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How to Make Out With a Guy (10 Effective Tips)

Are you wondering whether you’re good at kissing? 

Maybe your man says you’re great at it, but you don’t believe him... 

Or perhaps he’s showing signs that you’re not a good kisser!

Either way, this guide is here to help you become amazing at making out. 

But before we explore the 10 useful pointers within this guide, I need you to read the following sentences carefully. 

A few years ago, I discovered a powerful feature of male psychology that makes a man more drawn to you than ever before. 

This psychological tick is more powerful than your kiss will ever be! 

It’s called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ - and it can transform the way men perceive you. 

When used correctly, it triggers overwhelming feelings of purpose and power within a man.

In most scenarios, he will begin to feel a deep bond with any woman who can make him feel this way. 

I know this because I have used it for myself!

Before reading about this skill, I was the woman who could never keep a man interested for more than a few weeks. 

Afterwards, it was common for them to be the ones chasing me and trying to get in serious relationships. Read my personal story to learn more about how this works. 

The most remarkable thing about The Hero’s Instinct is its consistency. It seems to work so well on most men. Yet, barely anyone seems to know about this. 

This is your chance to leave an impression that no other woman can. If you want to do this, go ahead and read my blog post explaining how it works.

I have also put together this article to shed some light on how you can make out with your man like a pro. Just follow these ten effective tips and you will be an amazing kisser in no time.

How you should prepare first

There are a few things you can to prepare yourself before you pounce on your man. So, let’s start by talking about the basics you should have nailed before you get to locking lips. Once you have made sure that you can master these things, you will then ready to move on to reading the top ten effective tips and making your man lust over you like never before.

  • Ensure that your breath is smelling minty fresh

This is one of the most crucial things you will need to make sure of before you go anywhere near your guy. No one wants to make out with someone that has bad breath. If you are at home, nip to the bathroom and give your teeth a quick brush. If you are out and about with him, it might be a good idea to carry some mints or mouth spray with you.

  • Add a bit of perfume or body spray

Men love sweet smells. So, it might be a good idea to put a little bit of perfume or spray some body spray over you before you start to get close to your man. Do not overdo it, just add a small amount of sweet scent. Overpowering smells will have the opposite effect.

  • Avoid wearing too much lipstick or lip-gloss

If you are wearing makeup, that is fine, and it can be nice for your man to know you have made an effort with your appearance. However, I don’t advise you to wear too much lipstick or lip-gloss. If possible, don’t wear any. Not only will the sensation of it not feel nice on his lips, but when the make-out session starts to get really steamy, your hair could get stuck to your lips or your lipstick will end up all over his face.

  • Be wearing your sexiest underwear

If you follow all of the effective tips on how to make out with a guy in this article, the chances are that it will turn into some passionate lovemaking. So, you want to be prepared for this if it happens. Even if you don’t end up having sex, his hands will most likely roam while you’re making out, so it would be nice for him to feel lacy and silky underwear. Pick out your favorite sexy set and you’re good to go.

The 10 effective tips you can use when making out with your guy

1. Find a comfortable and sexy position

To fully enjoy the make out and allow it to get up to a hot and steamy climax, you need to be in a comfortable position. I would say that the best make-outs happen when both of you are sitting or laying down, perhaps on a sofa or a bed. However, it can also be really hot to make out with your man pushed up against a wall. Whatever you do, do not stand awkwardly or be in a space that allows little room for movement.

Whatever position you decide to start making out with your man in, make sure you can stay there for a while. You want this make-out session to last a while. If you know or think that you will be having sex after making out, it can be really useful to do it in the same place that this can happen. There is nothing worse than feeling like you’re both ready to rip each other’s clothes off and then having to stop and run-up to the bedroom. It should all run smoothly, without interruption.

2. Start slowly

One of the most common things people do wrong when they are making it is that they move too fast. You need to start off slowly. If you start off slowly, you can always increase the pace. However, if you start off at a fast pace, it might seem like it is all coming to an end if you then decide to slow down.

