Does your man suddenly change the way he treats you?
Do you feel like he’s ignoring you or not enjoying your company anymore?
Does he avoid physical or eye contact?
Or perhaps he doesn’t answer your texts or calls like he used to?
Let’s face it! We’ve all been there.
You suspect your man is cheating and try all tricks and strategies to figure out if he really is up to something or if it’s only your imagination.
Now, let me tell you something.
There are a couple of ways to determine whether he's cheating by his balls which I'll get into later.
However, there is an easier way to find out what he’s been up to lately which you should try first.
I always recommend using a background checker for this (click on the link to link to go to their website).
All you have to do is enter his details, and the tool will reveal a lot of interesting details.
You can check if he’s been using any online dating sites lately and who are his (girl)friends on social media. You can even see who he has potentially communicated with on Facebook or other socials.
Just enter his name and location into the background checker to rule it out.
If all seems alright, but you still feel like he’s cheating on you, here are a few tangible ways which could tell if your man is cheating or not by looking at his balls and body.
The majority of the ways in which you can tell a man is cheating will be reflected in his behavior.
However, there are physical things to look out for, and if you suspect it – you can even take measures to check on his body. This article is here to tell you a little bit of information about things you might be able to pick up on, physically if you suspect your man has been cheating.
Let's get straight down to it then. You suspect your man is cheating. What do you do now?
Let's face it. We all have been there at some point in our lives. We suspect the person we love is cheating on us, but we're not sure if our suspicions are right, so we creep around trying to figure out more!
Well, I am here to help and tell you some tangible ways in which you can tell if your man is cheating or not.
Firstly, it is interesting to note that a man's testicles, before they are even used for any sexual interaction, can tell us a lot about his faithfulness. Studies have been conducted by scientists at the University of Oslo, where they found that men who have larger testicles make for less faithful partners. They looked to the animal kingdom and found that males with more sexual partners, or those who need to try and produce lots of offspring, have much larger testicles than those who only mate with one partner for life.
The research conducted that although not entirely accurate concerning humans (purely because little research has been done physically with men), the same can be said. So, ladies, in the first place, if you want a faithful man, you might want to try and hedge your bets with a man who has smaller testicles! Of course, please be aware that no matter what the size of a man's balls, anyone can have their heads turned and be unfaithful, so try not to take that as Bible, no matter how scientifically correct it may be.
You need to check within the first hour or two of suspecting he has slept with someone else.
You are very unlikely to find any evidence that your man has slept with someone else if you leave it much longer than an hour after you think the sex happened. But if you manage to see your man and you believe his devious acts were performed only a short while ago, here is a list of things you can do which might be able to tell you if he's been cheating.
You are going to have to swallow your pride and get down and dirty with him, though, to be able to do these things. The very thought might repulse you after you suspect he's just been doing the dirty with another woman. But it's necessary if these are the steps you want to take to see if he's been cheating. I will discuss other non-physical ways in which you can tell if he's been cheating later, at the end of the article.
You may also be interested in: 3 Easy Ways to Find Out If He's Cheating On You
So, without further ado, let's begin!
While you're engaging in foreplay, cusp your hands around his balls and give them a fondle. He won't even realize what you're doing and will most likely just lay back and enjoy it. But, if they are feeling a little more deflated than usual, this is not a good sign. They could look empty, and this could be because he has already released 'his load'.
If he has typically no problem becoming erect, but for some reason, it just isn't working, this is a significant indicator that he's already had sex. It can sometimes take as long as two hours for the penis to become hard again.
When you are having sex, see how long he lasts for. Depending on how long you have been with him, you should know the rough amount of time he lasts before ejaculation. However, if he has just slept with someone, he might take a much longer time to finish. Firstly, because he's probably exhausted from getting at it with someone else, but also because his balls won't have enough left in them for all his little swimmers to come out quickly!
This is one of the best ways to tell if someone else has been on him. Sorry ladies it's about to get a little more graphic…
If when you are going down on him, you can lick and smell his penis. This taste/smell could be a sure sign for a few things. Firstly, if he has used a condom, you will be able to tell, due to the distinctive lube and latex taste. Secondly, if he hasn't been using a condom, you will be able to tell the difference if he has had sex with someone else – there may be different kinds of body fluids on there.
Another physical sign that someone else has been all over your man is if he has peculiar marks or scratches on him, that seem to have appeared from no-where. If you enquire about them and he acts shady or standoff-ish, you can be sure to know that some other woman has been touching your man.
Another thing you might find on him could be pubic hair from the other woman. If there is a stray pubic hair nestled in with his – this is a big sign.
This is one of the oldest tell-tale signs of an affair, in the book. If when your man gets home from 'spending an evening with his boys' and you can smell a strange feminine scent on him, it is probably time to start asking some questions.
Unless he's very careless, or you catch him before he's had time to shop in the shower, you will probably not be able to find anything on him. Cheaters are very sneaky people, and this means that they will tend to cover their tracks well. So, if you notice that for some reason, every time that he has been coming home recently, he's jumping straight in the shower – flag this behavior.
If you notice your man is staying much later at work frequently, or he's spending a significant amount of time not at home, this could be a sign that he is having an affair. If he is overly protective of his phone or has magically taken a great interest in doing his washing, these are all indicators that he is sneaking around behind your back.
Continuous patterns will produce the most transparent and most true conclusions. Please do not get suspicious of your man if he decides to go out for a drink with his friends or comes home late from work once or twice. You will most likely know in your gut if you feel something is wrong and if he is unfaithful to you.
Finding out that your man is cheating on you is an awful realization. If you have concluded that he is cheating on you, it is super important that you are very sure about your suspicions. Speak about your doubts with some you trust and can confide in.
Then, once you're sure, it is time for you to confront him. Be completely honest with him and say exactly what you think. However, I would suggest missing out the parts that you have been secretly smelling him and tracking how he's been acting – this could come off super odd.
After he has admitted to cheating, it is obviously up to you how to move forward. Trust is one of the most prominent players within a relationship, and now he has broken that trust for you, it might be hard to move forward together.
I will say it over and over again, but communication between two people in a relationship is vital to ensure there is success. If people communicate clearly and feel open with each other, then hopefully the action of cheating will never occur. Communication is also crucial when discussing or resolving problems. Make sure all communication is done in a safe space for both people.
I hope with the use of these tips you can understand if your man is cheating on you or not. Even though it is awful, how amazing are our bodies to be able to show us when sexual activity has taken place? Use the knowledge you have soaked up from this article to your advantage and find out if he is as unfaithful as you think.
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