If your ex moves on quickly, focus on yourself. If it’s meant to be, it will. In fact, about 50% of couples reunite later on in life, so try not to think of a breakup as the end of the world. Instead, do some self-improvement for the next guy who comes along. After all, he deserves the best version of you, right?
I’ve laid out 10 awesome things for you to do now that the breakup is over. Each one has actionable things to accomplish right now!
Let’s get started. Ready? We’ll have some fun with this!
Having no contact is a crucial thing to do, and it takes self-discipline to do it right. This means not stalking him on social media, deleting his phone number if you have to, and not driving by his house at all hours to see what he’s up to. Let the mystery die, and just forget about it. Remember, you are better than that; watch a Netflix marathon instead!
Now is the time to have a good cry; wear out your favorite punching bag; feel the pain so you can release it. This will go wonders in helping you heal. You must go through a little pain now to gain much pleasure later on. Learn from your experience, and next time, if there is a next time, it won’t be so bad. Find some positive mantras to meditate on today!
You’re hurt, hurt enough that it stung when the answer to, “Has my ex moved on?” was, “Yes!” This means it’s a good idea for you to stay single a while. Don’t jump to a rebound guy! Wait until you’re healed; your future mate deserves that! Don’t carry baggage from one relationship to the next. Take a moment to heal!
Attachments can be towards people, things, or even plans! If we are full of disappointment, it’s because we’re attached to a specific outcome that didn’t occur as expected. Learn to release expectations and live in the moment. Find out what the hype is on the subject of mindfulness; it will change your life and give a sense of purpose beyond this breakup!
Talk to family and friends about what is going on. Lean on them for support. Take caution when confiding in mutual friends, though, especially if they are friends who are still in touch with the ex. Go out and make different friends. Hit a yoga group or join an online support group for broken hearts! Get creative to find an awesome support group!
It takes two to tango. A breakup is usually not entirely one person’s fault, but it can be. Think about it. Were there things you could have done differently? What mistakes did you make? You don’t want to repeat them. Figure out what part you played in the breakup so you can learn what to improve for the next guy that comes along. Do some self-reflection to figure it out.
Now is when you will take what you learned from the breakup analysis and turn it into self-discovery. Redefine yourself as an improved person. Be open-minded in discovering your shortcomings. Read some self-help books, listen to relationship experts, or even consider seeing a counselor. The key here is self-improvement. Discover the best version of yourself.
Look at it this way. While the ex is hooking up with a rebound, he’s not working on self-improvement or owning up to his shortcomings. He’s just found a swift fix and is probably just repeating mistakes with someone else. Know that you are back there doing the hard work to become a better person. Be glad you are going forward; don’t think about getting back together.
Get into shape. Take care by eating right and working out. Exercise releases endorphins, which, in turn, makes you happy! Plus, if you look hot from top to bottom and run into the ex, know he will just be begging for you back, at which point you can say, “No!”
Find different things to make you happy, motivated, interested, active, and inspired. Be career-oriented. Go back to school to expand your education or take classes online. Get involved in something different. Try doing some crafts you’ve never heard of like cross-stitch or knitting. Expand your horizons, and you will be “off the market” hot to guys! They love well-rounded girls!
Accept the pain and try to heal the best you can. Realizing the pain is crucial. Have a good cry, and just get it over with. You will feel better before you know it. Try to think about the future and the present rather than the past.
There are probably a lot of rebound relationship signs with his current flame, especially if he jumped into bed with her shortly after you. He is most likely the same person he was with you, meaning he’s seen no self-improvement.
It can mean that they had someone else already lined up to date, or they just happened to go with the first person who came along. Either way, they didn’t take time to work on themselves before jumping into another relationship, so you should be glad it’s over.
Try to remember the problems you had with them; they are going to have the same issues with a new partner now. It may feel like a slap in the face, but really you dodged a bullet. They just jumped the next person that came along in lei of self-improvement.
If the relationship was over long before the breakup occurred, then it’s okay to go on with someone else; after all, it was a long time coming. Just make sure to not have any unneeded baggage before starting something up with someone new.
She might’ve had someone already ready while you were dating even though she’s supposed to be with you. Alternatively, she could have just jumped on the first relationship that came along and started a new relationship before she healed from her past one.
Focus on yourself. Don’t get back on the horse until you are ready. It’s best to start dating someone else once you’ve properly healed from your breakup. That way, you can find someone more suited for you and have a healthier relationship with that person.
What did you think of my list? I think the most essential step is self-improvement. You can control yourself, can’t change what your ex is doing. I think you should become the best YOU that you can be! What do you think? Please share your answer in the comments!
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