Are you suspicious that your partner might be cheating on you using Snapchat? If so, you’re going to want to give this article a thorough read!
First of all, let’s start off by looking at what Snapchat is and why someone would use it to cheat on their partner. In short, Snapchat is an instant, multimedia messaging app.
One of the primary features of Snapchat is that a message, image, or video is only available to the receiver for a limited period of time before it automatically disappears. So, it would make sense that someone would make use of an app like this for cheating as there’s very little evidence of messaging history between two people.
Furthermore, Snapchat has lost some of its popularity to apps like Instagram and Tiktok so it isn’t necessarily an app one thinks to check if you’re trying to “spy” on a boyfriend you suspect of cheating, which, obviously, makes it more appealing to cheaters.
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If your partner is cheating online, he’s bound to be more secretive than usual. His secretive behavior might filter into everything he does and says (or doesn’t say). Some telltale signs that indicate secrecy include:
If your partner is suddenly spending less quality time with you, it’s a red flag. This is something to be concerned about in your relationship. Furthermore, it might signal that you have a cheating partner.
I recommend having a conversation with your partner and raising the issue at hand. From there, I suggest planning a couple of one-on-one dates with your spouse or partner and see if things begin improving. If your partner still seems distant, aloof, and uninterested, it might be because he has another love interest.
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse and manipulation that generally takes place over an extended period of time.
Gaslighting causes victims to start questioning their own sanity, memories, and perception of reality. A victim may eventually take on the blame or feel guilty for even thinking the way they thought or asking the questions they asked.
Some common signs of gaslighting include:
If your partner has suddenly changed up his appearance, has taken a keen interest in his grooming habits, has invested in new clothes, or even starts attending the gym more regularly than usual, he might be trying to impress someone other than you.
If your boyfriend or partner is a stickler for routine and he suddenly changes up his routine dramatically, it may raise some questions. He might suddenly frequent different coffee shops, leave work later than usual, go to the gym at a different time than usual, or start hanging out with a different social group.
A change in routine could happen if a cheating partner is trying to find time to see his lover more regularly. If you’re concerned about the new routine, ask him if you can accompany him to the new coffee spot, hang out with his new friends, or attend the gym with him. If he hesitates, you might have reason for concern.
If your boyfriend is cheating on you, you might find that he suddenly makes use of apps like Snapchat. He might spend progressively more time on social media apps, even trading quality time with you for time spent on these apps.
Snapchat is an ideal app for cheating because images and chats are only visible for a limited period of time before they automatically disappear, making the sharing of naughty, or nude, photos more appealing.
If your partner’s cell phone is suddenly receiving calls and messages at all hours of the night, it’s bound to raise some questions. I would suggest raising the issue with him, letting him know it makes you feel uncomfortable, and setting a boundary. You might want to go as far as asking him who’s calling or messaging past a certain time.
There are many reasons for emotional distance or detachment, including emotional or work stress, the need for alone time, too much tension in the relationship, or infidelity.
If you suspect the emotional detachment is due to infidelity, you might want to monitor the social media platforms, text messages, and call logs on your partner’s phone (or the target phone).
If there are periods of time when your partner goes MIA, his phone is turned off, or he’s simply unreachable, there’s a good chance that it’s because he’s somewhere he isn’t meant to be or with someone he isn’t meant to be with.
Not only do such periods cause a massive and unnecessary amount of stress for loved ones, but they may also indicate red-flag behavior. If your partner is unreachable on more than one occasion, without any valid excuse, it’s definitely something worth talking about.
If there’s a sudden and noticeable increase or decrease in sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend, it might be reason for suspicion.
A cheating spouse or partner is either likely to withdraw from sexual activity with you if they’ve started seeing someone else, or, on the contrary, they might overcompensate and try to cover up their wrongdoings by having a lot more sex with you than usual.
A defensive partner usually has a long list of excuses for his behavior, will try and rationalize things with you, might lie about things, or even outright deny any behavioral changes. He might even seem extra sensitive or touchy any time you raise issues in the relationship that you feel need discussing.
Occasionally, he might even blame you for the issues in the relationship. If he’s getting defensive more frequently than usual it might be because you’ve blown his cover.
All relationships require effort and commitment for them to work, especially in the long run. If your partner is no longer invested in the relationship, he’s likely to stop putting in any effort in terms of communication, date nights, time, and consistency.
