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Priorities in Marriage (13 Easy Ways to Prioritize Your Marriage Today)

Last updated on July 8, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

When you think about priorities in marriage, what comes to mind? Do you need to reevaluate things in order to make your marriage a more healthy relationship? Do raising children and spending time with friends take up most of your time? When was the last time you put your work schedules aside to focus on your marriage?

One of the most important priorities in marriage should be your spouse. The key to a happy marriage is happy spouses! If you want a successful marriage, you need to put the effort in and spend quality time with your spouse. 

Let’s learn how to make marriage a priority today! That way, you’ll understand the key to a healthy marriage is not only unconditional love but also making intimacy a priority in your life - a top priority!

Making Your Marriage a Priority in Life

The importance of prioritizing your marriage goes nearly without saying. You need to make time for communication with your partner, not communication about parenting or other responsibilities that the two of you have, just communication about your marriage. 

Take some time for just you and your partner together - a mini-vacation if you will. Find the time!

Many of the important things in marriage involve mutual respect. If you want to show your partner respect, make sure you don’t expect him or her to do all the work around the house and for the family. Pick up the kids from school every now and then, cook dinner one night a week, and spend time with just the two of you talking and having fun with one another. 

As you make your marriage more of a priority, make sure you find time to talk about your relationship. Don’t just sit by and watch your relationship silently grow; take part in the growth of your marriage. Be active in making your relationship a success, and you’ll be glad you put forth the effort that you did. It’s better to give it your all in your relationship than to chicken out!

Here are a few more suggestions on ways to make your marriage more of a priority!

Priorities in Marriage

1. Make sex a priority

If you need to, schedule your sex life like you do anything else. It’s important that you make time for this kind of intimacy in your marriage. It may not always be an easy thing to do, but if you stick with it, you’ll be glad you did. It’s much more worth it to make sex a priority than it is to let your sex life sizzle out in your marriage. 

2. Cuddle more

Spend time holding one another. Enjoy the company of your spouse and what he or she brings to the relationship. Show affection and be loving! Find time to hire a babysitter, and just enjoy cuddling on the couch while you watch a marathon of your favorite movies or television shows. You could even just fall asleep in each others’ arms. 

3. Put the children to bed earlier

Maybe your kids are all grown up, and this doesn’t apply to you, but you can find a way to spend more time with one another. Just look for new ways to surprise one another with time and energy. Show that you are willing to do what it takes to make the marriage work, even if that means you will be inconvenienced somehow or in some way.

4. Show more intimacy

Intimacy is not all about sex in marriage. Intimacy is also about being close to one another by sharing secrets or things that you only share with your spouse. If you really want to give your marriage a jump-start, you should look into some books on intimacy and find creative ways to spend more quality alone time with one another. 

5. Learn your spouse’s love language

learn your spouse’s love language

There are five love languages - quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, and gift-giving. Depending on the love language of your partner, you should act out in these ways, showing them the kind of love that they need in your marriage. If they love getting gifts, go wild, and purchase them flowers and jewelry.

If they need words of affirmation to feel complete in your marriage, consider validating their feelings by giving them the words they need to hear. You might compliment them more often or tell them how much you appreciate the little things they do for you. It is a great thing to see a couple showing love like this for one another. 

6. Communicate your expectations

Talk about what you want in the marriage so that both of you are on the same page. If you don’t know what your spouse thinks of you, you should ask him or her about his or her expectations. Then, listen closely as he or she tells you what they think. Don’t check your phone or half-listen. Really pay close attention as they tell you the truth!

7. Schedule date night

Although it’s much more romantic to have a date night on a whim, you may want to schedule one if the two of you haven’t made time for one another in a while. Consider putting it on the books like you would a doctor’s appointment or a haircutting appointment. Your spouse is more important than those things, right?

8. Learn when to say no

Some things may need to be put on hold if you are to put your marriage first from now on. You may need to tell your best buds that you cannot make dinner on Friday night because you have a date night planned for your hubby. Sometimes, sacrifices must be made in order to make a marriage work. 

9. Put your hobby on hold

You don’t have to stop doing your favorite thing, but if your spouse feels neglected, it may be time to put things on hold for a bit. If you are an avid hunter but your wife is home ill with food poisoning, you should put the sport on hold and take care of her. That is what is meant by making her a priority. 

If you have a painting class, but your spouse feels like he or she is coming in second place to your art, you should skip the class and take your spouse out for a nice romantic one-on-one dinner together. You could take a nice walk along the beach or a sweet drive in the country, depending on what there is to do where you live. 

You may want to get creative, but remember that the most important thing is that you put your spouse in the front seat of your priorities. No longer should they feel as if something like a hobby is more important than your marriage. 

10. Find something new to do together

find something new to do together

Now that you have found time to spend with one another, it’s time to find something to do together. One thing you could try is taking a community class. You could join a chess club at your local community center or learn some self-defense moves in a karate class. If you join together, you might get a discount, and you’ll have something to chat about!

11. Communicate daily

It’s important to have regular communication. If you don’t talk on a regular basis, how will the two of you connect and know what is going on with the other person? It’s critical that you speak to one another about what is happening in your life. 

12. Appreciate your spouse

It never hurts to say thank you. You should recognize the little things your spouse does to make your marriage work. They probably do more than you realize. If you sit down and make a list on a piece of paper, you may find that your spouse does more than you give him or her credit for. Let them know how much you appreciate them.

13. Keep your marriage at the forefront of your mind

Always remember what’s most important to you. If your faith is the most important thing to you, make sure your spouse is up there, too. You don’t want to put your marriage on the back burner when it comes time to line everything up. You want your spouse to value you as much as you value him or her, right? Put them at the top!

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FAQs

What are the 3 most important things in a marriage?

Good Therapy lists commitment, trust, and intimacy as 3 of the most important things that marriage requires. Of course, part of that is communication, loyalty, and a solid foundation in your relationship. Of course, it also helps to like one another! Loving one another is even better!

Should your spouse be your first priority?

If you are part of a married couple, you should make your husband or wife a top priority. If your priorities are out of whack, you’ll likely suffer as a result. You may find mutual respect hard to come by if you don’t prioritize your marriage!

Why is marriage a priority?

Get your priorities in order. If marriage is not one of your top priorities, you may need to rethink things. Your husband or wife should be at the top of your list! Talk to your husband or wife about your needs and let them know where you think things are lacking!

How should a husband treat his wife?

A man should always show respect to any member of his family. The only way to do this is to love and communicate with them. His family should be a crucial part of his world. Good things come to those who have their priorities in order. 

Who comes first in a man's life?

His children and wife should come first. The family is a high priority because his children and spouse are part of him. Children rely on their parents to understand the world, so they need to be at the top of their priority lists.

To Sum It All Up

How do you think marriages should prioritize things? Are you married and wondering how to juggle it all? How do you think marriages should juggle things like parenting and family life? We’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject of marriages. Please leave a comment! Share on social media!

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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