Do you want to break up with someone in person? Don’t you just wish you could make the breakup process as quickly as possible, so they can leave you alone?
Well, the truth is, there are many ways to end a relationship with someone, however, telling them in person is more respectable. After all, you did genuinely care about this person, as they cared for you. No doubt, breaking up with your partner over text can be perceived as a very cowardly move to make, especially if your partner didn’t see it coming at all. So, you must carefully think about this move through.
I understand that breakups are messy in person, but until you have to do this via text, don't make it your first option. If you want to break up by text, you’re probably hoping you’ll escape all the messiness, but things can still spiral.
There are a few ways to write a breakup text to your partner without putting a dent in his heart forever. If you want to know how to send a breaking up text, here are a few helpful tips.
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Don't just drop your break up texts out of the blue. Start with a simple conversation with him to check where his mind is at. Wait for the right moment to slip it into the conversation that you'd like to break up.
Breaking up via text may seem rude, so you have to watch your tone. You loved this person before, and we're going to assume that if you could, you would break up with him in person. Use a friendly tone like “Hey Frank, I'm sorry if this hurts your feelings...”
Don't send the cliche “it's not you, it's me” text, avoid it like a plague. Along with ”if we're meant to be, we will be back.” Those lines make breaking up via text-sound scripted and impersonal.
It's not advisable to fill the text message with a billion and one things he did wrong, that's beside the point. What's important right now is that you've decided to break up with him. Two or three reasons why are enough.
What are you going to do if he decides to call you after reading your text message? Are you going to answer? If you do, what will you say or will you decline? I bet you didn't think of that.
Don't beat about the bush. I know I said you should ease him into it, but as soon as you get his attention, say what you have to say at once. It shouldn't be an entire epistle if you want him to reply. Here are some simple examples;
If you're breaking up with someone, the best thing you can do for them is, to be honest. There's no need lying to them about anything at all; the relationship is over. So, be honest when composing the breakup text. Here are a few sample text messages that can help in various situations.
Let the breakup text message be as brief as possible. Don't break up with him and start another conversation like, “so how was your day?” Let him have space after you've sent the text message.
Be careful not to make a promise you can not keep, don’t send a text message saying you guys can be friends when you have no intention to do that. No matter how guilty or emotional it becomes, don't write, “I will always be here” if you know you won't.
Don't forget to mention the good times as well, it’s bad enough you're breaking up this way, and not face to face. Things may be ending now, but you should still cherish one or two moments and let your partner know you do. You can choose to meet up with him later face to face or send him a message thanking him for his contributions to your life.
Also, don’t be too suggestive in the text, and you can do this preferably before sending the breakup message. This way, your partner knows you appreciate him before he’s too angry to read it.
Well, the answer is yes and no. It depends on how you write the break up text, plus, did your partner see it coming, where both of you close and intimate the day before? Then he deserves some respect. Sometimes, it’s really what’s best for you both (if that’s the only way you can avoid the drama).
A lot of people break up via text because they’re afraid to face their partner. Sometimes, it’s because they can’t deal with the other person's feelings or emotions after the breakup. Mostly, long-distance relationships end by text because they can’t meet up face to face. There are also other reasons for sending a breakup text, but the biggest one is fear.
Ease him into it, don't randomly drop a long message about how the relationship can't work anymore. Start the conversation nicely and wait for the perfect time to tell your partner how you feel. Let him know why it's not working and don't use the cliche "It's not you, it's me" line. Avoid focusing so much on the things he's didn't do right. If you don’t feel comfortable texting, then give him a phone call.
For a long-distance relationship, it's okay to break up over the phone, that's the closest you get to each other anyway. If the relationship is only a couple of days old, you could get away with just leaving them a text that you feel different, no one would blame you. Breaking up over the phone isn't half as bad as doing it via text, over the phone is a bit more respectful.
The 3-month-rule states that; partners should wait three months post break up, to give each other space for closure, a breather, a possible chance of forgiveness, or getting back together before completely moving on. It's an unwritten rule that everyone just goes by. However, people heal at different times, so it's not exactly practical.
If you are going to breakup with your man via text, you need this article to do it right. Go over all the ways I wrote out and pick the one that best suits you. I would love to know what you think, so, please write your thoughts in the comment section and share this article with your girls!