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When A Virgo Man Ignores You (11 Actionable Tips)

by Sonya Schwartz

It gets tough having a Virgo man in your life sometimes. You have to understand the type of man that he is to keep a stable relationship with him. For one, when a Virgo man ignores you, it’s hell. 

A Virgo is someone born between August 23rd and September 22nd. This zodiac sign is characterized by kind and sweet people; they have a good sense of humor that could be dark sometimes. A lot of people peg them as men who are perfectionists; the truth is they criticize themselves as well. If a Virgo man finds a friend in you, you'd be his friend for life. They are very loyal to their family and friends. 

However, you don't want to get on this man's wrong side. When a Virgo man ignores you, he's burying his feelings deep down. They're not one of the most emotionally expressive star signs; he would rather not talk about the situation until he feels better, and that can be frustrating to a partner. 

If you know a Virgo man, sometimes, you might ask yourself, "why is he ignoring me" because there's hardly any warning. Luckily, with this article, you’ll understand why they behave this way and also figure out how to deal with Virgos the hard way.

11 Things To Do When A Virgo Man Ignores You

1. Ask him about it 

If your Virgo man is giving you the silent treatment, the first thing to do is to ask him about it nicely. Before you go all out thinking, 'he is ignoring me', do some due diligence. It's essential to be sure he's ignoring you and not having a bad day. Asking him about it doesn't mean he would talk to you. Just show that you've noticed a difference in his communication with you and that you care about him. 

Sometimes, Virgo men ignore their potential partners as a test. He's trying to analyze things about you. It’s probably one of those Virgo man secrets the rest of us are not in on. Try to talk to him, and if he keeps putting you off, giving standoffish responses, he wants to be alone. It may not necessarily mean you’re going to break up.

2. Be calm 

It's difficult not to assume in situations like this. Believe me, if he were to be in your shoes, he will think you don't care about him anymore, but don't do that just yet. Don't have an outburst about the situation, and resist the urge to write him an epistle about how you feel. This could spell doom for your relationship. As I said earlier, it could just be a test and nothing more. Don't pay too much attention to the problem. 

3. Give him space 

Virgo men occasionally want to have time alone with themselves; he will find it irritating if you still hang around him, asking what the problem is. Giving him space might even solidify your relationship. Remember, they don't like being ignored by someone they care about. Give him space to talk to you about what's going on by himself. 

Something may have come up at work, a change in schedule, making him unable to keep up with you. Maybe he just feels off, or peeved after an argument? Simply give him time, it will do your relationships some good.

4. Help him with something 

Help him with something

You can try to break the ice by helping him out with work or being available when he needs you. Offer to bring him lunch during his lunch break or if he's working on a project, ask if he needs your help. This would show you still care about him whether or not things are a bit rocky. Generally, make yourself available and respect his space. 

No one wants their life crowded, no matter how much they like you. Did he say he doesn't want help? Then don't help, but at least you offered. You’ll notice a facelift in the relationship after this.

5. Try not to overdo 

Whichever one of these tips you chose to apply, don't overdo it. Keep everything on an average level as though you have no problems with him. It will make life a lot better for both of you. Overdoing things can push your Virgo man further away than you want. 

6. Keep him updated on social media 

Just because a Virgo man is ignoring you doesn't mean he's stopped caring about you. If he's still checking out your Instagram and other platforms, he still likes you. Uploading those tweets and statuses is an excellent way to get his attention. 

If he realizes that you're doing great without him, he may want to rekindle the relationship. However, don't try to manipulate him with your social media; he will see right through that act. Just be your usual self, and don't disappear. 

7. Don't force conversations 

Forcing a conversation with a Virgo man is worse when he's ignoring you. Doing this might put a strain on your relationship. When you get the first three times, and it still feels like you are stressing him, let him be. 

8. Focus on something else 

Focus on something else

Get yourself involved in other things, throw yourself into work, and hang out more with your friends. Generally, give yourself time off from the relationship as well. When you're concentrating on something else, you won't have the time to start a fight about anything. 

Virgo men don't like drama at all and they avoid problematic women. You have to be an independent woman to handle a relationship with such a man. He likes women who can take care of themselves and have their own lives. 

9. Keep it simple when you check on him 

That he is ignoring you doesn't mean you shouldn't check upon him. He probably isn't ignoring you. It could be work-related, or he may be feeling off. Perhaps he's just overwhelmed by how intimate both of you have gotten lately. Hence, he's taking a step back to reevaluate things. 

When you are checking on him, be straightforward about it. Ask what he's doing or if he's doing well and leave it at that. Try not to talk too much or be overly excited about the conversation to avoid being disappointed. 

10. Match his energy 

Respect his space. Don't give him room for one day and then come back the next to complain about him not talking to you as much (that's dramatic). They can't deal with drama in their lives. If he's energy is calm, respond to him calmly as well. 

Matching his energy is as good as treating him the same way he's treating you. Don't try to take up all the free time in his schedule, Virgo men enjoy having time alone with themselves. Keep conversations with this man simple and brief. 

11. Respect his decision 

A lot of women have fallen into this trap. You probably feel like bothering my Virgo partner about why he wasn’t talking to you. You simply want to know what was up with him. However, you’ll figure out the hard way that it will never work. 

When he is ready to talk, he will let you know the issue. Maybe he just wants his space. It's hard, but try to respect his decision to be on his own when he’s quiet because pushing it might end up making things worse. 


How do you react when a Virgo man ignores you? 

Ask him what's going on with him and try not to assume it's about you at first. If you've asked him about three times and he still isn't responding to your questions, it's time to give him space. You might end up finding out why he's ignoring you on your own, but be careful not to overthink the situation. 

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What happens when you ignore a Virgo man? 

It would interest you to know that he will hate being ignored. If he is your partner, he may jump into the conclusion that you don't love him anymore. A Virgo man would be overly concerned about why you are ignoring him or keeping your distance from him. If he sincerely likes you, it'll be a bit difficult to give you space. However, if he successfully does provide you with space, he may not come back. 

What does it mean when a Virgo man ignores your messages? 

It's as simple as not wanting to talk to you. Virgo males are fun, lively people. However, when they disconnect with you, it's difficult for them to come out and say it. He would rather slowly keep his distance from you, push away until you're out of his life. It's a hurtful thing to do to a partner or anyone, but that's their default exit. It's why he is quick to assume you don't love them any more if you ignore him. 

What is the best thing to do when a Virgo man is distant?

The best thing to do when a Virgo man ignores you is to give him space as well. As I said, they don't like being ignored, so he would try to come close to you, mostly if it wasn’t something serious. Be receptive to him and ask what happened when he comes back. Sometimes he just starts a conversation with you, usually like nothing happened. 

How do you know when a Virgo man has lost interest? 

You know a Virgo man has lost interest when he’s ignoring you, and nothing you do to get his attention is working. When giving him, space feels like what he truly desires (he’s doing just fine without you.) That Virgo man just wants out, you should let him go. 

To Sum Up 

I hope you enjoyed this article. Virgo males can be a handful, but they’re the sweetest partners out there. Just keep in mind sometimes he’s just seeking attention when he ignores you, be calm. I’d like you to leave a comment in the box below, and please share this article with your friends. 

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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