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10 Things That Happen When An Aries Man Is Hurt

Last updated on June 4, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Are you wondering whether you’ve hurt your Aries partner?

Perhaps he’s insisting that he’s fine, but you’re not sure whether that’s the case? 

Maybe this lack of communication is causing wider problems in your relationship?   

If so, you’re in the right place. This guide explains 10 signs that you’ve hurt your Aries partner - and a couple of suggestions to resolve it.  

However, before we dive into this list, it’s important that you read the next few sentences carefully.

For the majority of my twenties, I found myself in so many conflict-ridden relationships.

This was made worse by the fact that I didn’t know how to effectively resolve conflicts. 

In fact, I wasn’t very good at making men feel special at all. So, they’d rarely make me feel special either. 

It wasn’t a great time!

Thankfully, I managed to turn things around. Everything changed for me when I learned about a little-known aspect of male psychology called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.  

This primal instinct has a huge impact on how men perceive their romantic partners. It’s a deeply-held psychological trigger that makes them feel powerful and purposeful. Naturally, they begin to feel incredibly affectionate to women who make them feel this way.

When I learned how to activate the ‘Hero’s Instinct’, it became a lot easier to find loving and fulfilling relationships (read my personal story to learn more).         

This is a simple concept to learn. Yet, so few people seem to know about it.

If you’re hoping for happier relationships in the future, I’d invite you to learn how I discovered the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.    

In the meantime, here’s our guide on how to handle conflict with your Aries.

Well, worry not, as if you’re looking to keep your Aries man happy, our in-depth guide will not only help you spot any signs but will also help you keep your man obsessed with you. We can even help you win your man back if worst does happen!

What Happens When an Aries Man is Hurt?

1. He Withdraws into Himself

An Aries man doesn’t like to have others seeing his emotions, which means if he is hurt, it’s likely that your partner will withdraw into himself and become quite secretive. This coping mechanism helps keep that fiery temper that we associate with the Aries star sign under the surface. However, this can be problematic, especially if you don’t realize the person in question is hurt.

So, rather than believing your man when he says he’s okay, be more insightful and understand something deeper is going on. Just keep in mind, going up to an Aries and telling him he’s hurt or upset is far from a good idea.

That’s because, when it comes to Aries men, they want to be seen as strong characters who aren’t ruled by their emotions.

2. He’s Being Cold with You

The number one coping mechanism for an Aries man is to retreat and deal with his emotions alone. For you, this means that you’re likely to notice that your man is being cold with you, perhaps less loving or not engaging in conversation as he might normally.

If you notice this kind of behavior, try not to poke at your man too much asking why he’s being cold. That’s because, with Aries men, hurt and anger come hand-in-hand, meaning he’s less likely to take you as being caring and more likely to think of you as being critical. Which will only end in a fight. In this situation, your Aries man wants to be be left alone.

3. Your Man is Being Angry and Irrational

Is he snapping? Appearing to be extremely angry over the littlest of things? Well then, you might be surprised to know that your Aries love might actually be trying to hide his hurt or sadness. Indeed, as successful as your man might be at hiding his sadness, anger is something that they will always wear on their sleeve.

Which means, anger or grumpiness might be the first sign you notice when your relationship isn’t going as well as you might have hoped.

4. He’s Avoiding Eye Contact

Just like they wear their anger in their sleeve, when you know your Aries man well, just looking into his eyes will tell you everything you need to know about how he is feeling. That’s because an Aries man holds all his emotions in his eyes.

Is it like pulling teeth getting him to spend time with you?
The key to solving is understanding men on a much deeper emotional level. The number #1 factor that causes men to behave this way is actually relatively easy to change with a few subtle things you can say to him.

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So, if your partner starts to avoid eye contact, it may be because he wants to hide the fact that he’s feeling sad.

How to Know if an Aries Man is Done with You?How to Know if an Aries Man is Done with You?

Once you’ve noticed that your Aries man is hiding the fact he is going through some emotional issues, it’s only natural to think there is something wrong with your relationship – or worse that there might be someone else.

Well, before you worry yourself too much, there are some simple ways for you to know if your Aries man is unhappy in your relationship. If he’s not showing one of these key signs then it’s more likely that he’s just going through some personal issues and just needs time to heal.

Here are a few signs that should have you concerned:

1. He’s Not Contacting You as Much

When you don’t receive a text or message from your Aries man, it can be easy to just presume that the worst is about to happen. However, before you jump to conclusions, it’s time to take a step back and actually take a look at what’s going on.

The thing is, just because he’s not contacting you quite as much as normal, it doesn’t mean he’s no longer an Aries man in love. Indeed, he may just be busy at work, with little spare time to contact you. Or, he may be stressed with other issues in his life and he’s just taking a step back to evaluate his feelings.

If your Aries man was truly ready to ditch your relationship, he would simply stop contacting you at all. So, the fact he is contacting you – albeit on a sporadic basis – is a very good sign. Never choose to bombard your man with messages, though, asking why he’s being different. As you may make him reevaluate your partnership based on your actions.

2. He’ll Tell You Outright

Unlike other star signs, Aries men are not ones for messing you around. Which means, if you have seen some signs that your man isn’t quite right, then he won’t take long in letting you know. Worse still, an Aries man who is upset is one who is far more likely to be insulting and even hurtful.

