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When Your Husband Looks at Another Woman, What is He Thinking?

Last updated on June 13, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Does it make you insecure when your husband looks at other women?

Perhaps it makes you feel like he’s not attracted to you any more?

Maybe it makes you suspicious that he’s being unfaithful? 

If so, you’re in the right place. This guide features expert tips on what to do if you feel this way.

However, before we dive into this advice, it’s important you read the next few sentences carefully.  

There’s only one real way to truly get over feeling insecure about whether your partner has cheated.

That is to find out the truth. 

Without the truth, there will always be an element of doubt in your mind. 

And it’s pointless confronting your partner without evidence to back up your accusations. 

That’s why I wanted to inform you about this powerful online background checker tool.  

With just a few of your partner’s basic details, this tool can produce a wealth of information regarding his previous communications. 

You’ll find out who he’s been contacting frequently, what smartphone apps he’s downloaded, whether he alternate contact details, and more.  

To put it bluntly, if he has been cheating, this tool should make it immediately obvious. 

Either way, it’s likely you’ll have all the information you need to confront your partner on their behaviour. 

The guide below offers more advice on how you should go about doing this. 

Within this article, we are going to take a look at what it could mean when your partner looks at another woman, how you can figure out if your man is in love with another woman, how you can confront your husband and how you can try and fix the situation.

What could it mean when your husband looks at other women?

Firstly, it's important to say that you should never try and assume what your husband is thinking. You're not a mind reader, and so you shouldn't come to a conclusion before speaking to him openly about the situation. However, there are a few common explanations for what it could mean if your husband is looking at other women.

The first thing you will need to figure out is if your partner is looking at various other women a lot of the time, or just constantly looking at another woman in particular when he is with her. We are going to tackle the latter first - what should you do if your husband is looking at another woman in particular?

Perhaps you are frequently around one of your girlfriends, one of your partner's female friends, or his female co-worker. If you notice that your husband is always looking at and checking out a woman that you know, or that he has frequent contact with, it could mean something more. Of course, he could be looking at this woman in a friendly manner, but you will no doubt be able to feel the difference between a friendly look and your husband blatantly checking another woman out.

If your husband is staring at a particular woman, it could mean that he finds her sexually attractive or is in love with her. It might be concerning if you know that your man is regularly with this woman - it can be especially concerning if it's a woman he spends time alone with, like a co-worker. There's no real reason for your husband to be checking out someone he knows. If you suspect that he is cheating on you, we will discuss the other signs that he will be showing later in this article, and you can take a look at these to try and piece things together.

So, what if your husband looks at various women?So, what if your husband looks at various women?

If your man is checking out various women when you are out and about together, it doesn't just mean one thing. There are a vareity of explanations.

  • Your husband isn't staying in control of his natural instincts.

Unfortunately, as we know, men and women behave very differently. Sometimes men can't stay in control of their natural instincts and urges - they can't help but look at the opposite sex. Men look at women, a lot, especially if they see an attractive woman. Unlike women, who can control their emotions and primal instincts a little more, men find it more difficult - or perhaps they just don't try hard enough. If this is the case, your partner won't even realize that he is looking at another woman. He isn't trying to hurt you and it doesn't mean he loves you any less - he just simply can't control the testosterone surging through his body. Although, this doesn't mean you're not valid to feel hurt.

  • Your husband feels sexual attraction and lust towards other women.

As mentioned above, it's perfectly natural for a man to look at other women and see the beauty in them. However, it's a completely different story if your partner feels sexual attraction or lust towards another woman he looks at. Even if your partner is obviously looking at other women, the only woman he should want to sleep with and be sexually active with is you. You might not be able to tell if he feels sexual attraction towards another woman, but he might show signs of getting sweaty palms, his speech might become confused and he might even start to get an erection. This is destructive to the relationship. Even if he wouldn't physically cheat with another woman, it can feel almost as if he has cheated, because he is thinking about sex with someone else.

  • Your husband is a cheat and still looks at other women even when you're there.

Obviously, this is the worst explanation of why your partner is looking at other women. This is rarely the reason because the majority of cheaters would be more clever and sneaky than to ogle at other women in front of their partner. However, it could be possible that your partner is a cheat and he just can't help himself from looking at the other women around him. We are going to take a look at how you can tell if your man is a cheater or is in love with another woman next.

Is it like pulling teeth getting him to spend time with you?
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How do you know if your husband is cheating on you?How do you know if your husband is cheating on you?

If you have noticed the way that your partner looks at other women, and you really think that your husband could be cheating on you, you might want to look out for some signs before confronting him about the matter. Take a look at the signs below, and if your man is showing several of the behaviors, then he could be cheating on you.

