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15 Undeniable Signs a Man Is Attracted To You Sexually

by Olivia Surtees

Do you have a crush on a guy, but have no idea whether he likes you back?

Are you desperately looking for signs that he’s attracted to you, so you can make something happen? 

Perhaps you aren’t even sure what behavior to look for? 

If so, you’re in the right place because I’ve created a list of 15 undeniable signs that a man is sexually attracted to you. 

However, before we dive into this list, it’s important that you read the next few sentences carefully.

There’s one aspect of male psychology that plays a key role in his attraction to women. It’s called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’. 

When you understand and trigger this part of his mind, he’ll be far more likely to show these signs of sexual attraction to you.

What’s more, he’s likely to be far more willing to keep you in his life for a longer period.  

A deep understanding of this concept can be the difference between him being disinterested or OBSESSED with you. It’s that powerful.  

I know because I always used to feel unsure whether guys were attracted to me or not. Then, I discovered how to activate the Hero’s Instinct and everything changed. To learn more, click to read my personal story

An understanding of how men show they’re attracted to you is important, but when you learn about this psychological tick, they’ll be showing you these signs all the time.

So, do yourself a huge favor and read the story of how I discovered the Hero’s Instinct.

So without further hesitation, let’s have a look at the fifteen undeniable signs that a man is sexually attracted to you.

1. He will make an effort to stand as close to you as possible.

This is a really key sign, hence the reason I have made it my first point. If a man is sexually attracted to you, he is obviously going to want to be as close to you as possible. If you are with other people, it might be a case of him making sure that he is standing or sitting closest to you. If it is just the two of you, he might stand close to you while you are having a conversation.

You might actually be able to feel his hormones raging around his body. If you’re into him, you will probably feel yourself getting heated under the collar too. If he is standing close to you, not only is he making it clear that he is sexually attracted to you but if he stands close to you while others are around, he is singling you out.

2. He stares at you.

Naturally, men will use their body language more than actual words. Therefore, using their eyes is a vital part of communication when it comes to showing sexual attraction. Perhaps you walk into a room and you can feel his eyes all over you, or his look follows you around the room. You might actually be able to feel like he is undressing you with his eyes.

You will be able to tell if he is sexually attracted to you by following where his eyes are looking. If you feel his eyes linger on your breasts or butt for a little longer than they should be, then it is probably that he is meaning to look there and might even want you to notice that he is looking at your body. He’s showing appreciation for everything you have and is telling you that he wants it.

3. He makes intense eye contact with you.

As humans, we don’t just communicate through talking to each other. Some of the most meaningful and real conversations that we can have with each other are through our eyes. Eye contact is not only a special connection between two people, but it can also show a lot of sexual chemistry.

So, if he is interested in you, not only will his eyes follow you around the room and all over your body, but when your eyes both lock on to each other’s, he will show you how much he wants you.

When you are having a conversation with him, he will probably be staring into your eyes, and nowhere else. He will be showing you that you are the only one he sees right now. 

As well as looking into your eyes during a general conversation, if he is flirting with you and then uses some intense eye contact with you, it will probably get you feeling hot and heavy. This was his intention in the first place.

4. He sits with his legs spread apart while he’s with you.

Of course, to a certain extent, all men tend to do this. But you will be able to tell if he is doing this on purpose or is just sitting casually. If he is sexually interested in you, he might be wanting to see if you feel the same towards him. He might stand or sit facing you with his legs further apart than usual because he is literally trying to show you what you could have.

He is wanting you to think about what is between his legs, and he might even be checking to see if you will take a look. So, he’s opening himself up to you and seeing if you fancy a bit of what he has in store.

If you are a little confused if this is how he normally sits, then have a look at how he acts around other women. This will also probably show you if he’s sexually interested in a lot of people, or just you.

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In addition to this, and in relation to his groin area, if a man is really excited by you his sexual organs might get a little too excited when he is around you. Therefore, if you see that he is moving his trousers around, has to sit down quickly or has to cover up his groin area with something after giving you a hug or speaking with you, you can be sure that he is sexually attracted to you.

5. He makes an extra effort to touch you as much as possible.

If a man is sexually attracted to you, he will make obvious reaches to be able to touch you. It’s important to note that I am not talking about some man in a club trying to touch your butt, I’m talking about subtle touches.

He might touch your arm when you’re having a conversation to make more of a point. He might playfully slap your arm while he is laughing. It can even go as far as him brushing his arm against your leg under a table if you’re having dinner. He will be using any excuse to touch you because he just wants to feel your body on his.

