Men are confusing, especially when it comes to their emotions. They don’t wear their feelings on their sleeves, at least not the way women do.
More so, men tend to have their emotions under their control. So, even when they get nervous or uncomfortable, it’s hard to tell. That’s probably why you clicked on this article; when a man is nervous around a woman, how can you tell?
What are the things men do when they are with women, that could actually show they are a tad bit uneasy? I’ll answer some of those questions in this article, as we explore the things men do that give away their nervousness around women.
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Now, your friends may have complimented your sense of humor in the past, but a man who laughs at all the things you say may be fighting his nerves.
When men get nervous, they look for things to neutralize the odd feelings surging through their bodies. You’ll agree with me that laughing often helps when you get nervous. Yes, it might be an awkward laugh but it helps to let off some steam.
When a man is nervous around a woman, it could be a sign he really likes you. Men get nervous around women they have feelings for, some of them just know how to hide it. One of the ways to tell that he feels a bit uneasy is by how much he compliments you.
When a guy likes a girl, he’ll want to do anything to make her smile or get her to be more comfortable with him.
Furthermore, one study shows that compliments feel just as good as receiving money. So when a man compliments a woman a lot, he just wants her to feel good and enjoy his presence.
While it can be annoying when you have a chatty guy around you who does not understand the word silence, it is also a clear sign that he’s uneasy or anxious.
A guy who isn’t comfortable around you will be unusually chatty. He may even say odd things just because he’s trying to get you to focus on him.
This article won’t just focus on how men get nervous when they either love or have a crush on a girl. That’s because men can be fidgety when they are guilty or afraid that you will find out something. The constant rocking, tapping of the feet, or the rambling could mean they are trying to suppress their feelings.
Have you ever been around some random person, and at a point, your bodies touch? If it is someone you have no interest in, you will quickly withdraw. However, if it’s someone you love, you will welcome their touch.
The same thing goes for a man who’s anxious around you. He will welcome any form of physical touch from you. That’s because your touch calms him down and makes him feel like his presence is welcome.
When a man is around a girl he likes, he may talk more than usual. Yes, it’s a bit strange, but think about it; most times, people fall in love with the idea of someone before falling in love with the person. So maybe that’s the reason why some guys keep going on about themselves, hoping something about them will intrigue you.
Male or female, we all have the same primal instincts to fight or flight when in a stressful situation. We sweat because our brains do not know the difference between when you are in danger and when you have to approach a crush.
So, when a man is uneasy or anxious, he is under a lot of stress, and you will notice him sweat even though it’s cold outside. It may not be that obvious, but if you look well, you’ll see him regularly wiping his hands in a handkerchief or trying to hide the ball of sweat forming a map around his armpit area.
I would consider a guy’s attempts to make silly jokes as proof that he is nervous around a woman. You will notice that he makes small jokes about the environment and practically anything… including you.
It does not mean he is trying to make fun of you; he is only trying to get comfortable with being around you. In fact, his jokes may be more beneficial to him than they are to you.
If you want to know how men act when they are uneasy, pay attention to their tone. If the man is shy, you will notice a certain softness in his voice and tone. Some guys even mumble more than they talk, which may be difficult to understand.
Around his friends, he’s probably more eloquent, but with a girl he (secretly) loves, it may be harder to make conversation.
Have you ever caught someone staring at you when you’re not looking?
And when you try to make eye contact with him, he looks away immediately. That’s a clear sign that he is nervous. His inability to hold eye contact is a sign that he is shy and a bit uneasy just being near you. He probably looks away because he does not want you to notice how nervous you make him feel.
One thing many women do not know is that shy guys are great listeners. When they are not talking, they are happy to hear you speak about yourself or whatever it is that you find interesting.
So if this dude listens to you attentively and does not attempt to interrupt what you're saying or steer the conversation in a different direction, he may be nervous.
He does not want to ruin his chances with you, so he’ll rather let you speak while he listens and makes mental notes. Trust me when I say that he will not forget what you have said anytime soon.
