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Spanking Your Husband (The Ultimate Step-By-Step Guide)

Last updated on June 4, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

At the mention of the word “spanking”, what might come to mind is the picture of a stubborn child whose parent slaps his bottoms for misbehaving.

However, spanking, here, is used for the purpose different from this perspective.

Similar to talking dirty to your husband, spanking your husband can help create excitement, rekindle love, and getting the best out of a relationship.

Husband spanking has been dubbed by many health experts to be one of the ways in which you- as the wife- can get to add spice to your relationship, keeping intact the respect, loyalty, and love which are meant to be consistent in it.

There is no doubt that erotic spanking might bring about some little pain, but that appears to be less of an issue if done the right way, as the delight derived from it surpasses the pain. However, describing with one word the pain and pleasure derived from spanking is close to impossible. The closest description appears to be the one given by Gloria Brame. In her opinion spanking, "has more to do with the delightful sting and the delightful warmth and the delightful vibrations that it sends through the whole region,"

In the opinion of KC Spanks Club founder Rich Spankman, spanking simply put is “delightful.”

Spanking is not a punishment unless you want it to. How then do you make spanking your husband a memorable one? How what are the steps that are required and the best practices for achieving great spanking that will leave you and your husband breathless and crave for each other like the way a Redbreast butterfly dots around hibiscus flowers.

​Step By Step On How To Spank Your Husband.

How To Spank Your Husband

​Spanking your husband might be a bit hard if you are not accustomed to it. However, the following procedures will take you by the hands and walk you through the perfect way you can spank your husband.  Let’s go!

Prior agreement:

​You and your husband must have had a prior agreement before doing this to him. It would not be funny if you attempt spanking your husband, and the next thing he does is to walk away, or feels he’s being disrespected. This was what the Sex expert and commentator, Coleen Singer was getting at when she said, “Taking control or giving up control are both roles that require a mutual understanding in advance of what the goals and limits are.”


​Your husband needs to be aware of the rules guiding the erotic spanking. Below are a few examples of rules you can adopt for this purpose:

  • ​When caught cheating.
  • ​When he breaks the family budget plan
  • ​He ignores you for no reason.
  • ​When he transfers aggressions on you.
  • ​When he uses foul languages
  • ​When he’s caught lying
  • ​When caught masturbating with your permission
  • ​When he fails to call when he is late to coming home, and so on.


​Timing for spanking your husband shouldn’t be of the essence; you can decide to start it anytime, but it is logical if you spank your husband the time close to the infraction, as this will have more effect on him as to the reason of you spanking him.


​This is the best way to position your husband for spanking. Have him lay across your lap, and spank him, increasing the pressure each time? Ask him if he’s been bad — he’ll say “Yes,” if he wants you to keep going. You don’t have to experiment with costumes, but it could be a fun and fresh way to keep things spicy in the bedroom. He could put on short knickers, and you could wear a plaid miniskirt, for example.

​Reasons To Inculcate The Habit Of Spanking Your Husband In Your Marriage.

Management of differences:

​Spanking your husband can greatly help you as the wife from over-reacting to the occasional misbehaviors of your husbands. When you spank your husband in this regards, you end up releasing that bitterness; yet, you won’t be resulting to rejection which is the ultimate weapon mostly employed by most wives whenever they are dissatisfied with their husbands.

Enhances communication:

​Normally, before you can begin to spank your husband, you two must have had a prior agreement. Doing this, the two of you tend to naturally understand how a good interaction ought to be in the cold light of day. Your husband will begin to appreciate the fact that roles played by him in the relationship are just as important as that which is played by you his wife.


​According to DarlingPropaganda, it is good to “always play with a safe-word so the spankee can let their spanker know if things get too intense.” Unconsciously, by sticking to this rule, you are training your mind and that of your husband to focus on being considerate and selfless with each other.

