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Why Are Virgos So Difficult? (13 Wild Reasons)

Last updated on June 10, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Love is something that should come naturally and easily, but what happens when you are dating someone that is hard to love? You shouldn’t have to try too hard to love someone or show a person how much you care about them, but if you are dating a Virgo, you may find some difficulty in developing an intimate and loving connection with them. 

Perhaps you have fallen in love with a Virgo man or woman but you have the feeling that your love is unrequited. It may be the case that your Virgo partner has difficulty in expressing their feelings and telling you how much you mean to them. This can be a very painful and hard situation to experience. However, remember that you are not alone. 

There are many people that find themselves in these types of situations. Dating and loving a Virgo can be hard, but there are ways to make the situation somewhat easier for yourself. The pain of not feeling your love being reflected is one of the hardest things to go through in life. However, remember that this situation can get better and you won’t always feel this way. 

13 Reasons To Explain Why Virgos Are So Hard To Love

When you love someone, your soul develops a connection to them too. This is the reason why unrequited love is so painful. When you fell in love with this Virgo you may not have expected to feel this type of pain and hurt. You love them but you don’t know whether they love you too and you don’t know what to do. 

You may have found yourself in this situation and you are now wondering why it is so hard to love a Virgo. Loving someone involves opening your heart and letting yourself be vulnerable. Often love comes hand in hand with pain and hurt. When you love someone you are opening yourself up to the possibility of getting hurt by this person too. 

Virgos are different from every other zodiac sign and they can be hard to love because of the hard that they have in letting themselves be vulnerable and opening themselves up to another person completely. The problem comes about when someone loves a Virgo but the Virgo is not yet ready or is not open to being loved. 

Keep reading to find out why Virgos are often so hard to love…

1. They keep their feelings hidden

They keep their feelings hidden

Virgos tend to keep their feelings and emotions hidden deep inside themselves. This makes it hard for people to love them. If they are unable to let someone in, it is hard for that person to develop a real emotional connection to them. Virgos tend to bottle up all of their thoughts and feelings rather than talking openly about them to those they love and care about. 

2. Lack of communication

Virgos tend to find communication hard. Communication is of the most important things in any healthy relationship, and without it, it is likely that the relationship will eventually break down. Virgos hold their feelings inside and fail to communicate how they are feeling with their partner. It is often than too late, problems add up and resentment builds too. 

3. They are too sensitive

Virgos are often too sensitive and this affects their love life in a negative way. Virgos hate mind games more than anything, they are not able to deal with these types of relationship games. They cannot guess how someone is feeling and become too worried about how the situation is. If you play mind games with a Virgo, they will likely push you away from them. 

4. They are obsessed with order

Virgos can be hard to live with because of their obsession with order and cleanliness. They cannot live in a place that is not perfectly clean and tidy, making it hard for those people around them. Virgos are often considered to be obsessed with cleanliness and they feel the need to be in complete control of everything that is happening around them. 

5. They crave attention

Virgos often crave attention from their partners. However, it can be hard for a family member or the people around a Virgo to know exactly what this means to them. Every Virgo desires different things and wants to be loved in a different way. If they have invested time and effort into something, they often expect more back from those around them. 

6. They fear being taken for granted

Virgos fear more than anything being taken for granted by those around them. If a Virgo does something, they expect it to be noticed and praised. If a Virgo does something nice for someone and does not receive any gratitude in return, it is likely that they will not work hard to please this person in the future because of their fear of being taken for granted. 

7. They demand freedom

Virgo personalities are often very social, however, they need freedom and space too. They are often also extremely independent, making it hard for a Virgo in love to find the balance between spending time with their loved one and having enough time for themself. If you are dating a Virgo it is important to understand that they cannot feel restricted by their partners. 

8. They are overly critical

A Virgo personality is often considered to be one of the most critical zodiac signs. Perfectionist Virgos are often extremely overly critical of themselves. They have high goals in life and are never happy unless these lofty aims are achieved. This can make it hard for those around them as a Virgo’s loved ones can feel as if they are not good enough for their expectations. 

9. They have high expectations

They have high expectations

Virgos have high expectations for every aspect of their life. Virgos work hard and are one of the zodiac signs with the highest expectations, no one can understand exactly what the Virgo expects from life. Often things are not good enough and no one can make a Virgo happy. This becomes hard for their partners who feel as if they are not good enough. 

