Do you have a crush on a guy but have no idea whether he likes you back?
Are you desperately looking for signs that he’s attracted to you, so you can make something happen?
Perhaps you aren’t even sure what behavior to look for?
If so, you’re in the right place because I’ve created a list of 12 undeniable signs that a man is sexually attracted to you.
However, before we dive into this list, read the next few sentences carefully.
There’s one aspect of male psychology that plays a key role in their attraction to women. It’s called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.
When you understand and trigger this part of his mind can increase the chances of being more attractive.
This isn’t a magic potion but a basic understanding of male psychology, which might come in handy in building strong connections.
A deep understanding of this concept can be the difference between men being disinterested or attracted to you.
I used to feel unsure whether guys were attracted to me or not. But learning about the psychological aspects of men’s attraction and how the Hero’s Instinct works helped me a lot.
Now, without further hesitation, let’s have a look at the 12 undeniable signs that a man is sexually attracted to you.
If a man is sexually attracted to you, this will most likely be shown in his body language. For example, if he’s singling you out in a group or standing close to you in private, it’s a tell-tale sign of being attracted. Needless to say, all of these signs should be accompanied by a few other factors to be more valid.
However, physical closeness has always been one of the most apparent physical attraction signs. Not only does it show a clear sign of being sexually attracted to you but, if he stands close to you while others are around, he is also showing his interest to others.
A natural continuation of body language signs is eye contact, one of the most common ways of expressing sexual attraction. As humans, we don’t just communicate through talking to each other. Eye contact is one of the most effective non-verbal cues¹ in specifically communicating attraction.
Furthermore, eye contact releases the hormone oxytocin², which is known as the “love drug” and is associated with empathy, bonding, trust, sexual activity, and more. But while eye contact is important, you should also look out for a man’s gaze that goes beyond the eyes. The show of sexual attraction can lie in simple things, like not being able to keep their eyes off your body in appreciation. To keep it short, eye contact and gazing are positive signs in identifying sexual attraction.
If a man is sexually attracted to you, he’s likely to make obvious moves to touch you. He might gently touch your arm when you’re having a conversation to make more of a point. He might playfully slap your arm while he is laughing. It can even go as far as him brushing his leg against yours under the table. Bottom line is, men usually seek physical closeness with the person they’re attracted to and use any excuse to bridge the physical gap between the two of you.
This can also apply to him lingering for a little too long when he gives you a hug hello or goodbye. A friendly hug is normally no more than two seconds, so if you realize that he is making sure to hang on to you for a little longer, it could be because he can’t stop indulging in the feeling of his body close to yours.
One of the most common signs a man is sexually attracted to you is the show of possessiveness. It’s a primal instinct that can lead to them being wary when others take notice of you. He will most likely be able to tell if other men are flirting with you, and he might even point it out to see your reaction.
Another good sign to look for is if he acts differently when other men seem interested in you. Is he trying to be funnier than them, or perhaps he is standing taller to come off more confident? These could signal you that he is trying to get your undivided attention.
This one might sound a little strange, but men really do lick their lips when they feel sexually attracted to someone. Many body language experts explain this by the fact that when attracted to someone, the mouth produces extra saliva³, which results in the need to lick your lips.
Licking the lips is also a sign of anticipation of something desirable, so consider it a proof of his obvious attraction towards you. Lip licking has been eroticized in popular culture for ages, so it’s not surprising that this sign made it to the list.
Blushing is a natural response of your body's sympathetic nervous system, your heart rate rises and causes your blood pressure to do the same, resulting in a blush. According to clinical psychologist Mary C. Lamia Ph.D.⁴, blushing “can happen in an exciting situation as well, such as in the self-consciousness of being physically attracted to another person.”
So, if you start to notice that his cheeks are flushing when you are around him, it is a pretty strong sign that he is very attracted to you, and he’s not able to hide it.
However, as this one is a bit tricky, before jumping to conclusions every time you see a man flushed, make sure it’s actually related to your presence and not to a skin condition or room temperature.
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If a man finds you attractive, he might not be able to stop himself from smiling at you. Of course, people can be naturally smiley. Don’t think because the shop assistant smiles at you every time he sees you it means that he has romantic interest in you. It is important to look at the type of smile he is giving you. You will be able to tell if it has chemistry behind it, or is just friendly.
This is one of the most obvious signs that a man is attracted to you. He is making it clear to you that he has other intentions than just being your friend. Flirting is a harmless way of showing someone they’re interested while allowing the other to reciprocate the efforts if they want to. Flirting and playful banter that’s charged with romantic or sexual energy is a sureproof sign a man is attracted to you.
