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How To Give Yourself A Hickey (17 Tips That Really Work)

July 1, 2024

If you’re trying to give yourself a hickey, you want to make sure that it looks realistic. The older days of finding an attachment for the vacuum cleaner are long gone! (Those don’t look realistic, anyway.) Instead, check out these guaranteed methods to create a realistic-looking hickey. 

What Is A Hickey?

A hickey is the result of broken blood vessels. The longer a person sucks on the area, the more blood vessels break. This is why some hickeys start out as a reddish color, and then hickeys can turn a deep purplish color. The longer a person sucks on the skin, the darker the hickey will appear. Hickeys are also commonly called love bites

How To Give Yourself A Hickey

These methods will help you craft the perfect hickey, and you don’t need another person to make it happen! (Although, that will make it much easier)

1. Vacuum Cleaner

While this method is a bit outdated, it still works. Use a small attachment. Then, create several small hickeys, but connect them. This can make it have a realistic look instead of a perfect circle. Remember, most of these love marks are in an elongated shape, just like the shape of a person’s mouth.

2. Cupping

This method involves using something that sucks onto your skin too. The only drawback is that it can create that perfect circle that looks fake. Yet, you can do the same thing that you do with other methods and make more than one hickey for a realistic appearance.

3. Use A Soda Bottle

Using a soda bottle is easy, and effective. To do this, use an empty 2-liter bottle. Squeeze the bottle around the middle. Let a small amount of air out, but not too much. Then, keep holding it just like this while you place the circle part on your neck. Finally, let go. This will create the suction needed to make it look like you have a love bite. 

4. Eye Shadow Palette

eye shadow palette

To use eye shadow to create a hickey, it’s important to use the right colors. You should use dark red, purple and blue. You might have to use more than one eye shadow palette to find all the colors you need. 

Then, apply the colors in this order: red, purple, and blue. You’ll need to use more red, a small amount of purple, and just a pinch of blue. Too much blue and purple will make it look like a bruise instead of a hickey. If your skin color is darker, you’ll need to use darker colors to make sure it shows up on your skin. 

5. Other Make-Up

You’re not limited to eyeshadow! Any product that is safe to apply to your skin or neck area can be used. This includes blush, etc. You can also use foundation or other cover-up make-up to “cover-up” portions of the hickey to make it a more realistic shape. 

6. Make Sure To Set The Make-Up

The setting spray can be a bit expensive, and you might not have some handy. When you can’t use a setting spray to set the makeup for a fake hickey, opt for hair spray! Spray a fine layer on the skin to make sure that your hickey doesn’t rub off on your clothes. 

7. Burn Yourself With A Curling Iron

I have personally burnt myself with a curling iron, and it does look exactly like someone planted a hickey on your neck. To make it look like a real hickey, burn yourself a few times to make it the perfect shape. One time isn’t going to make it look as realistic as you want it to. Keep in mind that this is a burn, and it is going to hurt. It can also scar. If this scares you, try some of the other ways that are mentioned.

8. Always Use A Mirror

always use a mirror

You want to put your hickey mark in the perfect place, which is usually the side of the neck or other visible area. Make sure to use a mirror to avoid accidentally putting it in an awkward place, like the front of your neck. 

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9. A Real Hickey Solo Style

If you want to learn how to give a hickey, giving yourself one is a great way to learn! You can learn how to give a hickey by sucking anywhere you can reach with your mouth. This could be your arm, leg, etc. Remember, a love bite is the result of broken blood vessels under the skin. 

10. Pinch The Skin REALLY Hard

If you pinch the skin hard enough, you will wind up with a hickey. This is because a hickey is the same as a bruise. When you bruise the skin, you get a hickey. If you can’t seem to pinch it hard enough, you might have to twist the skin to make a love bite. Remember that the harder you do it, the more it will bruise. Be careful not to wind up with a blue bruise instead!

11. Use A Toothbrush To Lighten It

If your hickey looks a bit too much like a bruise, you need to take some steps to lighten it so it’s more like a hickey. One method is to use a toothbrush. Gently brush the bristles across the skin towards the outside of the hickey. This can lighten the hickey to make sure it doesn’t look too much like a bruise. 

12. Find A Partner

The easiest way to get a hickey on your neck is to have someone else stuck on the skin. Hickeys always look real when they are, in fact, real! Asking a boyfriend or girlfriend if they can do the job is by far the easiest and the funniest. If you’re single consider asking your best friend

13. Make More Than One Hickey To Make It Look Real

If you use a pop bottle to make a hickey, it will be a perfect little circle. However, if you make two right next to each other, it will create a longer shape. This can make it look more realistic. If you have hickeys on your neck, you want them to look realistic. 

14. It Takes More Effort For Hickeys To Show On Darker Skin

The darker it is, the more it takes for the mark to show up. This means darker makeup, harder sucking on the neck, etc. However, try not to overdo it!

15. Don’t Forget To Avoid Water

don't forget to avoid water

If you plan on using cover-up or eyeshadow, don’t forget to avoid water. You also need to be on the lookout for anyone that might attempt to wipe it off with spit as a joke. It’s best to not let anyone touch your neck. 

16. Remember It Can Take Weeks For Hickeys To Heal

Before you head down the route of bursting your blood vessels, remember that it can take weeks for these to heal. Make sure you’re ready for that type of commitment. 

17. Practice Makes Perfect

Don’t grab your eyeshadow thinking you’ll make the perfect one in ten minutes before heading out. Make sure that you allow plenty of time to get it just right. It might take some time to learn to blend the colors just right. 


Where is the best place to give yourself a hickey?

The place is on your neck or chest. These are the most common places that people leave hickeys, so it will look more realistic to leave it there. Avoid awkward places, like your arm or leg, even if you can reach them with your mouth. These spots are only good if you’re practicing. 

How do you give yourself a hickey for the first time?

To give a hickey, simply create a seal with your mouth and suck. It can take fifteen seconds or so. The harder you suck, the quicker a hickey mark will form. You can take breaks. Simply suck for ten seconds at a time to determine how long it takes. 

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How long does it take to give yourself a hickey?

It takes 15-20 seconds. This is with constant sucking. If the constant sucking is awkward, do it in ten-second intervals. Remember, the harder that you suck on the skin, the quicker the mark will form. It can take 10-20 seconds to show up after you’re done sucking. 

Do hickeys hurt?

Sometimes. If a person sucks on the skin really hard or accidentally sucks the skin between their teeth it does hurt. When a person does not suck hard, it takes longer to leave a hickey but does not hurt. 

Why do guys give hickeys?

Guys give hickeys to mark their territory. It is so that other guys now that you already have a man. Some men might accidentally leave them in the middle of a passionate bedroom session. These ones are usually by accident though, especially if the girl likes it when he sucks on her neck.


Have you ever tried to give yourself a hickey before? Which method worked the best for you?

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