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Leave Him Alone - He'll Come Back (Is It True?)

by Sonya Schwartz

Are you wondering whether it’s best to distance yourself from the man you want in your life?

Maybe you’ve split with your partner and you want him back?

Perhaps you’re dating a great guy but he won’t commit? 

Either way, this article will explain the power of silence in making a man want to commit to you. 

However, before we jump into this article, I want you to read the next few sentences carefully. 

Let’s be honest. If this guy is already hooking up with someone else, leaving him alone isn’t going to be an effective strategy.

But it’s unlikely he’s going to straight-up admit to seeing another woman, not during the early stages anyway. 

That’s why I wanted to let you know about this powerful background checker tool.

With just a few of your man’s basic details, this tool can produce an extensive report of his recent communications history. 

You’ll be able to see what contact details he’s been hiding, what apps he’s been using, who he’s been frequently communicating with...and much more. 

Put simply, if he has been messing around with someone else, this tool will make it immediately obvious. 

With that information to hand, you’ll be in a better position to decide how to win him back (if you still want to). 

Read on for our expert opinion on why leaving a man alone can be your powerplay to regaining his attention. 

In Which Situations Should You Do This?

There are a two main situations that this article will be helpful for - either you have broken up with your partner and you want him to come back, or you like someone and want them to commit to a relationship with you. When you walk away or leave someone alone, most of the time, they will realize that they miss you and everything you brought to their life, and therefore they will come back to you. So, leaving a man alone can be useful if you are trying to get him to come back to you and fully appreciate you.

You can use this technique to either make someone you're interested in realize how much they should appreciate you, or use it to get your ex back. The only thing I want to quickly mention is that when it comes to getting your ex back, do you really want them back in your life? If they have pushed you to the stage where you have had to walk away, should you be trying to get someone like that back into your life? However, I do understand that every relationship is individual, and therefore there might be situations where you want to have your ex back. I know that things are different for everyone, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

In this article, we are going to take a look at why walking away should get a man to come running back to you, some of the ways in which you can successfully walk away from a man, and how you can deal with the situation if it doesn't work.

Why Does Leaving Him Alone Work To Get Him Back?

Humans are incredibly interesting and complex. For some reason, we sometimes don't fully appreciate what we have until it has gone. So, if you think that your man isn't fully appreciating you, or your ex-partner needs to be shocked into what they have lost, walk away. When you are constantly around a man, he will accept the fact that you're just there, ready for him to interact with whenever he wants.He won't ever have time to miss you or think about you, because you're always there This is especially true if you are committed and dedicated to this guy, and you do anything for him at the drop of a hat.

When you leave him alone, he will not only realize that he doesn't have you to be with anymore when he wants to, but he will also realize how much of an amazing woman was by his side - he will miss you. He will start to question why he ever let you go in the first place and start to fully appreciate everything about you, and everything you did for him. He will run back to you as fast as possible, hoping that you're still available and that the two of you can get back together. He will never make the mistake of taking you for granted ever again, and he will most likely start to put a lot more effort into appreciating and loving you.

5 Tips You Should Follow To Successfully Leave Him Alone

5 Tips You Should Follow To Successfully Leave Him Alone

We're going to take a look at the top five tips you can use to successfully walk away from a man, that should mean that he ends up coming back to you. Be prepared, you are going to need to be a strong person to use some of these suggestions, but the stronger you are, the more the technique will work on him.

1. Cut Contact With Him

One of the best ways to make him miss you and realize how much he took you for granted is to completely cut your contact with him for a while until he starts to make contact with you. As soon as you cut contact with him, he will realize that he no longer has anyone to talk to during his boring day at work, no one sending him loving messages throughout the day and no one to tell him they love him before he goes to sleep. This will make it real for him that you have walked away, and it will also give him a glimpse of what his life would be like if you weren't in it.

If you can't bring yourself to completely cut contact with him, this is understandable, and there are still a few things you can do to make him feel like you're slipping away from him. If you are the person that always texts or calls first, stop doing this. He will miss your name popping up on his screen and miss speaking to you all the time. Pretty much straight away, you will be able to notice that he starts to text you first, he's the one initiating conversations and dialing your number - the tables have turned straight away.

2. Start Living A Full Life

You can easily, and quite naturally start playing hard to get, by filling your schedule up. If you're in a situation like this, there's no better time to start joining new clubs, taking up hobbies you have always wanted to try and jam-packing social events into your diary. You need to not only show this man that you can still have a life filled with fun and fulfillment without him, but you are also doing so many things that you simply don't have time to be sat crying over him.

As soon as he starts to notice that you're living a busy life, he will start to realize that he isn't the center of your world, and your happiness doesn't revolve around him. He will want to get right back into your life and start enjoying the life you're living, with you. He will miss all the fun you brought to him. In addition to this, it might make him feel jealous if you are always at social events with your friends because he knows that other men will probably be checking you out - this will make him angry, and stir up protective feelings that he might not have been aware of before when you were with him.

3. Post About Your Amazing Fun-Packed Life On Social Media, But Don't Interact With Him On It

Your use of social media and the interaction you have with this guy on social media should definitely be thought about during this walking away period of time. Although you might not think about, in the fast-paced, digital world that we all live in, your social media presence and interaction with him is just as important as in real life. For example, your plan to leave him alone wouldn't really work if you were constantly liking his photos on Instagram - he wouldn't miss you if you did this.

