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How to Tell If A Man Is Cheating By His Balls (8 Obvious Signs)

Last updated on June 5, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Does your man suddenly change the way he treats you?

Do you feel like he’s ignoring you or not enjoying your company anymore?

Does he avoid physical or eye contact?

Or perhaps he doesn’t answer your texts or calls like he used to?

Let’s face it! We’ve all been there.

You suspect your man is cheating and try all tricks and strategies to figure out if he really is up to something or if it’s only your imagination.

Now, let me tell you something.

There are a couple of ways to determine whether he's cheating by his balls which I'll get into later.

However, there is an easier way to find out what he’s been up to lately which you should try first.

I always recommend using a background checker for this (click on the link to link to go to their website).

All you have to do is enter his details, and the tool will reveal a lot of interesting details.

You can check if he’s been using any online dating sites lately and who are his (girl)friends on social media. You can even see who he has potentially communicated with on Facebook or other socials.

Just enter his name and location into the background checker to rule it out.

If all seems alright, but you still feel like he’s cheating on you, here are a few tangible ways which could tell if your man is cheating or not by looking at his balls and body.

Looking at a Man's Balls to See If He's Been Cheating

The majority of the ways in which you can tell a man is cheating will be reflected in his behavior. 

However, there are physical things to look out for, and if you suspect it – you can even take measures to check on his body. This article is here to tell you a little bit of information about things you might be able to pick up on, physically if you suspect your man has been cheating.

Let's get straight down to it then. You suspect your man is cheating. What do you do now?

Let's face it. We all have been there at some point in our lives. We suspect the person we love is cheating on us, but we're not sure if our suspicions are right, so we creep around trying to figure out more!

Well, I am here to help and tell you some tangible ways in which you can tell if your man is cheating or not.

What Do Man's Balls Have To Do With Cheating?

Firstly, it is interesting to note that a man's testicles, before they are even used for any sexual interaction, can tell us a lot about his faithfulness. Studies have been conducted by scientists at the University of Oslo, where they found that men who have larger testicles make for less faithful partners. They looked to the animal kingdom and found that males with more sexual partners, or those who need to try and produce lots of offspring, have much larger testicles than those who only mate with one partner for life. 

The research conducted that although not entirely accurate concerning humans (purely because little research has been done physically with men), the same can be said. So, ladies, in the first place, if you want a faithful man, you might want to try and hedge your bets with a man who has smaller testicles! Of course, please be aware that no matter what the size of a man's balls, anyone can have their heads turned and be unfaithful, so try not to take that as Bible, no matter how scientifically correct it may be.

You Need To Act Fast

You need to check within the first hour or two of suspecting he has slept with someone else.

You are very unlikely to find any evidence that your man has slept with someone else if you leave it much longer than an hour after you think the sex happened. But if you manage to see your man and you believe his devious acts were performed only a short while ago, here is a list of things you can do which might be able to tell you if he's been cheating.

You are going to have to swallow your pride and get down and dirty with him, though, to be able to do these things. The very thought might repulse you after you suspect he's just been doing the dirty with another woman. But it's necessary if these are the steps you want to take to see if he's been cheating. I will discuss other non-physical ways in which you can tell if he's been cheating later, at the end of the article.

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So, without further ado, let's begin!

1. Check his balls.

While you're engaging in foreplay, cusp your hands around his balls and give them a fondle. He won't even realize what you're doing and will most likely just lay back and enjoy it. But, if they are feeling a little more deflated than usual, this is not a good sign. They could look empty, and this could be because he has already released 'his load'.

2. Can he get hard?

If he has typically no problem becoming erect, but for some reason, it just isn't working, this is a significant indicator that he's already had sex. It can sometimes take as long as two hours for the penis to become hard again.

3. If he can get hard, look at how long he is lasting.

When you are having sex, see how long he lasts for. Depending on how long you have been with him, you should know the rough amount of time he lasts before ejaculation. However, if he has just slept with someone, he might take a much longer time to finish. Firstly, because he's probably exhausted from getting at it with someone else, but also because his balls won't have enough left in them for all his little swimmers to come out quickly!

If he can get hard, look at how long he is lasting.

4. Taste him.

This is one of the best ways to tell if someone else has been on him. Sorry ladies it's about to get a little more graphic…

If when you are going down on him, you can lick and smell his penis. This taste/smell could be a sure sign for a few things. Firstly, if he has used a condom, you will be able to tell, due to the distinctive lube and latex taste. Secondly, if he hasn't been using a condom, you will be able to tell the difference if he has had sex with someone else – there may be different kinds of body fluids on there.