When guys are nervous, they are not comfortable sitting in silence. That’s because silence gives them the impression that you do not enjoy their presence. So in a bid to fill in the silence, you will notice that he asks you a lot of questions about yourself, your work, and your family.
Even if you are not one to notice nervous guys, blushing is one clear sign that cannot be missed. Blushing is a sign that a man really likes you, even men can’t conceal that subtle blush that gives away their raw feelings.
When we are around people we like, blood rushes to our faces and that’s why we blush. So he may be blushing because he likes you and he is eager to talk to you or get to know you more.
While body language goes a long way in detecting if someone is nervous around you, it’s not limited to just the physical. You can always tell when someone is nervous from how he chats with you over the phone.
You will notice that he uses a lot of emoticons to convey his message. It may seem childish, but he is only nervous and unsure of the right words to use when chatting with you.
For a man who likes you, this may seem counterproductive, but in this case, it’s possible. He may want to spend some time with you alone but isn’t ready to do that because he’s nervous! He doesn’t feel like he has the confidence to carry on a conversation with you without help from a friend.
You will notice he is only okay talking to you when he has a wingman beside him or when among friends. When you two are unavoidably alone, he’ll try to hurry your conversations and leave immediately.
When a man is not confident in himself, he might feel nervous around women. He’ll be worrying about impressing her and making sure he does not make a mistake that will put her off. He is trying to be perfect in her eyes, and that is why he is nervous.
When a man is nervous around you, naturally, your thoughts may go towards the direction that he likes you, and that may be true, but it’s not the only reason. Another reason why you may make a man nervous is that you have an intimidating presence. He does not see you as someone in his league and does not want to embarrass himself, so it makes him fidgety.
When a woman makes a guy nervous, it means that he is either attracted to her or intimidated by her. He is not comfortable in her presence because he is unsure of her likes and dislikes. Perhaps, if he gets to know her a little bit more, he will feel calmer and relaxed.
Nervousness is man’s natural response to feelings of stress, and this stress can come from anything like work, a woman, or trying something new. So, when a man is under pressure, his body prepares for a flight or fight response, thereby stimulating nervousness.
You can tell a guy is nervous around you from his body language and tone of voice. He will talk to you in softer tones, and you will notice beads of sweat or his sweaty palms. Another way to know is through his eyes; if he’s not comfortable maintaining eye contact with you, he’ll look away each time you stare.
I hope you enjoyed reading this article and found the tips helpful. Remember, a simple touch on the shoulder, or upper arm can go a long way to relieve a nervous guy. I look forward to reading your comments and don’t forget to share this article with someone it could help.
It can be difficult to know at times how a person really feels towards you. However, sometimes we get the impression that a person is uncomfortable around us, but we are unsure as to exactly what it is that makes us feel like this. Here, we list 29 ways to know that a guy is out of his comfort zone around you.
The problem with knowing that a guy is uncomfortable around you however is that there can be a couple of reasons as to why. For, it could be that he is uncomfortable around you because he is attracted to you and he is so nervous as he wants to date you.
Or, it could be that he simply does not like to be around you. It is usually the first, but in all the ways that we mention below, we make it clear what it is a sign of.
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A sign of nerves that could mean that a guy is uncomfortable around you is if he is tapping his foot. People do this as it is a good way of channeling their nervous energy somewhere in their body so that they might concentrate on other things. This may be a sign that he may like you, but also might be because he wants to walk away from talking with you.
When a person is looking elsewhere, it can mean either that they are attracted to you but are too nervous to look at you, or it can mean that they want the conversation with you to be over. Either way, if they are looking elsewhere when you are talking, you can see it as a given that they are uncomfortable and may seem exceptionally nervous near you.
A good sign that a guy might want to take things further with you in a romantic sense is if he is talking very quickly when he is around you. Talking quickly is a sign of nerves that someone else who simply doesn’t want to be near you is not likely to display.
