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10 Signs A Man Slept With Another Woman

by Sonya Schwartz

You're most likely here because you feel that your boyfriend or husband may have slept with another woman?

Do you feel that he's been acting super strange and suspicious lately, but you have nothing concrete to prove it?

Do you end up feeling extremely stressed and sad because you have no idea how it's come to this bad point in your relationship?

If you feel this way, it's super important to get some concrete evidence of what is going on so you at least know where you stand.

Without that, it's all just speculation...

At first you'll want to rule out whether he's actually been sleeping or seeing other women.

It's likely that if you confront him he will deny it, but that doesn't mean that he's telling you the truth.

You'll like want to use a tool like this to get a bit more information on what he's been up to (click here to check it out).

If you want to know for sure whether your man is cheating, you’ll need to dig deeper.

By entering just a few of his details into this tool, you can discover who your man is frequently communicating with, whether he installed online dating apps, plus a ton of other information which will tell you for sure whether he’s up to no good.

Instead of constantly stressing about whether your partner is or isn’t being unfaithful, you can know the truth with this tool.

It’s quick. It’s simple. It’s discreet. And most importantly, it’ll give you the peace of mind you need.

Once you've ruled that out, let's continue into what you came here for in the first place.

Read on for 10 signs that you may need to check up on your partner’s behavior.

1. He smells different.

This sounds like a bizarre first point, but it is one of the biggest reasons cheaters will get caught out. You will most likely know your partner's scent. Perhaps he has a specific cologne he uses, or you use a particular laundry detergent. So, it's a sure sign he has been with another woman if he walks into the house smelling of flowery perfume.

Similarly, if you notice that he comes home from his workday smelling like he's just hopped out a shower this is a cause for concern.

You have every right to ask why he smells so fresh or perfumed.

2. He comes home wearing different clothes than when he left.

This one is quite self-explanatory, and you don't have to be the world's greatest detective to try and figure this one out. If you notice that he comes home in different clothes than he left in, this could be a sign that he's been with someone else.

However, people that cheat are most likely compulsive liars, and they are good at it. Therefore, this will be a rare occurrence. They will have put together more of a plan. For example, if your partner says they're going to the gym after work, they will leave in their work clothes and come home in their gym clothes. There is nothing abnormal about this. 

However, if you notice he is coming back without that post-workout glow or you see that a gym membership fee isn't leaving this account, then you might start to think where he is for an hour every night.

3. He seems overly happy.

Of course, something great could have happened at work or between you both, which would be a reasonable explanation. However, if you notice he comes off his "business phone call" with a massive smile on his face or sings in the shower more than usual, it could be because he is getting some action on the side. Let's be honest, who isn't happy after having sex?

You can simply ask something like, "Oh, you seem so happy. What happened?" and if he seems unable to come up with a reason or fumbles his words, it is probably because he's having sex with someone else behind your back.

4. Sex is longer with him now.

You will probably know your partner, sexually, pretty well. So, if you are confident that he has no problems usually with finishing when you have sex and all of a sudden, he can't, this can be a big concern. If he has just had sex with someone, then naturally he will take a lot longer to finish. There is too much pressure being put on him.

The same can be said for his stamina. Depending on how long you have been together, you will know roughly how long your lovemaking sessions last together. If for some reason, he is lasting a lot longer, one of the reasons can be that he has already used all his sexual stimulation before having sex with you.

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It's important not to accuse him of cheating if this is the only sign, he is showing. Sexual dysfunction and problems in the bedroom can begin at any time and can come from nowhere. There might be a more severe health issue happening with your partner, so be supportive and communicate with them if this is a problem, and you can be confident that they are not cheating.

5. He has less interest in having sex with you.

Interest in sex will naturally decrease over specific periods of time for everyone, and there are many reasons for it. For example, after the 'honeymoon period' of the relationship, you will probably start to have less sex – life kicks in, and suddenly you can't have sex three times a day!

Other reasons for his sexual interest to be low could be that he is overly tired or stressed. This is just the same as women after having a baby - your priority is not on getting laid; it's about sleeping.

However, if you are not aware of any reason, he could have for not wanting to have sex, it will be concerning if he doesn't seem interested at all. So, if you have noticed that his sexual desire for you is suspiciously low, then one of the conclusions that you can take from this is the fact he is getting his action from someone else.