It facilitates equality of freedom in your relationship:

​The general idea is men are supposed to be in charge of everything, including sex-related decisions with their partner, principle which I strongly disagree with, as it goes to affect your freedom as a wife. You ought not to be pressured into anything by warped ideas of what your sex life should be like, and by spanking your husband, you get in your hands the deserved equitable freedom in your relationship.

Spanking your husband makes you and him feel the natural glow of happiness.

The thigh butt of your husband should considerably be part of where you need to twinkle while spanking him. This spot when hit releases dopamine which is capable of making us happy and crazy about our partner said a psychotherapist, Dr. Karen Mann

You can only punish your husband to satisfaction through spanking.

​Men are moved by strength and fierceness. Women who punish their husbands in a frank manner take over and win their loyalty and adoration. When you employ the traditional method of subjecting your husband to punishment- neglecting him, you are most likely to be hurting yourself the more.

​Tools You Can Use To Spank You Husband

​Using a bare hand to spank might be a bit painful, considering the fact that you are dealing with one of the tendered parts of the body of your husband.  You are not looking to punish him like a prisoner either; you are merely spanking him to express your hurting, and at the same time to avoid complicating issues with your husband; therefore, using tools that are purposely designed for spanking is a good idea as this will offer the best result. Enough of all these talks! Let’s dive into the toys!

Spanking paddle:

This is a lightweight spanking paddle. This lightweight makes it easy to wield. And one good thing about this spanking paddle is that it comes in different designs and for different sensations. In all, it’s a perfect toy for you if you’re new to the spanking world, and you would like to explore it.

How It Feels

A spanking paddle is made from faux fur, and it leaves on the spanked area less pain, and the feel of it is close to that of a body massage. You don’t get a stinging sensation from this spanking paddle unless it is made from materials such as wood, had leather, and silicon.

Another thing you need to understand is that when you spank your husband bottom, focusing on a part of it alone, you are most likely to be causing him more pain than the one he gets from when you use a large spanking paddle.

Try the different types of the spanking paddle with your husband to ascertain which of them suits him the most.

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How To Spank Your Husband Using A Spanking Paddle

​Spanking paddle with two sides is the best to pick if you are looking to explore with the aim of choosing the one that offers you what you want. And don’t forget that the best part of the bottom is to aim for while spanking is the thigh and butt. This will ensure you keep things safe and nice.


​Look more of a long string-link material connected to a handle; only the tips of the strings are expected to touch the targeted area when you spank your husband with a flogger. The technicality it requires in terms of its usage makes it a bit more complex to use and more of a design meant for the pros.

How It Feels

The amount of pain your husband gets when flogger is used on him will depend on how it’s the flogger is made, and most importantly the manner with which you spank him. To have a hang on of how to use the flogger, local sex shop may have some books on this. You can also try exploring YouTube; there are tons of videos that will teach you how best to use the flogger.

Check the following YouTube links to access some of the tutorials:

  • ​Flogger tutorial How to (Part1) BDSM skills ep. #5
  • How to use a flogger
  • ​Basic Bondage: Flogger, and so forth.

I’m not affiliated with the channel owners in any way; they are merely recommendations. You can go on to search on YouTube for more videos related to how to use the flogger on your own.

The basics of using a flogger go thus: your wrist motion does the most part of the job here. It’s the only way to avoid spanking your husband in his thigh or butt with any part of the flogger other than the tips of the flogger’s tail.

However, before you start spanking your husband with the flogger, ensure you have practiced using it on a lifeless object, and you have perfected your skills of using it.

Also, try not to start with floggers made from hard objects; I will recommend you start with floggers made with faux fur because when you use them later on your husband bottom and you hit the wrong part, it might cause him more pain than what you have expected.

A Tickler:

​Ticklers are known for their ability to be used at a considerable distance due to their long length. They have been described to offer more sensation to the receiver’s body compared to other spanking tools. Tickler comes in different types: soft suede strands, feathers, metal beads, rubber strands, and so forth.

