The internet has become a necessity in modern life. In fact, it’s difficult to imagine our lives without it. It allows us to connect instantly with people thousands of miles away. It gives us immediate access to news happening all over the globe.
Unfortunately, it also makes it much easier for people to cheat on their partners. With the rise of social media platforms such as Instagram and Facebook, we are now able to connect on many different levels.
We can communicate silently with ex-partners on Instagram. We can make comments without our partners even knowing. It is easy to flirt or add new people to our list of followers.
In fact, you could say that it is inevitable that some of us end us cheating thanks to Instagram. It’s simply too irresistible, too much of an opportunity to pass up on.
I mean, all you need is a social media account such as Instagram and there’s this platform ready and waiting for you. It makes it easy for you to search for people in your past. And then you can talk to them in relative privacy. Who would be able to resist cheating?
Of course, we are not all destined to cheat on our partners. But it does help to know the signs. So just how do you catch someone cheating on Instagram?
Well, just as the internet makes it easy to cheat, so does it now make it easy for us to spot when our partner cheats. In fact, nowadays, it’s not that difficult to know how to catch cheating partners.
Decades ago you would have to rifle through a partner’s pockets to find incriminating receipts or telephone bills. You would have to grab the mail and open credit card or bank statements.
But as technology has moved on, so has our understanding of human behaviour. Nowadays we know what to look out for. We can spot the signs of cheating. We can catch cheaters by using the very same devices they use when cheating on us.
So what exactly should we be looking out for? What are the signs of a cheating partner?
If you want to know how to catch the cheater in your life read on.
The first sign your partner might be cheating on social media is when they start being secretive with their phone. If you don’t have anything to hide you won’t suddenly slam your laptop down when your partner enters the room.
If you’re not cheating you certainly won’t turn your phone over to hide your texts. And you definitely don’t go into another room to make phone calls. If you find your partner is whispering on their phone in the bathroom with the door closed or they frequently text at the bottom of the garden watch out.
Does your partner always seem to like or comment on one particular person’s profile or account on social media? This is a sign of infatuation which could lead to cheating. When we socialise we interact with several different people. However, when we start falling for one person in particular we zone everyone out and zoom in on them.
When we fall for someone else we can’t help but talk about them, even to our current partner. It’s as if our minds are so full of them our mouths can’t help but talk about them. It doesn’t have to be name-dropping either.
Your partner can share their posts or like their pictures. They can comment frequently with funny remarks or compliments. Obviously, I’m not talking about the occasional interaction between ex’s or old flames. It is when these interactions start to form a pattern of behaviour. That’s when it falls into the cheating category.
On the flip side, have you found that your partner has started to ignore comments you make on their Instagram posts? Have they even detagged you from social media pictures? This is a huge red flag and needs to be taken seriously.
What your partner is saying is that you do not exist in their Instagram world. They are trying to portray themselves as a single person. This is very dangerous and could indicate cheating. You should start immediate action.
As well as ignoring your comments on Instagram, you may have noticed that your partner doesn’t really text you anymore. Even though they are spending more and more time on their phones, the activity is not directed towards you.
So who exactly is getting all this attention? It is a question that is easily answered. If you have noticed that he or she has started obsessing over someone in particular on Instagram then see how many times they are commenting.
Once-upon-a-time you posted couples pictures of the two of you gazing into one another’s eyes. Now all your partner seems to do is post really attractive selfies on Instagram. You, on the other hand, are nowhere to be seen.
It’s almost as if they are sending a message to the world. Look at me, look at how gorgeous I am. Look at how beautiful or handsome I am. Oh, and look how single I am.
It’s all very well to find something amusing on your phone but if it’s that funny why not share it with your significant other? There’s nothing more irritating than a person sitting in a corner, giggling away on their phone and you ask them "what’s so funny" and they say "oh nothing", and carry on giggling.
It’s childish, immature, and selfish and if it is you doing it then you don’t deserve a partner. Stop cheating and go live with the person that’s making you laugh.
This is described as a form of 'micro-cheating' and is the thin line between harmless flirting and unfaithful behaviour. Talking or texting to people other than your spouse or partner is considered to be unfaithful by women, although not by as many men in one survey.
The forms of communication included romantic emojis, liking someone’s pictures on Instagram or having an ‘inside joke’ with a person not your partner. In the survey it was the time of the interactions on social media, i.e. late at night, that made the behaviour appear suspicious.
We all have new people come into our lives now and then, but does your partner always seem to add attractive and good-looking friends? Not only are they always gorgeous or handsome but is it frequently?
Chances are he or she is on the hunt for some extra-marital activity via Instagram. There’s something a bit dodgy about a person who is already in a relationship but is continually adding people based on their profile picture to their friends list.
They’re certainly not after an intellectual debate about quantum physics, let’s put it this way. They are probably cheating.
This is a sign of a person trawling through someone’s Instagram account for hours and hours. When a person likes a post or picture on Instagram that is 58 weeks old it takes an awful long time to get to that particular post.
You have to be pretty invested in people to want to spend that much time looking through their Instagram account.
This is obsessive behaviour of a person who is infatuated. This is called deep-surfing, especially if they then publicly like it. You may as well fly an aeroplane over their house with a message trailing after it stating your love for them. It would be just as subtle.
Remember the days when your partner could never find his or her smartphone and you always had to tell them where it was? Well, those days are over. Now your better half is never without their phone.
Actually, these days their phone is locked with a passcode or turned off at night. Before, in the good old days, you would even swap phones or take your partner’s phone if you wanted to share stuff online. Now it’s hands off.
If you ever manage to pry the phone away from your spouse’s grubby little cheating hands then take a quick shifty under their ‘contacts’. Are there entries that just consist of a single letter or number?
Are there contacts such as ‘John window cleaner’ or ‘Mike IT guy’? Do you know for a fact you don’t have a window cleaner and your partner has no need for an IT guy?
Have you ever wondered why your better half only ever wants to follow social media accounts of people who are the opposite sex? It is a phenomenon called ‘back burners’.
A person is already in a relationship but they form these ‘back burner’ relationships just in case. These are so they can keep their options open should anything go wrong with their current relationship.
It’s not that they think anything will. But they like to think they have options. The problem with these back burner relationships is that they occur behind a keyboard. Here we can take our time to formulate the best responses. We can showcase our best selves, or even a version of our self that is fake.
Instagram is a picture sharing social media platform where people can post photos but now it has a direct messaging (DM) feature. Therefore, once you have connected with someone or followed them it is easy to DM them and start up a conversation.
The easiest way to catch a cheating spouse is to track their phone activity. Spyine is a phone monitoring app that gives you remote access to a phone’s data and location. It works on iPhone and Android phones. Spyic is another phone monitoring app that does the same.
Collect evidence. Look for receipts such as hotel bills, recent purchases etc. Change up your routine without telling your spouse. They are only able to make plans if they know what you are doing in advance. So surprise them by coming home early one weekend or evening. Or don’t leave your apartment when you said you would.
There are lots of apps that allow you to catch a cheater but the one with the best reviews is Spyera. It runs on Android and iPhones and tracks incoming and outgoing calls, has a keylogger so you can even read deleted messages and GPS tracking.
Cheaters like to use apps that will delete comprising messages so apps such as Viber, Telegram or Signal are perfect. These apps delete messages after a few minutes. They also allow you to have secret messages. But you should also be wary of other messaging apps such as Facebook Messenger, WhatsApp and Instagram DM.
If you think your spouse or partner is cheating on Instagram, did any of my above signs help you to spot them? If so please do feel free to share my signs with your friends.