This can also apply to him lingering for a little too long when he gives you a hug hello or goodbye. A friendly hug is normally no more than two seconds, so if you realize that he is making sure to hang on to you for a little longer, it could be because he can’t stop indulging in the feeling of his body close to yours.

6. He will notice other men if they are checking you out.

If he really wants you, he will feel possessive over you. This is a primal instinct, so even if he might want to come off protective, he will be. Therefore, he will be wary of other men are checking you out. He will also be able to tell if other men are trying to make moves on you, and he might even point it out to see your reaction.

He might even be trying to show other men that the two of you are together if anyone else approaches and tries to flirt with you. He might do this subtly by standing closer to you or putting his arm around you. He wants to make sure you only also have eyes for him.

Another good sign to look for is if he acts differently when other men seem interested in you. Is he trying to be funnier than them, or perhaps he is standing bigger to show you he’s more of a man? This could be a key sign that he is trying to get your undivided attention.

7. He might lick his lips or part his lips.

So firstly, let’s deal with the licking of the lips. This one might sound a little strange, but men really do lick their lips like creatures when they feel sexually attracted to someone. He will probably be doing this subconsciously because no one would like their lips on purpose right? He might be getting them ready for a kiss with you, or he might be trying to entice you to look at his lips.

Secondly, he might part his lips. This is a natural thing to do when you feel sexual attraction for someone, and both men and women do it. We are getting our mouths ready for something or someone. He might also part his mouth as soon as he sees you, because he is shocked at how attracted he is to you, or you just look too damn good.

8. He blushes. 

As a society, we normally associate blushing with women. However, physically, if you are sexually attracted to someone, your heart rate will rise and cause your blood pressure to do the same, so you will blush. So, if you start to notice that his cheeks are flushing when you are around him, it is a pretty strong sign that he is very attracted to you, and he won’t be able to hide it.

This is a really subtle sign, and you might miss it if you aren’t paying a lot of attention. However, this is probably a good indicator of sexual attraction if the man is shy. He might not feel comfortable to stand close to you or use his eyes to follow the lines of your body, so his blushing will tell you all you need to know.

9. He will smile. A lot.

If a man finds you attractive, he won’t be able to stop himself from smiling at you. You will blow him away and he won’t be able to take the big cheesy grin off his face. A smile is also one of the most common things that sexually attracts women, so he might be using this subconsciously, to try and draw you in.

Of course, people can be naturally smiley. Don’t think because the shop assistant smiles at you every time, he sees you it means that he wants to see you naked. It is important to look at what type of smile he is giving you. You will be able to tell if it has chemistry behind it, or is just friendly. If you can sense the, “I’m smiling in a checking way at you because I want to get you into bed” then it would be safe to say he’s sexually interested in you.

10. He flirts with you.

This is one of the most obvious signs that a man is attracted to you. He is making it clear to you that he has other intentions than just being your friend. You will be able to tell the difference between romantic flirting and sexual flirting.

Flirting with purely sexual intent will be very different from emotional flirting. It will probably be more fun and playful. He will probably make positive physical remarks about your body. He might include touching you in his flirting. For example, putting your hair behind your ear or whispering something to you. If you notice these things or anything similar, he is telling you that wants to have you in his bed.

11. He will make more effort with his physical appearance if he knows that he is going to see you.

This point really only works if you knew him or met him as a friend or acquaintance at first. If you have only just met him in a nightclub where he was already looking his best, you might not be able to tell if he has started to make more of an effort with his appearance because of you.

So, if the first time you met him, he was happy to go around unshaven and in old clothes but has suddenly been looking well put together and perfectly groomed, it could be a sign that he is doing it for you. If he does have sexual attraction for you, he will be making the extra effort to look good in your eyes. In addition to this, he might have started hitting the gym more or taking extra care of his body to look sexually desirable for you.

You might also notice that he checks or grooms his hair as soon as he sees you.

12. You can tell that you make him nervous.

Different people show nerves in different ways, so this might not apply to everyone in an obvious manner. However, if a man is sexually attracted to you, he will probably act nervously around you.

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One of the biggest signs that he will be nervous due to your presence could be fidgeting. For example, he might play with his drink, with his clothes or with anything that might be able to cover up how much he can’t control himself around you.

Another sign of nerves could be that he fumbles his words, sweats or acts jumpy. All of these signs point towards the fact that you and your body drive him insane.

