Most, if not all of us, cannot imagine a life without an online presence in this day and age. Ignoring the gazillion other ways in which we can use the internet, social media platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook are wildly popular with Gen Z users.
While many use it for laughs or to make money, some unscrupulous people in relationships see it as an avenue to cheat on their partner. Thankfully, the internet remains the gift that keeps on giving. The same features that make an unfaithful partner think they can get away with infidelity can also be used to find out what they are up to.
If you believe your boyfriend has been up to no good on TikTok, here’s some signs that can help you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you on TikTok.
Has your man changed his phone password recently or has he become extra guarded with it? Does he get so immersed in Tik Tok, and not just when watching a fascinating video? Does he laugh and giggle out loud a lot when sending or receiving messages on the app?
Whether offline or online, the actions of a cheating person always give them away. Although many giveaways of infidelity could just as easily mean something else, the common theme is that they are hiding something.
However, depending on how early you start noticing your boyfriend’s unfaithfulness, the signs may not be as overt as ‘working’ late or reeking of another woman’s scent (yet). That’s why his phone is your most reliable insider right now.
What your boyfriend does with his phone can tell you a lot about where his loyalties lie. I’ll be the first to admit TikTok can be quite addictive, you open to check a message, and before you know it, you’re swiping non-stop for the next half hour.
If your man is like this too, and he continues that way when you glance at his screen, you probably have nothing to worry about. However, if your boyfriend is cheating, he will flinch when you look, even if he’s not on his paramour’s page.
You may also see him quickly hide his phone when you awake late at night or early in the morning to him browsing TikTok.
One favorable feature on the video-sharing platform for this ‘infidelity discovery mission’ is that users don’t have to follow you before you can see the comments on their post. You may not be able to see who views their videos, but as long as their account remains public, you can see the people that interact with them.
Now, depending on how interesting your boyfriend’s content is, he could be getting a lot of engagements from random people – man or woman. Nevertheless, if this particular woman keeps popping up, dropping a heart emoji on every video, making duets, and he does the same with her, there might be something else there.
You should also watch out for interactions that are too familiar on your boyfriend’s Tik Tok, like inside jokes from his ex or female users you don’t know.
Unless you have a mutual agreement that what he does in each video is strictly for content, your boyfriend always acting single on the platform could be a clue. How does this work, you ask?
If he outrightly says he is single or implies that he is by overtly flirting with another woman or makes jokes about the struggles of being alone, then he may have something with this person. He is actively putting it out there that he isn’t taken and hence available to get entangled.
Not every woman minds getting with people who are already in a relationship, but saying he doesn’t have a girlfriend increases his chances of getting messages from another user.
Again, his phone can be your biggest ally. If you have the mind and get the opportunity to meet it unlocked, you can rid yourself of the ‘what-ifs’ by sneaking a peek.
If you’re conversant with the app, I don’t need to tell you what to look for once you have access. But in case you aren’t, the first place to check should be his messages. Check his most frequent conversations and see if he has more than one message with a heart emoji or any other thirst trap.
People who cheat are usually careful so they don’t appear like they have something to hide. While amateurs often fail at it, your boyfriend could be a pro. If you have a little more time to go through his phone, you can use the opportunity to see if he has another TikTok account he didn’t tell you about.
If he uses it often, chances are he keeps it logged in on the same phone. Simply go to his profile, click on the arrow beside his username and check. If he has one, note the handle, do a quick sweep of the likes and DMs, and any suspicious video, then go back to your own device to see what else he’s been up to.
You may be surprised to find your loving boyfriend is a completely different person on the other page, probably even with a whole other girlfriend.
Instead of going straight to snooping around his mutual interactions while he’s in the bathroom, use those few minutes to install a compatible spy app. With that, you get to see what your boyfriend sees from the time he opens the video-sharing app till he logs out.
I should add, though, that spying on your boyfriend this way is a gross invasion of his privacy and may be illegal in your country. If you must do this, make sure you’re okay with the possible consequences.
If you want to improve your chances of catching him red-handed, have another woman send him flirty DMs on Tiktok. This woman lures men in with a suggestive pick-up line, asking to hook up at their girlfriend’s request to see who is loyal and who is cheating.
You can get pretty much any other woman you trust (and your boyfriend can’t link with you) to do the same and see how he reacts.
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Alternatively, you can opt to do the above by yourself to avoid stories that touch. You don’t want a situation where you arrange your boyfriend’s meeting with his future girlfriend in the name of a loyalty check.
If you don’t have anyone you trust enough to give that kind of power, it takes seconds to create a new account and get started. All you need is an email address that hasn’t been used on the platform yet and a random username.
Then go online and download a couple of pictures – bare face and with makeup on – of an attractive woman. (ensure your boyfriend doesn’t know her) Then follow other people as well as your boyfriend, interact with his posts, and then move to him. If he takes the bait, you have your proof.
Although there have been speculations as to how real the reality web series is, including the show hosts claiming at some point that it was, to catch a cheater is completely staged.
Like the other social media platforms like it, the quickest way to get found on Tik Tok is by putting yourself out there more (one video isn’t enough) and gaining more followers. Set up your profile with a name your friends can easily find, then leverage trending challenges, hashtags, and songs.
With the visitor log feature, users could get notifications every time anyone visits their page or views a video. However, with the removal of this function, you can view any account that isn’t private on TikTok without the owner knowing or getting notified.
Each person who catches their partner cheating reacts differently, as we process shock and betrayal differently. If you find your boyfriend cheating, try to stay calm and don’t go all crazy on the woman either. Protect your mental health first and confront him when you’re calmer.
If you have reasons to believe your partner may be cheating, do not confront them in haste as that may cause them to become more careful. If you must ask questions, make them direct, and note their reaction. If they get defensive, they’re probably hiding something. You could also show up to their place unannounced, video them when they are chatting with the lady, or hire a professional private investigator.
No woman enjoys being on the receiving end of cheating, but that doesn’t make it an excuse to stoop down to your unfaithful partner’s level. Remember this as you utilize the tips above. As usual, kindly leave a comment and share this article if you liked it.
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