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5 Undeniable Signs of a Virgo Man In Love With You

Last updated on August 31, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Are you wondering whether your Virgo partner loves you?

Perhaps you’re becoming impatient with his inability to show his feelings? 

Maybe you’ve heard of the infamous perfectionist nature of a Virgo and are wondering if he’ll express his love for you!?

If so, read on because this article will reveal the telltale signs that a Virgo man has strong feelings for a woman. 

But first, I want to tell you an important story.  

I spent the majority of my twenties in relationships with men who wouldn’t show their affection to me. 

Most of my time in these relationships, I spent fearing that they’d leave me for someone better - and they usually did. 

It felt like I’d always be no more than a ‘bit of fun’, rather than being seen as a woman worth building a long-term relationship with.   

However, everything turned around when I discovered a little-known aspect of male psychology called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’. 

This psychological trigger has a huge impact on the way men feel about the women in their life. 

Once I learned how to trigger this, my relationships became a lot more loving and affectionate. 

I put it entirely down to this psychological principle, which is so easy to learn, yet so few people seem to know about. 

If you want to learn more about how I discovered the power of the ‘Hero’s Instinct’, click to read my personal story.       

Of course, it may well be that the Virgo of your dreams is already on the cusp of declaring his love for you. 

Read on to discover the five undeniable signs that this is the case.

What's a Virgo man like?

A Virgo is someone who will adore you when they are ready to. They might take things slow whilst they assess you, but when they decide you are the one for them, you can look forward to a lifetime of someone who is very invested in you and enraptured by the smallest things you do. He will want to immerse himself in knowing your likes, dislikes, hobbies and quirks. He will be keen to be the only man in your life and will be committed to making it work once he has decided you are the one for him and to get him to this point, knowing you inside out is the ultimate goal of a relationship. Here are some other signs he is in love with you, or falling in love as we speak!

1)  He lets you see his faults

As you know its key for you to see some faults  in any person for a relationship to really blossom but getting to this stage with a Virgo man can be hard. They are very reserved and very guarded and as a perfectionist, he doesn't want to be seen as anything less than perfection himself! He's his own biggest critic.

 For this sign, it's hard to open up and make somebody see them for who they really are and typically they need to really be in love or falling in love to let them show their shortcomings and vulnerabilities. if he is opening up in this way, it is very clear that he sees you as a person that won't hurt him.  Because Virgos are very critical people who criticize I general, you might think that they believe in perfection and also seek perfection.

However, for. Virgo there's no greater critic than themselves.

If he is loving you he will be letting you into his personal space which can consist of things like showing you his finances, things he's working on,  his ideas, anything that is very personal to him.

This sign does hold a lot of stuff in and that means they tend to want a woman who can offer enough space and they just can't trust everybody. This means that if he is allowing you into his personal space in any manner, it should mean a lot because these very spiritual beings have taken that time to allow you in!

2) You've met his family

Another way to tell that the Virgo may have gone head over heels in love with you is another really big one, but maybe the most important one of all - and that is if he invites you to meet his mother, or another family member, but particularly his mother!

Even the biggest and grown up Virgo men are very close to their mothers, or the mother figure in their life, it can be a grandmother, a big sister or something like that, whoever is the highest-ranking woman in his life, so to speak.

If the Virgo in your life takes you to meet her then he's definitely falling in love with you. Think of the Virgo family a bit like royalty - this is very sacred. He's a natural worrier and meeting the family will probably make him anxious. He won't do this for just any lady in his life!

Is it like pulling teeth getting him to spend time with you?
The key to solving is understanding men on a much deeper emotional level. The number #1 factor that causes men to behave this way is actually relatively easy to change with a few subtle things you can say to him.

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A Virgo man don't want to disrespect their mothers so when they bring a woman home to their mothers it's important at this stage that they already know her, that the see her as someone that could be a wife and also a friend, and someone who can slot into that family unit, whatever it looks like.

So, if you have an invite, grab your most demure dress and your best gifts to take and accept the offer!

