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Boyfriend Wants Me To Call Him Daddy: What Does It Mean?

Does your boyfriend want you to call him ‘Daddy’?

Are you wondering what this means for the dynamics of your relationship? 

Perhaps you want to know if it’s a good idea to call him this? 

If so, you’re in the right place. All these questions are answered in depth throughout the article below.  

However, before we learn about this, it’s really important that you read the next few sentences. 

Throughout my twenties, I was stuck in insecure relationships.

I’d always wonder what certain behaviors meant, whether my man really loved me, or if I was on the cusp of losing him. 

My boyfriends would never show clear signs of being committed to me - and eventually they’d leave. 

It was the same pattern over and over. I began to wonder if I’d ever find a partner who truly loved me.  

Yet, that all changed when I learned about an important aspect of male psychology. 

It’s called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ - and it has a powerful impact on how men feel about the women in their lives. 

When this psychological trigger is activated, it can be the difference between a man seeing you as a ‘bit of fun’ or a woman worth investing his life into.  

Indeed, once I learned how to activate the ‘Hero’s Instinct’, it was common for the men I dated to begin OBSESSING over me (you can learn more in my personal story). 

It’s really easy to understand this primal instinct. Yet, so few people seem to know about it. 

So, if you’re constantly worrying about the state of your relationships, I’d urge you to learn more about how I discovered the power of the ‘Hero’s Instinct’

In the meantime, you can discover why your boyfriend wants you to call him ‘Daddy’ in the guide below. 

The Most Common Meanings of Daddy

Most people use the nickname “daddy” as a sexual term in a dominant and submissive relationship. This is probably where you have heard it most often. It’s often referred to as a kink.

“Daddy” implies that your boyfriend is the dominant person in the relationship. He may like being reminded of that and want you to call him it for that reason.

Aside from the sexual meaning of “daddy”, your boyfriend might want you to call him this because he provides for you and takes care of you. This meaning is less common, but it is still used sometimes.

This is the more innocent meaning of the nickname. Some guys might want you to use it to show them that you appreciate what they do for you.

There may be other meanings out there as well. These are just the known ones so they’re most likely to be what your boyfriend is talking about. As you probably know, some people come up with their own meanings of words or reasons they want you to use those words.

If your boyfriend wants you to call him “daddy”, you should check with him to see which of these definitions he means. He might have a completely different one in mind too.

You don’t want to call your boyfriend something that you don’t understand or that you aren’t okay with. Make sure you know which meaning your boyfriend is referring to. If you agree with it and are comfortable, go ahead and use it.

Why Your Boyfriend Might Want You to Call Him Daddy

If your boyfriend is referring to the sexual meaning of the term “daddy”, he likely wants to be in the dominant role. He wants to be in control or to be the boss.

Though this nickname is most commonly used for sexual purposes, your boyfriend might request that you use it when you’re not in the bedroom too.

He might like knowing that he has some sense of control in the relationship. This is important to some people. Others don’t care so much so he might have a different reason.

There are some couples who joke about the term “daddy” too. Some couples find the nickname to be weird or gross so they use it jokingly. Perhaps your boyfriend just wants to joke around.

Regardless of his reasoning behind him wanting you to call him “daddy”, you should find out. This will help ensure that you really know what you’re talking about.

Your boyfriend might have found some other definition of the term or thought of a good reason for you to use it. This explanation may be different than any of the other definitions you have seen on the internet. This is just another reason to make sure you understand it.

Calling Your Boyfriend Daddy


What you decide to call your boyfriend is totally up to you. If you feel comfortable using this term and you think you should use it, that’s your choice.

There’s no right or wrong answer here. Whether you start calling your boyfriend by this nickname depends on your own personal preferences.

He did ask you to call him “daddy” so you might feel some pressure to do so. What it really comes down to is your own personal comfort. You shouldn’t agree to do something you don’t feel comfortable with.

Don’t let him force you or guilt you into using this name for him. Figure out where you stand and then make your decision.

Some girls feel weird about using this term because of its meaning. You might feel the same way.

Other girls choose to call their boyfriend daddy all the time. Maybe you feel more like this.

What you choose to do really depends on your opinion of the nickname and how you feel about the whole idea. Just make sure you put some thought into it.

Fully Understanding the Nickname

One good idea is to ask your friends. Talk to them about it and see if they have a similar experience.

Perhaps your friend’s boyfriend has asked her to call him daddy too. Your friend can tell you about the meaning of the word and how they handled the situation too.

If you have guy friends, this is a good time to take some advice from them. They might know something else about the nickname or be able to guide you one way or another.