How It Feels

​The tickler just as its name implies gives the receiver a tickling sensation, and the reason for this is no more than the soft and gentle feeling it leaves on the body. However, if you use a tickler violently on your husband bottom, it may lead to more of burning sensation on his body. So, you need to use your tickler in the right manner to avoid this.

How To Use A Tickler

​For a better result when using a tickler to spank your husband, you need to avoid tight holding, instead apply slight pressure, and run the tickler softly across your husband’s body. And don’t forget to aim more at the sensitive areas – the thigh and butts.

A slapper:

When you use a slapper to spank your husband, expect to hear slap-like sounds. This sound will have you thinking your husband is being subjected to some crazy punishment, but ironically, he’s not; in fact, the experience your husband will most likely get is that of fun.

The slapper is made from pieces of numerous materials. These pieces hit one another when in use to create what I would call an erotic sound.

How Does A Slapper Feel?

Hard hit on the bottom results to pain; however, the impact will not be as serious as what you would have if flogger made from wood or silicon is used in this same manner on your husband’s bottom.

When you use it lightly on the body, it feels soothing, but no matter how light you use it, you can never take away the fun-filled slapping sound.

Ridding crop

​When you take a good look at the riding crop you will notice it consists of a cane and a paddle. It is a multi-purpose toy. It can be used as horse whips; it can as well be used on human beings for the erotic spanking to induce sensational feelings.

How Does A Ridding Crop Feel?

​Your husband might experience any of these feelings when you use the riding crop to spank him- feeling close to a mild tap and a painful feeling. Whatever feeling it is your husband will get will depend on the level of force you apply while you spank him.

How To Use A Ridding Crop

​If you hit your husband’s bottom with the tips of the riding crop lightly, he gets a protruding sensation. On the other hand, if you hit his bottom with the tips of the riding crop, but this time, hard, he gets a very painful sensation. However, you can spank his bottom with the iron part, but know that this can feel as intense as your regular cane. so, use this part with less force while spanking your husband.

A whip

​Length of a whip is the longest of all the spanking tools. It’s more complex to handle than other tools, and as such it’s not designed for the beginners.

How A Whip Feels

​Whips are naturally designed to offer painful sensation. So, if your husband doesn’t enjoy one, it’s best to avoid spanking him with it. However, professional whip users can use it on the body and it will barely touch the body, let alone leaving marks on it.

How To Use A Whip

​Due to the painful impact whip could leave on the body, it’s advised you are well trained and have mastered how to use it before spanking your husband with it.


How Do You Spank Your Spouse?

If you are looking to make your relationship a bit more exciting speak to your spouse about what he likes. Have an open conversation about what he does and doesn’t like and if he is open to this then try it. 

How Do You Discipline Your Spouse?

You should not feel as if you need to discipline your spouse. If you are experiencing relationship issues then it is important to have an open conversation with him about how you are feeling so that you can resolve these issues together as a couple.

What Does It Feel Like To Spank Someone?

This may add some excitement to your relationship if things have got a bit boring recently. However it is important to talk to your spouse about what he likes and wants before you try anything new that he may potentially not like.

Why Do Adults Like Getting Spanked?

Some people do and some people don’t. It is important to speak to your spouse about what he likes and what he doesn’t like before you try anything that he may take the wrong way. Having an open conversation with your partner about things will really help things. 

Why Do I Want To Punish My Husband?

This is not a good sign if you feel like you want to punish your husband. If you are not in a healthy relationship anymore it may be time to start thinking about walking away. Have an honest conversation with him and if you can’t work things out then it may be time to call it a day. 


Just like when parents won’t hesitate to give their child the six of the best for mothering off, you shouldn’t give it a second thought to spank your husband when you feel he deserves ones. Even though spanking could come with a sting-burn on men, but the relieve it offers his body and that of yours makes it sufficient to say it’s another subtle but potential health improving method that is as effective as an anti-oxidant.