A bad sign in a person’s body language that they might not want to get to know you much more is if their feet are pointed away from you when you are talking.
Take a look at the guy’s feet that you want to know whether you make him feel uncomfortable - if they are pointed in your direction, it is a good sign that he likes you. If they are pointed away, it could be that he wants to get away from the conversation with you as soon as possible.
Not making eye contact with someone is one of the best body language signs that a person is uncomfortable around you. If you feel that someone is consistently looking you in the eye, it could be because they are nervous around you as they might be attracted to you. However, it could be because they don’t like to be in your company.
Signs that a guy is uncomfortable around you because he might be interested in new romantically is if he lets you do the majority of the talking. When someone wants the other person to control the conversation it is often down to nerves.
One of the best signs that a person is uncomfortable around you is if you feel like they are acting awkwardly in your company. This might be because they want to make a good impression on you because they are attracted to you. If you think that this is likely with the guy in question, he might want to think about a way to put him at ease.
If you are worried that a person is uncomfortable around you because they don’t like you, one of the signs to keep an eye out for is if you have to repeat yourself a lot.
If you find that you are the one having to make conversation and he is constantly asking you the same question that you have answered before, he is not listening to you, and therefore it is his way of making it known that he is not looking at you as someone he can date.
When people feel uncomfortable around someone, one of the most common ways that they feel more confident is by asking a friend to join them.
If you feel like a man you think might be uncomfortable around you is often waiting to get a friend to join you both, it can mean that you make him uncomfortable because he likes you or it could be that this is one of the signs he is not interested in you romantically.
A way that people show that they do not like the situation that they are in with another person, and are uncomfortable, is if they don’t talk about themselves at all. This could be their way of showing discomfort as well as their way of shortening the conversation between you as quickly as possible.
You may find that when someone is uncomfortable around you, their body language is a key way that you might understand their discomfort. This may manifest itself as fiddling with anything on the table in front of them, or the bar that you are standing out. Playing with objects in front of you is a method to look away from someone that makes you feel uncomfortable.
If you are uncertain if someone is uncomfortable near you, look back at the times that you have been together to see if they like you or not. If he doesn’t try to make conversation, the likelihood is that he may not want to be in your company for very long.
Nerves take hold of people in different ways. It may be that those nerves caused by the discomfort of being near someone that you like make you fidget in your seat. Look out for this signal with the guy you are trying to figure out if he is uncomfortable near you or not.
Or look back at the times that you may have got together in the past. If you remember that he fidgeted a lot, it could be that you make him uncomfortable.
A much-overlooked signal that a person might be uncomfortable around another as if their voice is quiet. This is often due to not feeling very confident near them and it may be up to you to get their confidence up when they are near you so that you can make the conversation more easily. Think of ways that you can put them at ease, therefore.
When a person is uncomfortable near someone else, they will rarely make any effort to touch them. If you find that this is the case with the guy you are trying to date or simply ascertain how they feel towards you, it could be that they are disinterested in you or it may be that they are so nervous around you, they are too afraid to take any opportunity to touch you.
Often, people may be very different in person than they are on the phone. If this is the case with the guy you have in mind, it could be that your physical presence makes them uncomfortable and nervous.
Nervous laughter is a clear signal that a person is out of their comfort zone when they are around you. It is a manifestation of body language and can be a signal that they like you in a romantic sense. Take the time to try to put their nerves at ease if you like them back - romantically or not.
Stammering is another clear signal that a guy is uncomfortable around you because he has a crush on you. If you like him back, take things slowly with him and try to build his confidence up around you so that you can strengthen the bond that you have.
Sadly, if you are trying to figure out if a guy you like returns your feelings or not, a signal that you make him so uncomfortable that he doesn’t like to be around you is if he leaves the room when you are in it. While some guys who are nervous around a person they have a crush on may also do this, the chances are that much lower.