3) He's making romantic and grand gestures

A Virgo man likes to make gestures that will appeal to you. Because of all his research into your character you can be sure that he will start to show his love with anything he can think of that with resonate with you. Whether it's that trip you wanted or a watch, a Virgo will have considered how to make you smile.  Look out for perfection in the places he takes you too as well, for him, a 5-star restaurant in the best place in town is a greater symbol of his love for you than the home cooked meal that another sign would have made you.

He might still bring out those Virgo traits - he can be. Bit of a nag - but that doesn't mean he has gone off you. It's just what he does. With a Virgo you might need to look at the things he is doing over what he is saying to tell that he really is in love with you.

Watch out for him when he is spoiling you as well. You may see him looking at you when you aren't aware, taking photos for later and saving little mementos of the date. These are all part of the Virgo's charms for you and signs he is really head over heels!

4) He's marking his territory!

When you think of a classic dominant Alpha male, you are probably picturing a Virgo in love! He will be keen to keep you close, to check in on you and when other men are round to pull you near, kiss you in the middle of the bar or to take photos together to post online! A Virgo man that's in love nearly always demonstrates these tactics as a way of fending off rival males and also to show you that you are loved and honored by him.

Watch out for signs that he is marking you as part of his territory with some of these physical methods! He might also be allowing you into his territory - giving you a key to his place or letting you drive his car, anything that will allow him to really cement your relationship together.

5) He's more intimate with you more often

A Virgo has the reputation of being a bit 'slow' in the physical department, but that's because of the romantic and logical side of this sign. He is also usually at work or busy, as you can imagine, this perfectionist has trouble leaving things behind. That doesn't mean he has gone off you - and if he is in the right mood and things are going well, you can expect him to be great fun in this area! He is very sexual and sensual when he is ready, but Virgos need that bond to be there first. If he is changing in this area, then there is a high chance he already feels that he can trust you and that you are someone that he can really relate to, just don't worry if it doesn't always run like clockwork!

Is your Virgo man in love with you?

We hope that these signs have given you hope that the Virgo man you are spending time with is really on the right track to saying 'I love you!' We are sure if you have met his family, are never away from his side and are starting to know his secrets and dreams then it can't be far away at. All.

Please leave a comment below about the particular Virgo man in your life and let us know what signs you have seeing so far so that we can help you see if it's a love sign! There are plenty more things to look out for around this man we can help you identify and we would love to troubleshoot any emotional issues you may be having.

Plus, why not share this with a friend who has been struggling to know if their Virgo man is in love with them and see if it can help them identify some of these classic traits!

Do you feel like all you think about is him, but he only thinks about himself?
This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. You have to understand how he is wired. Once you do, you'll find there is a subtle thing you can say that to him that will drastically change how he shows his emotions towards you.

Take this quick quiz that looks at whether he actually likes you or not!

Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

27 comments on “5 Undeniable Signs of a Virgo Man In Love With You”

  1. started dating Virgo x1 month ago. He is very attentive to my needs. I love how he remembers everything I say to him. I'm a Taurus by the way

  2. I'm a taurus girl dating a virgo guy for 6 months and I think he is the best.he gives you all of his love and feels secure at the same time. he always finds a way to save the relationship even when you are fighting with him. he remmembers every thing about you and wants you to visit his family. he is always there to help you he never plays a role he is so honest. you are the #1 person on his mind even when he is busy.and he is less talkative he loves nature he hates heavy make ups he is party animal he does everthing to make you happy and he is a family man

  3. I met s. Virgo man 21 months ago. He has cut my grass 8 times, fixed my car 3 or 4 times, helped me move, is so very sweet to me and my dog. Is he in love wiith me?

  4. Almost 2 years with my Virgo man and it’s been the best! Always attentive, extremely attractive and very intelligent. Met his family, he helps me financially and looks for ways to make me smile. I love him!

  5. My Virgo man we have not had sex for 4 months now but we talk everyday and see each other ,we have been dating for 8 years now , he still care for my needs, does he love me ?