And “according to research and polls, more than half of both men and women are turned on by spanking during sex.” -Menshealth

This should tell you that you are not only improving on the sex life of your husband but also satisfying him by adding some spices to it. When your husband is happy with you half of the battle which exists in a relationship is won already. So, go girl! Do some more spanking on him!

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

38 comments on “Spanking Your Husband (The Ultimate Step-By-Step Guide)”

  1. My wife needed no instructions as to paddling my naked butt if i come home having had to much to drink and other stuff that's bad with the guys--I have earned it as I know she is of a more religious and moral nature---I got it coming so I shower quick and bend over tub and take a bare ass paddling--My butt sure hurts but things are fine between us right away---When I am drinking to much I am thinking "It won't hurt that much!" when i am getting my bare butt paddled I am thinking "You damn fool" any other guys like me

    1. I wish my wife cared enough to spank me when she thought I needed it. I would love to try a hard punishment Spanking, it would be better than a cold shoulder.

  2. When my wife is going to give me a punishment spanking she tells me in advance and has a appointment time for it . I have to report to the den where spankings are given I have to strip down to my shorts and stand in the corner and wait for her to get ready she will call me over to her stand in front of her while she tells me why I am getting spanked then she has me go get the paddle or hairbrush she uses in the desk drawer hand it to her she puts it aside she then pulls my shorts off then put me over her lap adjust my bottom and start with her hand and then work up to the paddle or hairbrush soon all you can hear is the spanking when she is through I am put back in the corner to think about what happened .

  3. How do i find a woman that will do this? I asked all three wives to do it! Second wife tried with a belt, but got scared when bruises showed! She didn't mind taking walks in the woods and ordering me to strip and get her a switch to use on my naked ass, which i loved, though. Until her parents caught us and whipped us both in front of the entire family!! She stopped thinking we'd get caught again and we divorced

  4. My wife has a different approach to spanking. She doesn't use it as a punishment, but has told me that if she ever feels that is warranted, I will be very sorry.

    She has never been in a relationship with a submissive guy, and I believe in Female Supremacy. I wait on her hand and foot, and it is my privilege and pleasure to do so.

    Though she's never had the opportunity to express it in a relationship, my wife is naturally dominant in many ways--though she is very kind, caring and loving.

    When she spanks me, she calls it "marking her territory." I am 100% devoted to her. I am her property and would never be unfaithful. But she says she likes to see my behind turn cherry red and purple when she spanks me, and during a spanking she will remind me who I belong to and I will say "Yes, Ma'am. I belong only to you forever and always."

    She uses two paddles--one wooden and one lucite--both with holes in them. Typically she gives me three sets of 50 licks but I have been given as many as 305 in one session. It is her decision. I almost always am in tears.

    Afterwards I kneel and kiss her feet and tell her I love her and thank her for the spanking.

  5. My wife spanks me because I ask her to. Nothing to do with punishment or behaviour modification. I am not a submissive. She has become comfortable and very good at it. It is always a bedroom scenario or sometimes in the living room and part of sex for her as well.

  6. My wife and me are in a DD relationship. I get spanked for breaking her rules or not getting my chores done on time or to her standards. More than 95% of my spankings are OTK. She usually uses a paddle when at home. If we are out and I earned a spanking she uses a hair brush she keeps in her purse. I am totally submissive to he and very devoted to her. She does keep me in chastity and it was at my suggestion because her first husband cheated on her and she didn't want it to happen again. I am very happy being totally controlled by her.

    1. My wife is very strict.and treats me like a little boy all the time.l have to call her mommy..k am dressed as a little boy act like a little boy.and treated like a little boy..over the knee barebottom spankings.cornertime.. bathtimes earlybedtimes..her mother fully approve s..of the way her daughter is strict with me....and when she comes to visit will spank me if l am naughty..last week my mother in law.. took me up stairs bathed me .spanked me .and diapered me and put me straight to bed..my wife was thrilled to see this and has now told me l am to be diapered every nite.. like a baby..so you could say l have 2 strict mommys

    2. Would like to know more about this arrangement. At this point we do PT chastity, but shes not into spanking at all. Would like more connection through discipline.