Another option is to look online. You should be able to find websites that will give you definitions for words like this. There are lots of websites that focus on providing the meanings of slang terms. One of these is Urban Dictionary.

Before you use the nickname, it’s a good idea to look into it fully to ensure that you aren’t confused about it. Do as much research as possible so that you don’t use “daddy” without knowing what it means.

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You wouldn’t want to call your boyfriend something that you don’t totally understand. This could end awkwardly—especially for you.

Plus, you should know the other meanings of the name in case anyone would mention it to you. It could be pretty uncomfortable if you don’t quite know how to respond to that question. This is partially due to some of the opinions about the nickname.

Using the Nickname Daddy

Where and how you end up using this nickname depends on what your boyfriend means by it.

For example, if your boyfriend wants you to use “daddy” in a sexual way, you should save this nickname for the bedroom. You can use it as you normally would in any bedroom situation.

If your boyfriend meant for you to use “daddy” in a more innocent way, you can use it like you would use any other nickname in regular conversation. Be aware that not everyone is comfortable with this nickname so it could be awkward in public.

It’s a good idea to ask your boyfriend when he specifically wants you to call him “daddy”. He may not have any specifics and that’s okay! If he does, that can help you to decide when to use it.

It might feel a little bit weird to use “daddy”, but you will get used to it after a few times. It might become one of the regular nicknames you use for your boyfriend.

Once you decide to use this nickname for your boyfriend, you can get more comfortable with it by using it often. Obviously, don’t overdo it, but give it a try so that it feels less awkward for you! Use it a few times to get used to it.

Using the Nickname Daddy in Public

Because not everyone understands what the nickname “daddy” means, you may want to save it for private places. It might be weird to use it in public. Some people might be confused and give you a look.

If people do know what it means, they might become uncomfortable when they hear you using this nickname in public. It is often used in the bedroom, which is something that isn’t often discussed in public.

Obviously, whatever you choose to do in public is up to you, so long as it’s legal. If you’re comfortable using “daddy” in public, go for it. It just comes down to you and your boyfriend’s comfort level. Plus, it might be more appropriate in certain situations instead of others.

Just know that some people might feel uncomfortable if they hear you using this nickname in public. That may not be a good enough reason not to do it and that’s okay! You and your boyfriend have the final say here and can make your decision based on how comfortable you are.

It’s not likely that anyone would come up to you and ask you about the nickname or ask you to stop. Of course, you never know what a stranger could say or do in this situation!

Be aware of your surroundings and be aware that not everyone is comfortable with this nickname.

Common Misconceptions About This Nickname


Some people see “daddy” as strictly sexual. Though this is the main definition of the nickname, it’s not always the case.

Of course, not everyone is aware that “daddy” isn’t only talking about sex. It can connect to the structure of the relationship too. You might call your boyfriend “daddy” because he makes most of the decisions or has a more dominant role in the dynamics of your relationship.

Your boyfriend might also be the provider for the two of you. Perhaps he works a full-time job and you don’t. In some relationships, a girlfriend might call her boyfriend “daddy” because of how he takes care of her.

It’s important to be aware of the misconceptions so that you can clear them up if necessary. Plus, this will help you to understand why your boyfriend may or may not want you to call him that.

There are likely other misconceptions out there about “daddy”. You should know that they exist so that you can be prepared in case anything comes up.

In most cases, the name “daddy” is reserved for the bedroom or more private situations so you won’t necessarily need to talk about it.

Calling Your Boyfriend Daddy Without Him Asking You to

“Daddy” is a somewhat confusing and complicated nickname. Not everyone understands what it means and when you should use it.

You might consider using the nickname even if your boyfriend hasn’t asked you to. It’s good to ask about this before going through with it. I can help you make your decision!

This decision is ultimately up to you. In most cases, I would recommend running it by your boyfriend first. You don’t want to upset him. Not everyone likes the term “daddy”.

If your boyfriend seems like someone who would take the nickname well, or if he’s mentioned it before, you can give it a try. Just be prepared in case he has something negative to say about it.

Some people are even grossed out by the term. You wouldn’t want to put your boyfriend in an uncomfortable position.

Even if you want to use “daddy” as a joke, you should still make sure your boyfriend is okay with it. You can explain that you simply want to use it in a joking manner and that you don’t really mean it.

Remember that if your boyfriend asks you not to call him “daddy”, you shouldn’t do it. You should find a different nickname to use that he is comfortable with instead. You need to respect his feelings.