How to Get Back an Aries ManHow to Get Back an Aries Man

So, he’s told you that your relationship is over, the problem is, for many women Aries men are too addictive to give up. Which means, you might be looking for the best way to get your man back into your life. Well here are just some of the ways you can that special someone back into a relationship:

1. Improve Yourself

As much as we’ve all heard the “it’s not you, it’s me” break-up line, when it comes to Aries men, they are far more likely to give it to you straight, telling you exactly what you did wrong in your time together. Now as harsh as this can feel, this honesty can actually give you a lot of pointers on the way you improve yourself to attract him back.

So, rather than spending your time moping, get yourself off the sofa and start living your independent life to the fullest. You might want to work on your career, your social life or your appearance – even all three. Whatever you do, make sure you show him you’re living your best life on social media.

You might just find that he’s starting to comment on your photos again or using your email address to accidently book nights out – when you go to contact him, you’ll soon find him inviting you along with him!

2. Give Him Time

The worst thing you can do when you want to get the attention of an Aries man, is to hound him with messages just after your relationship has ended. That’s because, your man still has all those reasons for breaking-up at the forefront of his mind, making it far from the best time.

Instead, the best way to get your man back is by giving him time. So, wait a few weeks, maybe even chat to someone new in the meantime. When you do send a message over, you’ll be far more likely to get a reply asking how you’re getting on – maybe even inviting you out for a drink.

How to Make Your Aries Man Obsessed with YouHow to Make Your Aries Man Obsessed with You

If you are worried that your Aries man doesn’t like you as much as you like him, not to worry, as here are a few simple ways to make yourself the best woman in his life.

1. Be Unavailable

An Aries man is a hunter, which means, if you’d like to start a relationship with him, you’re going to need to inspire him to chase you. So, rather than answering him straight away, take your time to text, arrange for other nights out when he’s liked to meet and never show how much you like him. You may be surprised at how easy he is to hook!

2. Give Him the Date of Your Life

When you do finally agree to that date, you’ll need to find a way to make it unforgettable – that way, your Aries man will never want to let you go. So, take your time choosing something to wear that will blow him away as soon as he sees you.

Even better, learn lots about him before you go, that way you can study his hobbies and interests. Then, on the night, you can casually show off how knowledgeable you are, dazzling him with his personality.

Aries men might seem like a lot of work, especially when they can hide their emotions and act so harshly. However, these men are also incredibly passionate and exceptionally rewarding to be with. So, if you can look out for the signs of your man being in emotional turmoil, it is well worth taking steps to protect your relationship.

Do you feel like all you think about is him, but he only thinks about himself?
This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. You have to understand how he is wired. Once you do, you'll find there is a subtle thing you can say that to him that will drastically change how he shows his emotions towards you.

Take this quick quiz that looks at whether he actually likes you or not!

Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

12 comments on “10 Things That Happen When An Aries Man Is Hurt”

  1. Wow this is helpful.Am a Leo and dating an Aries I love too much attention yet he doo give it to me that much how can I get him to pay attention to me as I like it

    1. I'm an aries man Joan. If you think we're childish, then you have no appreciation for your own inner child. You show contempt and arrogance in your words. Get over yourself (from a dumb ass aries).

  2. ..had a "no label" long distance relationship with an Aries,, I'm Libra.. we're good at first two months,, but the the next 8 was bad.. he's very childish,, when he wants something he wants it now.. he doesn't know the word "wait",, until he told me she met someone.. my world crashed,, I was devastated and cried for weeks.. I decided to move on,, but he's like holding onto me when I say goodbye.. until I get tired,, i told him to end everything.. we ended,, after 10days he said he misses me and regrets.. i felt bad for him because I already moved on and he knows I really did...

  3. The first one "be inavailable" I don't recommmend doing too much. Sure, we like a little chase. But if you are too "unvailable" we'll asume you are not interested in us too. And will get tired of that game. Of we really like you, we can have (some) patience. But admittedly patience is not our strong suit. We really like clear communication. And knowning where we stand woth you! So I'd say mix the "unavailable" with communication. Get asked out..Maybe say you can't the day/week that was asked about. But say you'd like to (insert date) when you are free.

    1. Couldn’t have said it any better. Just let us freaking know. I m sick and tired of these games some women play, and assume most of our personality is based on the zodiac. I m not one to chase, I like to communicate plans. I like to take things slow, so whomever I m interested in I would ask them to dinner. Don’t do that play “hard to get” shit with me, let’s act like normal adults.

      -From a human born during month of Aries

  4. I loved a Aries man. But I couldn’t guess what he was thinking of our relation. We’re not young couples. I did everything for him. At the end I couldn’t take it. A lot of accumulation at the end I did removed him from my phone and all my social media. It hearts I won’t lie and I don’t really know how he feels after my reaction. I know I’m still in love with him but it will take time to heal my pain.

    1. Im in the same boat as you. I too am in love with an Aries man but he was too hurt to see that he was hurting me back. They love communication and thats what we had, the best communication I have ever had with any past partners of mine, but in the end it was the battle inside him that I was stuck in. His temper heightened when I got emotional and hurt from his actions. When it was good it was great! He was lovable, charismatic and charming, easy to fall in love with. We will heal eventually.

  5. I dated an aries man, and i'm a leo .The relationship has been great ,i have been showered with lots of love , but if we have an argument were always breaking up and getting back together . So recently he broke up with me when i needed him the most ,so I began speaking to someone ,we had no physical contact or anything .Then my bf friend began to say he liked me ,but I didnt believe him , so I just went with the flow to see what was really happening . Then my bf texted me to say I was a test to see if I was loyal , now the talk going around is that I tried to go with his friend

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