I have a friend that just draws guys to her like moths to a flame. They’ll push past me to get to her. She is always at the center of everyone’s attention. She’s the one that always gets drinks bought for her. Men want the chance to date her. Girls are jealous of her. Basically - she’s hot.
Now the weird thing is that my friend isn’t drop-dead gorgeous. She doesn’t dress in revealing clothes. Her body shape is healthy and she’s average weight and height.
There’s just something extra special about her that makes her the hottest girl in the room. Over the months and years that I’ve known her, I’ve realized that it’s not one thing that marks her out as hot. It’s a combination of lots of things. Some might even surprise you.
But before I go on to tell you all her secrets I want to play a little game with you first.
Ask yourself this – what attracts you to the hottest guys? What makes a guy stand out from all the others? You might say that he has to be attractive. Well, attractiveness is a very subjective thing. What you find attractive, others might not.
Sure, you might initially be attracted to a person physically. However, that initial attraction won’t last if they don’t have any other attractive qualities.
So let’s start over. What qualities do you look for in a guy? If you are still having problems let’s think about the sort of guy you wouldn’t date.
Someone who wore dirty clothes and didn’t care about their personal hygiene. Someone who was lazy and couldn’t hold down a full-time job. A person that lied and cheated all the time. Someone that didn’t get on with his family.
A person with few friends. Someone with no passions in life. Someone who only ate junk food and didn’t look after their health. An argumentative person that was loud and disagreeable all the time. A pessimistic person with no ambitions.
See how easy it is to sum up the type of person we don’t want to date, yet we don’t know what sort of person people do want to date!
Now, if you are ready to learn the secrets of becoming hotter than everyone else then read on.
Remember, at the end of the day, this is never just about changing who you are or changing one thing. It is about recognizing what characteristics are attractive and which ones are not.
Men like a confident woman. I’m talking about the kind of confidence that comes with being happy in your own skin. The sort of confidence women have when they know their own minds.
Confidence equals sexy according to men. You can be physically attractive but if you are not confident with the way you look people won’t see you as hotter than others.
Don’t you think every girl on social media looks the same these days? They’ve all got tanned skin, big boobs and asses, plumped-up lips and duck pouts.
Girls! Guys don’t want to date girls that have come off some weird production line! Get your own personality and look. Stand out from the crowd. Make yourself look different from all the rest and you’ll get noticed.
There’s nothing sexier than someone getting visibly excited when they’re talking about a passion of theirs. It doesn’t matter whether it’s about a new country or city they’ve visited or a new author they’ve just discovered.
You can show off your dancing moves or cooking skills. Do you love languages or animals? Whatever your passion, don’t stifle it, exhibit it proudly.
There’s no point trying to impress anyone unless you take the time and effort to first focus on yourself. So, start off by eating healthily and stopping any bad habits like smoking or being drinking.
Exercise more by going to the gym or incorporating it during your daily routine. Once you start feeling better about yourself and your life your confidence will naturally increase.
No one likes a moaning Nelly. In fact, negative people can be really depressing and boring. On the other hand, positive people raise their spirits. They make you feel as if you can handle anything.
Positive people make others feel good about themselves. And a knock-on effect is that we like being around positive people.
Just as confident positive people attract others so does a lovely bright smile. People naturally gravitate towards happy people. The sound of laughter is infectious. We all want to join in and share the joke.
Just picture the scene; on one hand, you have a miserable girl sitting on her own with her head in her hands frowning. On the other, a girl is in the center of the room surrounded by a crowd laughing and joking. At the end of the day, who would you go over to and join?
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You might think that being hotter than other people means flashing the flesh. However, there’s a big difference between being hot and slutty. There’s a rule that states you should either show off some legs or cleavage but never both.
What you should always do is try and be seductive and show a glimpse of flesh but never too much. After all, it’s always good to leave something to the imagination.
Speaking of clothes, many girls squeeze themselves into tight bodycon dresses to show off their curves and boobs. But remember what I said earlier about confident women? If you don’t feel confident wearing that sort of clothing then stick to what does make you feel confident.
Wear clothes that make you feel great. Wear clothes that show off who you are. The types of clothes that when you saw them in the stores you gasped and thought ‘OMG I just have to have that!’
Nothing gives a girl more confidence than a good haircut that really flatters her. And if it’s low maintenance all the better. I remember taking a picture of a model with long big bouncy curls into a salon saying ‘I want this’ and the stylist taking one look at my hair and saying ‘No’.
She proceeded to tell me that I had thin European hair but lots of it. She explained the type of cut that would suit me and I agreed to let her cut it that way. It was the best cut I had ever had. So go to your salon and get your stylist’s advice.
Hot girls don’t plaster their faces with caked-on makeup. They are subtle and sexy about it. A touch of mascara and eyeliner, a dash of lip-gloss and a smudge of blush is all that’s needed.
You just want to slightly accentuate your features, not draw massive lines around them and point to them with big flashing arrows.
She is a female that is sexy and sensual. She is attractive to males because she is confident and edgy. She is different from the cute or pretty girl. She has a sexual allure to her that the sweet girl doesn’t.
Try being the best version of yourself that you can be. This can include your physical health, your education, getting a good job, and expanding your circle of friends. Don’t judge yourself by other people. Get your own standards and goals. Like yourself more. Live your own life and live it well.
It can be easy to become nervous around hot girls. But you should just be yourself. Act friendly and don’t appear too desperate. You’ll only succeed in putting her off. Remember, she’s probably used to getting a lot of attention. So try and do something different. Make her laugh or do something goofy.
Men are attracted to different things in a girl. However, many will notice their figures first. A lot will say their eyes are the most important feature. Others talk about girl’s hair, how they love long curls. Many guys like fit girls who work out. Of course, appearance is just skin deep. Personality lasts much longer.
If you are dating a girl when she gets hot be prepared for some serious attention yourself. Your desirability factor will shoot way up just because you are with her. When a girl is single and she gets hot she starts to receive a lot of attention, and not all of it will be wanted. She might not like this life and even have difficulty coping with all this new interest in her.
Have you ever dated a girl that’s hot? Or are you one yourself? What did you think of my article? I hope you found it useful. Please feel free to comment and share it.
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