6. He acts differently when you are in bed together.

 If you're having sex and suddenly, he springs something new on you, it might be a welcome surprise. However, do you really think he's been reading Cosmo's tips on hotter sex? Or is he practicing these things with someone else? I think it's probably the latter.

A lot of the time, cheaters will also try to hide their infidelity by giving you more attention than usual, especially in the bedroom. They will try to deflect your suspicions by giving you the best sex of your life. But what they don't know is that we are already on to them.

In addition to this, a clear sign that he is sleeping with someone else is if he calls out someone else's name during sex with you. I feel like I don't need to explain any further. He literally imagines that you are someone else, and nothing can feel as awful as this can.

7. He spends way more time than usual on his phone. 

If you feel like your man is attached to his phone at the moment, it could be a sign that he is talking to someone else on it. There are a few things you can look out for when it comes to your man's new phone habits.

Firstly, does he have a lot of incoming calls that he either declines or steps away from you to answer? Or does he have a new phone password? Perhaps he always puts his phone face down if it's near you to make sure you don't see any of the notifications that come up?

All of these are signs that he is speaking to someone else and probably cheating on you with them.

If you ask him who he's always talking to, and he is cheating on you, he will probably respond with "work." This could be true, but you should ask yourself why work is not only private but why is his work calling him at midnight?

8. He showers as soon as he gets home.

Obviously, he might just be a seriously hygienic person who usually showers as soon as he gets home. If this is the case and none of the other signs in this article apply, I would dismiss it.

However, one of the most obvious signs that your husband is cheating on you will be the fact that he will shower as soon as he walks in. He probably won't speak to you or will try to avoid you until he's had a shower. He will be rushing to wash away the after-sex smell or the sweaty feminine scent he has on him.

To try and tell if he is showering to wash his infidelity away, try to stop him when he walks in the house. Don't run to him and accuse him. Just go to him and welcome him home. If you do this, not only will you be able to smell if he has been with someone else or see if he has marks on him, but you will be able to see if he is eager to run to the shower.

If he acts like he's in a rush to get to the shower and is dismissive of you, you have your answer.

9. He has taken a sudden interest in his appearance.

This might sound like something someone would do in a full-blown affair. Firstly – isn't having sex with someone else an affair? But also, it will prove that they are trying to look good for someone else.

Of course, it might not be too concerning if your partner is going for a couple of interviews or he wants to get fitter. However, if nothing in his life has changed or he hasn't mentioned anything about changing his appearance to you, then this could be a red flag.

If your man has started to spend a lot of time and effort trying to look good, it could be for someone else. Examples of this might be him joining a gym without mentioning it, buying new clothes or changing his style completely. If he goes out and buys a whole new selection of underwear when he doesn't need to, this can be concerning.

Something that might be a little more obvious than these other small changes in appearance is if he has started to pay a lot of attention to his grooming habits down in his nether regions. If your man is happy to go unshaven quite a lot of the time, and then suddenly decides to start shaving his pubic hair and making it look more appealing, this can be a big sign he's doing it for someone else.

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So keep an eye out and if he's making changes to himself, ask him why. Remember not to interrogate him, because he might genuinely be making these changes to feel better about himself or look better for you.

10. He has evidence all over him of another woman.

This is obviously a complete giveaway that he has slept with someone else. There can be a lot of different types of evidence that another woman has been doing the dirty with your man. This ranges from a phone number being in his jacket pocket when you go to do the washing, to scratch marks all over his back. However, signs might even be as evident as you finding semen in his underwear.

It might be hard to find any secure evidence, as he will hide things away from you. But if you do find evidence, hang on to it so that when you confront him, he can't deny it.

What should you do?

I need to stress the fact that if you have not got secure evidence that your man has slept with another woman, don't go and accuse him. A healthy relationship is all about being supportive and communicating clearly with each other, so if you really do think that he might be cheating on you speak to him first.

You don't want to ruin your relationship by accusing your man over something that isn't true.

FAQs

How Do You Tell If She Has Slept With Someone Else?

