When a relationship like that ends, you tend to look back and wonder. Maybe if things were different, both of you would have even ended up on the altar.
Do you have a particular person that fits this description? Someone in your past that still haunts your present? A love interest that was so good to you, you wish things with them had worked out?
If so, this article offers a few tips to help you get over that person.
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‘The one who got away’, is simply someone you regret losing because you deeply feel the person was the right one for you. This person possibly checked most of your boxes and was the best you ever had, both past and present.
You’ll always love them even though you’re in a new relationship. You might even end up in a new relationship filled with love, commitment, and other important virtues.
You’d think that’s enough to keep the memory of the one who got away at bay. However, it is imperative to note that he will always have ‘’an exalted’’ place among your past lovers.
Also, the one who got away is usually different from all your other exes. You keep seeing his face on almost every guy on the street; a part of you never wants to move on from him, and touching other people makes you feel a bit disgusted.
Also, your friends know not to bring him up, you get jealous and broken when you hear that he is with someone new, moving on from him becomes very difficult, you keep regurgitating memories of you and him.
Nevertheless, this concept has been speculated to a mere illusion and some feel it doesn’t exist. The feeling emanates from idolizing a person so much that he becomes the perfect character in your mind. If he were so perfect, he would still be in your life by now, right? That being said, here are 5 tips to get over him.
One of the most effective ways of getting over someone you love and care for is keeping a distance from them or avoiding anything that would remind you of them. In this case, the internet – Facebook, Instagram, or any social platform might serve as an easy point of contact to him.
Therefore, it is recommended that you keep off the internet for a while, so you don’t bump into his cute photos online or accidentally start stalking him.
Keeping distance from your ex is an effective way of getting over them. As the case may be, this will limit physical contact with them and reduce any emotional uprising between the two of you. I know it’s usually said that absence makes the heart grow fond, but not in this case.
No matter how good this guy was to you, he’s in your past and things can’t be the same as before. You may always love him, or merely have a soft spot for him, but it’s time to let go and accept that ‘the one got away’ will remain in your past.
Every time you remember your relationship with this guy, remind yourself that the relationship is over, and come to terms with that. The proper thing to do in this scenario is to take up courage and deal with the fact that he is never coming back.
As much as you still want to have him back, it would help if you made plans to move on. There are numerous guys that would like to be with you. This doesn’t mean you should like anyone. Take your time and mingle with other people if you haven’t done that already.
Give others a chance and keep your options open; do things like going on dates, join dating apps, and socialize more. It’s a good way of getting over the past.
Letting is never a simple task, especially when you still like or even love this person. Most times, even when you claim to have moved on, you end up getting jealous when you see a picture of him with another girl.
The most useful thing to do at this point is to be genuinely happy for him. The truth is, no matter how good things were with him, that’s all in the past, focus on the present. Maybe this time, you’ll actually end up with someone you love, respect, and can’t live without.
There are several things you could say as a way of expressing your true feelings for him, they include ‘’… so that you know, I do not hate you’’ ‘’I still think of you sometimes’’ ‘’you meant the world to me’’ ‘’you made me stronger’’ ‘’I still care a lot about you’’ ‘’I am truly happy for you.’’
People like this are usually different from all your other exes; a part of you never wants to move on from him and touching other people makes you feel a bit disgusted. Plus, your friends know not to bring him up, you get jealous and broken when you hear that he is with someone new, moving on from him becomes very difficult and you keep regurgitating on memories of both of you.
The first thing to do at this point is to weigh your options, think carefully before you make this decision. Remember why you broke in the first place? Could that still be a factor in the future? Consider what your family and friends will think about this. More so, try to be sure that he still genuinely loves you and hasn’t changed over time.
Yes, we all have that one person we dated at some point that meant the world to us. A close look at our previous lovers will make you realize that there is this one guy who ticked almost all the boxes; he did not cheat, lie, or womanize; he was handsome, caring, and gave you great sex. However, holding on to the memories of this guy when there’s no hope of getting him back is not productive.
To be emphatic about this, this concept is more of a myth that you created for yourself. The best explanation for this is that you just built up this idea of the ideal character, making it seem like you’ll never find someone as great as him in your life. If he were so perfect, he would still be in your life by now.
In this article, I have spent the time to dissect the concept of ‘the one that got away’ for your full comprehension. Now you know what it means, and will have a better chance of dealing with ‘the one that got away.’
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