  • He is spending a lot more time on his phone and is protective of it.
  • He is showing much less of an interest in you.
  • He is spending a lot of time away from you and making excuses.
  • He has started to pay a lot more attention to his appearance than he ever has before.
  • He is sneaky, jumpy and nervous when around you.

If you are concerned that your husband is cheating on you, you will need to confront him, when you feel like you have enough evidence that he is being unfaithful. Don't accuse him before having some kind of evidence, as you could be wrong and he could feel like you don't trust him.

How can you get your husband to stop looking at other women?How can you get your husband to stop looking at other women?


The first thing you need to do is to openly talk to your husband and tell him how it makes you feel when he has a look at other women when you are with him. You need to speak to him in a safe environment where the two of you both feel like you can be open and honest. Try not to sound like you're accusing him, because he might go on the defense. As mentioned above, he might not even realize that he was doing it, and if so, he will probably be mortified that he has made you feel like that without noticing. If he gets angry or defensive, you might have reason to be more concerned and you might need to ask him if he has a lust for other women or someone else in particular.

Join in

Next time, If your man simply can't stop looking at other women, even when he is trying, you can always join in. If you find him checking someone else out, you can join in and say that you think they're hot too - this can really spice things up and as soon as you say something like that, he will only be able to focus on you. It's also confident - you are acting like you aren't intimidated, and you shouldn't be.

Work on your relationship together

In all situations, even if your man was open and admitted he has a lust for other women, or even if he didn't, you can use the problem to inspire you both to work on your relationship together. Your relationship might have needed some work anyway - start focusing on it more. You can try spicing things up in the bedroom more, go on dates again, take a trip together. You might find it useful to see a professional relationship therapist to help you work through problems, depending on how serious they are. Obviously, it might be more difficult if your partner has cheated on you - the decision to stay or leave the relationship is a personal one.


Hopefully, with the help of this article, you are able to figure out what it could mean when your husband looks at another woman, and what you can do about it to ensure you feel happy and less insecure within your marriage.

Did this article help you at all? If it did, please do let us know in the comments.

Do you feel like all you think about is him, but he only thinks about himself?
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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

4 comments on “When Your Husband Looks at Another Woman, What is He Thinking?”

  1. So, we are coming up on our 20 yr anniversary and went to the beach last weekend ( which is my favorite place to be) and I seen my husband check out another women. He said he didn’t even realize it but it truly has broken my heart but I am thinking that’s it’s o my because I am insecure because of my weight. I suffer from a chronic illness that leaves me in constant pain and makes it hard to be as active as I would like. Am I over re-acting? I can’t help my feeling and he has apologized but I just see it play over and over in my head. I just can’t imagine him be attracted to another women. Is it different for women, because I have no desire to look at another man. The thought of even being intimate with another man makes me ill. Please help!!!

    1. Yesterday we just celebrated our anniversary (29) years, we were out to dinner and I just saw him check out this lady. Looked like he looked at her butt and I seriously thought about just walking out the restaurant. My husband is very nosey though and I don't know if he's just like being nosey or just really looking at her rear end. At least you're husband has apologized. I hope you all are doing ok. Good luck girl.

  2. A few days ago I was cleaning my kitchen when I noticed a message came through my husband's phone so I looked over at the phone because he was out side and I thought it might have been his boss , but it wasn't it was a women that he had been talking to on messanger she was sending him nude photos of her self and some other preety disturbing photos I had gotten ahold of her on messenger and ask her nicely to please stop sending my husband photos of her naked that it's disrespectful to me and it's disrespectful to my family she just laughed at me and told me to stay out of it because they was none of my business I told her it is my business it's my husband and it's my family that you are getting in the middle of she's been calling my husband babe I'll messenger and sending him more and more naked photos what should I do about the situation I think she's a scam online but I cannot be for sure I don't know how to tell between a fake profile and a real profile she is asking him to buy her photos she charges $35 for her photos and up I don't know if he's been buying them or if she's just been sending them to him for free but I feel this is disturbing to me and it's very disrespectful and I'm just trying to get to the truth but I'm trying to figure out the best way to go about this

  3. I am marry to someone that I don't love anymore. But here is my story I found out 5 years ago that my husband had another child so when I ask him, his comments was I did see boy so I don't know if he is my. So I ask him for a divorce he said no,so I had surgery about a year ago he was not by my side what I was going through. I where 225 pounds he never call me any name.he not a support husband so now he is going for open heart surgery and I am by his side should I do the same thing he did to me.there is a lady live in my building I caught him looking at her 2 time so when I see him a text and ask him to be honest how do he feel about me (he said love you babe) I no that he is not telling the truth. So he try to turn that same question to and I said ( I love you to but how can you love me and you look other women.) you know what his comment was nothing because he got caught I seen 2 look at her what do leave or stay. I am tried been unhappy in this marriage.we have 2 kids that is grown.very in unhappy person

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