While a lack of effort can stem from a variety of different factors, it could also mean your partner has found a love interest elsewhere. Unfortunately, with the rise in social media and apps like Snapchat, hopping from relationship to relationship has become extremely easy, especially when the going gets tough.
Sometimes, when people are guilty of poor behavior, they project their own feelings and insecurities onto their partner. They may even nitpick as a preemptive defense for their own cheating.
Some of the things your partner might do, include:
Disclaimer: Treat this section of the article very carefully. We do not recommend opting for spying or deceiving your partner in any way. It’s an unhealthy approach for any relationship, even in the case of infidelity. However, this has been a very requested topic and we trust everyone to proceed with these steps only after having given it much thought and consideration.
For those of you who are new to some of these spying methods, in short, spying apps work in stealth mode, meaning you’re able to monitor Snapchat and other apps on the target device without your partner knowing.
If you’re uncomfortable using a spying app, there are other methods mentioned below that too can help you catch a cheater on Snapchat.
A background checking tool like Instant Checkmate can perform a thorough and confidential scan of your spouse's recent communications and provide you with the necessary information.
It will reveal who he has been in frequent communication with, whether he has been using dating apps, and if he has any undisclosed contact information, among other things.
Getting started is fairly easy, and all you need are a few of his basic personal details.
If you’re worried that your partner is out and about doing things he shouldn’t be doing, like cheating, a quick look at Snap Map on Snapchat may give you a better indication.
Snap Map is an interactive map that tracks users' real-time location and allows other Snapchatters to see where they are. However, users first need to enable this setting in order to allow others to view their exact location.
If you’re concerned that your boyfriend or partner has been dishonest about their whereabouts and could possibly be seeing someone behind your back, ask him to turn on his Snap Map location. If he’s hesitant about doing that, you might have reason to be concerned. In this case, I suggest asking him why he’s hesitant about it and taking things from there.
This method will require you to access your partner’s phone and Snapchat app for a short period of time.
Once you’re in the app, see which people in your partner’s Snapchat have a fire emoji next to their names. A fire emoji indicates a Snapstreak between your partner and the person, meaning they have Snapped each other within a 24-hour window for more than three consecutive days (some of which could be cheating snaps).
If there are some names you don’t recognize on your partner’s Snapchat, and especially if there’s a Snapstreak between them, it’s a reason to be suspicious of Snapchat cheating. Approaching your partner about who the person is might be in your best interest.
mSpy is known as one of the best phone trackers for parental control, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t the perfect way to catch a cheating boyfriend too. This tool is a great option if you want Snapchat cheating evidence.
mSpy is a remote monitoring app that allows you to do a host of things on the target phone, including accessing social media chats, tracking where the person has been or is going, seeing who they’ve called and messaged (including deleted messages), seeing what they’ve searched for, and accessing pictures they’ve been sending and receiving.
mSpy is also easy to use and keeps you invisible on the tracked phone. Better yet, you no longer need physical access to the tracked phone at any point in time. mSpy is a great go-to for accessing all the details you might need to catch a cheater.
EyeZy is another very useful app when it comes to remote viewing and tracking of another device. With EyeZy you’re able to monitor things like what they’re searching for on the internet, their location, what apps they’re downloading, who they’re chatting to, and what apps they’re spending most time on.
uMobix is another popular cell phone tracker with various features. It allows you to monitor over 30 popular apps, calls, messages, GPS locations, and media files on the target device.
Available on both Android and iOS, uMobix takes 5 minutes to set up and gives you real-time information, allowing you to monitor if someone is cheating on Snapchat or any other social media app.
ClevGuard allows you to remotely spy on your partner’s Whatsapp, Snapchat, and other social media apps. Using ClevGuard you can catch a cheating partner by remotely viewing their Snapchat messages, Snapchat stories, and any other message exchanges that take place via their phone.
If you have access to the target phone for a decent amount of time, this might be the easiest way to catch someone cheating... You’ll want to gain access to their social media apps, especially Snapchat, and view who they have the most regular conversations with. Having a look at their Snapchat friends will give you a good indication of who they chat to most frequently.
Be sure to check things like text messages and call logs on their phone too for any suspicious activity.
Discovering that your partner has been cheating on you can be an incredibly difficult thing to go through and accept. You’re likely to experience a rollercoaster of emotions. Take time for yourself and utilize the below-mentioned steps while on your path of healing.