The first thing you need to do is ensure you are only posting happy, fun, vibrant content on your social media platforms. With your busy new life, you should have so many happy photos to share, so share them! Whatever you do, do not post about being sad, or lonely - this will make him think he's won and make him presume that he has impacted you in a big way. The second thing you need to do is ensure that you don't like things on his profiles, or interact with him in any way. You need to leave him alone just as much online as you do in real life. You want him to be able to see that you're having a wonderful time, not notice you're sat on his profile looking through his photos and liking them. You can bet that he's looking through your profile, and every photo he sees makes him miss you even more.

4 . Only Ever See Him Looking Your Best

When we are in relationships, our partners see us at our best, and our worst. However, when you have chosen to walk away from someone to get them back, you need to make sure that if you ever see this guy, you are looking your absolute best. Obviously, if you are leaving him alone to try and get back with him, you probably won't be meeting up with him, but if you know that the two of you are going to be in the same place at the same time (for a mutual friends birthday, for example), you need to make an effort with your physical appearance. During the time that you are leaving him alone, you are not only trying to make him appreciate what a wonderful personality you have, but you are also trying to make him realize how amazing you are, in terms of physical appearance and sex appeal. So, when you see know you're going to see this guy, get that hair done, makeup on and your best outfit out of the closet. As soon as you see him, you will be able to tell that he misses you.

You can also make use of this tip online too. Most of us all try to look our very best on social media platforms anyway, but when you're trying to entice him back into your life, this is even more important. So, if you look especially beautiful one day, why not post a photo on social channels? When this guy sees that you look so good, he will feel exceptionally annoyed with himself that he let you go - you will most likely find that he messages you after he sees you looking that great.

5 . Make Sure You Let Your Mutual Friends Know You're Happy

A great way to make him realize what he's missing is to hang out with the mutual friends you share with him and make sure they know that you're living your best life without him. You should also tell them that you're moving on and that you find it a shame that it didn't work out with him (the guy you want to get back together with). You should only truly confide in your closest friends, that aren't friends with the guy you're trying to get to come back. Never tell any of his friends about the plan you have, as they will probably tell him, and then the walking away and 'not caring' plan doesn't work so well at all.

Telling his friends that you are happy and moving on is a good way to make him realize what he is missing because his friends will relay all of the information you have told them, to him. If he really likes you, then he might even ask them about you first. Regardless, he will find out from his own friends how glowing you look, how happy you sound and how you wish it had worked out between yourself and him. He will most likely come running back to you as soon as he hears this.

With regard to mutual friends, it's always a good idea to keep making an effort with mutual friends you have with this guy. Obviously, it's nice to keep in touch with your friends, but it might also help you to find out some things about the guy you want to come back, that you might miss if you weren't spending time with them.

What If Leaving Him Alone To Get Him Back Doesn't Work?

What If Leaving Him Alone To Get Him Back Doesn't Work?

Most of the time, walking away to get someone to come back to you, is a viable plan and it does work. It works especially well if you follow the five successful tips above. Typically, the guy you want to come back will come back within a short amount of time. He will no doubt, tell you how much he missed you and how he never wants to be alone again.

However, on the rare occasion that it doesn't work, you need to know what to do. It can hit you hard, knowing that you have tried so hard to firstly leave him alone, but also to try and entice him to come back to you. There are a few tips that can help you to deal with the situation when it doesn't go as planned, and he doesn't come back.

Realize Your Self Worth

The first thing you need to do when the plan doesn't work is to realize your self-worth. You need to understand that just because you didn't get your ex back, or you didn't get the man you're interested in to commit to you, it doesn't change the fact that you are an amazing person. It will hurt that you have put so much effort into walking away, only to be rejected, so you need to practice self-love. Shower yourself in love, take care of yourself, and think about how much of a good person you are.

Keep Yourself Busy

Looking at the positives, you will have already started to put things in your calendar to keep you busy whilst you were trying to leave this guy alone. You need to make sure that you stick to these activities, and that you keep attending social events. After being hurt, you need to have things to take your mind of the pain you're feeling. Think about some things you want to start doing and make sure these are things that will bring you joy, then start doing them. Keeping busy is vital.

Don't Speak To Him

You are kind of halfway there already, by cutting contact with him when you were trying to leave him alone, but it's vital that you take time away from him. A good way to ensure you won't message him is to block him on your social platforms, block or delete his number and make sure that when you go to meet up with any mutual friends, he won't be there.

Get Back On The Dating Scene

It takes everyone a different amount of time to feel like they can really move on after someone has hurt them, but it's a good idea to push yourself back on the dating scene as soon as you feel ready. Even if you aren't looking for love, it's a good way to build your self-esteem back up when you realize that people want to flirt with you and date you. At the end of the day, the guy you were trying to leave alone in order to get him back clearly just wasn't the right person for you, and love is definitely out there for everyone. So, you need to look at the dating scene in a positive way - you might find the love of your life, who will appreciate you so much more than this guy ever did. As soon as you meet the person you were destined to love, you will think it's a good thing that this guy didn't come back to you.

 

Conclusion

I really hope this article helped you and gave you some useful tips on how to successfully walk away from a man in order to try and get him back. In most situations, walking away to get a man back does work. However, if it, unfortunately, didn't work for you, you need to know that there is someone out there for you that will love you and appreciate you for who you are - you won't need to try and play games with them.

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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