    1. Yes he does still love you. They sometimes get caught up in whatever they are over analyzing in their minds.

  6. So I’ve been with my Virgo man almost two years; he’s done all of this but recently he’s been pulling away and being distant. We got in a huge fight because the affection Kinda disappeared and said another girl was hot but not me. He use to but recently hasn’t. We’ve been on and off for the first of the year because we get in stupid little fights and he can’t handle it. He keeps saying he wants to make it work and finally said he loved me but that was also the same day I moved out. It’s sooo confusing!

  7. I met this guy 2yrs ago . When we started talking we both decided to be FWB I wouldn’t thought that we gonna last this long for 2yrs. I didn’t expect that I fall for him. I was surprised one day he became open to me about his life about his goals. He’s been open to me lately than before he is very private person he just doesn’t let anyone in . In his life. He’s a very busy men always working What I like is he tried to find time as much as he can to see me or spend time with me . I just hope one day I can call him my boyfriend. I just hope one day it will be official.

  8. I’m an Aries girl. I dated a Virgo guy for almost 2 years then we ended and started to reconnect. We love each other and can feel a deep connection however we both have hurt each other through our past actions. We are still young and talk about the future( I however get carried away with over thinking about it- which ive been trying not to do) I feel as though he’s more distant than when we dated and may be unsure about us despite the fact that he says he wants a future with us. He still says he does not want us to jump back into a relationship as he fears me hurting him as I once did. We are still loyal to each other’s love and haven’t been busy with other people since we started to reconnect-as far as I know. Do you think I’m wasting my time ?

  9. Though my virgo guy has taken me to his family, and enjoys me being around him more than any other thing, he doesn't call me often and doesn't shower me with gifts; it's getting me worried

    1. Dear Garnetta Ah his greatest gift is his family so he is showering you with their company and that’s a big thing . Relax your Virgo has set his sights on you long term . ❤️🙏🌈

  10. I’m a Taurus,and my Virgo bf is 9 years younger than me. We’ve been together for 4 yrs going five,but I was in an abusive relationship which I was living with the person. (I’ve moved out now)However,I worked so we hardly gotten time to meet up when we just met. But I liked him from the first time I saw him. He ended up getting a son out of our relationship and that still lingers on my mind that he hurted me. We are still together,I’ve met his family,he comes to my house and he acts silly around me,tells me his problems and business plans. But I can’t get the grip of his love just yet. He says I’m too insecure. I love him and would love for him to be my husband. He’s now abroad ,and face time me every single day just to talk,most times we don’t even have nothing to say.

  11. My virgo and i (i am a saggitarius)we have been friends and spending time together for 6mths. As of July 4th we've been inseparable. He told me he loves me...i have not told him i love him because i want to be 100% sure. He does everything noted in this article. I have met his daughter and some of his family but not his mom as yet.i am afraid that he fell in love quickly and so may fall out of love quickly - what do you think?

  12. Am a Gemini dating a Virgo guy. He play all the role listed here. Time spent with him is so special and he is the jealous type. He surprise me everyday with the way he become open each time and he also expect the same with me. We really love each other a lot. But he's more happy to see me being happy. He is very sensitive and intelligent, a hardworking guy. He make sure the house is in order. There is never a day without him calling and he likes texting too. He used to tell me that am the only girl he have introduce to his mother, he sometimes like to hear his faults. Am really in love with him and I love him without a reason.

  13. I'm an aquarius women in love with a Virgo man. is he in live with me ? idk. he has said many things to me that says yes. he has tried to come meet me many times but I always run away from his efforts. now he has been distant but tells me things like "i care even if it doesn't seem like i do" or says "he will always be here for me when I'm ready" but when I reach out to him texting and etc. he ignores me. idk and again we haven't met in person but we know of each other and know the same people and etc. maybe I am just crazy lol reading about his zodiac sign online and etc. anyways .. it was a fun read

    1. You should let your Virgo in!I'm an Aqua Alpha female and my Virgo man tore down the walls we are famous for. He is truly worth it so I hope you'll not let fear take you from an amazing relationship potential. I've read that the two signs aren't really compatible but I think it can work!

