What’s it like when you find someone as weird as you?
I’ll tell you. It is exhilarating! You can be yourself; you can share the same interests without feeling embarrassed, and you can act like a complete idiot and not be afraid of your weirdness.
Finding someone weird like you is freeing. Finally, someone understands and laughs along at the same jokes.
But if you want to learn more about what happens when you find someone as weird as you, read on.
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Have you ever dated someone that told you to be quiet, or rolled their eyes at you when you were goofing out? It makes you feel small, silly, and childish. You feel bad about embarrassing your partner. As a result, your personality shrinks away, leaving a sanitized version following a set of rules in its place.
When you find someone weird like you, relationships grow deeper because people are in sync with each other. Your weirdness is a part of your identity. Why would someone want to erase that? You deserve a partner who revels and delights in your personality, not someone who shuts it down. Your self-esteem swells with confidence when you can express yourself without fear or boundaries.
There’s something deeply bonding when you find someone as weird as you. It is as if you’ve both tuned in to the same radio frequency. You instinctively get each other’s jokes or remarks. You feel passionate about the same things. You have the same weird and strange interests.
The same things excite and wow you. You may even have your own special language or jokes. In essence, you understand one another. That makes your connection especially powerful.
Imagine going through life with a disapproving partner. One that shakes their head at your antics? They don’t laugh at your jokes. One that makes excuses for your behavior? It gradually erodes your sense of self. You lose your unique sparkle; the quality that makes you who you are.
When you find someone just as weird as you are celebrated, not judged. Your partner delights in your weirdness. In a world where everyone is airbrushed and filtered to look the same, you stand out from the crowd. Your weird and wonderful nature sets you apart from other people, and that’s something to be celebrated.
There is nothing more powerful than trust in a relationship. A wonderful thing happens when you find someone as weird as you, and that is that there’s no need to hide your weirdness. This can only improve and deepen your bond. You can be open and honest because you don’t fear rejection.
Embracing your authentic self is liberating for the soul. You are not living a lie based on someone else’s set of ideals.
Humans are social animals, but we also thrive in groups. We like people who are like us, and we are suspicious of people who are different. Backed by research, evolutionary psychology shows that dividing people into ‘us and them’ was a matter of survival. Having more people in your group meant a better chance of survival.
In this day and age, if you are in a minority, such as same-sex couples or mixed-race couples, being in a group strengthens your bond. It is that ‘us against the world’ mentality. You are stronger as a couple because you share the same weird character traits.
When you find someone as weird as you, anything is possible. You can suggest something completely off the scale and they are happy to go with the flow. You don’t have to act prim and proper around them.
You can show your inner weirdo and if anything, it makes them fall deeper in love with you. They don’t laugh at your ideas or your interests because they know that they are just as weird as you are.
Imagine if your passion was quantum physics, cult sci-fi films, anime characters, or Barry Manilow. It doesn't matter what your weird nature is or what your ideas on life are. When you find someone that shares your weirdness it is like compost for the soul.
You are nourished, nurtured, and valued. These days, it is rare to find weird people because we are all so afraid of being judged, mocked, or even bullied. Some of us are strong enough to withstand these onslaughts to our identity, but not everyone. If you find someone that loves your weirdo nature keeps hold of them.
Let's talk about those in and out-groups for a second. Remember your first few days at a new school? Were you immediately accepted by your peers, or did it take a while to get into a group and make friends? Acceptance is one of those things we take for granted, but it is hugely important to our mental well-being.
No one ever wants to be an outsider, whether you are at school, at work, or at a social event. Acceptance means validation. Accepting someone into your group has important implications. It means we like you, we understand you, in other words, you’re one of us.
According to Greek legend, souls were neither male nor female, but both. These beings had four arms, four legs, and two heads. However, the Gods became angry with them and split them into two beings. Now each soul is destined to find its other half to become complete again.
So, when you find someone who is just as weird as you, it could be a sign you have found your soulmate. Even if you don’t believe in ancient legends, there are people that we just click with. And surrounding ourselves with more people like this can only be good for our wellbeing.
Weird questions are incongruous, random, or particularly personal. They tend to come from leftfield, surprise you or make you think. For example, what would you buy from the store in the event of a zombie apocalypse? If you could be reincarnated as anything, what would it be? How many times do you lie each day? Who is the one person you cannot live without? What do you do in private that you wouldn't want anyone to know about?
People don’t like answering very personal questions or ones that may put others off them when you first meet them. For instance, if I asked you if you picked your nose in private, you probably wouldn’t want me to know if you did. Other uncomfortable questions include admitting wrongdoing that may end in punishment, or you into trouble. Some people find that revealing their true feelings makes them uncomfortable.
Unique questions are ones you haven’t thought about before, and ones that make you think. Avoid questions that promote yes or no answers. For example; what’s the worst meal you’ve ever eaten? Could you live on a planet with no people? What skill should be taught in every school? What film makes you cry every time? If you could only listen to one song for the rest of your life, what would it be?
There’s a difference between being weird and just plain nervous. When you meet someone, take things slowly and don’t rush or pressure someone. Start by chatting about ordinary topics, but avoid controversial subjects, such as politics or religion. When you find someone you like, spend time with this person and ask open-ended questions that reveal their likes and dislikes. Above all, be yourself and allow the friendship to grow organically.
Guys like to problem-solve, so I would ask thought-provoking questions that need a solution. For example, if you were the president, what is the first law you’d pass? Do you believe capital punishment should be mandatory for certain crimes? In your opinion, what is the greatest invention and why? Are we here for a reason?
If you are weird, don’t change because someone doesn’t like your weirdness. Find someone who loves the bones of your weird nature. You are who you are. There’s no need to improve or dilute your core being. People should love you because of your weirdness. They should not insist on a sanitized version of what they want you to be. That’s not love, that is control.