13. His voice will get lower when he speaks to you.

Scientifically, a deeper voice means that a man is more sexually desirable, and it can be linked to the fact that men with a deeper voice will (apparently) produce healthier children. Aside from this fact, society has led us to believe, and I think we can all agree, that a deep voice is a big turn on.

Maybe you have noticed that when he speaks to everyone else, he seems to have a higher tone of voice, then as soon as he speaks to you he sounds like he has a rough and deep voice. He will most likely be doing this to sound manlier to you, showing that he wants to look tough and sexy in front of you. He is showing you that he wants you to feel sexually attracted to him, just the same way as he is into you.

14. He will ask you to do things with him that doesn’t include leaving the house.

If he is sexually into you, he will want to get you back to his as soon as possible. Therefore, if you were expecting day time dates, you might be let down. If his intentions are purely sexual and he isn’t interested in having a further relationship with you, he will probably ask to see you in the evenings. Of course, he could ask you for drinks and dinner. After the dinner, he might offer to come inside when he drops you home or will suggest you can chill at his. Whatever he says, his intentions are clear.

However, now that “Netflix and Chill” is a real thing now, he might not even ask you to go on a date with him. He might ask you if you want to come around to watch a film, or even to cook dinner with him. I can tell you now that neither of you will be watching the film or cooking any dinner. He has basically booty called you, but with a code name on top.

15. You just feel it.

Typically, with sexual connection, you will be able to feel it. As much as these signs will help you to identify sexual attraction, if you just have a feeling that a man is sexually attracted to you, he probably is. Our natural instincts are normally right. The feeling will be especially easy to feel if you feel a sexual energy towards him too. However, even if you don’t reciprocate his sexual attraction, you will probably still be able to feel it.

Warning: Sexual attraction is different from an emotional connection.

Firstly, it’s really important to say that a sexual attraction is very different from an emotional connection. I’m not saying that the two can’t be linked or that one won’t lead to the other, but it’s important that you know they are different to avoid getting hurt.

The signs mentioned above are not signs of falling in love, they are signs that a man wants to have sex with you. As long as you are happy to go along with the sexual energy you feel between the two of you, then that is great. If you are looking for something or someone more serious and long term, it’s probably best not to go ahead and take things further with someone who is just sexually attracted to you.

So, what should you do next?

Now you have worked out that this man is sexually attracted to you, it is completely up to you what you want to do with this information. If you are also sexually attracted to him and ready to get it on as much as he is, that’s good news and you can both go and have some fun!

If you are sexually attracted to him, but not ready to have sex with him, you can have some fun with him. You can both flirt and be playful together, whilst knowing it will at one point probably lead to having sex with each other. I’m sure everyone will agree with me, this is the most exciting stage of any relationship or fling. Enjoy it.

If you do not reciprocate his sexual feelings towards you, don’t worry about letting him down easily. His emotions aren’t really involved in the way that he feels towards you. He is thinking with his sexual organs, not his heart. You can either tell him that you don’t feel the same way or just leave it and wait for him to move on to someone else, which will inevitably happen.


How Do You Tell If A Man Is Attracted To You Sexually?

Sexual attraction from a man can be noticed in many ways. From the way they stare at you to the way they hold, it is elementary to know when someone is hot for you, literally! Men mostly make excellent eye contact with people they're sexually attracted to. Also, they touch you often, flirting very hard with you and blushing most often.

How Do You Know If Someone Is Thinking About You Sexually?

Sexual thoughts may be tough to erase, but even tougher to eradicate from your eyes. The eyes tell every story that's ever been untold or hidden, and with sexual attraction, there's no difference. You'll see it in their eyes when they're sexually attracted to you, mainly because they often hold eye contact longer and occasionally offer flirty stares.

What Makes You Sexually Attracted To Someone?

Physical contact, such as hugging and even sexual contact with a person, increases your love hormone, oxytocin. The more time you spend with a person, the more you enjoy their company, and the more you come into physical contact with them. All these actions make you feel more attracted to them.

How Do You Know If A Guy Is Physically Attracted To You?

Follow a guy's eyes to know if he's sexually attracted to you. If he's attracted to you, he's most likely going to be staring at your body and all its frontiers and curves; he might even want you to notice him looking at you, in a bid to catch your attention.

What Do Guys Find Attractive?

Men find different things about a woman beautiful. The right sense of humor is bound to catch a man's attention, followed by a high-pitched voice. Also, guys love girls who take hunter-gatherer risks with some characteristics that remind them of their parents.