  14. I’m in a long distance relationship with a Virgo. It’s been 4 months, we have had our ups and down, and some bad ones, I’m an Aries, some reason we can let go of each other, we both have said fo ahead block me, we don’t. He thinks I’m to inquisitive he doesn’t like it. He said that tonight. He thought I was to needy, I told him I don’t need a man in my life, I’ve taken care of myself for 40 yrs. I want a man to love me as I do him.
    We made progress tonight. He is the first man I’ve been in love with. I’m 71. I’ll be so happy when he comes home. We have not seen each other ever and we don’t video chat, we text & talk on the phone.

  15. I knew this Virgo by working with him at a place of employment we never talked till about a month ago on messenger...he has been badly hurt and tells me he just wants friendship no relationship especially when he hasn’t been drinking but if he has a couple of beers he gets more relaxed and says things like I have made him the happiest in short time together than he had in past of 17 years .. confused... he has worked on vehicle he has let me drive his vehicle and I’ve meet his kids and one sister... so is he starting to fall in love with me?

  16. Omg this is Absolutely correct I'm a TAURUS with this incredible Virgo man he is so attentive and sensible and sensual we get along great I Believe he is in love

  17. I’m a Gemini ♊️ dating a Virgo ♍️ guy we always have a issue arguing over a little thing sometime I don’t get him at all because I felt like “He doesn’t wanna share his pain “He said sharing his pain is gonna be a huge burden for me to handle so he says that a man should always handel his own problem no matter how much the problem got worst.. it got me worried 😟 I want him to open up and share me whatever he felt Sometimes he does... but not full of it .His mom knows about us but I haven’t meet his mom yet xo someday when I’m stable with my career I would like to meet her and talk about myself now I felt like I’m not qualified yet and Yeah he’s xo attractive and I love his voice xoxo much and I would love to spend the rest of my life with a Virgo man when his ready and when things get stable

  18. And he says that I’m his first love and he doesn’t wanna lose me ever again and back there it was my fault and now he says that he would love to even spent the rest of his life Someday

  19. I am a libra and the guy i have been crushing on is a virgo... He already has a gf.. Bt we have been friends for a long time.. And we ended up having sex... I already had feelings for him but now hes so considerate to me... Remembers details about me.. Meets me almost everyday... Plans for eating out...kisses me on the forehead and hugs me etc... But Sometimes he gets distant... I dont know why he keeps sending mixed signals... I really like him and i wanna know if he feels the same... Also he didnt break up with his gf.. So i wanna know if he ever choose me over her?

  20. I’ve been dating a Virgo man for the last 6 months. I just move into his house he gives me his car to drive. He’s a widower for 2 years now, so he’s starting all over after being married for 12 years his wife pass 2 yrs now. But he’s great guy I have no complaints except that the dogs sleep in the bed but, they’ve been with him for 7 years. They have a bond but, now am in the picture we’re working it out it’s beautiful.

  21. I’m a Taurus he is a Virgo and we get along so well! It’s been 4.5 months and he just recently enjoyed my home cooked meals! He completed some confidential personal information in my presence: SS number; bank acct. numbers etc. I know he loves me!!
    DOES HE !!!! There are times when I do not see him for weeks!

  22. Virgo Men
    I have to say, out of all the signs in the zodiac this one is the most perplexing in a relationship. Virgo men are incredibly critical when it comes to themselves and that will spill over to their ,relationships. I have never met, nor read for a Virgo male that was happy in their current state. Living for the moment is NOT their strong suit and their minds are so hyper analytical they create more problems for themselves and their lovers than solutions.

    A Virgo male is what I like to call "fire and ice". When they have an interest in a woman they believe in courting her. They may not have even spoken to her yet, but through his observations he has "summed up" just whom he thinks she is. He has created little scenerio's in his mind, and he's begun to write a script of the relationship that hasn't even started yet. He will woo her, be attentive, listen intently to all she says, taking notes and remembering fine details of all she says. He is a gentleman in every sense of the word. This man will make you feel as though you are not only the only woman in the room but the only woman on the planet as well. He's known for luxury, comfort and fine things. He will open car doors, pull out your chair, order for you, and even gingerly feed her ice cream. He will call the next day, send texts wishing you a "good morning", and he will be highly romantic. He sounds like dream come true. But remember, everyone has a shadow side and this man's shadow side is the complete opposite. Remember, I stated he has an analytical mind and he will over analyze and blow up even the tiniest of things.

