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Walk Away To Get Him Back (Does It Work?)

Last updated on June 16, 2022 by Olivia Surtees

Are you considering walking away from your partner to get him to fight for you?

Perhaps you’re wondering whether this is a successful strategy to make a man care about you more?

If so, you’re in the right place.

In this guide, we explain why walking away from your partner can sometimes strengthen your relationship, and how to do it effectively.  

However, before I explain this, it’s important you read the next few sentences carefully. 

There is a powerful aspect of male psychology called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’, which has a huge impact on how men perceive their romantic partners. 

If you can learn to activate this psychological trigger, it is common that your partner experiences feelings of intense pride, power and purpose. Naturally, he feels more loving and devoted to a woman makes him feel this way. 

Before I learned about the ‘Hero’s Instinct’, I always found it difficult to keep men interested in me. Now, it’s so much easier to find passionate and affectionate relationships (read my story to learn more). 

This is an easy skill to perform, yet so few people seem to know about it. It’s a great way to make him feel like no other woman could. 

If you’re hoping to strengthen your existing relationship, I’d urge you to learn more about how I discovered the power of the ‘Hero’s Instinct’

However, the guide below explains how walking away from him could also make your relationship stronger. 

Does walking away actually get him back?

In short, yes, it should get him running back to you.

However, it is all dependent on his feelings towards you and the severity of the situation you find yourself in. So, I need to tell you before we go any further that if he isn’t interested in you, he won’t come back if you walk away.

For example, if he doesn’t reciprocate your feelings and you decide to walk away from him, he will most likely not come running back into your arms, simply because that’s not where he wants to be. This sounds awful, and I understand that it is not what you probably want to hear, but I think it’s important to warn you that if he doesn’t like you, having you walk away won’t change that for him.

However, this shouldn’t be looked at in a negative light. If you walk away from someone and they don’t come back to you, then walking away was the right thing to do. You have moved on from a situation that was holding you back from finding your true love, and that should be celebrated.

On the other hand, if this man does have feelings for you, even if they might be hidden, having you walk away will make him come straight back to you. So, firstly we are going to have a look at the reasons why walking away makes men come back.

Men like to be challenged.

This is where men differ from women. When women fall in love with someone, we want it to be beautiful and effortless. To men, this is boring and leaves them feeling unsatisfied. They like to have a challenge set before them, and they don’t like having something that seems too easy.

So, this could be where you have gone wrong along the way. Did you perhaps give this man too much of you, too quickly? Maybe you respond to his every beck and call? He doesn’t want that. What he wants is to work for you and your attention. If you seem easy to him, he will get bored easily.

Therefore, if you walk away you will have presented a challenge for him to take on. He then needs to pursue you, and this should make him feel a certain type of thrill.

We all never realize what we have until it’s gone.

This point is not just for men. A lot of us don’t realize what we have or appreciate what we have until it's gone. Then, we start to miss it and want it back. This works the same when we are talking about relationships. Maybe your man is just too used to you being around and he doesn’t appreciate you and what you do for him anymore.

Therefore, if you decide to walk away, he will realize that he was taking you for granted when he had you by his side. He will also start to miss you and will want you back more than ever before. He will then come running after you, with more love and appreciation than ever before.

How can you walk away from him effectively?

Now we have had a look at the reasons why your man will react positively to you walking away from him, it’s time to show you how you can start to distance yourself and walk away from him, in an effective way.

Get busy.

The first thing you can do is rearrange your priorities. Therefore, this means putting him a little lower down the pile than he was before you decided to walk away from him. Of course, he might secretly still be at the top of your list, but he doesn’t need to know this, and you certainly can’t let him.

You need to start putting your life before him, to show him that you are busy, and you are no longer letting him take over your life. What did you spend the majority of your time doing before you met him? Start doing that again. This could be meeting up with your friends and family multiple times a week, playing a sport or spending your time setting up your own business. Whatever it is that you used to do, start doing it again and let it take precedence over him.

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Initially, it might take a bit of time for him to clock on to the fact that you are busy, and you have stopped making as many plans with him, but then he will notice that he’s seeing you less, and that is when he will want to see you more. He will start asking you out or trying to talk to you more, but you need to remain busy. 

