to someone else or because he’s annoyed by having you in his space when he’d rather be with another woman. Talk to him about the way his criticism makes you feel and see if he becomes kinder and gentler in time. If not, leave your toxic relationship. 

24. He spends more time away from home

A man who’s having an affair will suddenly start spending more and more time away from home. He’ll always have excuses for why he’s not present, like having to work more/longer hours, or meeting up with friends. 

If you’re suspicious about his whereabouts, or concerned about your relationship, sit down and have a serious talk with him. If there’s genuinely nothing to worry about, he’ll show you through his actions by being present more often and making more of an effort with you.

25. He introduces you to a new female friend

If you’ve been dating for a while and he suddenly introduces you to a new female friend, without any clear indication of where they met, it might raise a few questions. 

However, before you accuse him of infidelity, watch and see if any other signs come up that he might have feelings for her. 

26. He hides his phone and computer

If you have a sneaking suspicion that there’s someone else he’s developed feelings for, pay particular attention to the way he is with his phone, computer, and any other personal devices. If he hides his phone/computer from you and always has it on him/keeps it locked/has turned notifications off/has changed his passwords, it’s a clear cause for concern. 

Always keep in mind that you deserve someone who’s open, honest, and doesn’t hide things from you. If this is not the case, you may want to reevaluate your relationship.

27. His routine has changed 

his routine has changed

If he’s usually quite structured around a specific routine but all of a sudden changes things up, it may cause you to wonder why. Perhaps he simply wants a change of scenery. However, if his behavior seems to be changing along with his change of routine, there may be someone else in the picture… 

28. He’s more jumpy than usual

Actions speak louder than words so sit back and watch how he responds if you bring up a certain person or raise certain questions in relation to any concerns you may have. If he’s more jumpy and on-edge than usual, it may be a sign that you have something/someone to be concerned about.

29. He doesn’t get jealous anymore

If your man used to get a little jealous in the beginning of a relationship about who you were talking to and going out with, it’s probably because he really liked you and wanted you all to himself. So, if that has stopped, there’s likely to be a reason for it that you may want to look into further. 

30. He doesn’t confide in you or open up to you anymore

Another telltale sign that he’s got another love interest/his mind is elsewhere is if he no longer opens up to you or confides in you about things. 

If he used to come home from work and spend hours telling you about his day and listening to yours, but no longer does that, it could be because he’s now having those same conversations with someone else. 

Should You Keep Him from It or Give Up on Him? 3 Tips to Handle the Situation

If you are sure that he has feelings for another woman, it is best to take action quickly so that you can release yourself from constant turmoil. If you don't decide to do anything about the situation, you might find yourself stuck in a relationship that doesn't serve you, and only makes you feel paranoid.

Recognize your self-worth

Firstly, and most importantly, know your self-worth. If you and he had both committed to being in a monogamous relationship, then he has broken the boundaries. You have every right to feel cheated, to feel angry and upset. But there is no point winding yourself up before you have any answers, so the best thing to do is talk about it.

Talk to him

Make sure you decide to speak to him somewhere that is comfortable for both of you – somewhere you both feel safe and respected. Tell him that you have your suspicions he has feelings for someone else and see what he says. 

If he has any respect for you, he will be honest with you. If he does admit to having feelings for someone else, it is perfectly valid for you to express your emotions and show him how much he has hurt you.

Move forward

I can only give advice based on my personal opinion, but if he has feelings for someone else, there is no reason for you to stay in the relationship. You will only ever be losing in the battle for his love and affection, and do you want to spend so much of your time and effort on someone who doesn't put you first?

I believe there is someone out there for everyone, so don't think that he is your last option. You deserve better than that. If what you're looking for is an entirely monogamous relationship with one person who can share feelings, be rest assured that it will be out there, waiting for you.


How do you know your man has slept with another woman?

There are a few signs to look out for that’ll help you establish if your partner is sleeping with someone else… If he’s suddenly more aloof and distant than usual, if he no longer makes eye contact, if he smells like a different perfume, if he is overly happy for no apparent reason, or if he’s acting differently during sex, these are some major red flags to be aware of.

Does he have feelings for someone else or is he simply scared of falling for you?

Perhaps his distance isn’t about someone else, perhaps it’s really just about himself. Here are some signs to look out for that indicate your man is simply afraid of being vulnerable and falling in love:

He’s hesitant to open up 
He’s pushing you away for no apparent reason
He stares at you then looks away
He is interested one minute and standoffish the next 
He dodges questions about your future together 
He avoids labels

What happens when a married man falls for someone else?

There’s no single outcome in this scenario. However, if a married man falls for someone else it often indicates that something is wrong in his marriage. With the right amount of couples therapy, things can be fixed if both parties want it to work out.

Sometimes, these men will leave their marriage for the woman they’re having an affair with. This is especially true if they feel more love, appreciation, and happiness when around her than when around their wife. Other times, they’ll stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of their families.


I hope that with the help of this article and the 30 telltale signs that I have spoken about, you can understand if your man does have feelings for another woman or not. If he does, move on with your head held high knowing that someone better will come along, where you won't even have to worry about another woman turning your man's head – he will be fixated on you.

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