    Once the courtship is solidified and the relationship cemented and this man feels secure that you belong to him he begins to unravel it. He will dissect every aspect of the relationship, not so much to pick YOU apart, but because of his own critical nature of the self he tends to find fault with a great deal. He idealizes so many things, and you are NOT sticking to the script he wrote of your love affair that he tends to manipulate it so it follows said script. He will stop with compliments and now he will give "helpful suggestions" which sound a lot like demands and dissection of your entire character. He can be brutal with this and it can and will be wounding. Mostly it's wounding because before you could do no wrong, you were perfect, and now he's finding fault with everything.

    The more you try to please this man, the more you will fail. He likes independent, yet domestic women. He loves sensuality, but not overtly sexual women. He loves a great sense of humor, but never at his expense. You must be intelligent, self sufficient and someone who is strong, yet he wants to be needed. He's a walking, talking contradicition. This is a man who wants it all, and he will refuse to settle for less. This is why most Virgo men tend to marry very late in life, or not at all.

    Once you begin the tragic circle of jumping through hoops to mold, shift and change for him, he will lose a great deal of respect for you. He may become enraged when you stand ground, but I will tell you he will respect you for it. You never want to lose the respect of Virgo, for once you do, you lose their attention.

    CONTROL should be a the middle name of a Virgo male. And many times in an effort to control aspects of their own lives they, in turn, attempt to control aspects of yours, though they don't see it this way. It's their life, you happen to be part of it, therefore you are subjected to their insatiable need for such control. That is how they view it. When you express your desires, needs, and wants, they will fuflill them only if it fits into what they want for their own lives. They appear to be very black and white thinkers, but I will tell you that under the surface you will never find another sun sign that worries, stresses or fears the worst than a virgo male. Their minds are constantly working on a problem, but their actions in fixing said problem in a relationship are limited, and if they can get YOU TO CHANGE instead of changing themselves they will always choose that option. They don't see what they are doing most of the time and how they have the ability to truly damage their lovers self esteem.

    Virgo men are loyal, despite the bad reputation they may have earned. These men crave attention but the attention they crave is one that they are successful, helpful, respected, etc. It's not really of a shallow nature, though their vanity does tend to get in their way, and Virgo men embrace aging much like a fading movie star sitting in a botox chair...the fight it every step of the way. But in relationships, they may give you the illusion he has other options, and he may, but he is highly selective and may be venturing into more of an emotional or mental affair more so than a physical one. They don't bed a bevvy of women for instant gratification, there has to be more to it than sex for a virgo male.

    They are also creatures of habit. I find them to be very predictable and ending relationships is not their strong suit. They tend to do so in a cut and dry manner, they shut down, withdraw and silence. They won't return your calls, nor your texts, but they won't tell you to "get lost" either. They tend to hold onto the past as they may regret their decision and want to revisit it. They are notorious for having explosive break ups, turning a tiny disagreement into a full blown brawl. They walk out, fall silent but make no mistake they are so sure of your love for them they will wait by that phone for the apology they feel they so richly deserve (even if they started the battle). As time goes by and you are not calling they become even more angry, bitter and resentful. But, and this is a big but, they are also known to reappear without warning, and attempting to discuss the issue long after you've moved on and forgotten about it. This causes many women bewilderment and they cannot figure out what the game plan is here. Is he trying to reconcile? Did he miss me? What's he doing? What he's doing is seeking validation that you are still waiting for him, and if you give him that, you will be placed back up on that shelf to collect dust only to be taken down and played with whenever he needs to feel secure again. It's a horrible catch 22.