Discomfort with Calling Your Boyfriend Daddy

Some girls simply aren’t comfortable calling their boyfriend “daddy”. They may not agree with the meaning or think that it applies to their relationship.

If you aren’t comfortable calling your boyfriend “daddy”, don’t agree to it. If you already agreed to call him that, it isn’t too late to change your mind.

Perhaps you started calling your boyfriend “daddy” and he became too powerful in the relationship. Maybe you learned more about the meaning of the nickname and don’t like using it anymore.

No matter what your reason is, you should let your boyfriend know. Simply explain that you don’t like the term or its meaning.

In most cases, guys should be pretty responsive to this. They should understand how you feel and they shouldn’t pressure you to keep calling them “daddy”.

How he responds might vary by the guy and his feelings. This shouldn’t end in a breakup, but, if he can’t seem to understand why you’re uncomfortable, it might have to. He needs to have respect for you and your feelings too.

If you’re in a relationship where you aren’t being treated correctly in any sense, you have every right to leave.

Using Daddy If You Want to Have Kids

Some girls might call their boyfriend “daddy” or “baby daddy” if they want to have kids with him.

These are two simple nicknames to use to hint to your boyfriend that you want to have a baby with him. You might use them once you already have kids too.

Now, you do need to be careful if you use these nicknames on your boyfriend. You don’t want to scare him and make him think that you’re pregnant. If you think that he would take the nicknames well, you can totally use them!

Just be aware of why your boyfriend might be nervous when he hears you calling him “baby daddy”.

If you have kids, there shouldn’t be any issues with using these nicknames. Note that they might have a less sexual connotation once you actually have kids. This depends on the guy and the relationship though!

Once you have kids, you will probably find yourself calling your boyfriend “daddy”, even if you don’t realize it. You will probably call him that on accident because your kids do. You will likely tell your kids things like “tell Daddy it’s time for dinner”. You will just get used to saying it.

Using “Daddy” in the Bedroom

Since the nickname “daddy” connects to your boyfriend being in a dominant position, you do need to be aware of how this nickname may be used in the bedroom.

It’s totally okay for your boyfriend to be dominant. In many relationships, the male takes the dominant role. If it’s different in your relationship, there’s nothing wrong with it.

If your boyfriend is in the dominant position, he will have more control. This is why he might like to be called “daddy” in these scenarios.

In most cases, this isn’t a problem. You do need to make sure you’re being careful and that he understands when to listen to your opinion. If you’re uncomfortable, he needs to know to stop.

For some guys, using “daddy” in the bedroom is really attractive. There’s no harm in this as long as you and your boyfriend are on the same page.


Why Does My Boyfriend Want Me To Call Him Daddy?

There’s a bunch of reasons he suddenly wants you to call him daddy, but for the most part of it, it’s a ‘dominance’ thing. It’s not necessarily a weird thing, as humans, there are truly very few things we have control over, so maybe let him have this one. It could also mean that he is quite protective of you, and in good measures, that’s not necessarily a bad thing.

How Do Guys Feel About Being Called Daddy?

That is totally relative; on one hand, some men are quite turned on when called daddy. As mentioned earlier, it makes them feel like they are in the driver’s seat. On the other end of the spectrum, some guys find it incredibly creepy. Some have even gone as far as to call it downright incestuous.

What Do You Call A Man Besides Daddy?

If you are looking for other things to call him besides ‘daddy’, then you are in luck. There is a truckload of cute names out there that you can call your man. You could call him a stud, call him Romeo, Hottie, Boo, Sugar, good looking, or you could go for the ever so popular ‘Baby’.

What Do You Call Your Boyfriend?

If you aren’t satisfied just calling him ‘Kevin’ or ‘Darnell’, don’t worry, there’s room to spice things up. If all the other names above don’t do it for you, there is still a whole lot to fall back on. Call him Bae, Cutie, Honey, Baby Daddy, My Love, Handsome or basically anything that rolls off the tongue.

What Does Daddy AF Mean?

Let’s start by saying, this is mostly used in kinky situations. But if you want to call your man this pet name at church, you both know what works for you. It’s more of an accolade than an actual pet name, to be frank. It’s basically a way to glorify a significant other or other men.


Did you like this article? If so, send it to a friend who might find it useful too! Leave us a comment down below if you have anything to say.

I put this topic together to make sure you understand the meaning of this popular nickname. Not everyone understands what it actually means and you should know before you use it. I don’t want you to incorrectly use a nickname because you feel like you have to.

It’s important to understand what you’re saying and what’s going on in your relationship. I’m here to help!

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