You need to show him that your life is your own to live, and you have better things to do than wait for his calls and spend all your time at his house.

He will not only probably find it extremely sexy that you are still the independent bad-ass that you were when he first met you, but he will feel compelled to try and see you more often and fit into your busy schedule. At the end of the day, we all want what we can’t have, so use this to your advantage and don’t let him have you too easy.

Don’t initiate conversation anymore.

Stop yourself from messaging or calling him first. Are you normally the one that always messages first?Stop doing that straight away. Firstly, a relationship should always be equally two-sided, so you shouldn’t be the one constantly initiating the conversation anyway. Your man will start to realize that you are no longer going to be the one to start the conversations, and he will miss speaking to you, so he will start to get in touch with you first. This is of course, great. But you still need to make sure you are keeping up the ‘busy’ bravado. Don’t reply to him too quickly, and don’t answer his calls the first time it rings. 

You are trying to be a little harder to get, so even if you are desperate to speak to him, don’t be open about it. Always make yourself a little bit unavailable, because it will only make him want you more.

Interact with him less on social media.

In the technology-driven world that we all live, we always need to think about how you interact with your man on social media. For example, if you are making yourself more unavailable to him in real life but then liking and commenting on everything he posts on social media, you are not going to be walking away from him effectively. So, the simple answer is to stop interacting with him on social media. This can be even more powerful if you are pretty connected with him normally on social media. He will notice that you have stopped liking his posts or commenting on his statuses.  

This will probably lead to him searching for your name amongst his other likes, as well as going on your profiles to see what you have been up to on social media if you haven’t been interacting with him. It might also be beneficial for you to let him guess what’s going in your life by posting less or being less open with what you’re up to through your online presence.

If he’s not able to see you or speak to you in real life and then on social media too, you will become an enigma for him. Therefore, you present yourself as a challenge that he will want to take on. He will be hungry to find out what you have been up to, and this will probably lead to you receiving lots of texts from him asking when you can next catch up. If this happens, you are on the way to winning and getting him back into your life.

Don’t wait for him.

This is one of the most important things that you need to do, however, no physical action is required, and this is more about you than it is about him. In your mind, you need to have decided to walk away. You need to stop waiting for him to message you, ask you out or drop by. Even though the reason you are doing all these things is to get him running back to you, you need to make sure you are not waiting around for him.

You need to realize that you are still going to be ok when you don’t speak to him or see him. Take everything in your stride, and if he comes back to you then the mission is accomplished. If he isn’t reacting the way that you wanted, let it wash over you. He will come back in time, but don’t hang around for it. You need to truly show him you are an independent woman that owns her own life, so you better start believing that and acting like it.

What are the possible outcomes when you walk away from him?

He will miss you.

Without you being available or being in touch with him, he will start to miss you. He will realize what he had with you and how amazing you are. He will drive himself crazy thinking of what you’re doing and why he isn’t involved in it. He will miss you so much that he will be the one to always message first, ask to meet up, and will always want to know what you’re doing.

He won’t ever act in the way he did before you walked away because now he realizes how his life is without you in it – simply not as good.

He will come after you.

He will realize that you are too busy to be making an effort with him, and he will start chasing you because he wants your time. He will love that the ball is very much in his court because it’s his time to stand up to the challenge and come after you. He will want you so much more because he knows that you aren’t hanging off his every word anymore.

He won’t respond in the way you had wished.

I spoke about this earlier, but your man might not react in the way that you want. When you walk away, he might do the same. This can be hard to deal with because you are in the situation of unrequited love. However, you need to see this as a blessing. Are you not glad that you walked away to see if he would follow you? Now you will be able to see that he was never worthy of you, and you deserve so much more. He has allowed you to be set free in a world of love, to find your true soulmate.


I hope that this article has helped you to not only understand why walking away will get your man to come back to you, but also how you can effectively do it.

Did this article help you at all? If it did and you liked what you read, please let us know in the comments. We would love to hear from you.