5. Does he have any marks on him? 

Another physical sign that someone else has been all over your man is if he has peculiar marks or scratches on him, that seem to have appeared from no-where. If you enquire about them and he acts shady or standoff-ish, you can be sure to know that some other woman has been touching your man.

Another thing you might find on him could be pubic hair from the other woman. If there is a stray pubic hair nestled in with his – this is a big sign.

6. Does he smell like another woman?

This is one of the oldest tell-tale signs of an affair, in the book. If when your man gets home from 'spending an evening with his boys' and you can smell a strange feminine scent on him, it is probably time to start asking some questions.

Does he smell like another woman?

7. However, he might have showered all the evidence off…

Unless he's very careless, or you catch him before he's had time to shop in the shower, you will probably not be able to find anything on him. Cheaters are very sneaky people, and this means that they will tend to cover their tracks well. So, if you notice that for some reason, every time that he has been coming home recently, he's jumping straight in the shower – flag this behavior.

8. Other behavioral ways you can tell if he is cheating…        

If you notice your man is staying much later at work frequently, or he's spending a significant amount of time not at home, this could be a sign that he is having an affair. If he is overly protective of his phone or has magically taken a great interest in doing his washing, these are all indicators that he is sneaking around behind your back.

Continuous patterns will produce the most transparent and most true conclusions. Please do not get suspicious of your man if he decides to go out for a drink with his friends or comes home late from work once or twice. You will most likely know in your gut if you feel something is wrong and if he is unfaithful to you.

After you have come to a conclusion he is cheating, what should you do?

Finding out that your man is cheating on you is an awful realization. If you have concluded that he is cheating on you, it is super important that you are very sure about your suspicions. Speak about your doubts with some you trust and can confide in.

Then, once you're sure, it is time for you to confront him. Be completely honest with him and say exactly what you think. However, I would suggest missing out the parts that you have been secretly smelling him and tracking how he's been acting – this could come off super odd.

After he has admitted to cheating, it is obviously up to you how to move forward. Trust is one of the most prominent players within a relationship, and now he has broken that trust for you, it might be hard to move forward together.

Communication is critical, not only to solve the problem but to stop it from happening in the first place. 

I will say it over and over again, but communication between two people in a relationship is vital to ensure there is success. If people communicate clearly and feel open with each other, then hopefully the action of cheating will never occur. Communication is also crucial when discussing or resolving problems. Make sure all communication is done in a safe space for both people.


I hope with the use of these tips you can understand if your man is cheating on you or not. Even though it is awful, how amazing are our bodies to be able to show us when sexual activity has taken place? Use the knowledge you have soaked up from this article to your advantage and find out if he is as unfaithful as you think.

Did this article help you at all? If it did and you liked what you read, please let us know in the comments.

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

14 comments on “How to Tell If A Man Is Cheating By His Balls (8 Obvious Signs)”

  1. This is all really self-destructive. You shouldn't arrive to this point of forcing yourself into intercourse with your partner trying to weight his balls and sniffing around like a dog. You won't be a better person than the eventual cheater and definitely more miserable

    1. Lol this is just an article on the internet, it's up to the person reading it to listen to it or not. If you don't like it don't do it, that simple. What's self destructive is listening to everything you hear/read.

  2. Yes he's testicles are deflated and he does stay away at times I'm sure he's cheating but he keeps lieing about it but I knew this before I Google it thank for the proof

  3. Hi in my case my husband walked out on me 5 years ago when he left he'd come over almost every day or when he felt honey. Then about yr ago it changed he stop having it as much with me then one day about 5 months ago he told me he was not sexually attracted to me the time with in these few months his penis isn't completely hard . then 2 months ago for a month he'd wake up @ 4 an have sex with me then it would be hard an he'd have a lot of cum . not its been another two months no sex at all he just touches my butt or grab me around the waist I always asked if he was cheating on me or ever an he says no never he claims he masterbates to porn more than any man in this world but some one has seen him buy condemns he denies it but I know its true. He says he really masterbates an his tireof pleasing women. I just seen his testicles while he was sleep 3 days ago they are full any help?

    1. First off I just wanted say I’m so sorry you have go through that hun look way I see it is your man should always be attracted to you. He married you for reason ♥️ and I’d ask him why he feels need watch porn when he clearly has you right there 🤷‍♀️ I find what he’s doing disrespectful and maybe it’s lack communication on his part is there something he’s not getting in bedroom ? Or is his excuse for not wanting doing anything with you is bc porn but he’s really cheating 🤷‍♀️ I don’t want assume but no man your married to, took vows to, should be sitting there saying he ain’t sexually attracted to you . I would sit him down lay down some stuff on table like stop bullshitting with me like him being half hard or not wanting do things as much is probably bc he’s doing it with somebody else and when he gets home he’s to tired to with you something is fishy especially if somebody seen him buy condoms ? Tell him your sex life is boring he stopped doing what he used to do make him give you explanation 🤷‍♀️ If he fails give you reasons back up claims you deserve better you deserve man finds you attractive no matter what . You need sit his ass down tell him your feelings how you feel in bedroom how things have changed. Life’s to short be miserable. Best luck.

