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3 Absolute Signs Your Affair Partner Loves You

by Sonya Schwartz

If you are in a relationship with a person who is married, you may be looking for some signals that he or she loves you. Here, in this article, we list those indicators so that you can see whether it is likely that his or her feelings have developed into ones of love.

Before we explore signals that indicate an affair partner may have fallen in love, we discuss whether it is possible for affair partners to fall in love in the first place.

Can Affair Partners Fall In Love?

Some will argue that affair partners cannot fall in love outside of their marriage. The reason being is that many people who have been involved in affairs in one way or another will champion that the main reason for starting an affair is simply as a means to have sex outside of marriage. Affairs have long been about two people indulging in a sexual fantasy or simply having their sexual desires met outside of marriage. It is common for sex to stagnate within a marriage, and this can be why a spouse will go elsewhere to have those needs met with an affair partner.

However, it can also be the case that people in an affair can fall in love, whether they are affairs when both parties are married, or whether just one of the affair couple is a spouse or not. Love affairs tend to develop in two ways. Either, two people hold back from their feelings and stay faithful to their spouse for as long as possible. Or, they start being unfaithful to their spouse outside of their marriage to have their sexual needs met. It is from there that feelings of love can then develop

Signals That A Married Man Loves You 

If you are dating a married man, even if you thought you would never do that, and you have fallen for him over the course of your relationship, you could be looking out for signals or indicators that he loves you too. Here we list a handful of pointers that can indicate that he has fallen for you. 

1. He Talks About The Future

In general, men aren't always great about talking about the future or making plans with their girlfriends. However, if he has fallen for you, your boyfriend will definitely talk about things he wants to do with one another. These don’t have to be major things like moving in together, it can just be talking about going on holiday in a few months time. Whichever one it is, as long as he is talking about doing things with you in the future, other than where you are going to next hook up, then you can take this as a sign that he is serious about you

2. He Wants To Introduce You To His Kids

One of the key signals that your married man is falling for you is that he wants to introduce you to one or all of his children. This is a good sign as it means he sees life after his marriage. It can be quite intimidating meeting your married guy’s children, so make sure that you don’t get rushed into anything that you are not ready for. 

While you may be pleased that he loves you enough to introduce such an important part of his life, no one finds meeting a boyfriend’s children easy. You may want to ensure you do this in your own time. You can only meet his children for the first time once, so you will want to start this relationship off on the right foot.

3. Your Affair Has Lasted A Long Time

A key indication of knowing whether your affair partner loves you or not is that the affair has lasted a long time. Affairs that last more than a year will tend to be about more than sex and deeper feelings will be involved. It’s not always the case that your partner is in love with you if he has been with you a really long time - sadly sometimes it can just be a convenient way to get his kicks outside of his marriage without his spouse - but the likelihood is that he at least cares for you very deeply if the affair has lasted the test of time. 

When looking for signals about whether your affair partner loves you or not, make sure that you are not clutching at straws. This type of behavior can mean that you end up getting hurt - especially if you are hoping that your partner will leave his spouse and break up his marriage for you because he loves you. The reason being is that it may never happen and you end up getting hurt in the long run. 

FAQs

How Do You Know If An Affair Is Love?

An affair may be a love affair if you see any of the signals above that your boyfriend is displaying. It can vary from person to person, relationship to relationship, but usually if infidelities last a long time or he wants to introduce you to his children, his feelings will be deeper than just sex.

Can An Affair Be Love?

Whilst more unusual, an affair can develop into deeper feelings and love. It is often thought that infidelities start simply for sex and to improve a person’s sex life, but sometimes they can start because a person has very strong feelings for another person. 

How Long Does It Take To Get Over An Affair Partner?

If you have had an affair and that relationship has ended, you may want to know how long your affair recovery will be. As ever with any relationship, it will largely depend on you and how deeply you felt for the affair partner. 

How Do You Stop Having An Affair With Someone You Love?

You can stop being unfaithful with someone that you are in love with if you take some drastic measures. You may need to stop seeing them altogether and it may also be beneficial to own up to their affair with your husband or wife and go to see a marriage counselor about your issues. 

Is It True Once A Cheater Always A Cheater?

Phrases like this sometimes do have an element of truth in them, however, it is not always true that if you have been unfaithful once, you will be unfaithful again. Furthermore, it is not always the way that if your husband cheats once, he will cheat again. 

The Bottom Line

If you are an affair partner who is not married, you may want to know whether your married guy is in love with you or not. So often, a spouse is only ever unfaithful outside of marriage because they want to give in to sexual desire, but it is also common for people to fall in love. 

 

The fact of the matter is, no one relationship or affair is exactly the same, and people’s feelings will be different in every circumstance. It could be that your affair partner started seeing you because he was in love with you, or it could be that he just was so unhappy in his marriage that he is seeking solace elsewhere with you. In either case or any other situation, make sure that you are sensitive to your own needs so that you do not get strung along or hurt either. 

 

You may also be interested in: 3 Easy Ways to Find Out If He's Cheating On You

Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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