    What keeps a woman going back to a virgo man is when he's good he's amazing. But when he's bad he's the most heartbreaking of men. He can make you feel alive, desired and wanted beyond measure, then with icy silence cut you off and make you feel utterly disposable. I wish I could tell you he wasn't aware he's doing this, but he's well aware of it, and he's so caught up in his own emotions, wants, needs and desires that yours aren't even on his mind.

    The best way to deal with a virgo male in a love relationship is to be honest, up front and stand for your beliefs. If he insults or wounds you try to remove emotion from it and speak matter of factly. Emotions don't hold a lot of weight and he'll see you as out of control. Be very direct and state your case. If he tries to engage in battle walk away! Don't engage. It won't be pretty because this man will pull out all the ammo in an effort to win this battle. He'll bring up your drunken mother, you're cheating ex, and how you need dental work. There is nothing off limits when this man wants to attack. Fight the urge to retort. If he starts to get nasty, walk away and tell him you'll discuss it when he's not being so immature. A virgo male hates to feel in inferior and when YOU are the more rational one he will stop his antics. If you insult him back not only will it get worse, but you will pay for it for weeks, perhaps months. They are like elephants, they never forget.

    Secondly, don't give this man ultimatums. He doesn't respond to them, and if forced to move faster than he's comfortable with he will retreat and leave you behind wondering WTF?

    Remember, he is an earth sign. He does not move fast with anything. This man is cautious, meticulous, a perfectionist, a bit OCD, high worrier, and critical. He takes great time and care doing every task from buying a home, marriage proposal to making a sandwich. It can be maddening especially if you're a fire sign and move quickly and follow your intuition. This man questions himself constantly so he won't move in haste. He is always looking for a better option, and he's frugal. He loves fine things, and may blow 10K on a gadget that is of quality rather than settle for something cheaper to do the trick. He's a hard worker, but he has spouts of it. He'll work non stop for 3 months without a break, then crash from exhaustion and hibernate cutting off everything and everyone to recharge. He doesn't give a warning, he just retreats, again leaving you wondering if you did something wrong. Only to reappear without excuse, apology or explanaion.

    The best way to get along well with a Virgo male is to allow him the space he needs to do what he needs to do. Only lend advice when it's asked for (he doesn't take advice well). Stay true to your desires, for if you work your life around this man you will forever be doing so. Set boundaries with him. If he crosses a line with you, tell him blankly, and stick to it. He will challenge your boundaries. Be authentic. He won't appreciate a dishonest, phoney person. The best advice I can give is know who you are, know what you want, what you stand for and what you will NOT tolerate, because if you go into a relationship with a virgo male and you are seeking validation and/or expecting him to make you a secure person you will end up worse off than you were before.

  23. Im a sagittarius woman and ive known my virgo man for 3 years now... We had a great connection at the start and its still here, even better. In the beginning we decided to be fwb (alltough secretly i didnt want that, i allready liked him) we had ALOT of fights then we didnt speak for 6 months but he kept replying my stories but that were not really supportive words at the time (jealousy?).. then we got back together and he had changed alot. We still had fights but less. At least he tried to understand more, altough it was hard for him as he always thinks hes right 😂And now we are the bestest friends, still fwb, he's my best friend now and he texts me EVERY DAY. Alot. But we never talk about a relationship... He wont tell me about what happend to his ex... He sad it were bad times and he doesnt wanna talk about it..He looks afraid from a relationship and i dont know what to do anymore cause right now i have never loved someone like this before... Hes so honest and real he makes me laugh sooo much and i think i can say im his best friend now? I just want some definition you know... We have sex and have fun and talk deep but we dont kiss alot and thats got me worrying... Its a weird thing sag and virgo but i can FEEL in my gutt that there is a VERY VERY real and strong connection.. he also sees me as his go to person when its not going well.When we first met he didnt want to come at my house but now he comes over, sometimes stays and sleeps with me.. ive met his parents but he still doesnt want me to come over when his parents are home, alltough ive seen them very often.. i dont understand this anymore and it has been 3 years i see him every week and i really love him but im scared he still doesnt want anything. Please help me out im too scared to act because we had several fights over the relationship thing... But that was a while ago

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