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Erotic Kissing: 8 Critical Steps To Kiss Erotically

May 28, 2024

Kissing is such a vital part of being sensual with someone, but we tend to all push it to the back of our minds. Instead, we focus on the big things like how we can perform better in bed or how to really turn our man on by giving him the perfect oral sex.

Kissing is an intimate and exciting thing to do and focus on before sex, and if you know how to kiss erotically you will really impress your man. So, in this article, I am going to show you eight critical steps you need to take to be able to kiss erotically.

How to Prepare

Before we jump straight in with the eight steps, let’s talk about preparation first. You are planning on kissing your man erotically, so you need to make sure that you are prepared and feeling erotic. You are as important as he is in this situation and you need to feel into it. If you follow these four small tips, then I’m sure you will be feeling ready to go and pounce on your man.

Have an indulgent shower or bath.

Having a nice long shower or a hot bubble bath can make you feel great about yourself. It’s also a good time to shave if that makes you feel sexier. When you get out of the shower or bath it might be a nice idea to add some nice smelling body lotion to your skin. In addition to this, you could pop a few sprays of your favorite perfume on to leave yourself smelling good.

Wear something that makes you feel erotic.

Of course, if you are going to be out in public, you might not want to show the world you are feeling sexual. However, you should choose an underwear set that makes you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. If you know that your man is coming to your place, why not just put a sexy nighty on or be wearing just a robe with nothing underneath?

Make sure your breath smells and tastes great.

You are going to be kissing your man, so it’s probably a good idea to make sure you have nice smelling breath. You want to entice him into your mouth, not scare him away with bad odors.

Turn yourself on.

If you are going to try and make your man feel erotic towards you, you need to be feeling sexual in the first place. So, it might be time to turn yourself on. Imagine what the two of you are going to get up to later, put some sensual music on and you can even touch yourself if you feel like that would help.

General dos and don’ts to stick by when kissing erotically.

  • Do be confident and kiss your man in a way that also arouses you. Do experiment with pace, intenseness, and strength.
  • Do use your hands and your body to intensify the kiss.
  • Do kiss him when he least expects it. The surprise is one of the biggest factors that lead to men being turned on.
  • Don’t forget to have minty-fresh breath.
  • Don’t talk too much while you are kissing. Whatever you say, do not let it be mundane. You are trying to make him feel erotic, not find out what he is having for dinner.
  • Don’t keep your eyes open. Unless you really have to and you think that eye contact is going to make things sexier.

1. Build up to the kiss before you do it.

You want your man to feel uncontrollable sexual excitement for you before you have even started kissing him. So, you might want to start off by letting him know that you want to lock lips with him. You can do this by using your body language. Stand or sit close to him. Look at him and give him sexual eye contact – stare at him in a way that is alluring and lustful.

You can also use your hands too, to show him you want to get it on. Maybe you want to take one of your hands and rub the inside of his thigh. Alternatively, if your faces are already close together, you can take your fingers and trace his lips with them. You can gently circle around his lips, or brush his cheek with your hand.

A more obvious way to show your man that you want to get it on with him is to simply tell him. Communication with a dirty twist is a great way to do this. You can whisper in his ear, tell him everything you want him to do to you or what you want to do to him. You can tell him how badly you want your lips on his. Withhold from kissing him until you have talked dirty to him. If you are in a public place, this can also really turn your man on and you could be about to rush home together.

Doing any of these things will increase the sexual tension between the two of you and will get him hot under the collar. He will want you so badly that he might even try to initiate the kiss. During your make-out session, you should still communicate with each other, but in a different way. I will be discussing this later on in the article.

2. Start slow and build the pressure and speed.

Now you have your man begging for your kiss, it’s time to put your lips on his. Gently place your lips on his and take it slow. Don’t be too aggressive your kiss, be gentle with him. Start to build him up slowly. You can put a little more pressure on his lips and see if he responds to it. I’m sure he will be very grateful that you have decided to speed things up.

You can then slowly and gently slide the tip of your tongue into his mouth. Do not be heavy with your tongue movements, and whatever you do, do not act like a washing machine. Kissing with tongues is a real turn on, but not if it goes badly. Change it up between open-mouth kissing with tongue and closed mouth. You can also change the speed of the kiss and tease him with it.

3. Kiss him in other areas.

Once you have given his mouth the attention that it deserves, it’s time to start giving other areas of his body some pleasure. You can start by bringing your mouth away from his and moving across gently to his neck. Just under his ear is a great place to kiss, because both the neck and the ears are erogenous zones. Erogenous zones are areas on the body that are particularly sensitive to sexual stimulation.

You can start by kissing gently on his neck. After a while, change it up. You always want to keep him guessing where your mouth is going to wander next. You can go slightly up and gently nibble the bottom of his ear. While you’re in the ear area, you can also whisper something dirty into his ear. For example, you could say something like, “Wow you are making me so wet.” This will make him want to take you there and then, but he has to wait.