  4. So apparently now, if your man suffers from ED and has naturally small balls, he's cheating?

    What if he masturbated before coming over because he wanted to last longer for you?

    If the OP knew literally ANYTHING about male anatomy, they would know that semen is manufactured RIGHT BEFORE ejaculation. There is no "Empty" feeling.

    Also, testicles (balls) manufacture testosterone. Men with higher testosterone have naturally higher libidos.

    How about this instead, have constant wild sex with your man, worship him in the bedroom and you will literally have ZERO competition. Case in point, I have women proposition me all the time but my girl is a total explosion in the sack. Even if I wanted to cheat on her, I ain't finding someone better in bed than her.

    1. So basically your saying your girl is only good in your eyes based on the sex and that the sex determines the loyalty of your relationship,,,nice!👍

  5. Ok, this is just irresponsible.

    If you suspect someone is cheating the last thing you should be tasting is their equipment.

    No way to know if the sex was safe, if the condom broke, etc.

    This is just asking to eat a disease.

    F that. If you suspect your man is cheating, spy or hire a PI.

    If he knows you're paranoid due to nearly 1/3 of men cheating(last time I checked, that number has been going down though) he should understand.

    & if not, dump him bc no D is worth dying over from some jerks STDs and selfishness.

    Further, the testicles don't deflate. That's patently ridiculous.

    & even if they did, porn would be an equally probable cause.

    I've heard stories of security guards finding guys jerkin it in a parking lot.

    Not sure why he would, but that's possible too. Some guys even use condoms to avoid the mess.

    Regardless, if you think your man is CHEATING, don't reward him to find out. That just puts you in danger for no reason.

    Back off, say why or don't, and when your suspicions are confirmed or he's vindicated move on from it. Either you break up or look into counseling because the trust is gone if he cheated.

    & if he didn't he may feel rightfully insulted by your actions, counseling could help there too.

    Just don't put a dirty D in your mouth or other areas where it could spread disease. He isn't worth gonorrhea.

  6. My boyfriend n I been dating for 4 years n lives together for 6 months landlord wasn’t paying taxes n the bank’s foreclosed on the house n we had to move to separate houses n since that happened he has accused me of seeing my x behind his back n that wasn’t even true just something he built in his head bc my x has friends n family that live by my moms house uugghhh n since we went to separate homes not only did he accuse me I can’t ever go to his place n he never wants to stay at mine and some times he would b fast n other times he would b long so I started to check his balls n I noticed the times he lasted long his balls was soft n when he was fast his balls was hard he goes about 30mins normally and we both would b done around the same time but for the last year it’s always been him he can’t ever stay the night at my house n I can’t ever stay at his house if we do make plans for him to stay at my house something always happens to where he can’t stay n he wants to get hotel rooms a lot lately n not all night just a few hours most times it’s a hit it quit it n every time I express myself he will get upset over it and I’m the 1 who calls or text he never texts or calls me 1st when b4 the separate home thing he would text me n call me every day I’m gonna move to Missouri n he don’t want me to go n I tell him to give me a reason to stay he will just look at me n say I’m not gonna tell u to stay for me n that just says hurry up n go I don’t know what to think I just know that he is my whole world n he’s taken my love for granted while my x will text me n call me every day just to see how I’m doing n say how much he misses me n that I’m his mi amor my boyfriend was friends 4years b4 we started this whole dating thing I have drove by his house n seen his kids mother’s car in his drive way n his 2 cars too n he said he’s doing over time I’m pretty much just waiting for him to say she’s pregnant when we first became friends I wouldn’t do anything with him bc he was married he said that they don’t stay in the same room that he lives downstairs then he told me that his wife was pregnant n I think he’s still messing with her n staying at his house gots to b a reason I can’t go to his house I tried to go there n surprise him on Christmas in a cute mrs.clause sex outfit n a see threw robe n he pretty much pushed me out of the door way n told me to go home he will b over tomorrow but every time we have sex I find myself just laying there not even enjoying it bc I know what’s coming next n then we won’t see each other for a week or longer so I know now when the balls r soft I’m just gonna end it all n sry for the long comment sometimes when I write I don’t notice the length til after the fact

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