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How To Tell When Holding Hands Means More (11 Warmhearted Types)

Last updated on June 9, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Are you wondering what it means when someone holds your hand?

Perhaps you're aware that it doesn't always mean that someone is attracted to you, but maybe you don't know how to interpret when it does mean this?

If so, this is the article for you. It features a foolproof guide for how to tell when holding hands means something more.

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What Does Holding Hands Mean?

1. He holds your hand in public

He holds your hand in public

If a man is holding your hand in public, it straight away means that he’s into you and wants to be your partner! When a man goes to hold your hand in front of other people, he’s showing himself to be vulnerable in front of you, and he is more than happy to show this vulnerability simply because he knows that he will be much happier holding your hand, than miss the opportunity to touch each other. 

He will also be happy to show this vulnerability because he knows it’ll make you happy to hold hands with him.

2. He puts his hand on top of yours

If he puts his hand on top of yours, it shows that he’s trying to tell you that you can depend on him and that he will make sure you’re safe and happy as your partner - obviously, because he likes you. You should experience a feeling of security and comfort when a guy does this, and that’s exactly what he’s hoping for.

3. He wraps his fingers around your fingers

If someone holds your hand with interlaced fingers, it’s because they want to feel close to you and develop a more serious kind of intimacy between the two of you - they want to be a couple and start a proper relationship. 

Rather than simply holding the outside of your hand gently, he’s intertwining his fingers with yours and got a grip of you, to increase the depth of the gesture and his connection with you, and show you that he’s serious about having a relationship with you.

4. He’s face to face with you when holding your hand

If he sits or stands face to face with you whilst he holds your hand, or both of your hands, it’s a sure sign that he is emotionally interested in you, wants a relationship with you, and wants to be your partner. 

In fact, it’s probably safe to say that he’s already developed a connection with you and is most likely falling in love with you! When a guy holds your hands like this, he’s most likely saying sweet things to you at the same time, or he’s ready to lean in for a kiss.

5. He’s stroking your hand whilst he holds it

If you find a man stroking your hand with his fingertips or gently massaging your hand whilst he’s got a grip of it, it’s because he wants to make you feel comforted and loved, and he wants to deepen the connection the two of you have with each other. 

Someone that’s doing this will obviously be romantically interested in you, especially seeing as this is typically a type of hand-holding that couples do.

6. He grips your hand around other guys

If he gets a good grip of your hand whilst you’re both around other guys, it’s because he wants to show them that you’ve taken and that he’s the one you’re with! 

Obviously, he’s doing this so that no one else makes a move because he likes you. The grip shouldn’t be too hard, but it will be an assertive kind of grip, showing others that you’re his significant other and that they shouldn’t come near, never mind try and flirt with you.

7. He puts his arm around you and holds your hand

He puts his arm around you and holds your hand

If a person puts their arm around you and then gestures for you to take their hand as well, it’s a sure sign that they’re seriously interested in having a relationship with you and that they want to be a couple. He’s choosing to have this body language like this so that he can get close to you, and almost take up the space that you’re in. 

He will want you to be closer with each other, so he’s taking a leap and just going for it.

8. He kisses your hand whilst holding it

Even though it might sometimes be a little corny (associated with lots of movies), a person kissing you on your hand is an unbelievably romantic way for them to show you that they want to be a couple. They will be kissing you there to make sure you know, loud and clear, that they want a romantic relationship with you and want to be your partner. 

Men also think that women love this, so they will give it a go! They are just trying to flirt with you and impress you in an obvious way. Also, they might kiss you a lot, not just once, so be prepared!

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9. He holds both your hands in his

A woman typically has much smaller hands than a man, and men obviously know this, so they use it to their advantage a lot of the time. A man will take both of a woman’s hands in his to make her feel safe, secure, and comforted by him. He may also do this whilst saying kind words, to deepen the connection, enhance feelings, and create a more intimate moment. 

Men clearly do this when they want to start a relationship and couple up with women.

10. He puts your arm through his

Although you may walk arm in arm with others that you have platonic relationships with (women and men potentially), a man that puts your arm through his whilst you’re walking along is a man that is trying to give you obvious signs that he not only wants to hold your hand and touch you physically but that he wants a romantic relationship with you too. 

Men that are particularly shy might do this, rather than actually holding hands.

11. He gently squeezes your hand

A man might squeeze your hand if he is teasing you, joking around with you, or trying to show you that he likes you. If a man squeezes your hand three times, it’s actually a coded way of saying, “I like you”, or more likely, “I love you”. 

A man might do this if he is trying to show you that he likes you through touch and actions, rather than through words because he’s shy or nervous.


What does holding hands mean to a guy?

Hand holding is pretty serious, even if it seems like a small gesture because it’s an open, intimate gesture. Holding hands means to a guy, exactly what it means to a girl - it’s a display of affection and intimacy. Guys will only hold hands with the one they’re genuinely interested in.

Is holding hands a sign of love?

Holding hands is a sign of love, even if it’s not romantic love. Most commonly, people in romantic relationships will hold hands, but parents and children, and even friends do so too. If you hold hands with someone, it’s because you genuinely care for them and want to show them affection, even when you’re in public. It shows that you’re a pair, and potentially that the person you’re holding hands with is your partner!

How do you tell if a guy is falling for you?

You will be able to tell if a man is falling for you if he’s trying to spend more and more time with you if he’s complimenting you if he’s trying to get you alone if he’s trying to figure out if you have any other partners or someone else if he’s using excuses to be close to you and touch you, and if his body language is telling you. If a guy likes you, he will try to touch and hold you, even if he tries to do it in a casual or jokey way to try and disguise his feelings.

Is holding hands more intimate than kissing?

Holding hands is thought by a large majority of people to be a more intimate act than kissing. This is because although kissing typically happens between a couple, you can kiss a one-night stand or someone that you actually don’t have feelings for. However, holding hands is a way of showing affection for a loved one and showing that you’re partners, especially if it’s done in public. In addition, holding hands releases Oxycontin, the same one released during sex, so that’s why it feels intimate.

Why do guys hug from behind?

When a man hugs you from behind, it’s because he’s trying to show you affection, get close to you, and increase the level of intimacy between the two of you. A hug from behind is the perfect mixture of comforting and sexy, making both people involved feel loved and cared for in the hold, but also a little bit turned on. If someone does this, they like you!

To Conclude

If you weren’t really sure what the different types of hand-holding meant before now, or you didn’t know if holding hands meant more, now you can go out into the world using the knowledge you’ve learned and confirmed whether or not men are interested in you by looking at their actions!

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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