I really hope that this article has helped you identify the undeniable signs of a man who is sexually attracted to you. Perhaps you have confirmed your suspicions that a man wants you? I hope so!

Whatever you choose to do with the information that you have found and any revelations you have made is completely up to you. The important thing is that you should feel comfortable and safe, not pressured into sex or forced to reciprocate his sexual energy. 

Did this article help you at all? If it did and you liked what you read, please let us know in the comments. We would love to hear from you.

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Want him to chase, love and worship you?
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Olivia Surtees
After realizing I was the person that everyone around me always came to for dating advice, I decided to merge this skill with my profession – writing. So, I came about to be a relationship advice writer! Being able to show not only my passion for writing, but also my passion to help others in their relationships, means the absolute world to me and I hope to continue doing so. Studying the vast and complicated world of relationships entices me, and I am constantly striving to learn more, so I can then help others with more knowledge and experience.

6 comments on “15 Undeniable Signs a Man Is Attracted To You Sexually”

  1. Thanks Olivia, I feel so happy to read it because what you have written the all 15 points is done by my boyfriend... thanks a lot

  2. I have a question. If a man is just sexually attracted to you how long can it last? Years maybe if haven’t had sex with you?

  3. A lot of these apply to me, and I'm a girl. Haha. I guess I never have been subtle. I'm the kind of person to say "I hope they don't die." 1, 2, 3 and 5 definitely apply to me. I've never been the jealous type so other than obviously being envious and wishing it was me, other people dating the person like has never really bothered me. If I can't have her (yeah, I'm gay, I don't know if that's relevant) then I don't know why someone else can't, it doesn't really affect me. I think 7 applies to me, as far as I'm aware, and I'm not really conscious of whether I'm blushing or not; I may well be. 9 - Yeah. 10 - I said how beautiful she is, I couldn't really help myself - she is. I'm still in school by the way. 11 - I brushed my hair in school, so... yeah. 12 - DEFINITELY! Freaking out sometimes.

    She always said not to stare at me, even involved teachers, and said I was staring at her and she didn't like it or whatever (I was 11 at the time, just starting secondary school). This was a very difficult time for me, as I just couldn't. I wanted to do the right thing, and I wanted so badly to please her, but I just couldn't. She is just so beautiful. I had never not been allowed to look at anything before; my whole childhood I looked wherever I liked and nobody stopped me. I didn't even consciously think about where I was looking. Learning a whole new rule about something so integral as looking at the world around you is hard enough at the best of times, but what made it completely and utterly impossible was that on top of that I had never, my whole life up to that point, wanted to look at anything so badly. I stared at her without thinking, not wanting to more than glance away from her, a very stark contrast from barley looking at her at all, which is what was expected of me. Hard times.

    Also I don't remember where it was, but it was mentioned being fidgety and writing in your seat et cetera. Definitely me. I just couldn't get comfortable, and my... private area felt kind of uncomfortable and I just kept squirming trying to get comfortable, and sometimes couldn't and just wanted to keep moving...

    I'm not sure about different attractions, probably a big mixture. I've probably given you enough insight into my personal life for you to tell for yourself. I always wanted to be near her, and wanted to touch her skin and her hair, and smell her so badly. Hugging her was about the most amazing thing I'd ever felt and I never wanted it to end. Pleasure running through my whole body as my whole body was pressed against hers, intense pleasure radiating from everywhere I was touching her, which was all down my body. Even touching her at all gave me such a thrill, then times like 100.

  4. Hi I have a feeling that my step dad is sexuly attracted to me and might also be in love with me because he doesn't talk to me much when we are alone together, and when I ask him to talk to me in private in my room he lays on my bed with me, and he mentions sex around me, and I have caught him checking me out a lot and when he notices that I have seen where he is looking he looks away, and he gives me long hugs, and acts like he is more worried about me than my mom, and I kinda have feelings for him too, but I'm married do you think he's in to me sexuly, as well as in love with me?

  5. So i am having this kind of intense feeling with my doctor and all these signs are there...especially the intense eye contact ... he called me and left a voicemail and his voice sounded a lot deeper than usual...yet soft and our conversations he lingers, and gets personal. When he examined me it was too much. I got really aroused and out of breath and he made eye contact and asked me if I was ok, or of it hurts when he goes deep. Yes, he said that!

    I have another exam and I can’t take it anymore. Should I give him a note that I feel too embarrassed and need to see another doctor? Then he could decide if he wants to ask questions, or leave it be?

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