  7. My wife started spanking me after she started Queening me. I'm really turned on by pantyhose and nylons and I also love to go down on her. She found out about Queening and loves it. A little after that she told me I was to be "Taken in Hand" and spanked me and has ever since. She can be jealous so just an errant look can get me a spanking.

  8. I'm a dominant wife. I make the money. My husband takes care of the home. Usually, he does a good job. But sometimes he gets sidetracked. I keep him submissive by not allowing him to wear anything all day but an apron. He knows I like him to be on his hands and knees scrubbing the floor when I get home. He has such a cute butt, especially under that bow. I have him stand by my chair when I watch TV so I can play with it.
    Once he was still fully dress when I came home. It was particularly embarrassing as I had friends with me who'd heard about my naked submissive husband. I gave him 30 seconds to strip and get his apron on and lay over my knee. Then I told him to call his friends and tell them he was grounded.
    It was obvious he liked it
    Probably the worst I've ever punished my husband was when he was flirting with another woman at a party. I ordered him to take off his belt and hand it to me and strip from the waste down. I told him to bend over, don't even remember how many times I whipped him but he was crying. I ordered him to tell that woman he was my whipped little bitch and go sit in the car. He carried his pants out the door with his red bottom shining. And he slept in the floor at the foot of the bed for a week.
    Maybe I'm too strict. But I take very good care of my husband. There are certain things I require. And if he doesn't meet my standards, he will be punished whenever, wherever and in front of whomever.
    I don't believe in sissy men. But keeping mine naked has made him far better behaved.

  9. My wife did some checking up on what I was looking at online and because I was curious and looking at stuff she thought that that's what I wanted. One night after I had a few beers and passed out I woke up and she had me tied facedown on the bed. She said that she had looked at the stuff that I was looking at and wanted to make my fantasies come true. She was standing there naked Wearing a strap on and holding a leather belt. She said she had saw on a couple of the videos I looked at we're men were tied facedown on the bed whipped with a leather bill and then taken with a strap on. She said she knew I was probably too embarrassed to ask for this so she was going to take it upon herself to do it and that she hoped that I liked it and enjoyed it as much as I enjoyed looking at it. Then she stood on the side of the bed and smacked my butt 10 times, kind a soft headfirst, but progressively harder. Then she walk to the other side of the bed And said, is this the way you like it and then she smacked me 10 more times. And as she walked back to the other side of the bed, she said, I must not be doing this right you're not crying, and then she smacked me 10 more times real hard causing me to start to cry. And then she walked back to the other side of the bed she said, that's more like it and she smacked me 10 more times real hard causing me to cry uncontrollably.. As I begged her to stop she walked back to the other side of the bed and said all the research I've done says that he will beg me to stop but you don't really want me too besides I kind a like hearing you cry. And with that , she smacked me 10 more times. As I laid there crying uncontrollably , she threw the belt on the bed grab a jar of Vaseline and put a bunch in my butt crack and started rubbing the strap on up-and-down my butt crack until she got to head in and said, remember when you did this to me and I begged you to stop and he wouldn't? This is what it felt like it was that she started pushing it in and didn't start till she got it all the way in. Then she said, How do you like it? And with that she relentlessly started pushing it in and out faster and faster until all the sudden she pushed it all the way in and had an orgasm. She laid on top of me for a couple of minutes because her breath and then pull the strap on out of me and picked up the belt and said, I hope this was everything you dreamed about and I hope you enjoyed it it would that she smacked my ass 20 times real hard causing me to scream out and cry uncontrollably in pain. Then she walked over and picked up her phone off the dresser and I realized she had videoed the whole thing. Then she said, that she was going to do this whenever she felt like it.If I didn't like it and let her do what she wants, she will send this video to my mom my dad and all my friends. This is what I get for looking at porn and masturbating like a filthy pig.