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Olivia Surtees
After realizing I was the person that everyone around me always came to for dating advice, I decided to merge this skill with my profession – writing. So, I came about to be a relationship advice writer! Being able to show not only my passion for writing, but also my passion to help others in their relationships, means the absolute world to me and I hope to continue doing so. Studying the vast and complicated world of relationships entices me, and I am constantly striving to learn more, so I can then help others with more knowledge and experience.

6 comments on “Walk Away To Get Him Back (Does It Work?)”

  1. What if I had conversation with him over and over about how he was making me feel I told him I wanted to feel good in wanted but he didn’t listen so I blocked him from contacting me and any kind of way and I walked away so by me blocking him is that going to make him realize what he had or not.

  2. Great read and advise! I recently broke things off with a guy I've been seeing and although I'm ready for change and real love I secretly want him to realize what he's missing and chase me. He has done it before and so have others. I told him this is no longer working for me. I would like to build and grow with someone at some point in the future but I want to remain friends. All is true but I'm not waiting for him either.

  3. What a great blog! I met someone from online dating site 5 months ago. We get along until we discovered we are perfectly matched. Since then him and i never failed to communicate every single day until we planned to meet in person one day. To make a long story short. Just this morning i tried to login on the dating site where we met as i had a gut feeling that there was something wrong. And i found he was online. BTW, him and I had decided to deactivate our account when we moved to messenger. So i was really suprised when i saw him online again. Im always online in my fake account to check if this man im talking is worth of my time as well as i can protect my heart from being broken again. So all day i feel like it ruined my day after i saw him online although nothing has changed we talked this morning until afternoon like our normal chat i was pretending i dont know his online. But this evening, i stopped replying his last message. Was really ruined my mood and i cant pretend anymore that i was okay and he didnt even ask me hows my evening but then i managed to be silent than trying to confront him. I was thinking he might be bored of me as im always too available for him. And I was going to message him like a break up message tomorrow but after i read this blog i would like to try some advices and tips from this blog as im still loving him and dont want to end quickly our relationship as well as he will see my worth and hopefully i cant see him online anymore.

  4. I love your blog and that is exactly what I did even before reading this! it's important for women to understand how men think and how you really do have to stand up for yourself and let them know that you will not accept anything less than what you deserve!! and he will come running back!...My man is doing it right now! and I'm just relaxed even if I'm not busy doing anything I act like I am....and guaranteed it works everything that you said works!!! so ladies please do exactly what they're saying this is Stuff already knew i am virtually a psychologist in my own right!😊 but I needed to read it just to confirm that I'm on the right track!and I truly am... he's chasing me more than ever now...and I'm loving it! but I'm still keeping him on the sideline never letting him know that it's that's serious for me to talk to him I just keep it calm and just act like oh well blah blah.. where inside of course I miss him.. but I never let him see it and now it keeps him calling me asking me do you love me??..do you miss me??..can I see you??.. all of those things so I'm just embellished in it and I'm loving the attention that I'm getting and this is how we will last for so many more years than we would have..now he'll never want to do wrong again because he knows what it feels like to lose me and he'll never want to feel like that again!!.. thanks a lot! Best wishes on your journey ladies stay strong👊🏼

  5. I am 55 years old and got together with a former office colleague. His wife passed away 6-7 years ago, a woman he was very attached too, he would always say that his wife was the one and only who understood him totally. After her death he got together very quickly with another woman whom with he stayed for 5 years. He repeteadly told me that he was never able to be by himself, nor was he able to tell his former girlfriend that he loved her. I guess now, that I was contacted by him immediately after him ending his relation with his former girlfriend. Shortly after we became a couple, for 2 months only. I have introduced him to my closest friends, to my son although I am a person who keeps things very private. All this period I have realized he was never able to kiss me on the mouth, neither to caress me, or show me a real affection while in bed. I am extremely direct of a person, and would confront him right away, which he did not like or expect from me, nor was he able to answer. Last week, very unexpectedly for me, he wanted out of the relation,stay friends and to go out from time to time and to keep in touch over the phone. I said NO to everything. And I walked away. I miss him terribly and wish to know what or how to go ahead with my life.

    1. The awful feeling you get when as you say ‘miss him terribly’ is something you ABSOLUTELY have to experience in order to genuinely heal. No tricks or shortcuts will help. Not much I mean, surely there are some tips that can make certain

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