Another great idea to get him really turned on would be to take off his shirt if he is wearing one and start to kiss him on his chest. Slowly lower yourself down and continue kissing down his torso. Once you get to the area just above his groin, let your kiss go back up his body. You have just given him a “no-job”. This will make him want you so much, and his penis will be going crazy under his pants.

4. Use your hands.

Even though you are kissing him, it shouldn’t just be your mouth that you are using to turn your man on. You need to touch him too. Once again, you should go along the lines of trying to tease your man. You can put your hands wherever you feel is most comfortable.

If you are standing up while you’re making out with your man, you can wrap your arms around his neck and even run your hands up and down his back. You could also touch his face and almost grab him and pull him in to your kiss. He will like it that you are taking control. If you are sitting or lying down with your man, you can run your hands all the way down the front of his chest slowly. You can end up at his groin area. 

You might be able to feel his hardness underneath his pants, and if you do, it might be a good idea to brush over it or rub gently around it with your hands. While you do this, you could also touch the inner side of his thighs. If he isn’t wearing a shirt, you can always try to run your hand down his chest while grazing your nails gently over him.

5. Get your body involved.

If you really want to kiss erotically, you need to get your body involved. There are so many ways that you can use your body, and they will all work to get him turned on. If you are not standing up, you can push him on to the bed/floor/sofa and straddle him. You can then slowly start grinding on him while you continue to kiss him. Dry humping might be something that you think only teenagers do, but you shouldn’t underestimate the power of it. While you are grinding on him, you will be leaning down to kiss him on his face or his neck and therefore he will probably see a glimpse of your bra or breasts under your top.

If you don’t feel like dominating your man, you could pull him on top of you and let him do all the work. He will love the fact that you want him to please you, and of course, he will live up to this role because he feels like you need him to fulfill all of your desires. Even if you know that you don’t, let him think you do. Surrender to him and tell him how much you want him.

No matter if he is on top or you are, you can tell him where to touch you, and tell him to express the same. It will quickly make the process of making out, a beautiful experience of you both telling each other what makes you feel the best and speaking about your desires and fantasies.

6. Pull away and tease him from time to time.

Men like to be teased and feel like you are a challenge. So, challenge him and make him work for you. Don’t let him have you all at once. There are many ways you can tease your man, and one of the best ways is something I have already mentioned – the “no-job”. This will get him so hard for you that he will practically start begging for you to sit on him.

Another way to tease him that is a little more subtle is to pull away from the kiss every so often. You need to make it fun and playful for him. So, every so often you could pull away and giggle a little bit. You could even fall forwards and do a cute giggle into his chest.

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You can also take your lips away from theirs for a few seconds, but still, stay close. Breathe heavily while you are this close to them, and they will be able to feel your hot breath on their lips. If they go in to kiss you, pull away slightly and flash a cheeky smile. You can also put your lips on his lips but not actually kiss him. You could also rub your finger gently over their lips or bite their lips gently.

It’s pretty much certain that as soon as you start to tease your man, he will play along with your game and it can make for a really playful and hot make-out session.

7. Make noise.

It’s important to note that I am not telling you that you should be screaming or making excess noise – your neighbors will probably not appreciate that, and it could turn your man off.

However, if you feel like moaning or making a little bit of noise from the pleasure you are receiving, do it. Don’t hold anything in – you should feel completely sexually liberated while you are in this moment, and your man needs to know this.Moaning can turn your partner on even more because he can not only see how much pleasure he is giving you, but he can hear it too.

Another good idea is to tell him how great he is making you feel – only if he really is, of course. But, anything you can do to boost his ego while he is kissing you will make him feel on top of the world and he will only want to please you further. If you are complimenting him and being open about how orgasmic it all feels to you, the chances are that your man will do the same, and it can be really nice to feel like you have sparked so much passion in him – you are doing something right.

8. Be confident and have fun.

To give your man the most pleasure, you need to be confident in what you are doing. Even if you haven’t, you should act like you have done this hundreds of times before. You need to carry the persona of a badass woman who is ready to rip his clothes off and show him the time of his life. Confidence is sexy. As well as this, you are not only doing this to please him, you need to be enjoying it too.

You still need to have fun with it. Don’t take yourself too seriously and if you mess up slightly by biting his ear a little too hard or bumping heads, roll with it. If you start to feel self-conscious or worry too much, the confidence will disappear, and your man might feel like you don’t know what you are doing. Embrace the erotic goddess inside of you and show him what you are capable of.


I hope that these eight steps will make you feel confident about how to kiss your man erotically. I’m sure you already knew what to do, but these tips will just take your passion to the next level. 

Now go and turn him on, girl. Most of all, go and enjoy it.

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