    1. I wish that my wife would do this to me. She said that she will consider Spanking me so who knows, maybe I'll get there. I want her to feel more empowered and I like the idea of being in a bondage situation. I also love the idea of her pegging me until she has an orgasm.

    2. I wish that my wife would do this to me. She said that she will consider Spanking me so who knows, maybe I'll get there. I want her to feel more empowered and I like the idea of being in a bondage situation. I also love the idea of her pegging me until she has an orgasm.

  10. My wife has been shopping online and bought some gr8 stuff. A blow up pillow for me to assume thenpisition on. She has bought me panties and spanks me when she catches me in them. She bought a new paddle, a small whip, and some toys to pleasure my back side. Well, when she paddles me, she pulls down my panties, paddles my bare bottom, then inserts a toy into my waiting bottom. After I get spanked she has me pleasure her orally then I climb on top. I like going to work the next day with a sore bottom both inside and out.

  11. I love being spanked by my wife. I don't get enough.
    She only spanks me once or twice a month.
    I would like to find a woman to do it to me more often.

  12. Many years ago shortly after our marriage while visiting my new in laws I got into a argument with my mother in law . The whole family was there and I made some comments about their religiosity and values. My mother in law warned me about being rude and disrespectful in their home. The next morning when everyone had gone off to shop I was eating breakfast and just my mother in law were present . She sat across from me and began to list my offenses . She quietly and sternly said that I had been warned and as I ignored her warnings she said I needed to be taught some manners and respect . I said I was sorry and she said an apology wasn’t enough and that I would soon be very sorry .She said as I acted like a brat I would be treated like a spoiled child I began to try to argue when she said if I was going to be accepted in the family I would learn her rules and I asked what I could do to smooth things over . She said she was going to give me a spanking I would never forget ! When I chuckled and said you are kidding right? She said it’s no joke. I was shocked and confused and strangely momentarily titillated .She told me to go to my wife’s childhood room and wait for her. I thought might be interesting , strange and I surely could have refused , I was a young grown man and could have left or just refused to cooperate. When she came into the room she was carrying a leather strap and wearing a very determined look. Now I am feeling really nervous and embarrassed . She scolded me more and said that when she was done I would think twice before speaking and added I wouldn’t be able to sit for a week. She grabbed my ear and pulled me up toward her and ordered me to drop my pants. When I said no way , she smacked my face so hard I saw stars. Then I dropped my pants leaving my underpants on. I wax terrified now and hoping she wouldn’t make my push my underpants down, and then the strap hit me. I tried to jump out of the way and shouted an expletive , and as she held my arm remarkably tight she bent me over the dresser and started strapping my underpants covered bottom . I cried begged her to stop . When she let me up I felt like a little boy. That night at dinner I had a very hard time sitting and she was right I haven’t forgotten. A week or so later my wife said she knew I had been spanked and she has been spanking me for decades

  13. Wow, nice piece. I am a man and I tell you, after reading this article, I think I will need to expereince a spank. Even though I am not married yet, I will tell my girlfeind to try it. I need a spank please!

  14. Good info. My man likes to spank his butt at bedtime? I do spank him. I just think it's weird him doing it himself?

  15. Just wondering how come you didn't mention tge cane? My lady friend says all men should be caned. But she says i am one of the few who should get the kooboo and the synthetic cane. The synthetic one us really hard to accept graciously... But I am trying to

  16. My wife grew tired of my misbehavior. Apparently she discussed it with a friend who indicated she disciplines her husband with spankings. One day I had been arguing with her and stormed off to take a shower. When I came out of the shower she confronted me and had me lay on the bed as she began spanking me. I kinda thought it was a joke until she brought out a leather strap and really let me have it. Since then, whenever I act up, I am given a spanking until I'm brought to tears.