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So, you can start making out with him by giving him a slow and long open-mouthed kiss. This will then become deeper if you give it some time. When you can tell that your man is craving your tongue on his, then it is time to pick up the pace. You can then start to work your tongue into his mouth. Once again, move gently when you put your tongue into his mouth, don’t force it in – you will know when it is the right time. You should never feel like you are making a lot of movement with your tongue. You don’t want to act like a washing machine. Use your tongue sensitively and it will increase the sexual tension between you and your partner. 

You should never act like you are in a rush when you are making out. Savor the moment and take it slow.

3. Use your hands

Men love it when you touch them. Also, making out is so much more than just kissing. You are trying to completely rev this man up and get him excited for you, so you need to incorporate more than just your mouth into the equation. An easy way to do this is to use your hands. You can do whatever feels the most natural for you but remember that the main aim is to make him feel as turned on as possible.

Where you touch your man depends on how far into your relationship you are, and what you feel comfortable with. You can simply wrap your arms around his neck and massage his shoulders gently if you want to be quite discreet, but still, make him feel good. You can also play with his hair if it is long or run your hands over his head.

If you know that your man likes to be dominated, it could be a real turn-on for him if you touch and grab his face, bringing him into your kiss. If you are very comfortable with your man, you can even rub your hands around his groin area or stroke his penis under his jeans.

By touching him on other parts of his body with your hands, you are signaling to him that you are ready for something more. You want him.

4. Tease him

Men want to have it all easy, but they actually feel more passion for something if they have glimpses of it. Even if you have been together for a while or have had sex before, you can still tease him. It’s really simple to tease your man while you make out. All you need to do is pull away from kissing him and touching him, flash him a smile or giggle a little bit.

By taking your lips and hands away from him for a little bit, you have given him time to miss your lips and your hands caressing him. He will want you back straight away, but don’t let that happen. Play around with him. Make him work for your kisses. Most likely, he will grab you back and start ravishing you. It will make you feel great to know that you have such a strong hold over your man and he craves you on him.

5. Use your body

We’ve covered using your hands, and you might think that it would have stopped there, but it doesn’t. You can really turn on your man by using your body when you are making out with him. There are many ways in which you can do this, but my favorite method would have to be pushing him onto the bed/sofa and straddling him. By putting your legs either side of your man’s body, you have all the control. You can then start kissing your man again, but this time, you will have to lean down to his face. This, therefore, gives him a great view up your top which can be a real turn on – you are giving him a glimpse of what he might be having later.

While you are straddling your man, you can also start to grind slowly on him, as if you were riding him. He will feel like he is having sex with you and this will obviously turn him on to no end and you can be sure that his penis will get hard for you.

If you are less confident to get on top of your man, you can pull him on top of you and let him take control. You could also rub your breasts up against his torso and grab his ass.

Another good way of turning your man on, which will also definitely turn you on is getting him to touch your body. You can guide your man’s hands to anywhere you want him to touch. For example, you could place his hands on your ass for him to squeeze, or you could bring his attention to your breasts.

If you are very comfortable with your man and you know you are going to have sex with him, you can be really naughty and turn it up a level. This will only really work smoothly if you are wearing a dress or a skirt. However, all you need to do to make your man go crazy is guide his hand slowly across your body, then guide him to your vagina. You will most likely be wet at this point, so you can physically show him how excited he is making you.

6. Kiss other parts of him, not just his mouth

You can explore other parts of his body with your lips that will make him feel amazing. Our necks and ears are really receptive areas that can turn us on quickly. So, why not start there? You can slowly kiss down from his mouth and find yourself on his neck. You can add a little bit of tongue into the mix and lick your man's neck slightly. This could drive him crazy.

When it comes to ears, some people might find it strange because they don’t understand that it is a sexual area, so don’t focus on it for too long if you’re unsure about it. However, all you need to do is gently bite his ear lobe or blow your hot breath into his ear.

You could also take it a step further, if you are ready, and take his shirt off. Kiss all the way from his mouth down to the top of his groin area. He might think he’s got lucky already, but you can keep teasing him by kissing all around his penis, but not giving it any attention – yet.

