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How Often Should I Give My Husband Oral? (Read The Answer Here)

Last updated on June 16, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Are you pondering how often you should give your husband blowjobs to keep him happy?

I will address this question in the guide below.

But, before I do, I invite you to read this little story of mine… 

Throughout my early twenties, there was a big problem in my love life. I found myself endlessly stuck in relationships where I was always chasing a man’s affection. 

No matter how much I gave, it always felt like they weren’t interested enough. 

Looking back now, I can see that’s because I didn’t truly understand what satisfies a man in a loving relationship. 

Thankfully, I turned the situation around - and I want to explain how I did it. 

It all began when I found out about a powerful section of male psychology. It was supposedly called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’

This deeply primal instinct effects how men emotionally react to the women closest to them.  

When activated, it triggers feelings of purpose, power and self-esteem within a man. Naturally, men start to feel closer to a woman who is able to make him feel like this. 

I know because I gave it a try! 

‘The Hero’s Instinct’ is remarkably consistent at triggering feelings of lust and even obsession. To learn the details about how I managed to discover this, read my personal journal

When you’re in a relationship like this, a huge form of pleasure comes from knowing that you’re both aroused by each other. Your husband will not be as insistent about blowjobs if it makes you uncomfortable or you are not into it.

It should never be about numbers or the amount of times a week you perform oral sex, or any other act, on each other. Some couples will happily give each other oral sex every time they have sex. Or for some it may be something that they only do on occasion.

Sex Is Beneficial To A Relationship

Remember too if you are nervous about performing oral on your partner that sex, foreplay and all that goes with it is beneficial to a relationship. The reason being is that the physical act of touching someone and bringing them pleasure makes you feel closer to a person.

This is why it is key to relax when you are with your other half. At times, it can be difficult to forget the worries of the day or issues that you may have with your kids or at work. Try to let everything go and simply just be with your partner. In doing so, you will go with the flow a great deal more and you'll enjoy sex that much more too.

Sex often begets sex too, and the same can be said of oral or the amount of times you give a blowjob. The reason being is that the more you practice it the more it will become something that you are good at. In life, we all need to practise to improve our performance. This is never more so the case than when you are with your hubby and the man you are going to spend your life with.

You'll find that the more you have sex with him, or oral sex with him, the more you'll find you know what kind of thing he likes - where he likes your hands to touch him or what type of position he likes. The same will be true of you. The more you have sex with you partner the more he will understand what you like and if there is something that you don't. It doesn't have to be every day, but do try to be together regularly.

It's about learning and understanding each other's bodies and what turns you on so that you can enjoy orgasms each and every time you get together. If you feel like you are too nervous to explore your sexuality with your partner, it is recommended by so many studies and experts just to let go, and sleep with each other as often as you can. Every orgasm you give each other will grow your confidence and his too.

It may be these case that you find that you start to enjoy giving your hubby head more, or even if you don't, you may like that he likes it a lot. You need to find what works for you as a couple as sexual intercourse is so important to a relationship. The only way to find what works for you is to practice practice practice!

What Frequency Should You Give Your Husband Oral - The Bottom Line

What Frequency Should You Give Your Husband Oral - The Bottom Line

If you are wondering, or worrying about how often you should perform oral on your hubby or boyfriend, try not to overthink it. Sex is best when you go with the flow and follow your instincts and don’t think too much.

If you overthink things, you are likely to simply worry yourself too much. When you start worrying when you are in bed with your other half, you can become too nervous to enjoy it. This will then have an impact on how much your partner enjoys himself too. This is key to both of you having a healthy sexual attraction where everyone has their needs met.

Ultimately, you should never feel pressured into doing anything in your sexual relationships. Be they blowjobs, kissing or anything even remotely kinky - if you don't want to do it, don't. Husbands and boyfriends that are worth sticking with, will understand and not want to force you into doing things that you are not happy to do. They will want their girlfriend to find satisfaction with them, just as much as you want to find ways to satisfy him.

Is it like pulling teeth getting him to spend time with you?
The key to solving is understanding men on a much deeper emotional level. The number #1 factor that causes men to behave this way is actually relatively easy to change with a few subtle things you can say to him.

Take this quick quiz to see if he actually likes you!

Have you ever wondered how many times a week you should be giving your partner oral? Do you ever worry that you are not making your other half happy in bed? Leave your thoughts and comments below so that our readers can benefit from your experience. It can be hugely comforting in a relationship knowing that others have gone through what is currently troubling you.

Do you feel like all you think about is him, but he only thinks about himself?
This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. You have to understand how he is wired. Once you do, you'll find there is a subtle thing you can say that to him that will drastically change how he shows his emotions towards you.

Take this quick quiz that looks at whether he actually likes you or not!

Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

11 comments on “How Often Should I Give My Husband Oral? (Read The Answer Here)”

  1. Men can not get enough sex to begin with...I would rather eat her and then make love. Men think about oral sex more than they actually ever receive it.

    1. I can’t speak for most men but when I go down on my woman before sex, I get the most powerful erection but when I do not go down first I might not get an erection at all. I especially like it when she like it

  2. If my wife had given me more BJ's maybe I would have cared more about what she wanted .She could have kept me happier in bed. I am sure men jerk off more in marriage then ever get oral sex. I do not not have a huge penis so why can't you suck it or jerk it? Women should just say when they are having a period .Honey I am having a period feel free to jerk yourself off. Instead of saying DID YOU JERK OFF!! Ever had a hard on that will not go away?? Grab the lotion ,our grab some panties and get rid of that come!!You never jerked off in panties? Yea , you have.

  3. If I could get my wife to give me a blow job she expects me to give her oral.buy no return only wants sex once a week

  4. If I could get my wife to give me oral and sex more than once a week would be outstanding I give her oral all the time

  5. Warm up usually helps to get more energeti a catalyst in a chc for anything and this prestigious issue also have no exception. We do it almost all days in a week except periods. This I feel work as catalyst to execute the devine job successfully for the ultimate pleasure of both.

  6. Recently, I was told I am selfish for not giving more blow jobs. Not sure how I feel about it. Generally, I don't like doing it but will on occasion. As soon as I'm done with the blow job he will stop all foreplay and have sex with me. I would prefer more kissing and cuddling as oral sex, can I say he is selfish for not giving me that?

    1. I think you’re conflicting something, I’m sure we’re talking about a full blowjob with finish and not foreplay. And yes if he’s ending the foreplay without making an effort to do stuff that makes you horny, I would call him selfish. Nonetheless, I think a full blowjob is a reward and evidence that how far my partner is willing to go just to please my Cravings. Just way the options how much you don’t like doing it and if he’s even worth, judging by what you saying, I think no.

  7. Sexual intimacy should be consensual and reciprocal. The look that instigates the act should be out of a mutual understanding and care for the other. Knowing your partner will reciprocate your efforts in the experience will negate any feelings of anxiety. Character established between the two leads to new roads and experiences. Such a symbiotic relationship is the bar!!

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