  17. I assure you getting my bare butt paddled (though totally deserved) does not fill me with happiness---as one paragraph suggested--It is rare but when it has to happen we both know it at the same time---no argument from me. She is a great wife----when it has to happen its bare over her knee with a skinny stick I pick up in the garage

  18. When I act up or disobey, I know I'm going over my wife's knees for a bare bottom spanking. For the most serious offenses, its standing with my arms above my head for a caning across my bare bottom. I never know how long the punishment will last since the length of time varies. More wives should spank their husbands to improve their marriages.

  19. My girlfriend and I joked around about spanking for a long time over text. Eventually, we were in a hotel and I spanked her and she spanked me after. Very light but it was kinda like foreplay. A few months later we went to another hotel and she spanked me again. She was actually angry this time over me ignoring her for a while. I was bent over a sofa and she sat on my back and smacked me with a sandal over and over and over. Maybe she felt kinda bad so she put some ice water on my burning butt, then she spanked me again. It hurt so much more when my butt was wet I could not believe it and she just leaned into it even more. I felt like my butt would be bruised but it wassn't that bad, but I had marks for about a week after. Since then she will spank me once in a while with her shoe and make me lick her pussy.

  20. My wife spanks me for punishment and sometimes for sex. On some occasions ( that I dread ) both. We have over 20 implements. She rarely uses them all at one time. If it’s punishment and sex she will start by having me strip bend over a chair pick out 2 or 3 like a medium paddle, a strap and a flogger. Usually cards decide the number of seats. Usually 2 cards per item. After this warm up I will get additional punishments. 1 at a time. Anything from nipple clamps to a butt plug to Icy Hot on different spots. After a unspecified time the second round of spanking starts. This time more and heavier implements ( usually 4 or 5 ) and three cards. By the end of this session I’m starting to regret it. Another break for additional punishment. Now the ( most of the time ) final session. Again 4 or 5 items and 4 or 5 cards. Now I’m really ready to be done but she has of course saved the worst for last. I have to cum. She uses a dildo on my ass for this making me finish myself. This part is great but it told you the worst was last. I now must clean my mess with my toung then get over the end of the bed ass raised by a couple pillows. Her heavy wooden paddle with 8 holes is shown to me. I must lick it and then draw cards. She will tell me how many for the number of infractions. This last time I had to draw 4 they totaled 37. I dread these the worst because all sexual excitement is gone. She knows this and makes these the hardest.By the time I got 37 very hard seats on my already stinging bottom I swore I never want to do this again. But I’m sure when the time comes in won’t be given a choice

  21. It started here with me spanking my girlfriend, a few swats on the seat of her panties when she did something that annoyed me. A few days later she spanked me when she was annoyed with me. She said she thought that she should be the one who did the spanking in our relationship, as her behavior was better than mine. I had to agree that she was right.
    We have now bought a paddle, which we keep on a hook on the bedroom wall. The last time she used it was a few days ago. We had a slight disagreement about me not tidying up the bedroom, and I raised my voice to her. She promptly took the paddle from its hook, told me to bend over, and gave me ten firm swats on the seat of my underpants (all I had on at the time). Not a very severe spanking, just enough to sting slightly and punish me for yelling at her. I then tidied up the bedroom as she had requested. Much better than having an argument!

  22. my wife has been spanking me with a plastic hanger for a couple of yrs now and now she says she wants to add a paddle which i think is not a good idea but to be fair i said l will ask about it. knowing i will not get an answer.if l got one l would have to show her if not subject closed no paddle lol

  23. I would let here Use what ever she wanted to. My wife won't do nothing like a spanking for me.need someone to give me a spanking, no sex.