7. Be vocal

This point can be explained in many different ways, it all depends on how you are comfortable with using your voice. If you are not planning on having sex and it’s just a cute make-out session, you can stop every so often and have a quick chat with each other. Do not talk about mundane things. Talk about how great this is making you feel and ask him how he’s feeling.

If you are feeling a little more comfortable, you can incorporate some moaning in there. A great way to moan and turn him on (more) instantly would be to put your mouth right next to his ear and gently moan while you are grinding on each other or his hands are going all over your body.

If you want to spice things up a little more, you can use dirty talk to make him beyond excited. For the most effective dirty talk, you should whisper things in his ear. You can say whatever you think will make him turned on. You could say things like, “I want to do so many naughty things to you right now” or “I just want to rip your clothes off and have you inside of me”. You can go as graphic and dirty as you like, but don’t just attach yourself to his ear. As much as he will enjoy you whispering your deepest fantasies to him, he will also want your lips locked on his.

8. Use eye contact

Don’t only use your voice to communicate with your man. Eye contact is one of the most intense ways of communicating with someone silently. It will really get your man going if he can see in your eyes that you want him or/and you are enjoying yourself.

Whilst you are kissing him or grinding on him, make sure that you lock eyes with him. Don’t look anywhere else, because it will prove to him that he is the only one you are focusing on right now. He will more than likely stare right back into your eyes, and you can create such deep sexual tension through a simple stare.

Eye contact can take things from zero to one hundred really fast, but it is one of the things that we all sometimes neglect when we are making out. So, don’t get too occupied with his body or his mouth, because you need to make sure you don’t forget about staring into his eyes. Eye contact during a make-out will not only intensify the sexual connection, but it also provides a deeper romantic connection between the two of you.

9. If you need to take a breather, just do it

Making out with someone actually takes a lot of energy out of you and can leave you feeling tired or hot and bothered. If you need to take a break during your make out, just do it. Your man might start looking slightly disappointed, but all you need to say is that you’ll be back to him in a few moments and that you need a little breather to regain your composure.

He will actually probably appreciate the fact you have stopped for a little while, so he can take a break too. A good idea before making out with someone is to ensure that you have a glass of water nearby, so you can easily stop and have a drink without leaving your partner’s side. If you don’t want to kill the mood too much, you can still talk to him or tease him. You can do this by sitting a little bit away from him, and when you are drinking your water or just simply catching your breath, you could rub his crotch area gently with your feet or keep one of your hands running up and down his chest.

The little break that you have both just had might actually make it all much hotter when you get back to it. You have both been given a chance to recharge, and you are now ready for an even steamier round two.

10. Make sure it is never monotonous

Every single make out session you have with your man should be different in some way. No one wants to have the same moves repeated over and over on them. So, you need to make sure that you are constantly spicing things up and surprising him. Of course, this is his responsibility too, but if you feel like it’s all getting a little too predictable you can take the initiative to heat it up.

The first thing you could do to spice things up would be to change the place in which you normally make out. If you constantly make out on his bed, why not spice things up a little more and start arousing him in his kitchen? As long as no one is in, if things go further you can have him there and then. That is hot.

If making out always leads to having sex for you and your partner, it might actually be a fun idea to not let it go that far. Making out should not just be a type of foreplay. People should make out because it’s playful and fun to arouse each other, with no expectations of sex. So, you can tease your man by making him hot under the collar, but then leaving him after the make-out session comes to an end. The next time he gets his hands on you, he will give you so much pleasure you won’t know what hit you.

Important note – you should never feel pressured to do anything

I feel like it is important to add in that making out with someone does not mean that they can pressurize you into doing anything with them. In this article, I have spoken a lot about making out before sex because I assume that if you are reading this, you are probably past the stage of now knowing how to kiss. So, I have spoken about making out in terms of making it better and sexier. 

If you are comfortable having sex with your man after making out with him, then that’s awesome. However, you do not owe the person you're making out with, anything. If you just want to make-out, that's awesome too. You should always feel comfortable and safe in a sexual situation. If at any point during a make-out session you feel uncomfortable, stop it.


I really hope that this article has taught you a few new tips, which will help you to have better and steamier make-out sessions with your man. Now go and get using your new knowledge! Be safe and enjoy it.

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