You may notice that a person’s body language and demeanor completely changes once they have had an alcoholic beverage. If they seem so much more relaxed around you and much more comfortable as a result, once they have had a drink, you may be confident in thinking that you make them uncomfortable the rest of the time.
Key body language to look out for if a person doesn’t like you and you make them uncomfortable is if they fold their arms in front of their body when talking to you. This is an unconscious reaction that human beings perform as a way of physically blocking someone else from getting near them. We all do it far more when are near someone who puts us on edge.
You may know the guy well enough to know what he is like in other people’s company. You may know what he is like when he is relaxed, therefore, so you may notice when he is acting far more nervously around you - either through his body language or speech for example.
Keep an eye out for these actions and, if you like him (romantically or not) think of ways you can make them feel at ease near you.
Sweating is another signal of body language that a person is nervous near you and uncomfortable as a result. If you notice that the guy you're conversing with is perspiring more than he would ordinarily do, you can take it as a clear indication of his romantic feelings towards you.
If he was uncomfortable near you because he simply doesn’t want to be near you, he would not be seating at all.
Another manner in which nerves manifest themselves is by repeating yourself a lot. If you notice that the man you are dating is repeating himself every so often, you may want to think of ways that your body language towards him can change so that you put his mind at rest a little more. That way, you’ll be able to get so much more out of the date you are on.
Sometimes people channel their nervous energy in different ways, and as a result, it is actually pretty common to see guys who are uncomfortable around a person they have a crush on, try to control the situation they are in. This is a way of projecting the confidence that they feel they should have on you and all around you, to help a date go better.
If you find that he is always stepping back from you, you may be right in thinking that he is uncomfortable around you. In fact, that discomfort could be because he does not want to be near you and as a result, his body language is a reflection of his true feelings towards you.
Think about times that you have been near each other, is his body language often recoiling from you? If so, he is likely not to enjoy your company.
Nervousness can also manifest itself in our voices and as a result, a nervous person will often find that their voice cracks when speaking. It's very common for this to be a reaction the body feels when in close contact with a person that they are attracted to. Try not to point it out at all - not even by blinking - so that their confidence can grow when near you.
In addition to a voice cracking, a person is likely to lose their way in a story they are telling when around a person that makes them nervous and uncomfortable. It will come from wanting to make a good impression but get overcome with the pressure of the situation.
Lastly, if you are not sure if a person is uncomfortable around you or not, look at where they are looking. Again this is a clear indicator from someone’s body language that they are not into you and they do not enjoy your company.
Someone is comfortable around you if they are happy to go with the flow and their overall body language seems relaxed. If they maintain eye contact with you, laugh naturally, and are okay for there sometimes to be silent, they are likely to be comfortable in your company.
Knowing if a guy is confused about his feelings is hard as it usually depends on the person involved. However, if he is blowing hot and cold with you, it may be that he does not know what he wants at that moment in time - particularly if he has not been in an exclusive relationship for a while.
If a guy finds you beautiful he is likely to display a few common tells with his body language. Firstly, his eyes will dilate when seeing you and he also won’t be able to stop looking at you. Secondly, he will try to touch you as much as possible. Thirdly - he’s simply likely to tell you.
Guys do get intimidated by others more easily than they are often given credit for. Often this will be displayed with body language such as folding his arms in front of you or making his stance as wide as possible. He may also try to take one or two steps back from you when you talk.
You may want to know why a guy seems so nervous around you so that you might be able to make him feel more at ease. Usually talking to someone about themselves can help make them feel at ease and help them open up to you. It will also help strengthen your bond too.
Being able to read someone’s body language and figure out how they truly feel towards you (or anyone else) can be a handy tool to have. Knowing if they like you by reading how they are talking to you or how their gestures let on their true intentions is a helpful way of knowing if a date or a relationship is going to actually go anywhere.
Knowing whether you make a person uncomfortable through their body language and speech is also handy as it means you can temper your own reactions and actions towards them. You can either try to help build their confidence or you can know when it is best to walk away from a situation altogether.