  24. I had always been interested in being spanked and after being married for 30 years and after our kids were grown and gone i finally got the nerve to ask my wife to spank me.
    At first she thought i was nuts but finally after showing her my collection of Scarlett Hill spanking magazines she agreed to start spanking me but she made sure that they would be real spankings not just play.
    I understood what she meant because she had been a spanking mom to our kids growing up.
    For a few years she would spank me when i asked her to, which was once or twice a month then when i was 58 she began to spank me on her own imitative when i did something to upset her.
    Then when we turned 60 she switched to weekly maintenance spanking which is done on Sunday mornings after breakfast and none of them is a joke. Once she has her trusty hairbrush out and i am bared and over her lap she never stops until well after real tears are flowing freely and each spanking is followed by corner time bare bottom on display until she allows me to get dressed.
    I am now in my late 70s and my wife's health has deteriorated and she is no longer able to spank me and i miss my trips over my loving wife's lap.
    I have been lucky in my life to have a loving wife who was willing to understand and accept my need for strict discipline.

  25. I like to spank my self about 20 to 30 swats to each cheek . And i like it alot to spank my own self . But i broke the paddle bought so i use it but I'm starting to bruise my butt now . Id like to find someone to spank me the way i need to be spanked .

  26. For a long time I wanted to be spanked but my wife would not. So whenever I had the chance I would strip naked and spank myself with a belt and a wood paddle. As time went on I got better at it and could give myself some pretty strong spankings. Some years later remarried my new wife took some convincing but now spanks me regularly and with many different implements. I could not be happier.

  27. Today hard spanking on my bare bottom from my female partner. Then I had to change and put on pajamas and now dressed in pajamas. After the dinner 18 p. m. my partner sends me to bed as punishment. No TV and smartphone but only sleep. It also gives me the nice submissive Adult schoolboys feeling of being sent to bed by my female partner at a childhood bedtime. When I get spanking on my bare bottom, I am also sent to bed early the same day I still like an early bedtime at 8 PM or 8:30 PM as a punishment. It gives the submissive boy feeling. But I don't like 6 pm and sometimes 5 pm too early. But my female partner determines the punishment and determines what time I have to go to bed for punishment that day. Today it is at 6 pm.

  28. I loved the article in general and want to have my wife read it, but a couple of things I would change.
    They are probably advertisers, but so much emphasis on catching your husband cheating. I have never cheated on my wife and don't need to raise suspicions.
    Why mention things like floggers and whips which are impractical for beginners to use. You could have included things like hairbrushes, or leather straps instead.
    Maybe a little more thought on the rules, take out cheating as it's more for divorce court than sensual spankings. Add things like leaving the toilet seat up, leaving clothes on the floor, not cleaning up after himself after dinner, not taking the time to listen when she speaks and not valuing her opinion.
    Just my opinion.

  29. I agree with Randy, cheating is a matter for a divorce court in most cases. And floggers and whips are not implements for beginners, some women never use them. My girlfriend and I know a couple where the wife has been spanking her husband for years. She uses only a wooden spoon or a hairbrush. She does not spank him for leaving the toilet seat up, it does not bother her that much. She says that what does bother her is when he does not listen to her or interrupts her when she is speaking. If he interrupts her, his pants and underpants come down pronto and she uses the hairbrush on his bare bottom. The last time we met, she urged my girlfriend to adopt the same policy. She says men tend to monopolize the conversation when talking with women, the best way to make us break this habit this is to spank our bottoms soundly.

  30. Last week
    Spanking on bare buttocks and early bedtime punishment

    My womam is school roleplay Thatcher and i am adult schoolboy
    and has last week very hard spanking . The adult schoolboy spanking punishments And early bedtime punishments for week 7 days 18h after the winner

    lack of discipline and wan performance and misbehavoir. It is annoying that I have lost my free evenings But the school roleplay, however, does not continue to warn. Teachter ensures that my school study goes better. the early bedtime is 17 pm. After the dinner

    Im 15 hours after school I have to take off my clothes and shorts and immediately put on my pajamas

    Early bedtime punishments is an efficient way to discipline for this adult schoolboy

  31. I hate the punishment aspect which is nothing to do with me getting spanked. She only does it because I like it and is very very good at it. It is another reason why I love her so much. I think if she spanked me for infringements something would be very wrong in the marriage which has been very happy for thirty years now.

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