There are several ways to decipher if your partner has been with another woman. Some of the most common include guys who take time to answer your call, those who love spending the night out one too many times, or they hardly reply to your messages. In some instances, when a partner often says they have extra time at work and, as a result, come home late, chances are something foreign is going on.

How Do You Know If He Has Someone Else?

Signs that the man in your life has another he cares about are straightforward to identify. The primary reason we overlook these signs is because of our feelings and attraction. Some of these signs include;

- Your relationship is only based on pure fun. There are no serious conversations and intimate moments.
- You’re both not exclusive, and he argues it out by saying he’s not a fan of labels.
- He still keeps all his online dating profiles active.

How Do You Know If Your Husband Is In Love With Another Woman?

If your husband is in love with another woman, he might start comparing you to her and get easily offended by everything you do. He might also begin to have loads of secrets and may avoid you altogether. Besides his new, unusual character towards, your husband may start avoiding you or reducing the time he spends with you.

How Do I Find Out If He's Cheating?

To find out if your partner is cheating, or has another person on the side, some tell-tale signs might guide you to be in the know. He might suddenly be very busy with work, paying extra attention to his appearance more than usual. He might either want to have sex with you all the time or avoid all forms of intimacy with you altogether.

How Do You Know If A Man Is Hiding His Feelings?

Men show it when they're interested in you. If a man cares about you, he won't fail to make it show with the little things that he does. When a man cares about you, he remembers all the little details and shows a high interest in your life. He always makes time for you, working through his schedule to spend quality time with you.

Conclusion

I am so sorry that you feel the pain and anxiety that your man might have slept with another woman. I think it's safe to say that we have all been there. However, I hope this article has helped you identify some of the signs your man could be showing if he is being unfaithful with someone else. 

Whatever the outcome, everyone deserves a secure and robust relationship, and you need to know that you are so worthy of true love.

Did this article help you at all? If it did and you liked what you read, please let us know in the comments. We would love to hear from you.

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

14 comments on “10 Signs A Man Slept With Another Woman”

  1. How do I handle the pain I feel when he calls me her name? It really hurts but I can't bring it up to him because he is denying she exists. I've worked out how to deal with the rest of it, but not that part...

    1. Sorry to hear that I say change things about yourself and say the person that has the name he talks about just say you made friends with that person and they've said some things don't say what thenll he say something

    1. You should confront him being that you already know of his infidelity. Approach him in a calm manner to ensure get all that it is that you need to know of the situation. How you choose to handle things after you've talked is up to you.

    2. My boyfriend off 3yeairs lefed all w3kend lasted w3k my bff called Thay had sex in my car all weekend and he did lasted night with someone else I have the Tex a f pichers

    3. Don’t fight with him sit him down one day on a weekend cook his favorite meal and buy his favorite drink ....smile play wt him have sex ..then talk 2 him whole heartedly about the issue if it’s possible cry when talking to him and tell him how he’s hurting you

  2. I have a question.
    My husband and i used to do the dirty any time of the day. Recently he is having an excuse that we have not shower yet. He also all of a sudden just want to change the position that i dont like.

    I was recently in hospital for a week and i came home and we did the dirty and now im really itchy and burning on my vagina. And im carrying our second child.

    Please help me understand if he is or not cheating.

    1. A yeast infection is likely if u were just in the hospital and had any antibiotics at all. It is a culprit in many cases and he irritated the ph down there from a damp and hormonal perspective,I would bet. To be sure, talk to ur OB gyn honestly and they can tell u for certain. Don't worry about cheating until u have the reason to think that. Itching is not the surefire way to prove that, and especially knowing the prego and hospital details!

  3. He's cheating sorry to say I never had that feeling with the inchy ness when I was pregnant but go get checked because that stuff if you catch stuff can hurt the baby

    1. U don't know that for sure so don't terrify her. A yeast infection is likely if she was just in the hospital and had any antibiotics at all, plus that added moisture from his side of the action. If not really super dry and aired out enough-lol- it is a surefire environment for it to be a hotspot for yeast.

  4. Don't leave out the part if he comes home and you grab his penis forward and cum comes out he is truly busted

  5. He says they are not intimate and that he is still with me, but, she sleeps in his bed with him every night. I just can't prove anything.

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