It’s not easy being a teenager at middle school. At this age, we start to notice guys. Our emotions are running wild, and we fall in love at first sight. But how do we know our feelings are reciprocated?
It’s hard to know if a guy likes you, but there are signs. You need to know what they are. Sure, some are obvious but believe me, others are not, and some are downright weird and puzzling.
So if you have a crush on a middle school boy and you want to know if he likes you then read on.
When we like something or someone, we cannot help but look at it or that person a lot. It gives us pleasure; it fires up our feel-good hormones and releases dopamine. We get addicted to this feeling. We crave the feeling of love, of being near the person that produces these rushes of emotion.
It’s like when we buy a beautiful piece of jewellery or a gorgeous pair of shoes or a stunning dress or handbag. Once we have the purchase, we cannot stop looking at what we have bought. We derive pleasure from it.
And it is a similar sign with people.
You might even catch him staring at you when he thinks you are not looking at him. He’ll suddenly look away when you notice.
One of the signs that a guy might like you is that he’ll try and get your attention. In adult behaviour, this is peacocking. The male is showing off his best assets to attract a female.
So watch out for any overt attempts to get you to notice him. If he is a football jock, he might go out of his way to score a goal and celebrate in front of you. If he is a science geek, he may offer to help you with a tricky project. Funny guys will go out of their way to try to make you laugh.
Whatever he is good at, he’ll emphasize it to impress you. And if he’s confident he won’t care if he fails in front of you. That will be part of his charm offensive. He’ll play the underdog to get your sympathy.
I remember being completely besotted with this one guy in 7th grade. I was so nervous that I lost the ability to speak whenever he was around. I would turn beetroot red and blush. It got so bad I couldn’t be near him. Even if it turned out that he did like me, I could never have dated him. I was a complete wreck!
As for your guy, there are lots of signs:
There are passive ways to tell if a guy likes you or not. One of the easy ways to tell if they show up on your social media. It is a sign that they are interested in your life. They are following the things you do. They want to know what sort of stuff you like.
Then they will begin to like and comment on your picture and posts. It allows them time to think about what they want to say beforehand. They have the time to impress you or think of a funny remark.
Guys that are a little shy will use social media to test the waters to see if you like them too. It allows them to back off without losing too much pride if you do reject them.
Watch out for instant changes in his body language. He may raise his eyebrows as soon as he sees you. He could begin to mirror your actions or start grooming himself.
He may touch your arm or shoulder or brush against you accidentally on purpose. If he likes you, he’ll stand closer and get into your personal space. When he says something funny, he will look to you for a reaction, and you’ll be the last person he looks at before he leaves.
You’ll notice him looking at you when he thinks you are not looking. He may ask to walk you home or carry your books to another class. He will make a point of pairing up with you whenever there’s the opportunity. He’ll ask you questions about your likes and dislikes. He may even blush and act goofy when you are around.
We look at the things we are attracted to, so you might catch him stealing glances at you when he thinks you aren’t looking. We also like to be near the object of our affection. He’ll make excuses to spend time with you at lunch break or in class. He’ll offer to help you with a subject you are not good with.
We become attracted to people we are familiar with. Therefore we have to be around them for a while so that we can get to know them. Go to the same social events as the guy that you like. Find out what parties they are going to and attend those. Get yourself involved with their crowd of people.
Make it flirty and fun. The last thing you want is for it to be weird and uncomfortable. So drop a few flirty hints that could be construed either way (just in case your feelings are not reciprocated) and see what happens. Be the girl that starts up a conversation with him. Take the time to talk and listen to what he has to say.
Kissing for the first time can be nerve-wracking, but the trick is to go with the flow of the moment. When your guy leans in for the kiss, tilt your head slightly so that your noses don’t touch, pucker up your lips and open them a little then close your eyes at the last moment. Press your lips onto your crushes’ and enjoy!
So, do you think you can tell now if guys like you in 6th grade? Have my tips helped you in real life? Are you dating now because you realized a guy likes you? I’d love to hear from you!
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