A host of negative emotions, including shock, anger, jealousy, confusion, betrayal, shame, grief, and anxiety are likely to surface from time to time as you deal with the realization that you’ve been cheated on.
Accept these feelings as they surface. By allowing yourself to feel these emotions, they will slowly start to dissipate, and, over time, the pain will lessen.
Speaking to a professional who can guide you through all of this may aid the healing process and give you the emotional outlet you need.
Reach out to a trusted, non-judgemental friend or family member who you can confide in and lean on for support and encouragement. Having someone to talk to, who you can trust, will help the burden feel lighter.
However, I recommend being selective with who you tell. Make sure the person you confide in can be trusted and won’t share what you’ve told them with others. The last thing you need is another unreliable person in your inner circle.
This might be an extremely difficult step to try and undertake, albeit a very necessary one. Analyzing your relationship and having an open and honest conversation with your partner will help you better understand the underlying reason for the affair. Try not to point blame and don’t blame yourself either.
There are many reasons why people cheat, some of which may have nothing to do with you (although it still heavily affects you).
Things like a breakdown in communication, unmet needs, unhealthy attachment styles, unresolved childhood traumas, low self-esteem, poor emotional connection, poor boundaries, addiction, or having fallen out of love could be the root cause of an affair.
Once you have an understanding of where, why, and how things went wrong you’re able to start moving forward.
If your partner isn’t prepared to be open and honest about why it happened or starts shifting the blame, it might be very difficult to make amends. Attending both couples and one-on-one therapy will help you and your partner get to the root of the problem and find a harmonious way to move forward.
Unfortunately, if your boyfriend or girlfriend has been unfaithful, you’re going to want to get tested for STIs and deal with anything that could potentially come up, ASAP.
Give yourself some time and space to think about what has happened, what your partner’s side of the story is, and what your options are moving forward. Instead of being reactive at the news of an affair, take time to make intentional decisions that’ll better serve you in the long run.
It’s understandable that in the wake of an affair, you’ll want to jump straight to a conclusion or solution, however, this might prove harmful in the long run. Take a step back and take whatever time you need to find a healthy way forward that’ll best serve you.
Seeking professional help is essential. A therapist will guide the process, lend a listening ear, give you reliable advice, help you navigate the rollercoaster of emotions, act as a mediator when necessary, and help the two of you move forward in the best way possible.
Sometimes, a neutral third party is also able to help you see things from an entirely different perspective and give you coping strategies you never thought of before. My advice is to find a therapist who you resonate with and stick with them.
As tempting as it may be for some to seek revenge out of anger, this isn’t going to make you feel better or serve your relationship in the long run. Seeking revenge may keep you in a state of anger and will likely delay the healing process.
Too often vengeful parents want to use kids as ammunition when it comes to divorce and/or separation. This will only put your kids in a vulnerable, uneasy position and needs to be avoided at all costs.
Furthermore, avoid sharing unnecessary details about the affair with your children as it’ll leave them feeling anxious, uncertain, and forced to take sides.
Taking time out for yourself and your kids is essential. Make sure you all have a safe, happy place to stay while ironing everything out and deciding on the best way to move forward. Eat healthy food, get some proper rest, go on fun outings together, find a new hobby, and take care of yourselves.
Unfortunately, you don’t have control over someone else’s behavior. However, there are ways you can ensure you have a happy and harmonious relationship, these include:
- Making time for each other and your relationship
- Setting healthy boundaries
- Checking in with each other
- Finding ways to keep your sex life interesting
- Having open, healthy communication channels
If you suspect your partner’s been cheating, you’ll want to monitor his Whatsapp, Instagram, Telegram, Facebook, text messages, call logs, and any other social media app you’ve noticed him using frequently. A couple of these apps have a message disappearing function, making them appealing to use for cheaters.
Here’s a quick hack that allows you to find out if someone has multiple Snapchat accounts:
Step 1: Block them on Snapchat
Step 2: In the Snapchat app, click on the “add friends icon”
Step 3: If they have another Snapchat account, they will appear with a different username under the “Quick Add” section.
Using the above-mentioned information you’ll be better equipped to identify and catch a cheating partner via Snapchat. Before you falsely accuse your boyfriend of cheating on you, make sure you have concrete evidence at hand.