This point really only works if you knew him or met him as a friend or acquaintance first. So, if the first time you met him he was happy to go around without putting much effort into how he looked but has suddenly been specifically attentive to his appearance, it could be a sign that he is doing it for you.
Different people show nerves in different ways, so this might not apply to everyone in an obvious manner. However, if a man is sexually attracted to you, he is likely to act nervously around you.
One of the biggest signs that he’s nervous due to your presence could be fidgeting. For example, he might play with his drink, with his clothes, or with anything that might be able to cover up how much he can’t control himself around you.
Another sign of nerves could be fumbling his words, sweating, or acting jumpy. All of these signs point towards the fact that you and your body affect him a lot.
According to a study by researchers at the University of Liverpool in England and Scotland's University of Stirling, men change their pitch and “adjust it to a lower tone⁵ when they are talking to someone they find attractive.”
Maybe you have noticed that when he speaks to everyone else, he seems to have a lighter tone of voice, then, as soon as he speaks to you, he sounds more serious and sensual. Different psychologists claim that men do this instinctively in order to sound more masculine.
Typically, with sexual connection, you will be able to feel it. As much as these signs will help you to identify sexual attraction, if you just have a feeling that a man is sexually attracted to you, he probably is. Our natural instincts are normally right. The feeling will be especially easy to identify if you feel a similar sexual energy towards him too.
Firstly, it’s really important to state that sexual attraction is very different from an emotional connection. This doesn’t mean that the two can’t be linked or that one won’t lead to the other, but it’s important that you know they are different to avoid setting the wrong expectations and getting hurt.
The signs mentioned above are not universal signs of falling in love, these are simply signs indicating that a man is most likely interested in you sexually. As long as you are happy to go along with the sexual energy you feel between the two of you, follow your instincts.
Now you have worked out that this man is sexually attracted to you, it is completely up to you what you want to do with this information. If you are also sexually attracted to him and ready to get it on as much as he is, that’s good news and means you are both on the same page.
If you are sexually attracted to him, but not ready to have sex with him yet, try communicating it and having some fun to build connection. You can both flirt and be playful together, whilst knowing it might at one point lead to having sex with each other. Many will agree that flirting and being playful is one of the most exciting stages in any relationship.
If you do not reciprocate his sexual feelings towards you, you don’t have to return any of the signs. Above everything else, make sure to have open communication on expectations if it’s someone involved in your life.
Sexual attraction from a man can be noticed in many ways. From the way they stare at you to the way they hold, it is elementary to know when someone is aroused and sexually intrigued by you. Men mostly make excellent eye contact with people they're physically attracted to. Other signs may include frequent touches, blushing, lowering their voice, etc. But quite frankly, while these are all valid signs, the only way to know if a man is attracted to your sexually is if he directly communicates it.
Very often, the eyes give away our feelings and emotions, including sexual attraction. While we aren’t claiming that the only way to find out if a man is having sexual thoughts about you is through his eyed, we do suggest paying attention to his gaze. When people are physically attracted to someone, they often hold frequent and piercing eye contact with the person.
Another sign is flirting and being playful, as well as accidentally or casually finding excuses to touch you. Only one of these signs might not be conclusive by itself. However, coupled with more than a few of the other signs, you’d be safe to explore whether the person you’re suspecting to be sexually interested in you is, in fact, interested.
Physical contact, such as hugging and even sexual contact with a person, increases your love hormone, oxytocin. The more time you spend with a person, the more you enjoy their company, and the more you come into physical contact with them. All these actions make you feel more attracted to them.
Follow a guy's eyes to know if he's sexually attracted to you. If he's attracted to you, he's most likely going to be staring at your body and all its frontiers and curves; he might even want you to notice him looking at you, in a bid to catch your attention.
Men find different things about a woman beautiful. While it’s impossible to single out a characteristic that’s liked by most men, there are some traits that are commonly considered attractive. For example, the sense of humor in women is known as a desirable quality, along with a beautiful genuine smile, confidence, kindness, and more.
I truly hope that this article has helped you identify the undeniable signs of a man who is sexually attracted to you. Perhaps you have confirmed your suspicions that a man wants you or the opposite.
Ultimately, these are signs researched and studied by professionals over decades, but up to this point the only way to know, without assuming, that a man is sexually attracted to you is if they directly communicated it with you. So avoid jumping to conclusions until you’re sure.
Whatever you choose to do with the information that you have found and any revelations you have made is completely up to you. The important thing is that you should feel comfortable and safe, not pressured into sex or forced to reciprocate anyone’s sexual energy.
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