10. They aren’t consistent

Virgos are often inconsistent in their lives and in their relationships. This makes it extremely hard for those around them to keep up. They have high expectations in life but often fail to achieve these goals because of their lack of consistency. This creates frustration and makes it hard for a Virgo’s partner to deal with the outbursts of frustration that ensue. 

11. They can be blunt

Virgos are extremely truthful and honest to the point of being overly blunt and upsetting people. Their truth and honesty is often a good thing, however, they can often upset their partners by speaking too honestly and bluntly. Their inability to read the emotions of their loved ones makes it hard for them to avoid upsetting them. 

12. They are judgemental

Virgos are highly judgemental and are often overly critical of their partners. They cannot let go of mistakes and often obsess over such things for a long time, making it extremely hard for those around them. They are often prone to jumping to conclusions and of accusing their partners of things that they may not have done. 

13. They find it difficult to relax

Virgos often find it extremely hard to relax and enjoy life because of their high expectations and judgemental nature. They spend a lot of their time criticizing themselves and their relationship and forget to be present at the moment. This can make it extremely hard for their partners and it often spells the end of their relationships

Virgos cannot relax until everything is perfect, and it is often the case that nothing in life is perfect, meaning that they are seldom happy. 


Why are Virgos the most difficult to love?

Virgos can often be hard to love because of the way that they hold their emotions and feelings inside. Virgos can often be closed and find it hard to be open and vulnerable with another person. They cannot find a way to be sensitive and open themselves up to the potential of being hurt by someone when they decide to love them.

Why do Virgos hide their feelings?

Virgos hide their feelings because they are scared of getting hurt. When we love someone we open ourselves up to being hurt by them. Love and pain come hand in hand and it is almost impossible to go through life and relationships without experiencing pain at the same time. The pain that comes with loving another person is one of the things that scares Virgos the most. 

How do Virgos act when they are hurt?

When Virgos are hurt or upset they tend to hide their feelings inside. Thus, you may not always be able to tell straight away how a Virgo is feeling. They may appear cold and unemotional because of this character trait. They are often hard to read and understand and find it hard to really open up to those people that they love.

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Does Virgo fall in love easily?

Virgos can fall in love easily but they find it hard to really open up to another person and really be vulnerable. It is impossible for a relationship to develop if one partner is unwilling, to be honest, and open about themselves. Virgos often keep themselves closed for a long time, making it hard for other people to love them. 

Who is Virgo sexually compatible with?

Virgos are considered to be one of the most beautiful and attractive star signs and are thus sexually compatible with almost any other sign. However, Virgos find it more difficult to develop a deeper and more emotional connection with someone, because of their tendency to keep their emotions and feelings hidden. Without this, a strong relationship cannot form. 

The Bottom Line

Virgos can often be hard to love because of their unique personality. Virgos are different from every other star sign. They find it difficult to open up to those around them. This makes relationships hard for Virgos because it takes a long time for them to develop and real and intimate emotional connection with their partner. 

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

5 comments on “Why Are Virgos So Difficult? (13 Wild Reasons)”

  1. I don’t think this is true at all! I am a Virgo Woman. Yes there are perfectionist issues, but people shouldn’t take this personal, as us Virgos put just as much pressure on ourselves to be perfect & fair to all! We don’t like shallow people that are fake either & unfortunately a lot of other signs are this way! We are realists. Virgos are great at communication & this is actually one of our “Master Traits.” We are ruled by the planet Mercury which is the planet of communication! We sometimes fear falling in love only because then we’d have to give up a part of our “Very Independent Selves,” and give some control to another. Virgos like to have complete control of their own lives & need a partner that is willing to let them do that and be who they are!!! We don’t like being controlled & we don’t like extremely jealous partners!!! 🙂

    1. I am a virgo like Kristen Raymond above and I agree with her virgo points except 'communication' I feel virgo does communicate but often take time weighing the affects. Worse us that delay discredits virgo as sadly people take the delay to mean virgo don't care or not interested.

  2. This is so very true! I'm a Virgo male and one of the biggest things we do well is communicate, but don't get it twisted!Once we feel you are shady or you are no longer worthy to deal with or you're a waste of time and effort you are cut off! We refuse to communicate the disconnection, once we've done above and beyond and it isn't appreciated or a friendship becomes one sided. With most virgos there are no second chances,and it as if you've died to us, sounds morbid but its so very true. Wouldn't even be cordial to u in public after cutting u off!

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